Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Heather Frazier
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Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support. Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere. Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip you with the knowledge and skills to not only survive but thrive during these pivotal years. Join us as we explore topics like building trust with your teens, dealing with peer pressure, helping them with mental illness challenges, understanding the teenage brain, and much more. With a focus on empathy and resilience, Heather guides you through the highs and lows of parenting, helping you find peace of mind and joy in the journey. Subscribe now and become part of our community of parents who are dedicated to raising happy, healthy, and well-adjusted young adults. Don't miss out on essential parenting wisdom that will empower you to create a nurturing and supportive home environment. Pivot Parenting—because every moment is an opportunity to grow and connect with your kids when you're confident in your parental abilities.

  1. 3D AGO

    307. Belief 5: Nothing Has Gone Wrong

    Instant Relief Hack: Conflict Doesn't Mean Something Is Broken A few years ago, my son walked out of the room mid-conversation and wouldn't come back. I remember standing there, heart pounding, replaying every word. I'm just trying to help. But whatever I meant to do… it wasn't working. For a long time, I treated moments like that as proof that something was wrong. Wrong with me. Wrong with him. Wrong with our relationship. But what if tension doesn't mean failure? What if conflict isn't a sign your family is broken? In this episode, I'm sharing the reframe that gave me instant relief in the middle of parenting turbulence—and why so many parents misinterpret normal developmental friction as something catastrophic. We'll talk about why healthy families still clash, why transitions (especially the teen years) feel so destabilizing, and how two people who deeply love each other can accidentally collide in ways that look like rejection. If you've ever thought, "Good families don't fight like this" or "We shouldn't be struggling this much," this episode will shift how you see what's happening in your home. The conflict isn't the problem. It's the pattern underneath it. And once you see it, everything changes. If you're ready to understand your specific disconnection pattern and get personalized support, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call. You don't have to keep guessing. Let's figure it out together.

    19 min

  2. FEB 10

    306. Belief 4: Their Push for Independence Isn't Rejection

    Few things hurt like this: the child who once couldn't get enough of you now barely looks up from their phone. Doors are closed. Eye rolls are constant. And somewhere deep down, a quiet fear creeps in—Did I lose them? In this episode, we're talking about one of the most misunderstood parts of parenting teens: their push for independence. So many parents experience it as rejection, disrespect, or loss—when in reality, something very different may be happening beneath the surface. I share a client story that perfectly captures this moment, and a perspective that completely changes how parents understand distance, detachment, and emotional growing pains during the teen years. If you've ever wondered whether your teen's need for space means you did something wrong—or if the closeness you once had is gone for good—this episode will bring relief, clarity, and a much-needed reframe. Because the goal was never to keep a child. It was to raise a strong, functioning adult who still wants a relationship with you. If you're feeling disconnected and want help understanding what's actually happening in your relationship, I'd love to support you. Book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern consult call here

    16 min

  3. FEB 3

    305. Belief 3: Control is Creating the Distance

    This one is tender. And it's personal. So I'm going to be gentle with you. Most of us are constantly looking around—at social media, neighbors, family members, even our own kids—to figure out if we're doing okay. If we're good parents. If we're worthy of the life and relationships we want. Sometimes that shows up as a quiet comparison. Your sibling's kid just won a game. A friend posts about their teen's big achievement. And suddenly you're wondering what that says about you… and your child. And without realizing it, we tighten our grip. More reminders. More checking. More "I'm just trying to help." In this episode, I talk about one of the hardest beliefs for parents to face: that the control we use to try to keep our kids safe, successful, and on track may actually be creating the resistance and distance we're desperate to fix. This isn't about blame. It's about relief. If you're exhausted from being the homework police, the room inspector, the phone monitor—and secretly wishing you could just be their parent again—this conversation will help you see what's really happening underneath the struggle. I share a client story that stopped me in my tracks, and a truth that changed everything for her relationship with her teen. Once you see it, you can't unsee it. If closeness feels harder the more you try… this episode is for you. If you'd like to take this even deeper, and at an accelerated rate, book a free Discover your Disconnection Pattern call.

    19 min

  4. JAN 27

    304. Belief 2: You Don't Need Them to Change First

    What if the thing you've been waiting for your teen to do… isn't actually the thing that has to happen first? Most parents live in a quiet, exhausting loop of "If they would just…" If they would just try harder. If they would just care. If they would just stop lying, yelling, shutting down, or blowing everything off. We keep waiting for them to change so things can finally calm down. And somehow, the longer we wait, the worse it gets. In this episode, I share the belief that flipped everything on its head for me — and for hundreds of parents I've coached. It's one simple shift. One step. And it's more powerful than consequences, lectures, or waiting for a breakthrough that may never come. This is the moment where parents stop feeling held hostage by their teen's moods… and start finding peace now, not someday. If you're stuck in the same arguments, the same emotional ping-pong, the same painful patterns that never seem to resolve, this episode will show you a completely different way forward. You don't need them to change first. And once you hear why, you won't un-see it. To work through this transition together, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call. xoxo

    22 min

  5. JAN 20

    303. Belief 1: Your Future Doesn't Have to Look Like Your Past

    Welcome to a six part series, outlining the exact process to shift your parental struggles to find the connection with your teen. Today we begin with step 1: Your Future Doesn't Have to Look Like Your Past Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "This is just what our relationship will be"… or bracing with "Here we go again" when the same fight starts up for the hundredth time? A lot of parents quietly start believing the story that nothing can ever change. That they're too burnt out, too set in their ways, too far gone to fix what feels broken. I believed that story too—until something shifted that gave me my power back. In this episode, I'm sharing why your future with your teen does not have to look like your past, and how real, lasting change is possible no matter how long things have been hard. If you're stuck in the same emotional loops, repeating the same arguments, or feeling disconnected from the kid you love, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Ready to change the pattern? Book a free Discover Your Disconnection Call and let's talk about what's actually happening in your relationship with your teen—and what can shift from here.

    20 min

  6. JAN 14

    302. What Your Teen Wished You Knew

    Tea time! This weeks episode is unique in that I've have direct feedback from teens on hurtful parenting behaviors. I was told things that they would never tell you- does any of it fit your parenting patterns? Listen to find out.  "Why do my parents think this way and are so bothered by me?" "What can be said to make you(my parents) like me more?" "I am not build-a-bear. If you can't accept your kids how they are, then don't have them." "My mom told me I was a brat" These are a few things that were shared with me. It broke my heart and I want to support these kids by supporting you. Lets wrap a blanket of grace and love around each other as we look at ways we may be harming our relationships, our teens self-esteem, and our own souls. It's not about having to be perfect or feel ashamed for harmful words spoken, it's about embracing the courage to own our hurtful behaviours and change them.  If your child doesn't confide in you, shuts down when you try to correct them, thinks you're the worst, and it feels like you're losing them, this episode could be for you.  As always, I'm here to support you. If you want to speak one on one about your parenting pains and struggles, I am available right HERE. Lets discover your parenting disconnection pattern together so that we can reverse things before it gets worse. xoxo

    35 min

  7. JAN 7

    301. Assuming the Worst While Parenting

    In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common (and sneakiest) patterns in parenting: assuming the worst. I see it all the time. And yes—I do it too. It shows up in the little moments. Like when your teen doesn't answer your text for an hour and your brain instantly goes to: They're ignoring me. They're mad at me. They've been kidnapped. (Meanwhile, their phone is dead and they're happily eating nachos with friends.) Or when they sigh at something you said and suddenly you're spiraling into, They don't respect me. They hate living here. This entire family is falling apart. …all because your kid was annoyed that the Wi-Fi glitched for three seconds. We assume the worst because we care deeply—and because our brains are wired for threat detection, not nuance. But when we let that pattern run unchecked, it blows up in our face. It turns small moments into big conflicts. It makes us withdraw, overreact, lecture, or resent. And it teaches our teens that we see them as a problem instead of a person. In this episode, we'll talk about: A better understanding (and more grace) for when and why we—and our teens—jump to worst-case assumptions. How this plays out in real time inside family relationships, so you can spot the pattern before it becomes a full emotional landslide. What to do instead—the exact strategies that strengthen trust and connection rather than eroding it. If you've ever gotten mad at your teen for something that was only happening inside your own imagination… this episode will help. Want support applying these tools in your own home? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE and let's talk about what's happening with your teen and how to shift the dynamic for good. xoxo

    27 min
  8. 300. The Over-Loving Parent Trap (and How to Step Out Gracefully)

    12/30/2025

    300. The Over-Loving Parent Trap (and How to Step Out Gracefully)

    If you've ever thought, "I just want to love my kid and have them let me!" — this episode is for you. Many parents find themselves chasing their teen's affection, bending rules, overgiving, or trying to buy closeness with gifts and favors — all in the name of love. But instead of feeling more connected, they end up tied in emotional knots, walking on eggshells, and quietly wondering why they're getting less respect, fewer conversations, and more distance. It's painful, confusing, and it can make even the most devoted parent feel rejected. In this episode, I'm unpacking why we fall into the over-loving parent trap — that deep desire to be needed, appreciated, and close — and what actually works to build trust and lasting friendship with your teen. You'll learn how to: Recognize when love crosses into emotional dependence Stop chasing affection and start leading with calm confidence Create connection that lasts without begging for attention Love your teen in ways that invite respect, not resistance If you're tired of giving everything and getting silence in return, I've got you. This episode will help you shift from exhausted and overlooked to peaceful, confident, and genuinely connected. Ready to find peace in your parenting? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE

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Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support. Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere. Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip you with the knowledge and skills to not only survive but thrive during these pivotal years. Join us as we explore topics like building trust with your teens, dealing with peer pressure, helping them with mental illness challenges, understanding the teenage brain, and much more. With a focus on empathy and resilience, Heather guides you through the highs and lows of parenting, helping you find peace of mind and joy in the journey. Subscribe now and become part of our community of parents who are dedicated to raising happy, healthy, and well-adjusted young adults. Don't miss out on essential parenting wisdom that will empower you to create a nurturing and supportive home environment. Pivot Parenting—because every moment is an opportunity to grow and connect with your kids when you're confident in your parental abilities.

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