211 episodes

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, relationships, addictions, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Hosted by best-selling author, actress, and coach Brianne Davis, the podcast offers a mix of guest interviews and topic-specific discussions.

Every Monday, listeners are invited to join Brianne as she pulls back the curtain and explores the how, what, when, where, and why of various subjects. Some episodes feature guests sharing their own secrets and stories, while in others Brianne takes a deep dive into a specific topic. Whether laughing, crying, or feeling inspired, each episode offers a revealing journey into the human experience.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), was launched in February 2021.

To share a secret or be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com.

Secret Life Brianne Davis

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    • 4.8 • 390 Ratings

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, relationships, addictions, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Hosted by best-selling author, actress, and coach Brianne Davis, the podcast offers a mix of guest interviews and topic-specific discussions.

Every Monday, listeners are invited to join Brianne as she pulls back the curtain and explores the how, what, when, where, and why of various subjects. Some episodes feature guests sharing their own secrets and stories, while in others Brianne takes a deep dive into a specific topic. Whether laughing, crying, or feeling inspired, each episode offers a revealing journey into the human experience.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), was launched in February 2021.

To share a secret or be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com.

    Silent Strength: The Grey Rock Approach

    Silent Strength: The Grey Rock Approach

    On this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt uncovers the art of "grey rocking," a powerful strategy designed for dealing with toxic individuals and navigating difficult relationships. Brianne illuminates the concept of grey rocking as a form of emotional camouflage, where one becomes the human equivalent of a rock—unresponsive and dull—to disarm the manipulative tactics of narcissists and those with toxic tendencies.

    Listeners will learn how grey rocking serves as a boundary-setting, conflict avoidance technique, particularly effective in co-parenting situations or interactions with challenging personalities. Brianne explains that by becoming uninteresting, you deny the toxic person the emotional reaction they crave, making you less appealing as a target for their antagonistic behavior.

    With a blend of personal anecdotes and practical advice, Brianne walks us through the nuances of the grey rock method, emphasizing its role not as a long-term relationship solution, but as a temporary measure to maintain one's sanity and emotional well-being. She cautions that while grey rocking can initially provoke a stronger reaction from the toxic individual, steadfast application of the technique can gradually reduce their attempts to engage.

    Join Brianne as she shares insights on how to effectively implement grey rocking—keeping responses minimal, avoiding eye contact, and staying emotionally neutral. This episode is a masterclass for anyone looking to protect their peace in the face of relentless toxicity. If you're ready to become a ninja in the art of disengagement, this episode is your guide to empowerment.

    #SecretLifePodcast #GreyRocking #ToxicRelationships #Narcissism #EmotionalWellness #BoundarySetting #ConflictAvoidance #CoParenting #EmotionalDetachment #SelfPreservation

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Grey Rocking, Toxic Individuals, Narcissistic Behavior, Emotional Camouflage, Boundary Setting, Conflict Avoidance, Co-Parenting, Emotional Detachment, Manipulation Tactics, Self-Preservation, Emotional Well-being

    (00:00) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine

    (01:36) Grey rocking is a new therapeutic technique for dealing with narcissists and toxic people

    (08:34) Grey rock method is about controlling your reactions to toxic people

    (10:39) Grey rocking is a way of detaching from difficult people

    (13:30) I hope you enjoy listening to Secret Life podcasts

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 14 min
    Evolve or Die: Winning the Game of Life

    Evolve or Die: Winning the Game of Life

    In this transformative episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives deep into the essence of personal growth with a compelling discussion on the necessity of evolution in life. Brianne challenges the traditional metrics of success, revealing that true victory in life isn't about material wealth or outward appearances, but about the continuous journey of evolving as a person.

    With her trademark blend of raw honesty and tough love, Brianne shares her insights into the pitfalls of stagnation and the dangers of remaining trapped in past traumas. She confronts the harsh reality faced by those who refuse to grow, detailing the emptiness that accompanies a life devoid of spiritual and emotional development, regardless of one's external achievements.
    Listeners will be inspired by Brianne's call to action, urging everyone to embrace change and confront their fears head-on. She stresses that evolution isn't about grand gestures but about making small, consistent choices that lead to a more fulfilled and authentic existence. Brianne's message is clear: to win at the game of life, you must be willing to evolve, or risk being left behind in a state of spiritual decay.

    This episode is not just a wake-up call; it's a roadmap to self-improvement and a testament to the power of inner work. Join Brianne as she empowers you to put down the distractions, face your inner demons, and step into the present moment—the only place where real change can occur. It's time to evolve and truly start winning at life.

    #SecretLifePodcast #PersonalGrowth #Evolution #SpiritualGrowth #InnerWork #Success #Transformation #SelfImprovement #Mindfulness #Healing #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealth

    🔑 Episode Keywords
    Evolution, Personal Growth, Spiritual Death, Change, Healing, Inner Work, Success, Transformation, Mindfulness, Authenticity, Emotional Wellness, Mental Health, True Victory, Self-Improvement

    (00:00) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Today I'm pulling back the curtains of human secrets
    (01:39) If you want to win at the game of life, you need to evolve
    (07:58) Depression is a state of being stuck in the past. Anxiety is fear of the future


    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    Tell your friends & share online!
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    For EPISODE NOTES - Click the LINK below.



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    • 13 min
    Cycle Breakers: Ending Generational Trauma

    Cycle Breakers: Ending Generational Trauma

    In this profound episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites us into the world of cycle breakers, those courageous individuals who stand up against generational trauma and say, "This ends with me." Brianne, a self-proclaimed cycle breaker, shares her passionate journey and the honor she feels in disrupting the traumatic genetic imprint that has been passed down through her family line.
    Listeners will join Brianne as she discusses the challenges and triumphs of breaking cycles of dysfunction, from recognizing unhealthy family dynamics to actively working to change inherited behaviors. She addresses the pain of becoming the family outcast, the strength it takes to maintain boundaries, and the importance of creating a new, healthier family dynamic for oneself and future generations.
    With raw emotion and unwavering determination, Brianne offers insights into the coping mechanisms that cycle breakers must abandon and the support systems they need to forge ahead. This episode is a rallying cry for anyone who has ever felt the weight of their family's past and the desire to create a different future. It's a celebration of the resilience and hard work it takes to be a cycle breaker and the profound impact it can have on one's lineage.
    Join Brianne as she honors the cycle breakers, shares affirmations for healing, and encourages listeners to embrace the challenge of breaking free from generational trauma. If you're ready to change the narrative of your family's story, this episode is your call to arms.
    #SecretLifePodcast #CycleBreakers #GenerationalTrauma #Healing #FamilyDynamics #EmotionalWellness #PersonalGrowth #BreakingCycles #Resilience #SelfAwareness #Boundaries #SupportSystems #Affirmations
    🔑 Episode Keywords
    Cycle Breaker, Generational Trauma, Dysfunctional Family, Healing, Emotional Wellness, Boundaries, Support Systems, Self-Awareness, Resilience, Transformation, Family Dynamics, Narcissism, Codependency, People Pleasing, Emotional Incest, Self-Care, Affirmations
    (00:00) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. I'm Brianne Davis-Gantt
    (01:58) Brianne Davis says being a cycle breaker comes at a significant cost
    (07:58) To even watch somebody know this pattern and behavior doesn't work for me
    (08:35) Do you refuse to repeat the same trauma cycle that you were raised in
    (13:03) Being a cycle breaker can be as easy as neglect
    (18:41) Learn to say no. Say no. Those are things that really helped me during my cycle breaker period
    (20:17) If your family is dysfunctional, I am pushing you to join cycle breakers

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    Tell your friends & share online!
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    • 23 min
    Silence is the Ultimate Boundary

    Silence is the Ultimate Boundary

    In this reflective episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites listeners to explore the profound power of silence as a boundary. With her signature candor, Brianne delves into the challenging realization that sometimes, despite our best efforts to communicate and express our boundaries, the healthiest option is to embrace silence.

    Brianne shares her personal journey of discovering that silence isn't just a lack of words, but a deliberate choice to protect oneself from emotional terrorism. It's a lesson in self-preservation and the ultimate assertion of one's autonomy in the face of those who refuse to respect our voices.

    Listeners will journey with Brianne as she grapples with the tension between the desire to respond and the wisdom of withdrawing. She examines scenarios where silence is not just golden, but necessary for maintaining peace and prioritizing one's well-being over unnecessary drama.

    This episode challenges us to consider who in our lives is truly deserving of our voice and who might be draining our energy with their refusal to change. It's an invitation to practice the art of silence, to observe the impact it has on our lives, and to embrace the tranquility that comes from setting this most powerful of boundaries.

    Join Brianne as she offers insights into handling toxic interactions with grace, and learn how choosing silence can lead to a more peaceful, drama-free existence. This is not just an episode about withholding words; it's a guide to reclaiming your peace and stepping into your power.

    #SecretLifePodcast #SilenceIsABoundary #EmotionalWellness #PersonalBoundaries #SelfPreservation #PeacefulLiving #ToxicRelationships #SelfEmpowerment #InnerPeace #MentalHealth

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Silence, Boundaries, Communication, Emotional Terrorism, Narcissism, Self-Care, Drama, Trauma, Accountability, Apologies, Mental Health, Toxic People, Inner Peace, Self-Preservation, Personal Growth

    🎧 Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the power of silence as a boundary

    (04:25) Brianne's struggle with choosing silence over communication

    (08:45) Confronting emotional terrorism and protecting oneself

    (13:35) The distinction between ghosting and setting a boundary with silence

    (18:50) How silence can be a response to partial accountability

    (24:15) The liberating effect of silence on Brianne's personal life

    (29:30) An invitation to practice silence as a boundary in your own life

    (35:05) The transformative peace that follows the choice of silence

    (40:15) Closing thoughts and an open call for listener topics

    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 15 min
    Liar, Liar

    Liar, Liar

    In this gripping episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the deceptive world of liars, sharing her personal encounters with the spectrums of dishonesty. From the natural liar, whose falsehoods are a coping mechanism, to the pathological liar, who believes their own fabrications, and the chilling psychopath, whose lies are tools of manipulation, Brianne dissects the motivations and behaviors that define these deceivers.

    Through her exploration, Brianne reflects on her past as a "natural liar," the survival tactics born from low self-worth and trauma. She provides a compelling analysis of how liars operate, employing vague generalities, inconsistent stories, and a lack of accountability that can wreak havoc on their lives and those around them.

    Listeners are given a front-row seat to the telltale signs of a liar, the rush they get from deception, and the complex reasons behind their behavior, including dysfunctional family backgrounds and various personality disorders. Brianne doesn't just leave us in the darkness of deceit; she offers a light of hope with strategies for dealing with liars, from building a case with concrete facts to the difficult decision of when to cut ties and move on.

    This episode is a powerful reminder that while liars can be convincing, we have the strength to recognize the truth, set boundaries, and ultimately, forgive ourselves for being misled. Join Brianne as she guides us through the maze of lies and out into the clarity of truth and self-trust.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Liars #Deception #Truth #SelfTrust #Psychopath #PathologicalLiar #Healing #Forgiveness #PersonalGrowth

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the episode's theme of liars

    (02:00) Brianne's personal struggle with liars and her own past as a liar

    (05:20) The three types of liars and their characteristics

    (09:45) The signs and behaviors of a pathological liar

    (14:10) The reasons behind why someone becomes a liar

    (18:30) How to deal with liars and build a case against their falsehoods

    (23:55) The importance of support and setting realistic goals with liars

    (28:40) Knowing when to cut ties with a liar and how to heal from the experience

    (33:25) Rebuilding intuition and trust after being affected by a liar

    (38:00) Closing thoughts and an invitation for topic suggestions

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 18 min
    The Narcissist Among Us

    The Narcissist Among Us

    In this revealing episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of narcissism. With candid vulnerability, she shares her own experiences and tendencies, offering a personal touch to a topic that affects many. Brianne unpacks the traits of narcissism, from the subtle to the overt, and explores the root causes that can lead to these behaviors, including childhood trauma and familial patterns.

    Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how narcissists operate, the impact they have on relationships, and the ways in which they manipulate reality. Brianne doesn't shy away from the challenges of dealing with narcissists, providing practical phrases and strategies for disarming difficult interactions and protecting one's emotional well-being.

    More importantly, Brianne offers a message of hope, detailing the transformative process that individuals with narcissistic tendencies can undergo. She shares actionable steps for self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of self-forgiveness, emotional awareness, and genuine connection with others.

    Whether you've encountered a narcissist, recognize these tendencies within yourself, or are just seeking to understand this personality disorder better, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. Join Brianne as she guides us through the shadows of narcissism and into the light of self-awareness and change.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Narcissism #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #Healing #Relationships #EmotionalIntelligence #Empathy #Change #SelfImprovement

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Narcissism, Personality Disorders, Empathy, Self-Awareness, Brain Scans, Dbt (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), Mindfulness, Emdr (Eye Movement Desensitization And Reprocessing), Codependency, Toxic Relationships, Self-Improvement, Emotional Regulation, Childhood Trauma, Gaslighting, Love Bombing, Vulnerability, Generational Trauma, Narcissistic Tendencies, Emotional Abuse, Healing And Recovery



    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the episode's theme of narcissism

    (04:15) Brianne's personal insights on narcissistic tendencies

    (08:30) The making of a narcissist: causes and developmental factors

    (13:50) Recognizing the signs and behaviors of narcissism

    (19:20) Strategies for dealing with narcissists and setting boundaries

    (24:40) Signs that a narcissist may be open to change

    (29:55) How to combat narcissistic tendencies and foster self-growth

    (35:10) The importance of connection and new experiences in overcoming narcissism

    (40:25) Empowering choices when dealing with unchanging narcissists

    (45:50) Closing thoughts and invitation for topic suggestions
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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 23 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
390 Ratings

390 Ratings

samcar1998 ,

TRUE vulnerability!

I love how real Brianne is and how open she is about her own struggles, she makes all of her guests feel 100% comfortable and preaches authenticity. Amazing

mel123456kz ,

Scanddovol

Your analysis of Scandoval was really brilliant all around. Good job! I wish more people were seeing these points.

stevyrey21 ,

Raw, authentic and inspiring!

I’m blown away by this amazing show. I can relate to so many things and have been able to see that I’m not alone! Each episode I find myself connecting with the humanity of the incredibly brave people as they share their journey. I'm blown away by the vulnerability, self-awareness and inspiration given in each share. Brianne pulls me in as she continues to share more about herself, her shortcomings and the freedom she's finding along the way. Giving us all that gentle nudge do that ourselves. Bravo!!!

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