No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

JoAnn Crohn | Parenting Coach & Mom Guilt Support
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Tired of yelling at your kids, drowning in mom guilt, and carrying the entire mental load of your family? No Guilt Mom gives you gentle parenting strategies that actually work for real, tired moms, plus permission to stop doing it all. Host JoAnn Crohn, M.Ed, certified parenting coach and author of The Best Mom is a Happy Mom, brings you real talk on strong-willed kids, working mom burnout, ADHD parenting, and self-compassion- no shame, no perfection required. New episodes every Tuesday and Thursday.

  1. 4d ago

    What To Do When Your Kid Tells You To "Shut Up"

    New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever tried gentle parenting and still wondered what to do when your kid says shut up to you, this episode is for you. When your kid tells you to shut up, your face gets hot and your brain can go blank. In this solo episode, I explain what is usually going on underneath those words and walk you through five calm steps for kids third grade and up, plus an easy adjustment for younger kids. You'll also hear why your own triggers matter and why you deserve the same pause you give your kids. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "shut up" usually means overwhelm or a need for more say, not disrespect The question that gets you further than "what do I do?": what happened right before Five calm steps for kids third grade and up: let the shock land, get quiet and don't tower, name it and leave, take the time you need, and come back to repair How to adjust for younger kids with a simple "I need to go to the bathroom, I'll be right back" How to work with your own triggers and why you deserve a tap out Resources mentioned in this episode The Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom Penn State study on harsh parenting and children's stress regulation Laura Markham on parenting triggers (Today's Parent) No Guilt Mom on Instagram (share your strategy on the five steps post) NoGuiltMom.com Follow the podcast on Spotify Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  2. 6d ago

    Why Your Kid Still Won't Listen No Matter How Many Times You Say It with Dr. Siggie

    New here? Start with our Start Here playlist, five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. You validate your kid's feelings. You explain the reasoning behind every rule. And your kid still melts down anyway. Child development specialist and author Dr. Siggie Cohen joins JoAnn to explain the missing piece: why kids speak the language of emotion while parents default to logic, and exactly what to say when bedtime, screens, or "get ready" turns into a nightly fight. In this episode, you'll learn: Why explaining the "why" behind a boundary doesn't get your kid to comply The real reason "how many times do I have to tell you" backfires every time How to validate your kid's feelings without caving to what they want The exact language to use during transitions like bedtime and screen time Why staying calm and confident, not permissive, is what actually helps your kid through a meltdown Resources mentioned in this episode: You Are the Parent by Dr. Siggie Cohen The Happy Mom Reset (free class) Ready to feel calmer and more confident in your parenting? Join us for the free Happy Mom Reset class. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/ngm or use code NGM and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  3. Sep 24

    Why You're Still the Default Parent (And The 7 Rules that Got Me Out)

    If you're carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one "I'll just grab it" at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I'm not the default parent in my house, from the "go ask Dad" rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out. In this episode, you'll learn: Why being the default parent is a set of habits, not a personality trait How to end the "I do everything" fight by seeing the real split in your house Why doing your partner's jobs to be nice backfires, and what to say instead The simple "go ask Dad" rule that retrains your kids Why "it's just easier if I do it" is a trap, and how to let your partner do it his way Resources mentioned in this episode: Home Responsibility Calculator (free): see the real split in your house Skylight Calendar: $30 off the 15-inch calendar #ad #sponsored The Fair Play Deck by Eve Rodsky The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom on Instagram: come tell me your calculator results Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  4. Sep 22

    Why You Keep Abandoning Yourself to Keep Everyone Else Happy with Jessica Anne Pressler

    New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever struggled with people pleasing and wondered why you put everyone else's needs before your own even when it's costing you, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist Jessica Anne Pressler joins JoAnn to talk about self-abandonment, the pattern of putting everyone else first until you disappear from your own life. They dig into where it starts in childhood, how it shows up as people pleasing and trauma bonding in adult relationships, and how to finally start trusting yourself again. In this episode, you'll learn: What self-abandonment actually means, and why most moms do it without realizing it Why your kids learn more from watching you take care of yourself than from anything you tell them What a trauma bond is and why it can feel like an addiction The gray rock method for dealing with someone who wants a reaction from you A simple script for talking back to the inner voice that keeps you stuck (Jessica calls it "the traitor within") Resources mentioned in this episode: Jessica Anne Pressler on Instagram Jessica's novel, Traitor Within, out now The Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Happy Mom Reset (free class) The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (JoAnn's book) No Guilt Mom podcast page Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify No Guilt Mom on Instagram No Guilt Mom on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  5. Sep 17

    Why You Feel Powerless When Your Daughter Gets Dress Coded (And What Actually Helps)

    If gentle parenting has you wanting to back your daughter up without shaking things up at school, but you're stuck on why she keeps getting dress coded in the first place, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. JoAnn goes solo this week on a topic she's been sitting with since her own middle school uniform battles: dress codes, and why they land so much harder on girls than boys. She pulls the research on where dress codes actually came from, what "self-objectification" does to a girl's brain and test scores, and ties it directly into this week's Sydney Sweeney ad backlash. Then she gives you the exact conversation to have with your daughter the next time she comes home dress coded. In this episode, you'll learn: Why dress codes were never really about safety, and where they actually came from The research showing it's girls' bodies, not their behavior, that dress codes target What "self-objectification" is, and how it can measurably lower a girl's test performance Exactly what to say (and not say) when your daughter comes home dress coded How to help her decide whether to comply or push back, in her own words Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder — our family cooperation system The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom website No Guilt Mom on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  6. Sep 15

    Why You Give Until You're Empty (And What To Do Instead)

    If you've ever dealt with mom burnout and wondered why you can't stop giving until there's nothing left, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Therapist Dr. Julie Merriman joins the podcast to talk about why so many moms quietly minimize themselves until they're running on empty, and why the idea that "you can't give from an empty cup" is actually a myth, because we do it all the time. We get into little T trauma, why your worth might be tied to productivity, and Julie's five-step framework for coming back to yourself after burnout. In this episode, you'll learn: Why moms give until they hit "empty cup" burnout, and why the belief that you can't give from empty isn't true What "little T trauma" is and why almost everyone has some, even without a dramatic backstory Julie's five-step framework for recovering from burnout: reflection, a nervous system inventory, a reappearance checklist, a self-return ritual, and daily affirmations A simple full-body-scan technique to check in with your nervous system in under a minute Why tying your worth to productivity makes it impossible to just sit and relax Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder — No Guilt Mom's family cooperation system Dr. Julie Merriman's website Julie's free Desire Reset Guide The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom Podcast page No Guilt Mom on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  7. Sep 10

    Why You Can't Turn Off Work Mode the Second You Walk in the Door (And the 3-Ritual Fix)

    If you've ever felt the mental load of work follow you home and wondered why you can't turn your brain off the second you walk in the door, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. You close the laptop, but your brain doesn't get the memo. In this episode, JoAnn breaks down the real research on why work stress follows you home (and why home stress follows you to work), and gives you three small, doable rituals you can try tonight to actually make the switch. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "boundary theory" research says your brain needs an actual ritual to switch roles, not just willpower Why remote and hybrid workers report 20% higher burnout, and what's missing from the workday that used to fix this for free What a real diary study of 166 employees found is the single strongest predictor of recovering from a stressful workday Three simple scripts you can use tonight: naming your feeling, noticing and asking what's up, and picking your family's one thing How the Happy Home Ladder turns these skills into something your whole family builds together, not just you Resources mentioned in this episode: Get the Happy Home Ladder When Work Stress Hijacks Your Home: Stop Ruminating and Get Your Patience Back with Guy Winch Why You Negotiate Better at Work Than at Home (And How to Change That) with Attia Qureshi The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (book) Follow No Guilt Mom on Instagram Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/ngm or use code NGM and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  8. Sep 8

    Self-Forgiveness Strategies to Overcome Mom Guilt and Burnout with Dr. Dravon James

    If you've ever dealt with mom guilt and wondered why you can't stop replaying the same mistake in your head long after it happened, this episode is for you. Explore practical tools for managing mom guilt and the mental load using gentle parenting principles and a proven self-forgiveness method with Dr. Dravon James. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Dr. Dravon James, founder of Everyday Peace and author of Forgiveness: A Pathway to Happiness, joins JoAnn to talk about why self-forgiveness is so much harder for moms than forgiving anyone else. They walk through Dravon's three-step practice for actually letting go of the mistakes you keep carrying, plus the exact language to use with yourself when you mess up. In this episode, you'll learn: Why holding onto guilt doesn't actually protect you from making the same mistake again The three-step self-forgiveness practice: reflect on self-criticism, forgive yourself for past mistakes, and release the memory's hold The difference between accepting what happened and excusing it The "sandwich technique" for saying "I forgive you" to yourself without it feeling forced Why treating yourself the way you'd treat your own middle schooler changes everything Ready to stop doing everything and start doing what actually matters? Grab JoAnn's free Stop Doing Checklist. Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Dravon James's website Dr. Dravon James on Instagram Dr. Dravon James on Facebook Grab the free Stop Doing Checklist Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (JoAnn's book) Thank you to our sponsors! Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/omnin6le #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A.Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/ngm or use code NGM and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Tired of yelling at your kids, drowning in mom guilt, and carrying the entire mental load of your family? No Guilt Mom gives you gentle parenting strategies that actually work for real, tired moms, plus permission to stop doing it all. Host JoAnn Crohn, M.Ed, certified parenting coach and author of The Best Mom is a Happy Mom, brings you real talk on strong-willed kids, working mom burnout, ADHD parenting, and self-compassion- no shame, no perfection required. New episodes every Tuesday and Thursday.

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