The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

Sara Bybee Fisk
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Welcome to the Ex Good Girl Podcast! I’m Sara Bybee Fisk, the Stop People Pleasing Coach. If you feel exhausted from constant people pleasing and perfectionism, and you are ready to stop but you don’t know how, this podcast is for YOU! I will help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. I can show you a roadmap you can use to train yourself to stop abandoning your own desires and let go of the fear of what others will think. If you are ready to stop pretending everything is fine, get out of the cycle of doubt, guilt, and resentment AND step into a life of power and freedom, I can help!

  1. 2D AGO

    Episode 155 - The Powerful Combination of Choice and Voice Re-Release

    To what degree do you feel capable of saying what you want to say in your life and in your relationships? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of my favorite episodes about the powerful combination of choice and voice. A revolution happens when women say what they want to say. When you can express how you really feel, it becomes easier to stand up for yourself and set expectations. Your relationships shift, your choices become clearer, and you stop performing and start actually living. Here’s what I cover: One of the key skills I teach my clients: how to articulate themselves during difficult conversationsHow reconnecting to your own wants and needs is a process that takes timeWhy we are capable of updating the relationships in our lives to match our current wants and needsWhy authenticity removes the pressure to perform in order to feel acceptedHow learning to handle the stress of advocating for yourself leads to deeper integrity and lasting comfort Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    32 min

  2. MAR 4

    Episode 154 - What Needs To Be Said with Alex Reegan Re-Release

    This episode is a reminder of how prejudice can soften when we look beyond policies to see real people, and it feels especially important to bring it back now. In this re-release of a past conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend Alex Regan, a trans man, interfaith minister, speaker, author, and transformative spiritual coach. Meeting Alex changed my life because it replaced my experience of an abstract label with a real human being with a nervous system, a story, hopes, and fears just like me. Once you see someone clearly like that, it becomes much harder to ignore how they are being treated. My hope is that hearing Alex’s story will create that same kind of shift for you. Here’s what I cover: How stories reduce prejudice by turning a “group” into a real person you actually care aboutHow good girl conditioning trains us to abandon ourselves and why that wiring shows up everywhereAlex’s journey of unlearning evangelical rules and building trust in his own inner knowingWhat it looks like to stop fighting for approval and let people be wrong about youHow community changes everything when you stop performing and start living as your real self Find Alex here: www.alexreegan.com www.instagram.com/revreegs  Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    1h 15m

  3. FEB 25

    Episode 153 - Using the Past and the Future to Solve Problems in the Present

    It’s so easy to feel stuck and overwhelmed when we haven’t figured something out yet. But what if you looked for the evidence in your life that you can solve the problem? In this episode, I share how I’m borrowing belief from my past self to help me make a decision I’m wrestling with now. Instead of demanding certainty or shaming myself for not knowing the answer, I’m using real proof from my own history to help me relax while I take the time to figure it out. Here’s what I cover: How leaving the church one step at a time taught me how to untangle my beliefsWhy your brain relaxes when you offer it real evidence from your pastHow to copy and paste a past growth process onto the problem you’re facing todayThe self-judgment that creeps in when you think you should have it figured out by nowA powerful visualization to help you imagine the future version of you who already solved the problem Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    26 min

  4. FEB 18

    Episode 152 - How to Stay Informed Without Losing Yourself

    The overwhelming amount of information, emotion, and terror we are experiencing in the world right now can make it hard to know what to do with ourselves. Last week’s episode came from my own experience of feeling like I was going to break and realizing my nervous system was completely overloaded. In this episode, I build on that and talk about what to do—because it’s not enough to say you will “just get off social media” or “stop doom scrolling.” If it were that simple, I would have stopped, and maybe you would have too. We’ll look at why this is so hard to put down and what it takes to step back in a way that allows you to stay informed without losing yourself in the crush of information. Here’s what I cover: Why doom scrolling is not activism and can hinder you from taking thoughtful actionThe good girl rules that make disengaging feel like a moral failingWhy learning to regulate your nervous system can be a powerful form of resistanceWhat happens when your reptile brain takes over and you’re stuck in looping thoughtsPractical ways to regulate so you can stay informed and respond in ways that actually help Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    27 min

  5. FEB 11

    Episode 151 - Your Body Was Never Meant to Hold This

    Over the last few weeks, the constant exposure to human suffering, injustice, and horrifying information has felt like an avalanche. If you’ve been taking this in through social media and the news like I have, you might notice yourself swinging between obsessing and shutting down, or believing that if you look away or take a break, it means you don’t care. In this episode, I share what helped me understand what was actually happening in my nervous system and why feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body was never meant to hold all of this. Here’s what I cover: An Instagram post that helped me understand how the overwhelm we’re living through impacts the bodyHow flooding ourselves with horrific information without containment destabilizes our nervous systemsWhy empathy and good girl conditioning can turn caring into self-sacrificeThree things to pay attention to so we can stay connected to the truth without losing ourselvesWhat it looks like to give yourself permission to decide what level of engagement is right for you Find Sara here: https://sarafisk.coach https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    28 min

  6. FEB 4

    Episode 150 - Erotic Wholeness with Darshana Avila

    In this episode, I sit down with erotic wholeness guide Darshana Avila to talk about embodiment, authenticity, and coming home to the body. Darshana was featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop, which was one of my early introductions to a broader idea of eroticism as I began to unravel my good girl conditioning. We explore what happens when women don’t know what they want or don’t trust their bodies—a disconnection shaped by the systems we were raised in, not personal failure. Darshana offers a different path forward, rooted in compassion, nervous-system safety, and learning to listen to the body. Here’s what we cover: How Darshana defines erotic wholeness and why it’s not limited to sexWhy “I don’t know what I want” is a common and understandable starting pointWhat compartmentalization looks like in real life and how conditioning keeps it in placeHow authenticity begins with sensing what is and isn’t for youSimple ways to begin reconnecting through your senses and the four allies of erotic embodiment Darshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps people reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Her work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts. Find Darshana here: darshanaavila.com  instagram.com/darshana_avila  youtube.com/@darshana-avila linkedin.com/in/darshana-avila https://darshanaavila.com/podcast/  Find Sara here: https://sarafisk.coach https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    56 min

  7. JAN 28

    Episode 149 - We Need To Talk About Codependency

    For a long time, codependency has been framed as weakness or passivity—that’s why so many strong, capable, high-functioning women hear that word and immediately think, that is absolutely not me. In this episode, I explore where the concept of codependency actually came from and why that original definition often doesn’t fit. When we widen the lens, codependency starts to look a lot more like over-functioning and organizing your time, energy, and identity around other people. When we can understand it in that way, it opens up a much more honest and hopeful path forward. Here’s what I cover: Why the original addiction-based definition of codependency misses how it shows up for high-functioning womenHow control can turn into codependency and start to replace your self-connectionWhat it looks like when your identity is built around being needed or emotionally steadyHow codependency costs you your time, energy, and brain space, whether it feels like over-functioning or under-functioningQuestions to help you notice where you’re managing others in order to feel okay Find Sara here: https://sarafisk.coach https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    23 min

  8. JAN 21

    Episode 148 - You Can Get Good at Conflict

    Improving your conflict skills isn’t about finding the perfect words—it’s about understanding why conflict feels so hard in the first place. When your body believes that speaking up could cost you connection, of course it freezes, softens, or stays quiet. In this episode, I talk about how our nervous systems learned early on that conflict wasn’t safe, and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. When we slow down and get curious about our conflict response rather than judging it, that’s when real change becomes possible, and you can actually get good at conflict. Here’s what I cover: How shifting from “what’s wrong with me?” to “why does this make sense?” helps eliminate the self-criticism spiralThe early lessons your body learned about conflict, compliance, and staying connectedHow people-pleasing and staying small function as intelligent survival strategiesThe questions I offer to help you look backward and make sense of your conflict responseHow attachment patterns shape what your body expects will happen when conflict threatens connectionRegister for my upcoming workshop HERE! Find Sara here: https://sarafisk.coach https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! Book a Free Consult

    24 min
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Welcome to the Ex Good Girl Podcast! I’m Sara Bybee Fisk, the Stop People Pleasing Coach. If you feel exhausted from constant people pleasing and perfectionism, and you are ready to stop but you don’t know how, this podcast is for YOU! I will help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. I can show you a roadmap you can use to train yourself to stop abandoning your own desires and let go of the fear of what others will think. If you are ready to stop pretending everything is fine, get out of the cycle of doubt, guilt, and resentment AND step into a life of power and freedom, I can help!

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  • Creator
    Sara Bybee Fisk
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    159
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
  • Show Website
    The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

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