Grandma Has ADHD

Jami Shapiro

Welcome to “Grandma Has ADHD,” the podcast dedicated to exploring the unique challenges and experiences of seniors living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and referred by some as ADD.  We’ll provide valuable insights, expert advice, and personal stories to help older adults, their families, and caregivers navigate the journey of managing ADHD in later life mixed with a little humor and real life, unedited examples of navigating life with ADHD. Whether you are a senior who suspects you may have ADHD or love an ADHD Senior, “Grandma Has ADHD” embraces the saying “Making the rest of your life, the BEST of your life” and is here to provide you with the information, support, and resources you need to thrive.

  1. 16H AGO

    Episode 83 - Overcoming the Guilt and Shame of ADHD

    In this episode, Jami Shapiro sits down with ADHD coach and educator Jamie Blume for a deeply honest conversation about guilt, shame, and self-compassion in the ADHD journey. Jamie shares her personal story of discovering ADHD through her son’s struggles and how that realization reshaped not only her understanding of him, but of herself and her past. Together, Jami and Jamie explore how guilt shows up in ADHD, why it can feel so heavy, and how shifting from self-blame to self-compassion can open the door to growth, healing, and a more empowered way forward. What You’ll Learn How ADHD can show up in childhood but go unrecognizedWhy many adults carry guilt about missed signs or late diagnosisThe connection between ADHD, shame, and self-perceptionHow to shift from “should have known” to “what can I do now”The role of self-compassion in moving forwardHow ADHD affects social dynamics and relationshipsWhy structure and systems matter at every stage of lifeHow menopause and life transitions can intensify ADHD symptoms Why This Matters Many adults spend years looking back with regret, wishing they had known sooner. This episode is a reminder that while those feelings are real, staying there doesn’t move us forward. Understanding ADHD through a new lens can help replace guilt with clarity, and shame with self-compassion. The ADHD Button Question Jami asks every guest: If there were a button that could remove your ADHD forever, would you press it? Jamie’s answer: No. She shares that ADHD is deeply connected to who she is, her creativity, empathy, and energy, and that with the right tools and awareness, it becomes something to work with, not against. About the Guest Jamie Blume is an ADHD coach, educator, and founder of Along Their Way. After her own ADHD diagnosis, she dedicated her work to helping individuals and families better understand and navigate life with ADHD through both science and lived experience. About the Host Jami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she brings awareness to ADHD in older adults, especially women, helping listeners better understand their brains and navigate life with more clarity and compassion. Resources Along Their Way: https://alongtheirway.com ADHD coaching and support resources This Explains So Much by Jami Shapiro Links & Support Website: https://www.jamishapiro.me Silver Linings Transitions: Support for downsizing, organizing, and life transitions Book: This Explains So Much by Jami Shapiro Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    51 min
  2. APR 7

    Episode 82 - The Impact of ADHD Medications on Older Adults

    In this episode, Jami Shapiro sits down with nurse practitioner and ADHD specialist Maggie Alexander for an eye-opening conversation about ADHD medication, especially in older adults. For many people, ADHD has long been misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or simply overlooked, particularly in women and those diagnosed later in life. And when it comes to treatment, there’s still a lot of confusion, fear, and misinformation around medication. Maggie brings both clinical expertise and real-world experience to the conversation, breaking down what ADHD medications actually do, how they work in the body, and why age should not be a barrier to treatment. What You’ll Learn Why ADHD is often mistaken for anxiety or depressionThe truth about stimulant medication in older adultsHow to know if a medication is actually working for youThe real difference between Adderall and RitalinWhy dosage has nothing to do with age or body sizeWhat “start low, go slow” really meansThe overlooked emotional side of ADHD (RSD) Why This Matters Many adults spend years, even decades, being treated for the wrong thing. This episode sheds light on what happens when ADHD is missed, and what becomes possible when it’s finally understood and supported properly. The ADHD Button Question Jami asks every guest: If there were a button that could remove your ADHD forever, would you press it? While Maggie doesn’t have ADHD herself, the conversation reinforces a powerful theme heard across the podcast, that ADHD, while challenging, is also deeply tied to creativity, intuition, and how people experience the world. About the Guest Maggie Alexander is a psychiatric nurse practitioner specializing in ADHD. She has worked with hundreds of patients and focuses on precise, individualized treatment. She is the author of Shine with ADHD. About the Host Jami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she brings awareness to ADHD in older adults — especially women — helping listeners better understand their brains and navigate life with more clarity and compassion. Resources Shine with ADHD by Maggie AlexanderADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS) Links & Support Website: https://www.jamishapiro.me Silver Linings Transitions: Support for downsizing, organizing, and life transitions Book: This Explains So Much by Jami Shapiro Enjoying the Podcast? If this episode resonated with you: Leave a reviewShare it with someone who might need to hear itFollow Grandma Has ADHD for more conversations on ADHD, aging, and understanding your brainThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    52 min
  3. MAR 31

    Episode 81 - A Daughter's Experience with Alzheimers and ADHD

    In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami Shapiro sits down with ADHD coach and behavior analyst Heather Callison for a deeply honest conversation about discovering ADHD later in life, raising neurodivergent children, and how family patterns often reveal the bigger picture. Heather shares her journey of recognizing ADHD in herself after her daughter’s diagnosis and how that discovery reshaped her understanding of her past, her career, and her family dynamics. Together, Jami and Heather explore the emotional realities of living with ADHD — from missed diagnoses in childhood to the powerful resilience that often develops along the way. This episode also dives into important topics like ADHD in girls, overlapping conditions like epilepsy and dysgraphia, and how compassion and awareness can change the trajectory of someone’s life. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why ADHD is often missed in girls and high-achieving studentsHow ADHD frequently runs through entire familiesThe connection between ADHD and epilepsyWhy social challenges can appear before academic strugglesThe role of resilience and self-awareness in ADHD managementHow parenting changes when you understand neurodivergenceThe emotional experience of late ADHD diagnosisWhy many adults with ADHD learn to give themselves graceAbout The Guest Heather Callison is an ADHD coach, board-certified behavior analyst, and educator with a PhD in Special Education. She works with creative, passionate individuals who feel stuck and helps them rediscover their strengths through ADHD-informed coaching. About The Host Jami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, author, and certified senior move manager. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she raises awareness about ADHD in adults — especially women discovering their diagnosis later in life. Resources Mentioned • Jami Shapiro’s book This Explains So Much • ADDCA Coach Academy ADHD coaching program • ADHD coaching and community support groups • Research on ADHD and epilepsy comorbidity Links & Resources Website: https://www.jamishapiro.meFacebook: Grandma Has ADHDInstagram: Grandma Has ADHD📘 Book:This Explains So Much by Jamie ShapiroFacebook: Silver Linings TransitionsSenior move management and decluttering supportThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    1h 7m
  4. MAR 24

    Episode 80 - Anxiety and ADHD part 2

    This episode continues a deeply personal conversation between Jami Shapiro and her longtime friend and collaborator Lynn, as they explore the lifelong impact of ADHD, especially for women who were never diagnosed growing up. In Part 2, Lynn shares more of her childhood experiences—growing up with anxiety, night terrors, hyperactivity, and creativity—long before ADHD was widely understood or diagnosed in girls. Through therapy, structure, and the support of her parents, she slowly developed tools that helped her navigate school, relationships, and life. Jami and Lynn also discuss the realities of ADHD in adulthood, including motherhood, work, aging, and the pressure women feel to “hold everything together” for their families. This episode highlights an important message: ADHD doesn’t disappear with age—and many women are only discovering it later in life. In This EpisodeWhy Jami created the first-ever two-part episodeLynn’s childhood experiences with anxiety, insomnia, and hyperactive creativityThe therapist who helped introduce structure and boundariesHow ADHD can go unnoticed in girlsThe role of sports, activity, and structure in managing symptomsGrowing up feeling “too much” or differentBullying, friendships, and rejection sensitivityADHD in parenting and family dynamicsWhy ADHD in mothers affects the household differentlyLate-life ADHD discovery and menopauseThe origin and purpose of the Sparkler Society Key Takeaways ADHD Often Goes Undiagnosed in Girls Many women grew up believing ADHD only affected hyperactive boys. As a result, generations of women never received a diagnosis or proper support. Structure Can Be Life-Changing Lynn’s therapist didn’t label her condition but instead provided practical tools, boundaries, and structure that helped her gradually improve sleep, focus, and confidence. Women Carry the Mental Load Jami explains how ADHD can hit women harder because mothers are often expected to manage the household’s executive functioning. ADHD Doesn’t Go Away With Age In fact, symptoms can intensify later in life due to hormonal changes, stress, or aging. Memorable MomentsLynn’s parents using sports and activities to help channel her energyThe “tape on the floor” technique used to create nighttime boundariesThe viral story of Lynn’s mother’s humorous tombstoneJami reflecting on how ADHD shaped her career helping seniors with downsizingThe powerful realization that ADHD may run through generations of familiesAbout the Sparkler SocietyJami and Lynn are building a new community called The Sparkler Society, designed for women with ADHD who want support, structure, and connection. The community will include: Weekly live group sessionsBody doubling for productivityADHD coaching and supportDecluttering and downsizing guidanceConversations about spending habits and unfinished projectsThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    1h 9m
  5. MAR 17

    Episode 79 - We Don’t Suddenly Get ADHD at 60 - We’re Finally Becoming Aware a conversation with Dr. David Goodman

    Episode Summary In this powerful episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami Shapiro sits down with internationally recognized ADHD expert Dr. David W. Goodman to explore one of the most overlooked conversations in mental health: ADHD in older adults. For decades, ADHD was believed to be something children simply “outgrew.” Dr. Goodman has spent over 40 years researching and treating adult ADHD, challenging that myth and helping the medical community understand that ADHD is a lifelong neurodevelopmental condition. Together, Jami and Dr. Goodman unpack why so many adults—especially women—are only now discovering their ADHD later in life, how it can be mistaken for memory loss or dementia, and why diagnosis can be deeply healing even in later years. This episode is filled with insight, compassion, and hope for anyone who has ever wondered: "Why has my brain always worked differently?" What You’ll Learn in This Episode✅ Why ADHD often goes undiagnosed until adulthood or later in life ✅ The surprising ways ADHD symptoms can mimic dementia or cognitive decline ✅ Why women and older adults are historically underdiagnosed ✅ How ADHD symptoms stay relatively stable, but life demands change how impairments appear ✅ Why many physicians still miss ADHD in older adults ✅ The emotional impact of discovering ADHD later in life ✅ How diagnosis can bring relief, healing, and restored relationships About the GuestDr. David W. Goodman is an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine and Director of the Adult Attention Deficit Disorder Center of Maryland. He is one of the world’s leading experts on adult ADHD, having: Delivered 750+ lectures worldwidePublished 35+ peer-reviewed scientific papersLed major adult ADHD clinical trialsAuthored The Black Book of ADHDHis expertise has been featured in major outlets including CNN, ABC World News, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal. Key Conversation HighlightsADHD Doesn’t Disappear With Age Research now shows ADHD is a lifelong neuropsychiatric condition, not something people grow out of. Many adults are simply getting diagnosed for the first time later in life due to increased awareness. ADHD vs Dementia Older adults with ADHD may experience symptoms like: forgetfulnessdifficulty focusinglosing track of tasksThese symptoms can sometimes be misinterpreted as early dementia, which is why proper evaluation is so important. Why Women Are Diagnosed Later For generations, ADHD was primarily associated with hyperactive boys. Many girls showed inattentive symptoms instead, which were often overlooked. As a result, countless women have spent decades believing they were: lazydisorganized“too much”not trying hard enoughWhen in reality, they had undiagnosed ADHD. The Impact of Awareness A diagnosis later in life can bring a powerful shift: understanding past strugglesThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    1h 11m
  6. MAR 10

    Episode 78 - Anxiety and ADHD the hidden sign we all missed.

    Lynn Layfield on Anxiety (Part 1) In this deeply personal and emotional episode of the Grandma Has ADHD Podcast, Jami welcomes back her longtime friend and Sparkler Society co-founder, Lynn Layfield, for a conversation unlike any they’ve had publicly before. What began as a private conversation about anxiety quickly turned into something much bigger. Jami realized their discussion needed to be recorded because Lynn’s story reflects something many women are just beginning to understand: the complicated relationship between ADHD, anxiety, and emotional regulation. For the first time, Lynn opens up about the struggles she faced growing up — long before ADHD was widely understood in girls. From sleepless nights and intense fears as a child to years of therapy and misinterpretation of her symptoms, Lynn shares how her childhood experiences shaped her life and how ADHD may have been influencing her anxiety all along. This episode also highlights a growing realization happening today: many women are being diagnosed with ADHD later in life after decades of confusion, misdiagnosis, or being told their struggles were simply anxiety. Jami and Lynn explore how creativity, emotional sensitivity, and imagination — strengths often found in ADHD brains — can also contribute to anxiety when left unsupported. This conversation is honest, vulnerable, and deeply relatable for anyone who has ever wondered why their mind works the way it does. Part 1 sets the stage for Lynn’s story and the childhood experiences that shaped her journey. In This Episode Why this episode is different from any Lynn has shared beforeThe emotional side of ADHD that many people never seeThe connection between ADHD and anxietyWhy many adults — especially women — are being diagnosed later in lifeLynn’s childhood experiences with anxiety and sleeplessnessGrowing up before ADHD in girls was widely recognizedHow ADHD creativity can amplify fears and imaginationEarly therapy approaches used in the 1970s and 1980sReward systems, journaling, and childhood coping strategiesThe importance of community and shared experiences Key Takeaways ✨ ADHD doesn’t always look the way people expect.  ✨ Anxiety is common for people with ADHD but may not always be the root cause.  ✨ Many adults are discovering their ADHD later in life.  ✨ Creativity and imagination — strengths of ADHD brains — can also intensify anxiety.  ✨ Community and understanding are powerful tools for people navigating ADHD. About Lynn LayfieldLynn Layfield is the co-founder of the Sparkler Society alongside Jami Shapiro. She brings humor, creativity, and honesty to conversations about ADHD, anxiety, and personal growth. In this episode, Lynn courageously shares parts of her story she has rarely discussed publicly — offering insight and hope to others who may see themselves in her journey. Resources MentionedThe upcoming Sparkler Society communityJami Shapiro’s ADHD coaching servicesThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    54 min
  7. MAR 3

    Episode 77 - It Wasn't Just Aging: Late-Diagnosed ADHD and the Life That Finally Makes Sense

    Thriving with ADHD at Every Stage of Life with Jennifer Lorenz In this insightful and validating episode, Jami welcomes certified ADHD and executive function coach Jennifer Lorenz. With over 25 years of experience mentoring professionals and extensive training in ADHD coaching, emotional intelligence, and CliftonStrengths, Jennifer brings both professional expertise and personal lived experience to the conversation. Together, they explore what it really means to live, work, parent, and age with ADHD—and how understanding executive function can transform shame into empowerment. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why ADHD is not about “fixing what’s broken,” but leveraging your natural strengthsHow executive function impacts organization, planning, memory, and daily lifeThe unique challenges ADHD presents during life transitions, especially retirementWhy structure plays a critical role—and what happens when it disappearsHow ADHD often runs in families and can be diagnosed later in lifeThe hidden shame many ADHD adults carry—and how to release itWhy focusing on strengths creates more success than trying to “fix weaknesses” Jennifer’s Story: Late Diagnosis and Finding Her Calling Jennifer’s journey began when her sons were diagnosed with ADHD. Through learning about their experiences, she recognized similar patterns in herself and pursued her own diagnosis as an adult. Her personal experience—combined with professional coaching training—led her to specialize in helping others navigate executive function challenges, productivity, life transitions, and ADHD across the lifespan. She now helps clients build systems that work with their brain—not against it. Key Topic: What Is Executive Function? Executive function refers to the brain’s management system—the skills that help us: Plan and prioritizeStay organizedManage timeRegulate emotionsFollow through on tasksRemember important informationFor people with ADHD, these skills may develop differently or require additional support systems and strategies. Jennifer explains that executive function challenges often become more noticeable during transitions—such as retirement—when external structure disappears. ADHD, Aging, and Retirement One of the most important insights Jennifer shares is how ADHD affects adults later in life. Many adults rely on workplace structure to function successfully. When retirement removes that structure, challenges with planning, organization, and motivation can suddenly intensify. This is why understanding ADHD and executive function is essential—not just for children, but across the entire lifespan. The Truth About ADHD: Strengths and Challenges Jennifer shares a powerful perspective: ADHD is not a flaw—it’s a different brain wiring. While ADHD can create challenges in daily life, it also brings strengths such as: CreativityPattern recognitionInnovationHyperfocusEmotional insightThank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    1h 5m
  8. FEB 24

    Episode 76 - Jami Shapiro on Love, Relationships and ADHD

    “ADHD, Dating & Relationships” with Jami Shapiro and Lynn Layfield Episode Summary In this candid and personal conversation, Jamie sits down with longtime friend Lynn to explore how ADHD has shaped their dating lives, marriages, and relationships. From impulsivity and rejection sensitivity to energy mismatches and household chaos, they unpack the real-world impact of ADHD across different life stages. The episode also introduces the vision behind their growing community, the Sparkler Society, designed to support midlife women navigating ADHD-related challenges. What You’ll Learn How ADHD traits like impulsivity, hyperactivity, and executive dysfunction can influence romantic relationshipsWhy rejection sensitivity and recognition-seeking play a big role in communication dynamicsThe connection between ADHD, self-esteem, and partner selectionHow energy levels and love languages can create friction in marriagesLessons learned from divorce, long-term partnership, and dating later in lifeThe importance of community support and shared problem-solvingKey Topics & Moments Origin Story: Jamie and Lynn’s decades-long friendship and wedding memoriesADHD & Marriage: How difficulty sitting still, household management challenges, and differing needs for connection affected Jamie’s first marriageDating Patterns: Lynn reflects on short early relationships and attention shiftsRejection Sensitivity: Understanding emotional responses and communication impulsesEnergy Mismatch: When one partner’s pace and drive outstrip the other’sCommunity Building: Inside the Sparkler Society and features like the “Worry Circle” and “High Road”Standout Insights ADHD can amplify both connection and conflict in relationshipsMany adults discover their ADHD only after years of relationship patternsShared understanding (or diagnosis) can foster compassion between partnersSupport systems reduce isolation and improve problem-solvingMemorable Quotes “If it cracks like a duck and waddles like a duck… it might be ADHD.”“Sometimes it burns in my body until I say it.”“You have to be with someone who appreciates your energy.”Who This Episode Is For Adults navigating ADHD in dating, marriage, or divorceMidlife listeners reevaluating relationship patternsAnyone curious about how neurodiversity shapes emotional connectionCall to Action If this episode resonated, share it with a friend who might feel seen by this conversation, and keep the discussion going about how ADHD shows up in relationships. Thank you for joining us for this episode of Grandma Has ADHD! We hope Jami's journey and insights into ADHD shed light on the unique challenges faced by older adults. Stay tuned for more episodes where we’ll explore helpful resources, share personal stories, and provide guidance for those navigating ADHD. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends who might benefit. Remember, Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Follow us: Instagram: @grandma_has_adhd @silverliningstransitions Facebook: Silver Linings Transitions Grandma Has ADHD (Facebook Page & Group) Youtube: Grandma Has ADHD

    57 min
5
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Welcome to “Grandma Has ADHD,” the podcast dedicated to exploring the unique challenges and experiences of seniors living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and referred by some as ADD.  We’ll provide valuable insights, expert advice, and personal stories to help older adults, their families, and caregivers navigate the journey of managing ADHD in later life mixed with a little humor and real life, unedited examples of navigating life with ADHD. Whether you are a senior who suspects you may have ADHD or love an ADHD Senior, “Grandma Has ADHD” embraces the saying “Making the rest of your life, the BEST of your life” and is here to provide you with the information, support, and resources you need to thrive.

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