U****k Your Coparenting

Livi North
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A podcast about navigating high-conflict narcissistic toxic co-parenting without losing your shit. If co-parenting feels like a constant mind game, this is for you. Coaching Couch episodes give raw, off-the-cuff answers to real listener questions. Mini episodes drop straight-to-the-point strategies you can actually use. You don’t have to navigate this alone—Liv is here to help you take your power back and learn how to finally u****k your coparenting.

  1. Pt 1: Inside I Love You, My Narcissist — with Producer/Director Ali & Stephanie Schmall

    3d ago

    Pt 1: Inside I Love You, My Narcissist — with Producer/Director Ali & Stephanie Schmall

    In this episode of The Coaching Couch, Livi North is joined by Ali and Stephanie Schmall, the producer and director behind I Love You, My Narcissist. This independent hybrid film blends scripted storytelling, survivor experiences, and expert commentary to show the slow, confusing, identity-eroding reality of narcissistic abuse — the part that is so hard to explain to friends, family, courts, and anyone who only sees the charming public version of the abuser. Ali and Stephanie share why they created the film, how survivor stories shaped the fictional storylines, why they chose a hybrid scripted/documentary format, and how the film helps people see the pattern of manipulation, gaslighting, isolation, and reactive abuse more clearly. If you have ever wished you could point to something and say, “This. This is what happened,” this conversation — and this film — is for you. Watch I Love You, My Narcissist and use code LIVI1 for 15% off. Book a Strategy Call:unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call

    24 min

  2. May 14

    Parallel Parenting vs Co-Parenting: When Cooperation Isn’t Possible

    What happens when “healthy co-parenting” becomes a trap? In this episode, Livi North breaks down the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting — and why so many people stay emotionally stuck trying to force cooperation with someone committed to conflict. We cover: what healthy co-parenting actually looks likesigns cooperation is no longer realisticwhy communication becomes weaponized in high-conflict dynamicsthe emotional burnout that pushes many parents toward parallel parentingreal-world examples of control, baiting, and endless conflict cycleswhy reducing engagement is often healthier for both you and your kidsIf you have ever thought: “Why does every conversation turn into a fight?”or “Am I giving up if I stop trying so hard?” …this episode is for you. Book a Strategy Call: unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call Follow the show and share this episode with someone stuck in the Good Co-Parent Trap. #coparenting #parallelparenting #highconflictcoparenting #narcissisticcoparent #divorcepodcast #custodybattle #familycourt #coparentinghelp

    12 min
  3. Pt 2: The Gray Area Trap: Custody Agreement Loopholes High-Conflict Exes Love

    May 7

    Pt 2: The Gray Area Trap: Custody Agreement Loopholes High-Conflict Exes Love

    This is Part 2 of our series on how high-conflict co-parents weaponize custody agreements. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, start there—we break down The Gray Area Trap and why “reasonable” parenting plans don’t work with unreasonable people. In this episode, we apply those concepts to real-life situations, including: Being blocked from your child’s activitiesPhone calls being ignoredHolidays and schedule manipulationExtracurriculars scheduled during your timeTravel without noticeLast-minute changes used to control your lifeBecause the issue is not the individual problem. It’s the pattern. You’ll learn how to: Identify tactics like Boundary Creep and Schedule HijackingStop engaging in constant renegotiationProtect your time and your relationship with your kidsStay strategic—even when your ex is notIf you feel like you’re constantly reacting instead of actually co-parenting, this episode will help you shift that dynamic. 📩 Submit your questions:livi@unfuckyourcoparenting.com 📌 Disclaimer: This is not legal advice. Always consult an attorney for your specific situation. #coparenting#highconflictcoparenting#divorcepodcast#narcissisticex#custodybattle#familycourt#parallelparenting#toxicrelationships#divorcerecovery#parentingpodcast#part2

    42 min

  4. Apr 30

    The Gray Area Trap: Custody Agreement Loopholes High-Conflict Exes Love

    Why does it feel like your ex follows the custody agreement only when it benefits them? Because when a parenting plan is vague, high-conflict people turn every gray area into an opportunity for control. In this Coaching Couch episode, I break down the “Gray Area Trap” — what happens when your custody agreement uses vague language like “reasonable notice,” “reasonable phone contact,” “be flexible,” or “parents will cooperate.” Those phrases sound fine if you are dealing with a reasonable person. But if you are dealing with a high-conflict or narcissistic ex, they become loopholes. We cover: Why vague parenting plans create constant conflict“Death by logistics” and the small issues that become big control tacticsWhether your ex can control what you do during your parenting timeWhat to do when your ex’s new partner starts showing up to everythingYour rights around school events, doctor appointments, and parent-teacher conferencesRight of first refusal problemsWhen late bedtimes and bad parenting decisions are worth addressingHow to document patterns without looking “difficult” in courtIf you have ever found yourself wondering, “Am I overreacting?” this episode is for you. Follow U****k Your Co-Parenting wherever you listen to podcasts, and make sure to follow on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook @unfuckyourcoparenting. Need help with your parenting plan or parallel parenting strategy? Visit unfuckyourcoparenting.com or email livi@unfuckyourcoparenting.com.

    34 min
  5. The 6 Biggest Mistakes You’re Making With Your Narcissistic Co-Parent

    Apr 23

    The 6 Biggest Mistakes You’re Making With Your Narcissistic Co-Parent

    Most co-parenting advice assumes both parents care about the same things. But if you are dealing with a narcissistic or high-conflict co-parent, that is not what is happening. In this episode of The Breakdown, I explain why you are stuck, why nothing seems to work, and the six mistakes that are keeping you trapped in the cycle. We cover: Trying to make their behavior make senseBelieving the right words will change themExpecting them to care about parenting the way you doWhy “performance parenting” happens during courtWhy things often change after custody is finalizedWhy they escalate when challengedWhy nobody else seems to see what you seeThis episode introduces the idea of “counter parenting”—when your ex is not trying to co-parent at all, but instead is using parenting as a way to maintain control, protect their image, and keep you reacting. Once you understand that, everything changes. Follow, rate, and share if this episode helped you. And send me a message: which mistake hit you the hardest?

    11 min
  6. Dating Someone with a Toxic Ex: What No One Tells You (Coaching Couch Q&A)

    Apr 16

    Dating Someone with a Toxic Ex: What No One Tells You (Coaching Couch Q&A)

    What is it actually like to date someone with a toxic or narcissistic ex? After my recent episode on the 7 questions you need to ask before dating someone with a toxic ex, I got flooded with messages—and one thing became very clear: Most of you aren’t asking if you should do this…you’re already in it and trying to figure out what’s going on. In this Coaching Couch episode, I’m breaking down real listener questions about: feeling like you’re in a “three-person relationship”dealing with constant interruptions and dramafiguring out what’s normal vs what’s a red flagwatching your partner get pulled back into the cycleand deciding whether this is something you can actually live with long-termWe also talk about the biggest mistake people make in these relationships—and what actually determines whether it works or not. If you haven’t listened to the original breakdown episode yet, go back and start there—it’ll give you the full framework for this conversation.

    38 min
  7. Breakdown: Canned Responses Are Keeping You Stuck (Here’s What Actually Works)

    Apr 12

    Breakdown: Canned Responses Are Keeping You Stuck (Here’s What Actually Works)

    Everyone is looking for the perfect response to shut down a toxic co-parent. But that’s the problem. In this episode, we’re breaking down why canned messages don’t work—and how they can actually keep you stuck in the exact cycle you’re trying to escape. Instead, we get into the real strategy: Why you need to stop explaining yourselfHow high-conflict personalities use communication to control youThe difference between responding and setting boundariesWhat to do when they spam, gaslight, or create fake urgencyAnd how to finally disengage without feeling like you’re losingThis episode is about shifting from reacting… to operating strategically. Because you don’t win by saying the right thing. You win by stopping the game entirely.

    22 min

  8. Apr 2

    Breakdown: Dating Someone With a Narcissistic Ex? 7 Questions You Need to Ask First

    If you are thinking about dating someone who has a toxic or high-conflict ex… or you’re already in it and starting to feel the weight of it… this episode is for you. This is one of the most common questions I get — can a relationship actually work when one or both people have a narcissistic or high-conflict ex? And the answer is yes… but it’s not simple. There’s a version of this that works really well — where both people are self-aware, intentional, and have done the work. And then there’s a version of this that will absolutely drain you if you don’t know what you’re walking into. So today we’re going to walk through some honest questions you need to ask yourself before getting into — or staying in — a relationship like this. Because here’s the part people don’t talk about enough: These relationships can actually be incredibly strong. A lot of people who have come out of toxic or narcissistic relationships become very self-aware, very empathetic, and very intentional about how they show up in a partnership. But… they also come with real-life complications. And I’m not speaking about this in theory. Both me and Leo have high-conflict exes. We’ve dealt with the court system, custody schedules, accusations, parenting stress — all of it. So this is coming from lived experience, not just coaching. We’re going to get into things like: What it actually looks like to deal with conflict you didn’t create How to support your partner without becoming another source of pressure What happens when you become the “enemy” in someone else’s narrative The reality of legal stress and custody battles What it feels like to step into a bonus parent role in a high-conflict situation Why parallel parenting is often the healthier option in these dynamics And probably the most important piece — the one thing your partner has to be willing to do for this relationship to actually work. Because these relationships can work. In fact, some of the strongest, most connected relationships I’ve seen come out of people who have survived really toxic dynamics. But they don’t work by accident. They require clarity, emotional maturity, and really strong boundaries. So if you’re in this… or considering it… this episode is going to help you get a lot more honest about what you’re stepping into.

    16 min
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A podcast about navigating high-conflict narcissistic toxic co-parenting without losing your shit. If co-parenting feels like a constant mind game, this is for you. Coaching Couch episodes give raw, off-the-cuff answers to real listener questions. Mini episodes drop straight-to-the-point strategies you can actually use. You don’t have to navigate this alone—Liv is here to help you take your power back and learn how to finally u****k your coparenting.

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