The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

Eric Zimmer
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Build resilience. Cultivate self-compassion. Live with purpose. The One You Feed brings conversations with leading thinkers — James Clear, Susan Cain, Tara Brach, and more — to help you navigate life’s challenges and feed your good wolf. No perfection, just direction, insight, and the small, consistent actions that make a meaningful life.

  1. 8h ago

    How the Words You Choose Shape the Life You Live | Mark Nepo

    In this episode, Mark Nepo talks about how the words we use shape the way we experience our lives. Drawing on Mark’s new book The Language of the Soul, he explores how words can help us make room for pain and fear or make those experiences feel even bigger. Mark also discusses what it means to be wholehearted, why ordinary moments don’t have to feel extraordinary to matter, and how to return to a fuller sense of life when we’ve lost touch with it. A Weekly Bite of Wisdom: Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, you’ll receive a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You’ll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist that includes a recap of the week’s episodes with our featured guests. It’s free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/newsletter. Key Takeaways: The words we choose can help us meet a difficult experience or intensify it. Being wholehearted means making room for the full range of feelings, including the ones we’d rather avoid. You don’t have to feel wonder in every ordinary moment for that moment to be worthwhile. When fear or pain narrows your view, relationships and practices can help you find a wider perspective. Acceptance can help you discern when to act and when to be patient. Returning to presence is a practice; losing touch with it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Nepo, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Discovering Your Inner Resilience and Strength with Mark Nepo Connecting to What Matters with Mark Nepo (2020) How to Strengthen Your Resilience with Linda Graham This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠Ka’Chava ⁠⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠⁠ KaChava.com ⁠⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. 4d ago

    How to Start a New Chapter When You Think It’s Too Late | Sari Botton

    In this episode, Sari Botton discusses how to start a new chapter when you think it’s too late and explains what happens when the life you expected stops making sense. At 54, writer and editor Sari Botton struggled to get interviews for jobs she was qualified for and feared her career was over. Now, at 60, she’s doing some of her most fulfilling work. In this episode, Sari and Eric talk about the realities of getting older, how to tell what deserves acceptance and what’s worth pushing back against, and why an unexpected crossroads can still lead somewhere good. ⁠Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control.⁠ What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/ebook.⁠ Key Takeaways: Getting older can bring loss and new possibilities at the same time. You can accept changes in your body without accepting someone else’s limits on your life. A career setback may close one path while giving you room to create another. Rejection is part of pursuing creative work, but it can also be a reason to refine your approach. Taking one step can reveal options you couldn’t see from where you stood. You don’t have to have yourself completely figured out to begin again. For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Sari Botton, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Midlife Reinvention: How to Create Your Own Script for What Comes Next | Allison Aubrey The Midlife Makeover: Redefining Success and Happiness After 40 with Chip Conley Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler Successful Aging with Alan Castel This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Ka’Chava ⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠ KaChava.com ⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Sep 22

    How to Find Joy Even When Life Is Hard | Diane Shiffer

    In this episode, Diane Shiffer, author of The Smallest of Joys, discusses how to find joy even when life is hard. She shares how small moments of beauty have helped her navigate anxiety, depression, grief, and uncertainty, and why joy and heartbreak don’t have to cancel each other out. Diane also explains her simple “sit and stare” practice, the freedom of accepting a seven-out-of-ten life, and how changing what we pay attention to can change the way we experience our lives. Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook. Key Takeaways: How to recognize and preserve the small moments that bring you joy Why pain and beauty can exist at the same time without diminishing each other How the simple “sit and stare” practice can create moments of calm during a stressful day Why accepting a seven-out-of-ten life can lead to greater contentment How to discover what genuinely lifts you instead of relying on what should make you happy Why self-kindness is often more effective than self-criticism when trying to make lasting changes How shifting your attention can help you experience more beauty without denying life’s difficulties For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Diane Shiffer, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Embracing the Messiness of Life: Finding Joy in Everyday Moments with Ross Gay How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel This episode is sponsored by: Ka’Chava is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to KaChava.com and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. Sep 18

    Why We Fight the Changes We Know We Need | Jonah Berger

    In this episode, Jonah Berger explains why we fight the changes we know we need. Jonah explains why pushing harder, piling on more reasons, or simply telling ourselves what we “should” do can actually create more resistance. Instead, he shares how identifying and removing the barriers to change can make transformation easier and more sustainable. They explore why small steps are often more effective than dramatic ones, how to work with our natural resistance, the hidden cost of staying with what’s “good enough,” and how the people around us quietly shape our choices. ⁠Good Wolf Reminders⁠ A little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/sms.⁠ Key Takeaways: Why pushing harder can actually make change more difficult How identifying barriers can make change easier Why giving ourselves choices reduces resistance How to turn a “should” into something we actually want to do Why starting small can be more effective than making a dramatic change How noticing the gap between what we say and what we do can motivate change Why “good enough” can keep us stuck longer than something that’s clearly bad How the immediate costs of change can overshadow its long-term benefits Why other people influence our choices more than we realize How becoming aware of those influences helps us choose them more intentionally For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonah Berger, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life with Luke Burgis Effectively Thinking Ahead with Bina Venkataraman This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Sep 15

    Why Feeling Insecure Doesn’t Mean You’re Back at the Beginning | Dr. Marisa G. Franco

    In this episode, Dr. Marisa G. Franco explores why feeling insecure doesn’t mean you’re back at the beginning, and how real self-worth may come from learning to make room for every part of yourself. She and Eric discuss why old insecurities can return even after years of growth, how past experiences continue to shape our reactions in the present, and why intellectual insight isn’t always enough to change how we feel. Marisa explains what it means to become “secure-ish,” how acknowledging difficult emotions can help us regulate them, and why true security isn’t about never feeling anxious, rejected, or uncertain. It’s about trusting that we can meet those feelings when they arise. Good Wolf RemindersA little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/sms. Key Takeaways: Why feeling insecure doesn’t erase the progress you’ve already made How acknowledging difficult emotions helps us regulate them instead of being controlled by them Why old memories can shape present-day reactions, even when we know intellectually that we’re safe How memory reconsolidation may help change the emotional impact of painful experiences Why some past experiences remain in the body even when we can’t consciously remember them What it means to become “secure-ish” rather than trying to eliminate insecurity altogether How accepting the anxious, needy, or vulnerable parts of ourselves can strengthen self-worth For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Marisa G. Franco, check out these other episodes: How to Overcome Loneliness through Platonic Friendships with Marisa Franco How to Become Unlonely with Jillian Richardson How to Find Joy and Community with Radha Agrawal This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. Sep 11

    Midlife Reinvention: How to Create Your Own Script for What Comes Next | Allison Aubrey

    In this episode, Allison Aubrey explores midlife reinvention and how to create your own script for what comes next. She shares why midlife can be less about winding down and more about rediscovering parts of ourselves that may have been set aside during years of work, parenting, and responsibility. Allison and Eric discuss moving from performance to play, working with fear and self-doubt, reconnecting with intuition, and finding a renewed sense of purpose. They also explore the surprising role dreams can play in revealing what we really want and how to close the gap between knowing what’s good for us and actually doing it. ⁠⁠A Weekly Bite of Wisdom:⁠⁠ Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, Eric shares a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You’ll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist featuring a recap of the week’s episodes. It’s free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at ⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/newsletter.⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Why midlife can be a time of possibility rather than decline Moving beyond the expected “learn, earn, retire” script Returning to the interests and joy you may have left behind How fear and self-doubt can cut us off from intuition Shifting from a performance mindset to a mindset of play Why knowing your “why” helps you move through difficult transitions Using dreams as a tool for discovering what you really want Closing the gap between knowing what’s good for you and actually doing it For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Allison Aubrey, check out these other episodes: The Midlife Makeover: Redefining Success and Happiness After 40 with Chip Conley Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler Successful Aging with Alan Castel This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Monarch⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  7. Sep 8

    You Become What You Practice: How to Train Your Mind for the Life You Want | Jim Kwik

    In this episode, Jim Kwik explores how the thoughts, habits, and choices we repeat each day shape who we become. He explains why we’re always training our brains—whether we’re practicing focus or distraction, resilience or avoidance—and how small, intentional actions can strengthen self-trust and create lasting change. Jim also shares why protecting the first moments of your morning matters, how to move beyond the impossible standard of work-life balance, and practical ways to train your attention, regulate your emotions, and create more harmony in your life. Feeling overwhelmed in your life? Check out ⁠⁠Overwhelm is Optional ⁠⁠— a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. ⁠⁠Sign up here for only $29!⁠ Key Takeaways: How repeated thoughts and behaviors reshape the brain Why we become what we consistently practice How keeping promises to yourself builds confidence and self-trust Why protecting your attention first thing in the morning matters How small daily practices compound into meaningful change Why work-life harmony may be more useful than work-life balance How challenging your brain helps strengthen focus, memory, and creativity Why emotional regulation starts with choosing who you want to be How to structure your day around creating, consuming, and clearing Why progress and self-compassion matter more than perfection For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jim Kwik, check out these other episodes: The Three Levers of Change: How to Shift Your Mindset, Motivation, and Methods for Success with Jim Kwik How to Harness Brain Energy for Mental Health with Dr. Chris Palmer This episode is sponsored by: Monarch: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Quince:⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠Quince.com/feed⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ZocDoc – Taking care of your health just got easier – start here with Zocdoc Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠ ButcherBox: Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ButcherBox.com/FEED to claim your offer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. Sep 4

    How to Accept What You Can’t Change Without Giving Up | Jane Ratcliffe

    In this episode, Jane Ratcliffe explores how to accept what you can’t change without giving up. After a traumatic brain injury dramatically altered the course of her life, Jane spent years navigating debilitating symptoms while holding onto an enduring sense of hope, joy, and gratitude. She and Eric explore the complicated balance between accepting reality and continuing to fight for change, why being “okay” can sometimes keep us from asking for the help we need, and how self-forgiveness, imagination, and a deeper sense of interconnectedness can help us live with what we cannot fix. Jane’s story offers a moving reminder that acceptance doesn’t have to mean surrender—and that even in the midst of difficulty, there can still be room for beauty, connection, and hope. ⁠A Weekly Bite of Wisdom:⁠ Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, Eric shares a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You’ll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist featuring a recap of the week’s episodes. It’s free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/newsletter.⁠ Key Takeaways: How joy and gratitude can coexist with pain and fear Finding the balance between acceptance and continuing to fight for change Why resisting what’s happening can sometimes make suffering worse Making peace with the lives we might have lived and what we’ve lost How imagination can offer comfort during difficult times Recognizing the interconnectedness and support woven into everyday life How spiritual practices can prepare us for times when life becomes difficult Why always being “okay” can sometimes keep us from asking for help Using self-forgiveness to interrupt regret and self-blame For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jane Ratcliffe, check out these other episodes: Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel Finding Your Way to Healing, Hope, and Peace with Seth Gillihan This episode is sponsored by: Monarch: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠Quince:⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠ZocDoc⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠ ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠ ⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ButcherBox:⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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