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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

    #442: 100 Journaling Prompts and Questions to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Confidence

    #442: 100 Journaling Prompts and Questions to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Confidence

     

    Podcast #442

    100 Journaling Prompts and Questions to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Confidence























    The practice of journaling, when done correctly, can change your life. Most people journal haphazardly or sporadically, and therefore don't get the mental breakthroughs and life-change that is possible. If you've ever struggled with knowing what to journal, how to do it, where to start or just feel burnt out on inspiration, this podcast episode with 100 journaling prompts for your self-esteem and confidence is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/442  













     

    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on:







    How to journal and make it a disciplined part of your thought lifeThe difference between deciding and hoping, and how to use your journal to create winning thoughtsMy best journaling prompts to inspire breakthroughs for your self-esteem and confidence





     

    THANK YOU: PATRONS







    Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.







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    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    Thank you for all your advice! 5-Stars, Lizz1689







    I have been caught up in always trying to make others happy and people-pleasing. Always saying yes and having to over-explain my no's. I came across your podcasts about 2 weeks ago after searching "confidence." So far I have listened to podcasts #187, 189, 359, 261, 402,219, 421, 423, 433, 435, and 436. I am trying to learn that I do not have to have it all together and that I don't owe anyone anything. It's okay to not be liked by everyone. 









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    THE POWER OF JOURNALING







    Journaling has the power to change your thoughts, and therefore your self-esteem and your confidence. The act of journaling can change how you see yourself and how you see your life. So why doesn't everyone do it? Because sometimes staring at a blank page of paper can leave you intimidated and not knowing what to write. Enter: journaling prompts. Specifically, journaling prompts for self-esteem and self-confidence.







    When you journal, the act of taking a thought and putting it onto paper gives you the ability to really see it and examine it. This process neutralizes the thought from any extra emotions, or judgment it might be carrying and gives you the power to decide what to do with the thought. You can choose to keep the thought, to re-write, or rewire the thought to be similar, but more positive, or to push the thought away and uninvite it into your brain. 







    The act of taking pen to paper is perhaps the most life-giving foundational strategy for anyone who wants to master their mindset.







    Another way to think about the above described process of journaling is that the act of journaling is like breathing for your brain. What you put on paper is an exhale of what's cluttering your mind, and what you write down in return, your compassionate responses and your guided new thoughts, is an act of inhalation. 







    There is no need to ever feel intimidated by a blank paper, but it's natural that there will be days when you just need a little inspirational boost to get your journaling juices started.

    #440: Why Overthinking is Worse for You Than You Think and How to Change 

    #440: Why Overthinking is Worse for You Than You Think and How to Change 

     

    Podcast #440

    Why Overthinking is Worse for You Than You Think and How to Change

     





















    Overthinking is worse for you than you think it is because it creates problems that aren't even there and keeps you stuck in place when you could be moving forward. If you have ever struggled with overthinking, whether it's ruminating on your past or worrying about your future, this podcast episode is for you and will give you 8 very practical ways to change your patterns. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/440







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on…







    ·       Why overthinking happens







    ·       What overthinking is doing to you







    ·       How to stop the habit of overthinking and start trusting yourself with powerful thoughts





     

    THANK YOU: PATRONS

     





    Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.







    Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

     





    Awesomeness. 5-Stars







    Hooked off the first episode I heard on self-criticism! Felt like she knew me personally … and she's faith based!!! 









     

    WHY OVERTHINKING HAPPENS

     





    Lack of self-trust







    Lack of decisiveness







    Lack of known purpose







    Lack of prioritization







    Lack of time management







    Lack of confidence







    Lack of boundaries (too many inputs, too many decisions)









    WHY IT'S WORSE FOR YOU THAN YOU THINK

     





    It teaches you to stay stuck.







    It makes you believe you can 100% be certain.







    It makes you miss the boat.







    It keeps you in fear, not faith.







    It causes you to second-guess yourself.







    It makes you a whim to your whims.







    It reinforces your lack of self-trust.







    It creates paralysis by analysis. 







    Overthinking is best known as creating problems that are not even there.





     

    QUOTES ON OVERTHINKING:

     





    Rule number one is, don't sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it's all small stuff. -Robert Eliot·       Don't get too deep, it leads to over thinking, and over thinking leads to problems that don't even exist in the first place. -Jayson Engay·       You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. -Martin Luther King Jr.·       Worrying about how things will go doesn't help make the things go right.  Here’s an analogy I like: Overthinking is like using a chainsaw to cut out pictures for a scrapbook. Even though it’s an incredibly powerful tool, there are many times when it’s not useful and even makes things worse.https://nickwignall.com/overthinking/  What does your overthinking look like? -Ruminating on the past-Worrying about the future Reliving embarrassing moments in your head repeatedly?Imagining that someone doesn't like you or thinks less of you? Getting stuck in the "what if's" of life in your mind too much?Tossing and turning at night because you can't stop thinking? Reliving your mistakesRehashing or replaying conversationsDepressive ruminationAngry rumination 





     

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    #439: How to Believe You’re Good Enough Even When You Keep Getting Rejected

    #439: How to Believe You’re Good Enough Even When You Keep Getting Rejected

     

    Podcast #439

    How To Believe You're Good Enough Even When You Keep Getting Rejected























    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on… ·       The sinking mud pit of "not good enough" and how to get out of it·       How to reframe rejections and not personalize them but be powered by them·       My favorite affirmations to deepen your belief grooves that you are good enough 





    THANK YOU: PATRONS







    Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK







    Confident and Capable, 5-Stars by Emily C :) Rewind about 9 months when my friend first introduced me to your podcast. I was an over apologizer. I would say sorry at EVERYTHING. My friends at one point would literally pinch me when I said it unnecessarily to try to get me to stop. (I didn't even have the confidence to tell them to stop). To be fair, it would work temporarily but I always reverted back. I would listen to your podcast occasionally and I really resonated with a lot of the things you were saying. It wasn't until recently when things really started to click and I started to put more effort into myself.  I've started allowing myself to take up space and have an opinion. I'm setting boundaries and speaking up for myself, and most importantly, I'm not apologizing for it. In one of your more recent episodes you talked about going back to undo your laundry or untying your toes. I now try to take that little thought with me everywhere. I say to myself "respect yourself' and set myself up for greatness. I've always loved making other people's lives easier and now I valued myself enough to make my own life easier and greater. I feel more respected and confident and I know that I am capable of hard things. This podcast has helped me achieve those things and I hope it find its way to those who need a reminder that it's okay to take up space and be confident doing it.  You've helped me change my life. I know there's still work to do but I'm confident I can do it. Thank you. 





     

    THE SINKING PIT OF "NOT GOOD ENOUGH"







    Not being good enough is a belief that you're flawed, mistaken, behind or constantly messing up. The overwhelm of how inferior you are to what you should be doing creates deep internal stress, personal disappointment and un-specifically identified shame, embarrassment or sadness.  It starts with a thought, and the thought snowballs more and more.Typically that first thought is a comparative one.  It's worry that we aren't what people were expecting, that we aren't worthy of being remembered, that we disappointments because others can do something better or more efficiently than us.  Always feeling like you're the one who doesn't belong or who can't keep up.Always in a state of self-pity, believing the story that everyone has it easier than you and that you have to work extra hard to just be whatever baseline of "enough" that you can manage. You're not good enough.You're not pretty enough.You're not smart enough.You're not successful enough.You're not funny enough.You're not engaging enough.You're not skinny enough.You're not doing enough.  Even though it's a desire on your part to feel good enough for yourself, the problem is that our measurement of "enough" is based and biased by external feedback and affirmation that we are seeking --- feedback that is opinion based, which means fickle, fleeting and ever-changing. I realized that this voice was growing in my life the more I tried to prove myself or look ...

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    #438: The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It 

    #438: The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It 

    Podcast #438

    The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It























    The fear of disappointment can keep you playing it safe and staying small on the sidelines of life. You may think you're protecting yourself or being realistic, but really all you are doing is guaranteeing that your life as a whole will be less than you were created for, and that's disappointing. Disappointment is part of being human, and when you learn how to feel through your disappointments, they end up being tools to deepen your confidence, hone your drive and leverage what really matters the most. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/438





     

    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're diving deep into disappointment, specifically:







    The relationship of disappointment to self-criticismHow to process and feel disappointmentThe key to moving past it for good - and not being held back by the fear of it in your life





     

    THANK YOU: PATRONS







    Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.







    Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    ALWAYS something to learn from Trish! 5-Stars, by Jen Zumbiel







    I find myself in aw that Trish has 400+ episodes all on the same topic-  confidence. But every single time I am also amazed that she finds something new to speak to me about at just the right time I need to hear it. Trish is a force of good in a world that needs more people standing up in this virtue.







     

    HOW DOES DISAPPOINTMENT DESTROY OUR CONFIDENCE?







    Let's talk briefly about the relationship with disappointment, our fear of disappointment and self-criticism. 







    -Disappointment in ourselves







    -Disappointment in others







    -Disappointment in how our lives have panned out







    -Disappointment in choices







    Or even, the fear of







    -Thinking you’re a disappointment







    -Being told you are a disappointing







    -The classic, "I'm not mad at you, I'm just disappointed"







    -Telling yourself that you've disappointed God 







    Disappointment seems to sting deep in our character, burning us at the core of our identity where it hurts the most. But we are separate from our disappointments, and our disappointments can't and shouldn't hold us back from living fully.







    I paused many years of my life because of disappointment. I thought by trying to control more things, play it safe, set smaller - more controllable goals, not get my hopes up, etc that I was protecting myself from emotions I didn't think "I could handle."







    First - I didn't know that I can handle anything. Maybe you don't know that either. But it's true, you can.Second - I protected myself, that's for sure, but from a full, fulfilling and impact-making life. Third - Disappointment is part of being human; it's not something avoidable, either you let it make you miss out, or you embrace being willing to feel your feelings and move through them. 





     

    THE FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT







    Quotes on Disappointment:







    Disappointment opens our hearts to know what we really care about. Don't worry about the perceived closed door,

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    #437: Friends, How Many Should You Have

    #437: Friends, How Many Should You Have

    Podcast #437

    Friends, How Many Should You Have























    Friendships matter, but in a pandemic and post-pandemic world, we are more disconnected than ever. If you've ever wondered how many friends you should have, how to have better friendships or how to create life-long friends with confidence, then this coaching podcast is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/437In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: 







    Loneliness and how to fight against its pervasiveness in a pandemic and post-pandemic societyThe questions about friendship that you've always wanted to know the answers toHow to reframe your natural friendship nature to be positive and powerful 7 keys to creating good friendships





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 







    Thank you Trish!!! 5-Stars, by Lemons&Love







    Like so many other listeners, I think God so led me to your podcast! Like literally this podcast has been an answer to a prayer! Your episode have become a crucial part of my everyday and I relisten to some key episode for me especially when I find myself in my head and overthinking things! Thank you for doing this and being so authentic. 







     

    LONELINESS AND HOW TO DECREASE IT IN YOUR LIFE







    What feeling lonely and disconnected does to us:







    It isolates. Isolation defeats us, discourages us and makes us open for wounding. It victimizes us. Us vs. them.It convinces us that everyone has it easier. We feel misunderstood.







    Resources mentioned on loneliness:







    https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/01/23/798676465/most-americans-are-lonely-and-our-workplace-culture-may-not-be-helpinghttps://www.cdc.gov/aging/publications/features/lonely-older-adults.htmlhttps://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/the-facts-on-loneliness/





     

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    HOW MANY FRIENDS SHOULD YOU HAVE, AND OTHER COMMON QUESTIONS







    -How many do you need and how many should you have?







    -How to deal with conflict within friendships or friend groups?







    -How to feel known and understand when you feel disconnected?







    -How to be a good friend and find good friends?







    -How to have confidence in your future friendships?







    -How to heal from past hurts friendships have caused?

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    #436: How Not to Care: Detaching from People’s Opinions of You 

    #436: How Not to Care: Detaching from People’s Opinions of You 

     

    Podcast #436

    How Not To Care: Detaching From People's Opinions of You























    Learning how not to care too much about what people think is possible, when you learn how to master your mindset and train your thoughts. This podcast episode will teach you how to detach from people's opinions of you, how to be free from all of the "what if's" that keep us looped into playing small with our lives, and the side effects of being a people pleaser or simply trying to be liked by everyone. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/436





     

    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: 







    Why we care so much and what it's doing to usHow to not care: 15 things to remember5 mindset shifts to help you detach from other people's opinions 





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 







    Equipped and Prepared to Thrive, 5-Stars by MotherofGrace







    Trish's work has helped me in so many ways to clean up my stinkin' thinkin'. I am now lighter and less anxious because of the tools I have learned through her podcast and YouTube videos. 







    I am a big fan of using her methods of parenting my negative thoughts. It is so simple and massively effective. 







    Thank you, Trish, for all of the wisdom you bring! You are a blessing! 







     

    THE OVERCARING LOOP







    I am someone who cares a lot. Inherently, that's a good thing. But it can be unhealthy too.







    I had to learn how to not care, especially how to not care about what people thought of me. Detaching yourself from other people's opinions can be hard, because chances are, you're like me and have trained for brain for years, if not decades, to attach your worth, acceptance and security to these opinions.







    My swim coaches used to try to get me to stop caring so much by telling me to just not care. They also told me I tried to hard, and to just "try to stop trying so hard." Ya'll. I found myself in a loop that I couldn't get out of.  







    "Trying to stop trying."







    "Keep caring, but don't care too much."







    It felt like I was trying to solve a riddle that had no answer. But then I figured out a new way to approach it: I had to learn to stop holding on so tightly to the false sense of control I got from all the caring and all the trying. And ya'll, it works.







    You deserve the freedom that comes from the tools I share on this podcast episode. I can't wait to hear what you think!





     

    WHY WE CARE SO MUCH AND WHAT IT'S DOING TO US







    Raised conformists.The traditional path seems the safest.We're tribal and need people.We've attributed too much power to others.We haven't taken the time to be our own validation voice (#433)Conflict scares usWeird is twisted







    Maybe you don't resonate with being a people pleaser, but maybe it's simply manifested differently, through wanting to be cool - to be influential, to be well-liked, to be included, to be powerful, to be a leader, to be popular.







    It boxes us in. It labels us. It makes us beat ourselves up. It incites the voice of self-criticism. 







    I used to be the queen of beating myself up. Self-critical? Perfectionist? Yep. But I would just word it differently, like "Oh, I'm just tough on myself," and I thought it was okay, but it wasn't. 







    To be honest, it was such a daily part of my life and in how I thought about myself and the world that I didn't think there was any other way.  







    I was happy on the outside, but anxious,

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I have been caught up in always trying to make others happy and people-pleasing. Always saying yes and having to over-explain my no’s. I cam across your podcasts about 2 weeks ago after searching “confidence”. So far I have listed to podcasts #187, 189, 359, 361, 402, 418, 419, 421, 423, 433, 435, 436. I am trying to learn that I do not have to have it all together and that I don’t owe anyone anything. It’s okay to not be liked by everyone.

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