Feelings...and Other Inconveniences

Sarah Dosanjh / Stefanie Michele
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  • Self-Improvement

Feelings...and Other Inconveniences is our honest, curious, and sometimes humble look at the things we carry, why we carry them, and how we start putting some of it down. We're Sarah Dosanjh, psychotherapist, and Stefanie Michele, life coach—two women on our own growth journeys, exploring what makes us who we are. Inspired by Carl Jung's idea that "until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate," we're on a mission to turn the light on inside ourselves—and invite you to do the same. Though we're very different in most ways (and you'll probably notice), we share deeply held values and a mutual obsession with personal growth. This show is a space where we'll share our stories and reflections with honesty, humour and heart. We're not here as experts with all the answers, but as fellow travellers figuring it out as we go—curious about why we react the way we do, what's beneath the surface, and how we can live more consciously, more connected, and more on purpose.

  1. 23h ago

    22. We Want to Focus, But Our Brains Have Other Plans

    Why can't we focus anymore, even on things we genuinely want to do? We started with focus and quickly got into the messier question of what actually gets in the way of it. Because "just concentrate" is not especially helpful when your brain is juggling decisions, pressure, resistance, and a phone that can rescue you from all of it in half a second. We talk about procrastination, social media, decision fatigue, perfectionism, attention span, and why some tasks seem to require an unreasonable amount of psychological preparation before you can simply begin them. There's also quite a lot about writing books, avoiding writing books, deleting Instagram, needing accountability, and the inconvenient possibility that resistance is sometimes useful information. Basically: if you keep wondering why you can't just sit down and do the thing, we have spent an entire episode overthinking it for you. More from Stefanie Michele:   Emails  Instagram YouTube Substack  More from Sarah Dosanjh: Blog YouTube Groups

  2. Jul 25

    21. Boundaries: A Simple Concept Until You Try It

    What do we actually mean when we talk about boundaries—and why do they bring up so much guilt, confusion, and defensiveness? Stefanie and Sarah discuss the difference between people-pleasing and genuinely caring for someone, why a boundary can sometimes be a rejection, and how protecting ourselves can become rigid when we are first learning to say no. They also explore receiving other people's boundaries, knowing when to explain ourselves, overcorrecting after years of putting others first, and developing enough trust in ourselves to move between giving, declining, protecting, and participating with greater flexibility. more from Stefanie Michele:   Emails  Instagram YouTube Substack  More from Sarah Dosanjh: Blog YouTube Groups

  3. Jun 27

    20. Would You Rather Be Happy or Be Right: wanting other people to change

    In this episode, Stefanie Michele and Sarah Dosanjh talk about the exhausting and very human wish to get other people to change. What is the difference between having a boundary and secretly waiting for someone to become different? How do we know when we are naming something real versus getting pulled into a familiar fight? Through personal examples around family dynamics, guilt, defensiveness, justice, acceptance, and safety, they explore why certain patterns are so hard to stop reacting to — and what becomes possible when we stop making change the price of peace.

  4. May 30

    19. Am I Just Lazy or Is Everyone Else Lying?

    In this episode, we talk about that very normal, very annoying experience of looking at someone else and thinking, How are they doing all of that? Sarah thinks of people juggling parenting, careers, caregiving, YouTube, groups, books, and actual life admin. Stefanie thinks less about quantity and more about quality, like the people who seem to have the team, the polish, the systems, and the professional course suite. So we get into what comparison is actually poking at: capacity, overwhelm, uncertainty, caregiving, business pressure, self-judgment, and the fear that everyone else is somehow moving forward while you are still trying to answer one email from the book cover designer. Sarah talks about caring for her dad while he's very unwell, the anticipatory grief of not knowing what comes next, and the strange guilt of finding something hard when you can imagine someone else having it harder. Stefanie talks about the difference between what people see online and what they don't see: the areas where work feels alive and energizing, and the other areas of life where the wheels are maybe not exactly spinning gracefully. We also discuss why frustration can sometimes feel preferable to fear or despair, how comparison fills in the blanks of other people's lives, and why someone else's strengths are not separate from the rest of their actual life.  A conversation about capacity, comparison, caregiving, business, burnout, admin dread, hidden deficits, visible strengths, and the exhausting little fantasy that everyone else has somehow been issued more spoons and a better working relationship with productivity. STEF LINKS:   Emails  Instagram YouTube Substack  SARAH LINKS: Blog YouTube Groups

  5. May 2

    18. Who Are You Without the Struggle?

    This episode is about why familiar suffering can sometimes feel safer than relief. We talk about how long-term struggles can become tied to identity, safety, meaning, avoidance, legitimacy, and the hope that someone will finally notice how much pain you're in. Through the lens of eating disorder recovery, depression, anxiety, body image, and the fantasy of rescue, we explore why letting go of suffering can feel less like instant freedom and more like losing a familiar place to go. We also talk about the difference between pain and suffering, why the nervous system returns to old pathways, and what it can mean to build more choice when struggle has been part of your sense of self for a long time. STEF LINKS:  Emails Instagram YouTube Substack  SARAH LINKS: Blog YouTube Groups

  6. Mar 28

    17. Do You Want to Be Seen (But Also Want to Hide)?

    Why do we want to be seen… and also feel the urge to hide? In this episode of Feelings and Other Inconveniences, we unpack the psychology of being seen — from social media and identity curation to the deeper fear of judgment, rejection, and being misunderstood. We explore: the difference between being seen vs being looked at how fear of judgment and rejection shapes what we share the pressure of social media, visibility, and validation why being accurately understood matters more than just being visible how people-pleasing, comparison, and identity influence how much space we take up the vulnerability of putting yourself out there (including writing a book and public exposure) This conversation gets into the real tension between visibility and safety — and why even confident, self-aware people still wrestle with it. If you've ever overthought a post, held yourself back in a conversation, or worried about how you're being perceived, this episode is for you. Not sure what to write? You can literally just copy and paste this: BEST PODCAST EVER — A UNIQUE REVIEW We won't argue with you. More About Stefanie Michele: Instagram Substack Website Full But Not Finished on YouTube More About Sarah Dosanjh: YouTube Instagram Website Book: I Can't Stop Eating

  7. Feb 28

    16. Why Don't I Do What I Say I'll Do?!

    In this episode, Stefanie Michele and Sarah Dosanjh dig into a familiar problem: why we don't do the things we know help us. Using real-life examples (walks, movement, scheduling, tiny "extra steps" that somehow feel huge), they unpack how mental load, environment cues, and internal parts create resistance. They explore the difference between shame-driven self-talk and real self-compassion, how validating resistance can loosen it, and when "understanding why" is the turning point. Expect practical takeaways, parts-work insight, and a refreshingly human conversation about motivation, inertia, and follow-through. Leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform — it helps more than you'd think (and yes, we actually read them). Not sure what to write? You can literally just copy and paste this: BEST PODCAST EVER — A UNIQUE REVIEW We won't argue with you. More About Stefanie Michele: Instagram Substack Website Full But Not Finished on YouTube More About Sarah Dosanjh: YouTube Instagram Website Book: I Can't Stop Eating

  8. Jan 31

    15. The World Is On Fire (and your nervous system knows it)

    In this episode of Feelings… and Other Inconveniences, Stefanie Michele (certified coach + somatic practitioner) and Sarah Dosanjh (psychotherapist + author) unpack what it means to stay emotionally sane when the world feels like it's on fire.   We talk about the tightrope between staying informed and getting emotionally flooded (or going numb),   why social media comments can feel more destabilising than the headlines,   and how two people can watch the same thing and walk away with entirely different realities (hello, "the dress" — but with much higher stakes).   We also explore how values, identity, and nervous system states shape what we perceive as "truth", and why a calm response to an un-calm situation isn't always the goal.    Most importantly: we get practical.   If you've been trying to "think your way out" of stress, we'll share nervous-system-friendly ways to discharge what your body is holding.   If you're feeling overwhelmed, helpless, furious, frozen, guilty for switching off, guilty for staying tuned in… you're not alone.   Leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform — it helps more than you'd think (and yes, we actually read them). Not sure what to write? You can literally just copy and paste this: BEST PODCAST EVER — A UNIQUE REVIEW We won't argue with you. More About Stefanie Michele: Instagram Substack Website Full But Not Finished on YouTube More About Sarah Dosanjh: YouTube Instagram Website Book: I Can't Stop Eating

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Feelings...and Other Inconveniences is our honest, curious, and sometimes humble look at the things we carry, why we carry them, and how we start putting some of it down. We're Sarah Dosanjh, psychotherapist, and Stefanie Michele, life coach—two women on our own growth journeys, exploring what makes us who we are. Inspired by Carl Jung's idea that "until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate," we're on a mission to turn the light on inside ourselves—and invite you to do the same. Though we're very different in most ways (and you'll probably notice), we share deeply held values and a mutual obsession with personal growth. This show is a space where we'll share our stories and reflections with honesty, humour and heart. We're not here as experts with all the answers, but as fellow travellers figuring it out as we go—curious about why we react the way we do, what's beneath the surface, and how we can live more consciously, more connected, and more on purpose.

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