Heal The Hurt

Kenny Weiss
  • 4.7 (63)
  • SELF-IMPROVEMENT
  • UPDATED WEEKLY

Welcome to the Heal the Hurt Podcast with Kenny Weiss — ICF Certified Life Coach and creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, Authentic Self Cycle, and Emotional Authenticity Method. Everything else treats symptoms. I treat the blueprint. If you've tried therapy, CBT, DBT, IFS, EQ, books, and self-help and still feel stuck — you're not broken. You're programmed. And programs can be rewritten. Each episode decodes the childhood emotional blueprint driving your triggers, shutdowns, and relationship cycles — and gives you root-cause tools to rewire them. No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just truth.

  1. 1D AGO

    Avoidant Attachment - The Six Hidden Selves Inside the Partner Who Pulls Away

    Avoidant attachment is not coldness, it is a six-part survival system the avoidant built before they could read, and until you can name all six parts, no relationship advice will reach them. If you are the partner who keeps reaching, or the partner who keeps disappearing, this video maps the exact internal architecture of the avoidant: the six sub-personalities that take turns at the wheel, the three core fears underneath, and the pathway out that attachment-style content cannot offer. Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist. He teaches the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He names what most attachment content misses: avoidants don't avoid people, they avoid the shame they believe connection will expose. Avoidance is not one shutdown, it is six survival selves working together. The six sub-personalities Kenny maps inside every love avoidant are the Protector who runs the perimeter, the Rationalist who neutralizes emotion with logic, the Lone Wolf who built an identity around needing no one, the Wall-Builder who constructs a fortress disguised as a lifestyle, the Performer who looks confident to conceal shame, and the Ghost who disappears during conflict. Each part was a brilliant childhood adaptation. In adult intimacy, each sabotages the connection both partners actually want. Underneath those six selves sit three core fears: the fear of being consumed because a parent once swallowed you emotionally, the fear of being seen because you believe what is underneath is not enough, and the fear of being responsible because closeness once meant emotional labor you did not consent to. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is the six-step process that rewires the blueprint, ending with Feelization, where a new emotional addiction to safe closeness replaces the old wiring. Kenny Weiss has helped thousands of adults stop the pursue-withdraw dance, end emotional shutdown, and rebuild intimacy from the Authentic Self instead of the survival persona. His work is a blueprint rewrite, not symptom management. TOPICS COVERED avoidant attachment, love avoidant, why do I push people away, emotional shutdown, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, six sub-personalities, three core fears, shutdown avoidant partner, pursue withdraw cycle, avoidant in conflict, intimacy avoidance, falsely empowered codependent, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — The Suitcase You Are Not Allowed To See 1:30 — Why The Cold Story About Avoidants Is Wrong 3:00 — Meet The Protector 5:00 — Meet The Rationalist 6:30 — Meet The Lone Wolf 8:00 — Meet The Wall-Builder 9:30 — Meet The Performer 11:00 — Meet The Ghost 12:30 — The Three Core Fears 15:00 — The Worst Day Cycle Of Avoidance 17:00 — The Authentic Self Cycle Rewrite 19:00 — The Emotional Authenticity Method For Avoidants 22:00 — The Sixty-Second Experiment That Starts Staying 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz 🕺CONNECT WITH ME: Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAj Instagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kw Facebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.net Newsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter #avoidantattachment #loveavoidant #emotionalshutdown #pursueWithdraw #kennyweiss

    18 min

  2. 6D AGO

    Reactive Abuse Isn't a Defense - It's Your Survival Persona

    Reactive abuse is real, and it is also the disempowered survival persona abusing from the victim position. Both partners are using the same control mechanisms from opposite ends of the same codependence spectrum, and that is the truth nobody in narcissistic abuse recovery wants to hear. If you have spent years in narcissistic abuse recovery, watched every Dr. Ramani video, read every book on covert narcissism, and still keep finding yourself in the same dynamic with a different partner, this video is going to make sense of it differently than anyone else has explained it. You will see the part of the codependent dance that the entire recovery industry refuses to name, and you will see why naming it is the only thing that finally gets you free. This video walks through the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ as applied to the reactive-abuse dynamic, with the doctrine of the Race to the Victim Position that explains why every conflict turns into a competition for who was hurt more. You will see how the falsely empowered survival persona and the disempowered survival persona are two ends of the same codependence spectrum, why the empath manipulates from below just as effectively as the narcissist manipulates from above, and the boundary script that ends the race in real time. Reactive abuse is real. It is also the disempowered codependent's survival persona running an old childhood program. Kenny Weiss teaches that the person attracted to the narcissist manipulates and controls just as much, but from the victim position, and that the path out of trauma bonding requires both partners to see their side of the dance instead of cataloguing the other side's crimes. Without that, the same pattern recreates itself in every next relationship. The Race to the Victim Position is the relational expression of the Worst Day Cycle™. When a trigger fires, both partners regress into wounded children at the same time, and the room becomes a competition for who is the bigger victim. Nobody wins that race. The relationship loses. The exit is naming the race in real time, pausing the interaction, owning your side of the court, and running the Emotional Authenticity Method™ to trace the activation back to its childhood install point. Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist who works with high-functioning adults stuck in repeating codependent patterns. He created the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. His books include Your Journey to Success and Your Journey to Being Yourself. TOPICS COVERED: reactive abuse, codependent relationship, trauma bonding, narcissistic abuse recovery, race to the victim position, falsely empowered codependent, disempowered codependent, victim position, kenny weiss, worst day cycle, authentic self cycle, emotional authenticity method, dr ramani alternative, why your therapy did not work, codependent dance, narcissist or codependent, two wounded children manipulating, healing reactive abuse, breaking trauma bonds, empath myth, both sides manipulating, manipulation from below, codependence spectrum, accountability without blame, ending the cycle 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz #reactiveabuse #traumabonding #codependence #narcissisticabuse #kennyweiss

    26 min

  3. MAY 12

    They're Not Emotionally Unavailable - They're Emotionally Unprotected

    Emotionally unavailable is the wrong word. The man you call distant is not unavailable, he is unprotected. What you have been calling a personality flaw is a survival strategy with a specific childhood origin and a specific dissolution path nobody else is teaching you. If you have spent years asking your partner why he shuts down, why every emotional question lands on a wall, why he can be warm in public and silent the second the door closes, this video will name what is actually happening underneath. You will see the engulfment that built the wall, the bodyguard that has been on duty since he was five years old, and the reason therapy and couples counseling have not been able to touch it. You will also see why you, the pursuer, picked him in the first place, and what your own work is. This video walks through the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ as applied specifically to the love avoidant or shutdown partner, with the doctrine of Silence as the Bodyguard, the three core fears underneath the wall, and the blueprint symmetry that magnetically locks the pursuer and the avoidant together. Emotional unavailability is a survival strategy, not a personality. It forms when closeness in childhood meant being consumed by a parent's unmet emotional needs. The avoidant grew up in a home marked not by absence but by too much, too much emotional responsibility, too much enmeshment, too much pressure to manage the parent's inner world. The child made the only move available, which was to wall off, and the adult is still using a strategy a five year old built. Kenny Weiss teaches that the fix is not better communication, it is dissolution of the survival persona at the root through the Emotional Authenticity Method™. The avoidant has three core fears running underneath the wall. The fear of being consumed, the fear of being seen, and the fear of being responsible for another adult's emotional world like he was for his parent's. His greatest conscious fear is intimacy, but his greatest unconscious fear is abandonment, which is why the wall is the exact thing pushing his partner toward the door. This is the paradox the relationship advice industry has not been naming, and naming it correctly is the first step out of the dynamic. Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist who works with high-functioning adults trapped in repeating pursuer-avoidant dynamics. He created the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. His books include Your Journey to Success and Your Journey to Being Yourself. TOPICS COVERED: emotionally unavailable, emotionally unavailable partner, emotionally unavailable man, why he shuts down, love avoidant, shutdown partner, falsely empowered codependent, engulfment, enmeshment childhood, three core fears of the avoidant, kenny weiss, worst day cycle, authentic self cycle, emotional authenticity method, why your partner cant connect, dating an emotionally unavailable man, signs of emotional unavailability, healing avoidant attachment, pursuer avoidant dynamic, blueprint symmetry, codependence spectrum, why therapy didnt work, emotionally immature men, how to be emotionally available, dissolving the survival persona 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz #emotionallyunavailable #avoidantpartner #engulfment #relationshiphealing #kennyweiss

    21 min

  4. MAY 7

    Your 'Narcissistic Mother' Probably Isn't a Narcissist

    Your "narcissistic mother" is almost never a narcissist. She is something the rest of YouTube has no language for, and naming it correctly is the only thing that gives you a real shot at getting free. If you have spent years collecting evidence, watching every Dr. Ramani video, and still feel stuck despite finally having a label that explains her behavior, this video is going to land different. You will see why every narcissistic abuse framework identifies the behavior on the surface and never identifies the architecture underneath, and why that gap has kept you in a kind of healing that has no door at the other end. This video walks you through the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ as applied to the mother-adult-child dynamic, with the Desert vs Denver diagnostic that lets you finally tell the difference between true narcissism and what Kenny Weiss calls the falsely empowered codependent. You will see how enmeshment overwrote your operating system, why setting a boundary with her feels like committing a crime, what the Loyalty Bind is, and the six-step somatic and emotional process that interrupts the collapse in real time. The "narcissistic mother" is almost never a narcissist. She is a falsely empowered codependent, a wounded child in a suit of armor she has been welding on since she was five years old, and the distinction matters because one of these can heal and the other almost never can. The narcissist is the desert, the same weather every day, no buried wound to reach. The falsely empowered codependent is Denver, the weather changes, and the warm days, the real remorse, the genuine apologies are evidence of an Authentic Self that the narcissist does not have. Enmeshment is not closeness. Enmeshment is identity colonization. The mother who used you for emotional intimacy, image management, and ego fulfillment did not just cross your boundaries, she overwrote your entire internal operating system. The Loyalty Bind, the contract your nervous system signed at age five that says if I choose myself I betray her, if I betray her I lose love, if I lose love I die, is why setting a limit with her feels like committing a crime in your body. That contract expired the day you became a functioning adult, but nobody told your nervous system. The withdrawal is real, and it passes. TOPICS COVERED: narcissistic mother, falsely empowered codependent, dr ramani alternative, enmeshment, identity colonization, loyalty bind, codependence spectrum, mother daughter relationship, mother son relationship, kenny weiss, worst day cycle, authentic self cycle, emotional authenticity method, desert vs denver, narcissist or codependent, signs of enmeshment, parentified child, adult child of narcissist 00:00 — Why Your Mother Is Probably Not a Narcissist 01:30 — Kenny's Safeway Memory at Age Six 03:30 — The Real Cultural Epidemic Nobody Names 06:00 — Desert vs Denver, The Diagnostic Nobody Else Uses 09:00 — The Over-Armored Knight Underneath the Mother Mask 11:30 — The Worst Day Cycle™ Running Inside Her 14:00 — Enmeshment as Identity Colonization 16:00 — The Loyalty Bind and Why Boundaries Feel Like a Crime 18:00 — Why the Distinction Decides Whether Healing Is Possible 20:00 — The Authentic Self Cycle™ Applied to Your Mother 21:30 — The Six-Step Emotional Authenticity Method™ in Real Time 23:30 — Three Voices, One Microphone, One Boundary Script 24:30 — Why Dr. Ramani Style Frameworks Cannot Touch This 25:30 — Identity Close 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz #narcissisticmother #enmeshment #codependence #motherwound #kennyweiss

    20 min

  5. MAY 5

    Why You Sabotage Yourself - The Childhood Origin Nobody Names

    Self-sabotage is not a willpower problem. It is the most loyal thing you have ever done, and it was installed in childhood. This video names the actual mechanism every other framework misses. If you have read every limiting belief book, tried every inner critic worksheet, and still keep destroying the relationship, the career, the body, or the bank account the second things start working, this video is going to make sense of it differently than anyone else has explained it. You will see the exact chain that turns a moment of success into the urge to burn it down, and you will see why willpower has never been able to touch this thing. You will get the full mechanism behind the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. You will see the three internal voices that fight for the microphone every time you get triggered. You will hear why nobody on the planet is actually afraid of failure, and why what you call self-sabotage is really the survival persona panicking at the edge of success. And you will get the six-step somatic and emotional process that interrupts the loop in real time and rewires the blueprint underneath it. Self-sabotage is the collision between the Authentic Self and the shame-based survival persona. The survival persona was built in childhood to maintain attachment with caregivers who could not see who you actually were. When the adult begins to succeed, the survival persona reads success as separation from the family system and pulls the person back into the Worst Day Cycle™ to preserve the only identity that ever felt safe. The reason most people stay stuck is not lack of insight. It is that the brain and body cannot tell the difference between fear and excitement. The chemical signature is identical. When success approaches, the nervous system reads the surge of excitement as danger and pulls the emergency brake. Bessel van der Kolk and the broader repetition compulsion research have pointed at this for decades, but the culture turned it into a slogan instead of a doorway. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is a six-step process that interrupts the sabotage impulse and rewires the emotional blueprint at the source. Step one is somatic down regulation through hearing. Step two is emotional granularity. Step three is somatic location. Step four is the earliest memory. Step five is the identity question of who you would be without this feeling. Step six is Feelization, the practice of building a new emotional chemical addiction to replace the old one. 00:00 — Why Every Self-Help Book Lied About Self-Sabotage 01:15 — The Moment You Watch Yourself Do It 03:00 — Kenny's Marathon, Hockey, and the Island 05:30 — The Childhood Power Reclamation You Never Saw 08:00 — The Worst Day Cycle™ Inside the Sabotage Loop 10:30 — Why Nobody Is Actually Afraid to Fail 13:00 — The Collision Between Authentic Self and Survival Persona 15:30 — The Three Voices Fighting for the Microphone 17:30 — The Six-Step Emotional Authenticity Method™ in Real Time 20:30 — The File Cabinet Reach 22:00 — Why Limiting Belief Frameworks Cannot Touch This 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz 🕺CONNECT WITH ME: Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAj Instagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kw Facebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.net Newsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter #selfsabotage #childhoodtrauma #emotionalhealing #authenticself #kennyweiss

    22 min

  6. APR 30

    How to Set Boundaries — The Tennis Court Method

    How to set boundaries when you've spent your whole life saying yes and feeling resentful. This is the Tennis Court Method, the exact system, scripts, and inner work that finally make boundaries hold without guilt, collapse, or counterattack. If you've read every boundary book and still freeze the second someone asks you for something you don't have to give, this video is for you. Kenny Weiss walks you through why boundaries actually fail for high-functioning people pleasers, why "just say no" advice never sticks, and what it actually takes to rewrite the childhood blueprint underneath the resentment, the over-giving, and the constant fear of being seen as mean. You'll get the Tennis Court framework for understanding where you end and another person begins, the Wall of Pleasantness response for when someone takes your inventory or hands you unsolicited advice, and the exact word-for-word boundary script you can practice this week. This video covers the Worst Day Cycle™ (Trauma, Fear, Shame, Denial), the Authentic Self Cycle™ (Truth, Responsibility, Healing, Forgiveness), and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ — Kenny's six-step process for downregulating your nervous system, identifying the feeling, locating it in your body, finding the earliest memory, asking who you'd be without the thought, and using Feelization to rewire the emotional blueprint. You'll also learn the difference between the three internal voices running your reactions, why the survival persona collapses or counterattacks instead of holding the fence, and why traditional therapy, communication tools, and assertiveness training never reach the layer where the people-pleasing was installed. Kenny Weiss teaches that a boundary is not a wall around someone else, it is a fence around your own yard. The fence does not control your neighbor. It simply defines where you end and they begin, and it lets you choose what gets into your space. The Tennis Court is the structure that makes connection possible, because without a net there is no game and no relationship, only enmeshment. The Wall of Pleasantness is Kenny Weiss's adult response to criticism, accusation, or inventory-taking. Instead of collapsing into shame and agreeing or counterattacking and defending, you listen without reacting, take time to process, ask whether anything said is actually true, and respond with a grounded fence-setting sentence such as, "In the future, would you be willing to ask me before you give me unsolicited advice." The reason most boundary advice fails is that it teaches scripts to the adult who is not in the room. The wounded child driving the bus does not care about communication tools. Kenny Weiss's work targets the emotional blueprint underneath the behavior, rewriting the childhood equation that no equals abandonment and yes equals safety, which is why the Tennis Court Method holds when "just say no" collapses. TOPICS COVERED: how to set boundaries, boundaries in relationships, setting boundaries with parents, people pleasing recovery, codependency recovery, how to say no without guilt, boundary scripts, tennis court method, 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz 🕺CONNECT WITH ME: Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAj Instagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kw Facebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.net Newsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter #HowToSetBoundaries #PeoplePleasing #CodependencyRecovery #KennyWeiss #EmotionalAuthenticity

    15 min

  7. APR 28

    People Pleasing Isn't Kindness — It's a Covert God Complex

    People pleasing is not kindness. It is a covert God complex installed in childhood that keeps you stuck in resentment, exhaustion, and self-betrayal. In this video, Kenny Weiss exposes the engine underneath chronic people pleasing and walks you through his Five-Step No Process for finally setting boundaries without shame, collapse, or self-abandonment.You will learn why every boundary book on your shelf has failed you, why saying yes when you mean no is one of the most manipulative things a human being can do, and why your inability to say no is not a communication problem but a shame wound burned into your nervous system before you had words for it. Kenny names the survival persona behind chronic people pleasing, the disempowered codependent and the adapted wounded child, and shows how the Worst Day Cycle™ keeps you trapped in patterns that look like generosity on the outside and feel like resentment on the inside.People pleasing is a survival strategy formed in childhood when a child was forced to manage the emotions of unwell adults. Kenny Weiss calls this a covert God complex because the parentified child develops a quiet, devastating belief that they are responsible for how everyone around them feels and that they are also the only one who can fix it. The Worst Day Cycle™, Trauma to Fear to Shame to Denial, is the unconscious blueprint that keeps people pleasing running on autopilot for decades.The Five-Step No Process is the corrective protocol Kenny Weiss teaches inside the Authentic Self Cycle™. Step one is emotional authenticity. Step two is naming the value you are protecting. Step three is separating your responsibility from theirs. Step four is the two magic phrases, which are, let me think about it and I'll get back to you, and, I've thought about it and it just doesn't work for me. Step five is holding the boundary without collapse. The process addresses the inner child first and the language last, which is why it works when generic boundary scripts have failed.The two magic phrases inside the Five-Step No Process protect the nervous system, prevent over-explanation, and stop manipulation. The first phrase buys time so the slow processor inside you can run three diagnostic questions, will I keep score, will I throw it in their face later, will I resent them for it. The second phrase ends the negotiation by keeping the boundary entirely about you, which removes anything for the other person to argue with.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He works with high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adults who have tried therapy, books, coaching, and mindset work and still feel stuck in repeating codependent patterns. His Five-Step No Process for boundaries is taught inside his individual and couples programs.TOPICS COVERED: people pleasing, how to say no, covert God complex, codependence, disempowered codependent, adapted wounded child, survival persona, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny Weiss, parentification, shame, childhood trauma, emotional blueprint, boundary scripts, two magic phrases, Five-Step No Process, saying no without guilt, people pleaser recovery, codependency recovery, emotional adulthood, self-abandonmentLINKS:Website: https://kennyweiss.netBook — Your Journey to Success: https://kennyweiss.net/bookEmotional Blueprint Starter Course (Individual): https://kennyweiss.net/coursesRelationship Starter Course (Couples): https://kennyweiss.net/couples1:1 Coaching with Kenny: https://kennyweiss.net/coaching#PeoplePleasing #Codependency #BoundariesWithoutGuilt #KennyWeiss #ChildhoodTrauma

    20 min

  8. APR 23

    Setting Boundaries With Parents - Why It Feels Like Betrayal

    Setting boundaries with parents feels like betrayal because you are breaking the childhood attachment contract your nervous system signed before you had words. This video walks you through why no other boundary triggers shame this hard, and the exact scripts that hold even when your parent escalates. If you have read every codependency book and still freeze the second your mother calls or your father gives you that look across the dinner table, this video is for you. Kenny Weiss walks you through why setting boundaries with parents is the hardest boundary work most adults will ever do, why traditional advice like "just communicate clearly" never holds when the person you are confronting is the one who built your nervous system, and what it actually takes to rewrite the childhood contract that says love is conditional on staying small. You will get the Tennis Court framework for understanding enmeshment, the boundary script for refusing to absorb parental shame language, and a clear way to recognize the three internal voices that hijack you the moment a parent reaches for the old role. This video covers the Worst Day Cycle™ (Trauma, Fear, Shame, Denial), the Authentic Self Cycle™ (Truth, Responsibility, Healing, Forgiveness), and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ — Kenny's six-step process for downregulating your nervous system, identifying the feeling, locating it in your body, finding the earliest memory, asking who you would be without the thought, and using Feelization to rewire the emotional blueprint. You will also learn the difference between the three internal voices running your reactions, why the survival persona collapses or flares the moment you walk into your parents' house, and why traditional therapy and assertiveness training never reach the layer where this contract was installed. Setting boundaries with parents feels like betrayal because the survival nervous system genuinely registers it as a life threat. As a child, your parents were the entire weather system of your life, so when you tell your mother you cannot talk every day, your body responds the same way it would respond to walking into traffic. This is not a weakness. It is the original equation of the Worst Day Cycle, where your needs once cost the people who were supposed to love you something they could not give. 🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net 🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350 📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN 📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ 📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr 🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net 🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/courses FREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessment FREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz 🕺CONNECT WITH ME: Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAj Instagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kw Facebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.net Newsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter #SettingBoundariesWithParents #EnmeshmentRecovery #FamilyOfOriginHealing #KennyWeiss #EmotionalAuthenticity

    17 min
See All (520)

Trailer

4.7
out of 5
63 Ratings

About

Welcome to the Heal the Hurt Podcast with Kenny Weiss — ICF Certified Life Coach and creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, Authentic Self Cycle, and Emotional Authenticity Method. Everything else treats symptoms. I treat the blueprint. If you've tried therapy, CBT, DBT, IFS, EQ, books, and self-help and still feel stuck — you're not broken. You're programmed. And programs can be rewritten. Each episode decodes the childhood emotional blueprint driving your triggers, shutdowns, and relationship cycles — and gives you root-cause tools to rewire them. No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just truth.

Information

  • Creator
    Kenny Weiss
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    520
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Kenny Weiss
  • Show Website
    Heal The Hurt

You Might Also Like