In this episode of Disrupting Divorce, Rhonda sits down with Brett Ward, a nationally recognized family law attorney and litigation leader at Blank Rome, to unpack a topic that many people have never heard of: alienation of affection. But this conversation goes far beyond one legal concept. Together, Rhonda and Brett explore when mediation works, when it does not, and why so many people find themselves stuck in divorce processes that are not actually serving them. They talk candidly about power imbalances, lack of financial transparency, the importance of legal strategy, and what clients should be looking for in the professionals guiding them through divorce. They also dive into how social media is shaping modern family law cases and why public humiliation can intensify already painful situations. This is a grounded, insightful conversation for anyone navigating divorce and trying to understand their options more clearly. In This Episode, We Cover: What "alienation of affection" means and why it still exists in a small number of states The difference between mediation and litigation — and when mediation may not be the right fit Why power imbalances matter in divorce negotiations The warning signs that mediation may actually be putting someone at a disadvantage The role of trust, communication, and financial transparency in choosing the right divorce path How social media can impact family law cases Why clients need to be active participants in their divorce process The importance of building the right support team, including legal, financial, and emotional support Key Takeaways: One of the strongest themes in this conversation is that not every divorce belongs in mediation. While alternative dispute resolution can be valuable, Rhonda and Brett both emphasize that it can become harmful when there is: a history of control or intimidation poor communication lack of transparency hidden assets fear-based decision-making unresolved abuse dynamics Brett shares that mediation requires a certain level of trust and balance. Without that, the process can simply repeat the same unhealthy power dynamic from the marriage. Another powerful takeaway is the reminder that divorce should not just happen to you — it should happen with you. Clients deserve strategy. They deserve advocacy. And they deserve professionals who will communicate clearly and involve them in the process. 👤 Meet Our Guest: Brett Ward, Partner in Blank Rome's Matrimonial & Family Law Group & Co-Chair of the Firm's Litigation Department, concentrates his practice in all areas of matrimonial and family law, including divorce, paternity, custody and child protective matters. Brett has extensive experience in negotiating prenuptial, separation and settlement agreements, and with international custody and child support matters. He has significant litigation and trial experience in New York's Family and Supreme Courts, and has also successfully appeared before the appellate courts. Brett has served as a mediator and as an expert witness on New York family law issues. Website: https://www.blankrome.com/people/brett-s-ward LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brett-ward-ab6b154 🎙️ Your Host: Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, CDS®, and CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forward with confidence. For Rhonda and her company, the Women's Financial Wellness Center, helping women isn't just about running the numbers. It's about asking the right questions, demystifying myths and biases around finances, and helping women walk in their power. Rhonda is passionate about helping her clients navigate a broken system and level the playing field so they can achieve success—pre, during, and post-divorce. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access We love putting out great content for you! Do us a favor? Be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Download and share with a friend who might need to hear these conversations. Leave a positive podcast review - ratings and reviews help others find the show!
