The High Achieving Woman with Ashleigh Mayfield

Ashleigh Mayfield
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Join Ashleigh Mayfield as she pushes high-achieving women to become the confident leader their success requires.

  1. 1d ago

    Emotional Intelligence, Part 1: Self-Awareness

    Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, and to understand and influence the emotions of other people. It breaks into four parts: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and social management. This episode is part one of four, and it covers self-awareness. Ashleigh Mayfield defines self-awareness as the ability to see yourself accurately even when it isn't flattering, and makes the case that most people's biggest obstacle is not their circumstances, their past, or their boss — it's themselves. She tells the story of shutting down her husband Jason's ideas for years without listening, the day he told her she was a dream killer, and what she had to admit afterward: that she was projecting her own insecurities and calling it encouragement. She then covers three practical ways to build self-awareness: asking "why did that bother me?" instead of reacting, asking other people for honest feedback and not defending yourself when you get it, and journaling to find the pattern underneath a repeated emotional reaction. Also in this episode: why a low-EQ woman believes things happen to her while a high-EQ woman knows she controls her response, why people trust predictable leaders, what happened when Ashleigh sent 13 leaders a non-anonymous form asking them to critique her leadership, and why "I'm just being honest" is often just rude. CHAPTERS 0:00 Hey, hey, everybody 0:30 Win a free one-on-one coaching call 1:16 Why a four-part series on emotional intelligence 2:05 The hard truth: I was my own biggest problem 3:40 What emotional intelligence actually means 4:10 The four parts of emotional intelligence 4:46 Low EQ vs. high EQ: who's really in control 5:18 Four questions to gauge where you are 6:00 What a lack of emotional intelligence costs you 7:12 Why people trust a predictable leader 7:54 So what is self-awareness? 8:46 My husband Jason and the dreams I shut down 9:29 "You're a dream killer" 10:39 Your biggest problem is also your biggest solution 11:38 Do other people's opinions pay your bills? 13:04 You cannot lead what you cannot see 15:09 Extreme ownership changed everything 15:48 Habit 1: "Why did that bother me?" 16:44 Habit 2: Ask for honest feedback 17:28 What 13 leaders told me about my leadership 18:40 Habit 3: Journal to find the pattern 20:02 Self-awareness is a muscle Mentioned in this episode: Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink. Leave a five-star review, screenshot it, and tag @theashleighmayfield to be entered to win a 30-45 minute one-on-one coaching call. Drawing at the end of the month.

  2. Aug 18

    How to Be Confident Before You Feel Confident | #AskAshleigh

    How do you build confidence while you're still not confident? Listener Jessica asked, and Ashleigh Mayfield answers in this #AskAshleigh episode. Confidence isn't gifted — it's earned, one kept promise at a time. Ashleigh walks through seven practical shifts: borrow belief until you build your own, keep the promises you make to yourself, start before you're ready, act like your future self, collect evidence instead of emotions, get comfortable being uncomfortable, and stop comparing your beginning to someone else's middle. You don't become confident and then take action — you take action until confidence catches up. Chapters: 0:00 — Intro: the #AskAshleigh question 0:57 — No one feels confident before they start 2:20 — Borrow belief until you build your own 4:16 — Keep the promises you make to yourself 6:13 — Start before you're ready 6:52 — Act like your future self 9:13 — Collect evidence, not emotions 12:44 — Get comfortable being uncomfortable 15:03 — Stop comparing your beginning to their middle 17:40 — Confidence is earned, not gifted Have a question for a future #AskAshleigh? DM Ashleigh on Instagram or Facebook.

  3. Aug 10

    You're Not Where You Want to Be - and How to Fix It

    When you're a high achiever and you're still not where you want to be, the answer isn't to beat yourself up — it's to get honest and take action. In this episode, Ashleigh Mayfield breaks down what to do when you've fallen short of your goals. She covers why frustration is normal but staying stuck isn't, the three levels of getting honest about your activity (showing up, tracking/measuring, and staying consistent), why your action creates motivation instead of the other way around, how discipline beats feelings, why comparison and "looking left and right" drains the energy you need, and how to become the person your results require. Practical, direct personal development for women who want to stop repeating what isn't working and get back on track. Chapters: 0:00 Why you're not where you want to be (and why it's normal) 0:21 Don't self-deprecate — do personal development first 1:45 Frustration is normal, but staying stuck isn't 2:51 The definition of insanity: stop repeating what fails 3:38 Tip 1: Take accountability — get honest about your activity 5:49 Give whole, not half 7:27 Tip 2: Stop waiting until you feel motivated 9:02 It's about discipline, not motivation 11:41 Stop comparing: quit looking left and right 13:42 Celebrate progress, not perfection 15:14 Tip 3: Become the person your result requires 17:48 The goal isn't overnight success

  4. Aug 3

    Winning at Work, Losing at Home: How High-Achieving Women Can Stop Sacrificing Family for the Hustle

    Ashleigh Mayfield opens up about the cost of being addicted to the grind — and the season when her ambition quietly pushed her husband and daughters to the back burner. This is an honest conversation about why "work-life balance" is the wrong target, and what to aim for instead. You'll hear the moment that woke her up (her husband holding a full conversation while she never looked up from her phone), why impacting millions of women means nothing if she isn't present for the two daughters at home, and the three habits that turned it around: scheduling your family as a non-negotiable, being present where your feet are, and bringing your family on the journey with you. If you're a driven woman who loves the chase but doesn't want to become a stranger to the people you're working for, this episode gives you both the honesty and the practical steps. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 00:30 Addicted to the hustle and grind 01:37 Why work-life balance is an illusion 02:39 How compromising family starts small 03:54 The phone problem: never looking up 05:05 When work takes priority over family 08:25 What's the point of the kingdom without your king? 10:35 Rebuilding trust with her daughters 11:56 Why kids need you most in middle school 13:29 Habit 1: Schedule your family 16:40 Habit 2: Be present where your feet are 18:30 Presence beats presents 20:43 Habit 3: Bring your family on the journey 24:00 Letting your kids see you work 26:29 One day your calendar will be empty

  5. Jul 27

    God Is Faithful in Every Season

    "Elijah knew the brook was just a resource and that God was his source." In 1 Kings 17, Elijah walks in on the most evil king Israel has known, announces a drought, and is immediately sent into hiding at the Kerith Ravine. Ravens bring him bread and meat morning and evening. He drinks from the brook. And then the text says something that goes by so fast you'll miss it — sometime later, the brook dried up. Then the word of the Lord came to him. Not before. After. Ashleigh Mayfield teaches this passage in three movements. God is faithful to provide — the ravens and the brook were in place before Elijah ever felt the need, the same way the ram was already caught in the thicket before Abraham climbed the mountain. God is faithful to develop you — Kerith in Hebrew means to cut off, and God hid Elijah at the exact moment he looked most ready to be used, because what happened at the brook was the catalyst for every miracle that came after it. And God is faithful to direct you — but sometimes the direction only comes after the provision is completely gone. She tells it through her own story. In 2014 she and her husband were asked to leave a church over a pastor's affair that wasn't theirs, with two kids under five and no income. She drove 45 minutes to interview for a nine-dollar-an-hour job she didn't want to take, and left with a forty-thousand-dollar salary she hadn't applied for. Nine and a half years later, running a business that had made her the fifteenth-highest income earner in her company, she watched her commissions fall month after month while every door she knocked on stayed shut and God stayed silent. Three weeks of crying. Not released. Staying anyway. If you're in a season where the thing that sustained you is visibly running out and heaven hasn't spoken yet, this one is for you. At some point our faith has to be greater than our feelings — and we have to stop evaluating God's faithfulness by our circumstances and start evaluating our circumstances by God's faithfulness. Scripture — 1 Kings 17.1-7, 1 Samuel 17.37, Genesis 22.13, James 5.17-18, Ephesians 6.12-17, 1 Kings 18.20-40 00:00 Welcome — Turn to 1 Kings 17 00:50 David, Goliath, and the List in My Notes App 03:07 The Big Idea — God Is Faithful in Every Season 04:04 Scripture Reading and Prayer — 1 Kings 17.1-7 05:20 King Ahab, Jezebel, and the God of the Rain 06:41 Point 1 — God Is Faithful to Provide 07:28 2014 — When the Rug Got Pulled Out 09:35 The Nine-Dollar Interview That Wasn't 12:28 Abraham and the Ram — Genesis 22 13:12 Fear, the What-Ifs, and Doing God's Job for Him 14:10 Point 2 — God Is Faithful to Develop You 14:47 Three and a Half Years of Drought — James 5 15:55 Why God Hid Him Instead of Using Him 17:24 The Secret Place — Worship, the Word, and Prayer 19:24 Can You Pray for Seven Minutes? 20:26 Deep Roots, the Oak Tree, and What Kerith Means 21:16 The Armor of God — Ephesians 6 22:28 The Miracles That Came After the Brook 23:39 Your Pastor Isn't Your Main Source of Development 24:41 Point 3 — God Is Faithful to Direct You 25:37 When My Own Brook Started Drying Up 27:36 April and May — Watching the Numbers Fall 29:44 Three Weeks of Crying and Waiting 30:43 The Lord Released Me — Resigning 31:25 Are You Sitting Down? — The Call 32:36 Where the Power of God Actually Was 33:31 The Last Scoops — He Never Complained 34:44 Faith Greater Than Feelings 35:36 Provide, Develop, Direct — The Three Points 35:58 Closing Prayer

  6. Jul 23

    I Was Forced to Quit My Podcast: When Your Career Fights Your Calling

    Four years ago I was forced to quit this podcast. Not because I ran out of things to say — because the company I was earning multiple five figures a month with gave me an ultimatum: my career, or my calling. This is the full story. I launched the High Achievers Bootcamp in 2021, had 400 people show up to a free workshop, capped the program at 10 women, and watched a client close $15,000 in contracts within 24 hours of a one-on-one session. It was working. Then corporate came after me — private DMs, text messages, group chats with my husband in them, and meetings where my own content was subject to their approval. I chose the income. I stayed. It took four more years to walk away. I break down the three kinds of careers — the one that supports your calling, the one that funds it, and the one that fights it — and how to tell which one you're in. We talk about the difference between being frustrated at work and being genuinely trapped, why comfort and security carry a price tag most of us never calculate, and how to build your personal leadership before you make the leap. If there's something you've been told to keep quiet about — a business, a book, a brand, a promotion, a dream — this episode is for you. You do not need permission to live a big life. I don't regret quitting. I regret allowing someone else to decide how I use my voice. CHAPTERS 00:00 Back After Four Years 00:22 Why I Was Forced to Quit 00:49 The Three Kinds of Careers 01:48 Taking You Back to 2021 03:12 How This Podcast Started 04:26 Launching the High Achievers Bootcamp 05:57 Success, Then the Backlash 07:08 The Client Who Closed $15K 08:08 When the Company Came After Me 09:06 The Ultimatum 11:03 "We Built Your Platform" 11:53 Four Years to Walk Away 12:38 What Staying Is Costing You 15:31 Frustrated vs Actually Trapped 18:35 You Do Not Need Permission 20:26 Taking My Voice Back Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AshleighMayfield Follow along: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theashleighmayfield/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theashleighmayfield

  7. Feb 4

    Stop Saying You Want It - The Boom Zoom Replay

    Stop chasing ceilings. In this raw, no-fluff episode, Ashleigh Mayfield delivers the honest conversation she wishes someone had given her nine and a half years ago. After building to the top of her previous company and walking away to start from zero, she's learned exactly what separates those who hit their goals from those who keep saying "next month." She breaks down the three things holding you back: a low standard for how you operate, the voice in your head running the show, and selective urgency that only kicks in when pressure hits. You'll learn why raising your foundation matters more than shattering ceilings, how to show up as the finish line version of yourself before you've crossed it, and a simple strategy for eating the elephant one bite at a time. If you've been telling yourself you're "all in" but your habits tell a different story — brace for impact.

  8. 12/29/2025

    7 Life Areas to Dominate in 2026 | Your Complete Goal-Setting Blueprint

    Are you tired of setting the same goals year after year with nothing to show for it? If December 2025 looks exactly like December 2024, it's time for a new approach. In this episode, Ashleigh Mayfield breaks down the 7 essential life categories you need to address if you want 2026 to be your breakthrough year. Drawing from nearly a decade of coaching women and her own journey to paying off $63,801.99 in just six months, Ashleigh delivers a no-fluff framework for creating lasting change. What you'll learn: Why most people fail at their goals (and it's not what you think)The 7 pillars every vision board needs to includeHow to identify what fills your cup vs. what drains youThe mindset shift that separates those who quit from those who succeedWhy "every time I choose to stop, I disqualify myself" changed everythingPractical strategies for accountability, financial freedom, and building real communityWhether you're building a business, strengthening your marriage, getting your health back on track, or deepening your faith—this episode gives you the roadmap to stop planning to fail and start executing with intention. Key Topics: Goal setting, vision boards, New Year planning, personal development, financial freedom, debt payoff, mental discipline, Christian living, work-life balance, accountability, building community

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