Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.

  1. 7h ago

    10 Reminders for When Adulting Gets Ghetto | TBT

    Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why in this week's throwback, Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess.Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong. Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good. So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you! 10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing 2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now 3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported 4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life 5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you 6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now 7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess 8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done 9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing 10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yetQuote of the Day:"Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard." – Unknown  Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  2. 6d ago

    Awkward vs. Misunderstood – Why First Impressions Aren’t Always Right

    Hey lady! Have you ever been accused of being stuck-up, shy, rude, or flat-out a b*tch and you were simply existing? Other people’s projections land on you and suddenly you have a reputation for being anti-social or awkward while anxiety is beating your butt and you’re doing your best not to show it. Or, maybe you’re the one pre-emptively judging someone for their demeanor, creating stories about why they are behaving they way they are without pausing and finding a neutral space from which to observe the interaction. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri show some love to the socially selective, the socially anxious, and the downright awkward among us so that we can understand these relational dynamics and hopefully offer more compassion to ourselves and others. Why? Because we’re all doing life for the first time and we do not all have the answers but we can make the effort to help each other along the way. Have you noticed that certain situations trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses from you? Dr. Dom offers an actionable toolkit to help you navigate those scenarios so you can enter spaces skillfully. And, Terri offers perspective about how you can give yourself grace because it is quite possible that you are reading the room accurately and acting perfectly appropriately even if other people misunderstand your behavior. Terri and Dr. Dom share their real-world experiences and how they’ve been able to adapt to situations while also identifying when they’ve personalized a situation without enough data or proper context. Lady, doing that can cause unforced errors in an otherwise fruitful potential relationship, so do yourself a favor, head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, grab your journal and spend some time with the reflection questions offered in this episode. Lady, life is all about relationships so let’s expand our capacity to be in sisterhood by increasing our confidence and our understanding of our differences. We’re shaping this world into a beautiful one full of genuine authenticity!   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Awkward vs. Misunderstood – Why First Impressions Aren’t Always Right

  3. Sep 24

    Featuring: Jenkins & Jonez Podcast | John Saw Nia Long

    www.patreon.com/jenkinsandjonez to unlock more episodes We talked about John seeing Nia Long, the results of the Elite 8 of our 1996 bracket, our Dookie Butts of the Week, and more. YouTube link: https://youtube.com/live/2xhdvu2fBoY?feature=share Find The Show: Jenkins & Jonez Podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Featuring: Jenkins & Jonez Podcast | John Saw Nia Long

  4. Sep 24

    Showing Up Before You're Ready | TBT

    Hey lady! Is there something on your heart, an idea you really want to get off of the ground, and you’re just waiting for the right time? Are you aware that there is no time like the present? Sure, maybe you’ve heard that old adage plenty of times, but it’s true. The only way to get better or even gauge where you are in the process is to start. In this week's throwback episode, Dr. Dom and Terri have a frank conversation about how they use fear to fuel their internal fire. This internal fire keeps them going to accomplish their personal and professional goals and it's one that you can cultivate for yourself. They offer game on some of the tricky instances that can trip us up along the way. And, in the Aftershow they offer tips on how to conquer them. This is a juicy, meaty episode with some useful additions to your toolkit. We’re here for our community so tap in and connect with us on Instagram and Patreon! Quote of the Day:“The Sun will rise and set regardless. What we choose to do with the light while it's here is up to us. Journey wisely.”― Alex ElleRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop! Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCRide-Sharing Safety GuideTherapy for Black Men Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  5. Sep 21

    Featuring: Jenkins & Jones Podcast | 1996 Bracket Winner + Fake 49ers Player

    www.patreon.com/jenkinsandjonez to unlock more episodes We talked about the 1996 Bracket ending, the fake 49ers player, and our Dookie Butts of the Week. YouTube link: https://youtube.com/live/Y0_NaK71Ync?feature=share Find the Show: Jenkins & Jonez See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Featuring: Jenkins & Jones Podcast | 1996 Bracket Winner + Fake 49ers Player

  6. Sep 18

    Do Healthy Relationships Have to Look Traditional?

    Lady! Are you in the mood for love but feeling allergic to shared finances, living together, and faking the funk of marital bliss? Don’t worry lady, this isn’t an episode for the lovestung cynics, it’s an ode to the changing nature of romantic relationships. Whether you eschew marriage altogether or you welcome long-term partnership but on your terms, we are thankfully in a time when new relationship templates are being welcomed and embraced by those who desire relationships. Previous generations often married for survival or necessity but this generation gets to partner based on shared values and goals. So, do you know what you want or need to be in a healthy relationship? Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their business as they illustrate how they defined what healthy relationships mean to them. Don’t feel left out! They’ve created the H.E.R. Relationship test, an assessment that will help you check the health of your current relationship or help you establish a framework of how you want to show up in your future relationship. They also reinforce that you don’t need to be with anyone to feel complete and if you do, you might want to talk to the lady about it. Book a consultation with Dr. Dom to discuss any issues of self-worth, attachment trauma, or self-esteem issues. Lady, the H.E.R. Relationship Test isn’t the only goodie in this episode but you’ll have to tune in to find out the other actionable items you can implement today to help you find a relationship that works best for you!   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Do Healthy Relationships Have to Look Traditional?

  7. Sep 11

    Navigating Mean Girl Culture at Work

    Hey lady! This week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss a touchy but necessary subject – how to deal with the office bully, especially when the office bully looks like you. By now we all know that being a mean girl is wack, late, and played out, but it is still a reality for some people in the office. So, how do you, as a grown woman with tools and skills, deal with those sticky, tricky, and often nuanced situations where the mean girl is trying to make you feel a way? Terri and Dr. Dom offer a few scenarios, from their lived and witnessed experiences, of how these experiences play out and how they can seriously impact your wellbeing. The good news is that there are strategies to deal with challenging work situations. So, when the skinfolk at your job are not acting like kinfolk, charge it to the game but keep your eyes open. How, you may ask? Tap in for a few tools for self-reflection and self-assessment so you can be aware of when that energy is coming at you, or when you are the energy that needs to be corrected. Keep growing, lady!   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Navigating Mean Girl Culture at Work

  8. Sep 10

    Thriving with Depression | TBT

    Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. In today's throwback episode, Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide.   Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite   Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous   Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.

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