Looking for ADHD support this summer? My entire 'ADHD Women's Wellbeing Series' is on offer this July. Head here to learn more about the workshops and use code JULY to get 35% off. Some of the deepest childhood wounds don't come from parents who shouted or hurt us. Sometimes they come from parents who simply never had the tools to truly see us. On this week's episode of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm joined by Sian Crossley, a London-trained psychotherapist, author and the founder of Break the Cycle Coaching. With a background in both private practice and the NHS, Sian specialises in helping adults understand and heal from the lasting impact of emotionally immature parenting. Through her writing, courses and online community, she helps thoughtful, self-aware people untangle patterns like people pleasing, self-doubt and over-responsibility, so they can build healthier boundaries and more authentic relationships. She's the author of How to Heal from Emotionally Immature Parents, and now lives in Malaysia with her two young children, working with clients and audiences around the world. In this episode, Sian and I talk about what emotionally immature parenting actually looks like, even in a childhood where all the practical boxes were ticked. We explore why feeling unseen can leave a lasting impact, how undiagnosed neurodivergence in a parent's generation often went unnamed and unsupported, and why grief and acceptance matter more than forgiveness when it comes to healing. Sian also shares the foundations of emotionally mature parenting, and how small, consistent changes, like simply asking a child how they feel, can start to break old patterns without anyone needing to be perfect. In this episode, we cover: What emotionally immature parenting really looks like, even in a "good enough" childhoodThe difference between big T and little T traumaHow undiagnosed neurodivergence in parents shapes the way love and connection are shownParentification, and what it means when a child becomes their parent's emotional supportWhy grief and acceptance matter more than forgiveness when healing childhood traumaThe "and, not but" technique for holding two truths about a parent at onceWhy childhood memories can feel fragmented after emotional neglectBreaking generational cycles without overcorrecting as a parentThe four foundations of emotionally mature parenting: regulation, self-awareness, empathy and boundariesWhy asking a child how something made them feel can change everything Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome, and introducing Sian Crossley and her book02:40 - What emotionally immature parenting actually looks like05:03 - Why feeling unseen can matter more than what was provided practically06:15 - Parentification and becoming a parent's emotional support07:51 - Kate's own story: a late ADHD diagnosis and family patterns11:34 - Where healing actually begins14:48 - Why too much empathy for parents can get in the way of healing17:16 - Breaking the cycle without overcorrecting as a parent22:41 - Why fragmented childhood memories are so common25:23 - Grief, acceptance and why forgiveness isn't the goal34:03 - The "and, not but" technique for holding two truths39:05 - The four foundations of emotionally mature parenting45:04 - How to work with Sian 🌟 The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live Event Audio Experience is here! 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Links and Resources: Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_podVisit Sian's website: breakthecyclecoaching.co.ukConnect with Sian on Instagram: @sianmorgancrossleyCheck out Sian's book, How to Heal from Emotionally Immature ParentsStart a free trial of Sian's membership here Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. With thanks to our Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by Elete, a simple way to support your hydration by adding essential electrolytes to the water you're already drinking. So many of us get completely absorbed in a task and forget to drink anything for hours, then wonder why we feel foggy or flat later in the day. 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