It's Not About the Alcohol

Colleen Freeland
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Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by about 80 percent? Become the version of you who can just "take it or leave it" so that you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. Colleen Freeland is a a mindful drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

  1. 2d ago ·  Video

    EP354: If it feels like your drinking hasn't changed, track this metric instead

    You're still drinking more than you should, and you want to know if real change actually is a slow process, or if you're just making excuses so you don't have to quit. Here's the honest answer, plus a reliable metric to track so that you can feel more confident about your progress. What you'll learn: Why your drinking is usually the last thing to change, not the first Why counting drinks is counterproductive to your progress Why you lose motivation to "drink less," and the perspective shift that helps you stay consistent What to do when you wake up and realize you "did it again" How to tell whether your discomfort is a sign that you're failing or growing Nervous system regulation is the missing puzzle piece for most high-performing women. Register for the free masterclass, The Science Behind Take It or Leave It: Why Some Women Can and How You Can Too. [Watch the Masterclass Here] One conversation won't change your drinking. But it can change your perspective on what you need to focus on. If you want to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be, book a free discovery call. [Book Your Discovery Call Here]

    EP354: If it feels like your drinking hasn't changed, track this metric instead

  2. Jul 28 ·  Video

    EP353: Your brain talks you into drinking. Here's how to talk back.

    You wake up asking the same question you asked yesterday. What the hell is wrong with me? But you've already decided the answer is that you're drinking is out of control. This episode shows you how the story you keep telling yourself becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and gives you three moves to shift your perspective of what's going on (and what really needs to change). What you'll learn: Why the way you describe your drinking becomes the reality you live in The difference between a real threat and a false alarm Why trying to control or quit drinking backfires, and what actually causes change The three moves that rewrite the story that keeps you stuck in the cycle of overdrinking There are four types of drinkers. Take the free 3-minute quiz to find out which language pattern is running your habit. [Take the Quiz Here] Ready to change your drinking without labeling it a drinking "problem?" Book a free discovery call with one of Colleen's certified coaches to find out if this approach can work for you. [Book Your Discovery Call Here]

    EP353: Your brain talks you into drinking. Here's how to talk back.

  3. Jul 21

    EP352: Drinking turns off your brain. Planning to quit turns it back on. Here's how to break the cycle.

    You wake up feeling rough and decide, "I'm not drinking tonight." For a few hours, that plan feels solid. But evening comes and you pour one anyway. And now your brain has even more evidence that you're not in control. Which makes you less motivated to try again (because what's the point?) This episode shows you why planning to "not drink" often backfires and what to do instead. What you'll learn: Why high achieving "planners" also tend to drink too much How planning to control your drinking builds pressure in your nervous system The one-word pattern-interrupt that shifts you from "planning for later" into action (right now) How to figure out what you really need (it's never a drink) [Click Here] for the Take it or Leave it Roadmap Series. Before you can change your drinking, you have to understand how it's actually helping you. These 5 videos walk you through the whole process of change, starting with why your drinking makes perfect sense. Watch one a day or binge all five in under an hour. [Click Here] to book a free discovery call with Colleen's enrollment team if you know you need guidance, support and accountability. You'll leave with a clear action plan for giving yourself more of what you need, whether you end up working with us or not.

    EP352: Drinking turns off your brain. Planning to quit turns it back on. Here's how to break the cycle.

  4. Jul 14

    EP351: Why joy is key to drinking less (not discipline)

    You've been telling yourself that if you were more disciplined, then you wouldn't drink as much as you do. But the problem isn't that you need more control. It's that giving yourself permission to relax means that you're wasting time or falling behind. Which is why you need alcohol. This episode explains why expanding your capacity for peace and joy is what actually reduces alcohol cravings, and gives you one small goal to help you get started.  What you'll learn: Why GLP1 drugs reduce alcohol cravings (and how to get the same effect on your own) Why motivating yourself with shame and fear makes cravings worse The difference between wanting more from yourself and wanting more for yourself What to do when peace and joy aren't available to you (yet) Not sure why you drink the way you do? Take the quiz to find out which of the four drinker types is running your patterns. [Take the Quiz Now] Ready to stop figuring this out alone? Schedule a free discovery call with the enrollment team. You'll walk away with a customized action plan, your patterns named, and the specific skills you need to build. [Book Your DC Here]

    EP351: Why joy is key to drinking less (not discipline)

  5. Jul 7

    EP350: How to tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage (before your next drink)

    You set a plan to take a break from drinking and made it a few days. Then you blew it. And now you're trying to figure out why you keep breaking promises to yourself when it comes to alcohol. This episode gives you a step by step strategy (based on curiosity and self-compassion instead of judgment) to help you reduce your drinking.  What you'll learn: Why taking a break from drinking isn't about proving you can go without it The five questions to ask after a setback (instead of "what's wrong with me") Why the same glass of wine is self-care one night and self-sabotage the next How to follow your intuition instead of arbitrary rules you're going to break anyway Want to know if this approach can actually work for you? Book a free discovery call with Colleen's enrollment team. It's free, there's no pressure, and you'll leave knowing exactly where you stand. [Book Your Discovery Call Here] Find out what type of drinker you are. Because before you can change HOW you drink, you have to understand WHY you drink. [Click here to take the free quiz].

    EP350: How to tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage (before your next drink)

  6. Jun 30

    EP349 Why you can't say no to wine at night (it's a capacity problem, not a willpower problem)

    You keep telling yourself you'll take the night off, or at least stop at two glasses. But then you drain the entire bottle (as usual). This episode shows you why that's not a willpower problem, and walks you through Colleen's Capacity Audit so you can see exactly what's draining you.  What you'll learn: Why you reach for wine to relax after work even though you know that's not what you really need Why you can't stop at one glass even when you planned to Why willpower won't help you drink less, and what actually does How to calm your nervous system in three minutes, no drink required The five-category capacity audit that shows you where you're leaking energy Realizing your drinking is a lack of capacity (not willpower) means you've found the problem. If you're looking for the solution, click here to schedule a discovery call. [Book Your Discovery Call] Resources mentioned: It's Not About the Alcohol EP335 I was drinking every night again. Here's how I stopped. And EP337 Why drinking every night destroys your confidence (and how to stop)

    EP349 Why you can't say no to wine at night (it's a capacity problem, not a willpower problem)

  7. Jun 23

    EP348: Why wondering if you're an alcoholic makes you drink more (and a better question to ponder)

    If you're an alcoholic, how is it possible that you can get more done before breakfast than most people do in a week? And yet, you still know that you drink too much. So you Google your questions, maybe take the online quizzes, which don't help. This episode gives you a better way to look at your drinking and one specific question that has a much more clear and productive answer. What you'll learn: Why no one can actually tell you whether you're an alcoholic The belief that quietly makes your drinking harder to control How three out of four people who are dependent on alcohol change their drinking without rehab or AA What your nervous system is really asking for when you pour the wine The question to ask instead of "am I an alcoholic?" Want insight into the emotional patterns that are driving your drinking? Take the 3-minute quiz to find out what type of drinker you are. [Take the Quiz Here] Want to know if the "take it or leave it" methodology can work for you? Schedule a discovery call and find out. [Book Your Discovery Call Now]

    EP348: Why wondering if you're an alcoholic makes you drink more (and a better question to ponder)

  8. Jun 16

    EP347: Why you can drink a whole bottle and not feel "drunk" (and how to retrain your brain)

    You've always been a little proud of your high tolerance. You can drink grown men under the table and still walk and talk like a rockstar in four inch heels. But lately it scares you. How is it even possible to drink that much and not even feel it? This episode answers that, and shows you how to "feel" the signals in your body that you've trained yourself to ignore. What you'll learn: Why a high tolerance isn't a sign of superior liver function, and what it's actually hiding Why it's actually quite normal for busy and high-functioning women to over-drink How to tell the difference between buzzed and intoxicated (without a breathalyzer) The hangover reflection I teach my clients to retrain their brain so they can learn from their mistakes (and stop repeating them) Are you ready to change? Book a free 20-minute discovery call with one of Colleen's certified coaches for an honest conversation about where you are, where you want to be, and what it will actually take to get there. Take the Quiz to find out what type of drinker you are. Because you have to see the pattern before you can break the pattern.

    EP347: Why you can drink a whole bottle and not feel "drunk" (and how to retrain your brain)
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Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by about 80 percent? Become the version of you who can just "take it or leave it" so that you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. Colleen Freeland is a a mindful drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

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