It's Not About the Alcohol

Colleen Freeland
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Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. I'm an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

  1. 1d ago

    EP351: Why joy is key to drinking less (not discipline)

    You've been telling yourself that if you were more disciplined, then you wouldn't drink as much as you do. But the problem isn't that you need more control. It's that giving yourself permission to relax means that you're wasting time or falling behind. Which is why you need alcohol. This episode explains why expanding your capacity for peace and joy is what actually reduces alcohol cravings, and gives you one small goal to help you get started.  What you'll learn: Why GLP1 drugs reduce alcohol cravings (and how to get the same effect on your own) Why motivating yourself with shame and fear makes cravings worse The difference between wanting more from yourself and wanting more for yourself What to do when peace and joy aren't available to you (yet) Not sure why you drink the way you do? Take the quiz to find out which of the four drinker types is running your patterns. [Take the Quiz Now] Ready to stop figuring this out alone? Schedule a free discovery call with the enrollment team. You'll walk away with a customized action plan, your patterns named, and the specific skills you need to build. [Book Your DC Here]

    EP351: Why joy is key to drinking less (not discipline)

  2. Jul 7

    EP350: How to tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage (before your next drink)

    You set a plan to take a break from drinking and made it a few days. Then you blew it. And now you're trying to figure out why you keep breaking promises to yourself when it comes to alcohol. This episode gives you a step by step strategy (based on curiosity and self-compassion instead of judgment) to help you reduce your drinking.  What you'll learn: Why taking a break from drinking isn't about proving you can go without it The five questions to ask after a setback (instead of "what's wrong with me") Why the same glass of wine is self-care one night and self-sabotage the next How to follow your intuition instead of arbitrary rules you're going to break anyway Want to know if this approach can actually work for you? Book a free discovery call with Colleen's enrollment team. It's free, there's no pressure, and you'll leave knowing exactly where you stand. [Book Your Discovery Call Here] Find out what type of drinker you are. Because before you can change HOW you drink, you have to understand WHY you drink. [Click here to take the free quiz].

    EP350: How to tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage (before your next drink)

  3. Jun 30

    EP349 Why you can't say no to wine at night (it's a capacity problem, not a willpower problem)

    You keep telling yourself you'll take the night off, or at least stop at two glasses. But then you drain the entire bottle (as usual). This episode shows you why that's not a willpower problem, and walks you through Colleen's Capacity Audit so you can see exactly what's draining you.  What you'll learn: Why you reach for wine to relax after work even though you know that's not what you really need Why you can't stop at one glass even when you planned to Why willpower won't help you drink less, and what actually does How to calm your nervous system in three minutes, no drink required The five-category capacity audit that shows you where you're leaking energy Realizing your drinking is a lack of capacity (not willpower) means you've found the problem. If you're looking for the solution, click here to schedule a discovery call. [Book Your Discovery Call] Resources mentioned: It's Not About the Alcohol EP335 I was drinking every night again. Here's how I stopped. And EP337 Why drinking every night destroys your confidence (and how to stop)

    EP349 Why you can't say no to wine at night (it's a capacity problem, not a willpower problem)

  4. Jun 23

    EP348: Why wondering if you're an alcoholic makes you drink more (and a better question to ponder)

    If you're an alcoholic, how is it possible that you can get more done before breakfast than most people do in a week? And yet, you still know that you drink too much. So you Google your questions, maybe take the online quizzes, which don't help. This episode gives you a better way to look at your drinking and one specific question that has a much more clear and productive answer. What you'll learn: Why no one can actually tell you whether you're an alcoholic The belief that quietly makes your drinking harder to control How three out of four people who are dependent on alcohol change their drinking without rehab or AA What your nervous system is really asking for when you pour the wine The question to ask instead of "am I an alcoholic?" Want insight into the emotional patterns that are driving your drinking? Take the 3-minute quiz to find out what type of drinker you are. [Take the Quiz Here] Want to know if the "take it or leave it" methodology can work for you? Schedule a discovery call and find out. [Book Your Discovery Call Now]

    EP348: Why wondering if you're an alcoholic makes you drink more (and a better question to ponder)

  5. Jun 16

    EP347: Why you can drink a whole bottle and not feel "drunk" (and how to retrain your brain)

    You've always been a little proud of your high tolerance. You can drink grown men under the table and still walk and talk like a rockstar in four inch heels. But lately it scares you. How is it even possible to drink that much and not even feel it? This episode answers that, and shows you how to "feel" the signals in your body that you've trained yourself to ignore. What you'll learn: Why a high tolerance isn't a sign of superior liver function, and what it's actually hiding Why it's actually quite normal for busy and high-functioning women to over-drink How to tell the difference between buzzed and intoxicated (without a breathalyzer) The hangover reflection I teach my clients to retrain their brain so they can learn from their mistakes (and stop repeating them) Are you ready to change? Book a free 20-minute discovery call with one of Colleen's certified coaches for an honest conversation about where you are, where you want to be, and what it will actually take to get there. Take the Quiz to find out what type of drinker you are. Because you have to see the pattern before you can break the pattern.

    EP347: Why you can drink a whole bottle and not feel "drunk" (and how to retrain your brain)

  6. Jun 9

    EP346: How to cope with conflict in your relationship without drinking with Karen McMahon

    You've been drinking more lately because of your partner. Their mood is the problem. Their lack of effort. Their inability to have an honest conversation.  But if this is their problem, why are you stuck? My interview with high conflict divorce coach Karen McMahon will show you how to take your power back instead of drowning it with alcohol. What you'll learn: Why drinking feels safer than conflict (and what's actually happening in your nervous system) The seven levels of emotional energy and how drinking keeps you on the lower end How to shift your focus from what your partner needs to change to what you need to change Why your boundaries keep getting plowed and what to do about it Three somatic tools you can use mid-conflict to stop reaching for the wine If you're ready to take full responsibility for where you are and where you want to be, the first step is identifying the pattern that's running you. Take the 3-minute quiz to find out which of the four drinker types is driving your pattern and get the Take It or Leave It Roadmap. [Take Quiz Here] Ready to stop figuring this out alone? Book a free discovery call. The call isn't about figuring out what's wrong with you. It's about figuring out what kind of support you actually need. [Book Your Discovery Call] Resources: Karen McMahon: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast Free Guide: Understanding and Managing Your Emotional Energy journeybeyonddivorce.com

    EP346: How to cope with conflict in your relationship without drinking with Karen McMahon

  7. Jun 2

    EP345: The KNOW-DO Gap: Why you keep drinking when you know you shouldn't.

    You know you should be drinking less, but you can't follow through. You promise and plan to do something different and then repeat the same mistakes over and over. This episode explains the gap between knowing what you should be doing and actually doing it. And gives you the perspective shift that you need to make to close it. What you'll learn: The two reasons "knowing" doesn't translate to doing Why your "celebration drinking" is often stress drinking in a party dress The perspective shift that turns your dopamine back on What actually has to change before your drinking can change Quiz: Take the free 3-minute quiz to find out why YOU can't just take it or leave it: [Take the quiz here] Ready to stop trying to figure this out alone? Book a free 20-minute discovery call with one of Colleen's certified coaches. You'll leave with clarity about where you are, where you want to be, and what's standing in your way. No pressure, no sales pitch. [Book your Discovery Call here]

    EP345: The KNOW-DO Gap: Why you keep drinking when you know you shouldn't.

  8. May 26

    EP344: The Hidden Hormone Imbalance Making You Drink Too Much (And The Labs Your Doctor Isn't Running)

    You've been blaming yourself for drinking too much. You assume the brain fog, the fatigue, the weight you can't shift, the way you can't stick to your plan, all of it, is because you drink. But what if the reason you're drinking so much is that your hormones are off? This episode walks you through what to test for and what to do when your doctor tells you everything looks "normal." What you'll learn: The symptoms most women blame on their drinking that are actually hormone imbalances The specific labs your doctor probably isn't running (and what they should cost) Why your labs can come back "normal" while you still feel like crap How nervous system dysregulation creates the cascade that keeps you stuck Why hormone support is a foundation, not a fix, for changing your drinking Take the 3-minute quiz to find out which of the four drinker types is running your nervous system, and get a roadmap tailored to your specific pattern. [Take Quiz Now] Ready to do the other piece? [Book a free discovery call] Resources: Amber Romaniuk: amberapproved.ca The No Sugarcoating Podcast with Amber Romaniuk

    EP344: The Hidden Hormone Imbalance Making You Drink Too Much (And The Labs Your Doctor Isn't Running)
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Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself? Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself. Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself. I'm an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease! Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.

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