Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads

G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, Bleav
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”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a podcast that emerged from G-Rex’s personal mental health journey, starting with a breakdown in 2022. Supported by her wife, 988, and a higher power, G-Rex found healing and vowed to destigmatize mental health struggles. With best friend Dirty Skittles, the podcast tackles life’s challenges with humor and honesty, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue. Listeners join their engaging discussions on relationships, parenting, pop culture, and mental health, gaining practical tips and a sense of community. Through laughter and camaraderie, the podcast offers empowerment and solidarity, reminding everyone that it’s okay not to be okay and encouraging reaching out for support. Ultimately, ”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a beacon of hope, humor, and companionship, advocating for mental health awareness and inclusivity.

  1. 2d ago

    G-Rex & Dirty Skittles: Leaving Self-Doubt Behind — Our Biggest Mental Health Lessons from Season 19

    Season 19 gave us a front-row seat to grief, resilience, reinvention, boundaries, healing, and some seriously honest conversations. In this season finale, we look back at every guest who sat down with us, the moments that stayed with us after the microphones turned off, and how much we have both changed along the way. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “I want to leave behind doubt and sadness and bring with me determination and hope and love.” — Dirty Skittles Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder This episode includes conversations about grief, suicide loss, sexual assault, addiction, depression, trauma, and other difficult mental health experiences. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, call or text 988 in the United States to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: https://988lifeline.org/ For international crisis support: https://findahelpline.com/ Episode Description We honestly cannot believe we are wrapping up Season 19. When we started Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads, we knew we wanted honest conversations about mental health. We didn't realize how much those conversations would change us, too. This season brought us stories about burnout, grief, perfectionism, binge eating, difficult relationships, workplace stress, suicide loss, trauma, resilience, identity, and what it really means to reinvent yourself. Every guest brought something different into the room, but somehow each conversation left us looking at our own lives a little differently. In this finale, we go back through every guest from Season 19 and talk about what stuck with us. We reflect on boundaries, self-doubt, fear of failure, therapy, creativity, friendship, and the weird little things that help us stay grounded when life gets messy. We talk about learning to protect our peace, walking away from drama, giving ourselves permission to change, and understanding that trying something hard does not mean we failed just because the outcome looked different than expected. And yes, we also talk about fishing, fantasy romance, laughing at wildly inappropriate things, and why sometimes the best mental health support is having that one person who understands exactly how your brain works. The biggest takeaway from Season 19 is this: our stories matter, but they don't have to become our entire identity. Season 19 is ending, and we are leaving self-doubt behind. Keywords: mental health podcast, emotional wellness, resilience, self-doubt, boundaries, burnout recovery, grief, trauma healing, perfectionism, anxiety, personal growth, therapy, self-care, reinvention, mental health awareness Meet Our Guests — Season 19 Season 19 gave us some unforgettable conversations, and every guest left us with something that stuck. Diandra Ford-Wing — Diandra talked with us about severe workplace burnout, losing her mom, and what happens when grief does not fit inside somebody else’s timeline. Justin Shaw — Justin introduced us to his “shadow and sorcerer” framework and gave us a different way to think about trauma, identity, and what happens when our unhealed parts start running the show. David Meyer — David reminded us how powerful creativity can be when writing, poetry, storytelling, and self-expression become part of how we process what is going on inside our heads. Rocio & Angel — Rocio and Angel shared their work around women’s identity, growth, and transformation through The Orchid: The Secret Code of Modern Goddesses, while also showing us what genuine partnership and mutual respect can look like. Mandi Lynne — Mandi opened up about being a recovering perfectionist and learning how to stop tying her worth to being extraordinary all the time. Amber Abila — Amber shared her experience with restrictive eating, binge eating, and bulimia, along with the work it took to rebuild her relationship with food and herself. Barbara Parker — Barbara talked about perfectionism, divorce, rebuilding her life, and learning that sometimes “good enough” really is enough. Regent Cornell — Regent reminded us why the conversations we most want to avoid are often the ones we need to have, especially when work, relationships, and mental health collide. Stephanie Renner — Stephanie shared the heartbreaking loss of her son Jordan and how she has turned that grief into meaningful ways of reminding people that they matter. Noah May — Noah opened up about the circumstances surrounding his conception, the mental health struggles that followed, and how podcasting helped him find his voice. John Carter — John shared an unbelievable story of surviving being shot in the head, depression, addiction, jail, and major life changes before rebuilding a life centered around fatherhood, fitness, and resilience. Key Takeaways Healing does not happen on somebody else’s schedule. Grief, trauma, and burnout do not care what a policy says. What happened to us can shape us without becoming the only thing that defines us. Boundaries can feel uncomfortable, but protecting our peace is worth it. Trying something difficult and getting an unexpected result does not automatically mean we failed. We can reinvent ourselves at any age. There is no expiration date on becoming somebody new. Mental health support does not always look serious. Sometimes it is therapy. Sometimes it is laughter. Sometimes it is fishing, fantasy books, a phone game, or calling the one person who understands your sense of humor. Actionable Items Ask yourself what you are ready to leave behind in this season of your life. Write down what you want to replace it with. Pick one boundary that would make your life feel lighter and practice holding it without overexplaining yourself. Start your own joy folder. Fill it with photos, memories, screenshots, quotes, or anything else that reminds you what makes you feel like yourself. Important Chapters 00:00:37 — Welcome to the Season 19 Finale 00:03:48 — How Much We Have Changed 00:08:23 — Diandra Ford-Wing: Burnout, Grief, and Work 00:10:17 — Justin Shaw: Your Shadow Is Not Your Identity 00:11:32 — David Meyer: Creativity and Mental Health 00:12:53 — Rocio & Angel: Identity, Partnership, and The Orchid 00:14:04 — Mandi Lynne: Recovering From Perfectionism 00:15:22 — Amber Abila: Binge Eating and Understanding the Why 00:16:39 — Barbara Parker: When Good Enough Is Good Enough 00:18:24 — Regent Cornell: Having the Conversations We Avoid 00:20:13 — Stephanie Renner: Grief, Jordan, and Letting People Know They Matter 00:21:51 — Noah May: Finding His Voice Through Podcasting 00:22:54 — John Carter: Survival, Resilience, and Rebuilding 00:24:18 — Five Questions for Us 00:26:14 — The Ridiculous Things That Actually Help Our Mental Health 00:27:25 — Friendship as Mental Health Support 00:30:10 — What We Are Leaving Behind in Season 19 00:31:01 — Thank You, Season 19 Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #Season19 #MentalHealthJourney #EmotionalWellness #Resilience #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #HealthyBoundaries #BurnoutRecovery #GriefSupport #TraumaHealing #SelfDoubt #TherapyWorks #FindingJoy #MentalHealthCommunity #Reinvention *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    G-Rex & Dirty Skittles: Leaving Self-Doubt Behind — Our Biggest Mental Health Lessons from Season 19

  2. Sep 17

    John Carter: Part 2- Never Give Up — Sobriety, Forgiveness, and Finding Purpose After Trauma

    What happens after you survive something that should have killed you? In Part 2, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles continue their conversation with John Carter about waking from a coma, living with permanent injuries, maintaining long-term sobriety, choosing forgiveness, staying grateful, and turning a brutal past into a life of purpose. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “Never give up. You are much stronger than you think.” — John Carter Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder This episode includes conversations about gun violence, addiction, overdose, incarceration, depression, disability, and loss. Please take care of yourself while listening. If you or someone you know is in crisis or needs immediate emotional support in the United States, call or text 988 or visit: https://988lifeline.org/ For crisis resources outside the U.S.: https://findahelpline.com/ Episode Description In Part 2 of John Carter’s story, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles go deeper into the moments that shaped the man he is today—and the mindset that keeps him moving forward. John describes the vivid dream he experienced while unconscious after being shot in the head. In the dream, he was repeatedly challenged to swim a race he could not win until an unknown older man appeared, coached him, and refused to let him quit. John eventually won the race—and woke up. To him, that mysterious coach represented a higher power delivering a message that would follow him for the rest of his life: keep going. The conversation explores the long road of physical recovery, John’s decision not to carry hatred toward the man who shot him, and why he sees accountability differently after surviving the consequences of his own choices. John also talks about maintaining sobriety by refusing to forget how bad addiction became. Today, storytelling, speaking at recovery centers, mentoring younger people, training clients, supporting Mobility Danes of New England, and being present for his children and grandchildren all help keep him connected to his purpose. He is candid about one challenge that remains difficult: accepting changes in his mobility. But instead of pretending those feelings don't exist, John keeps returning to gratitude. His message is beautifully simple: never give up, accept help when it comes, and remember that you may be stronger than adversity has allowed you to believe. Keywords: John Carter, trauma recovery, long-term sobriety, addiction recovery, forgiveness, gratitude, resilience, mental health recovery, overcoming adversity, purpose after trauma, disability awareness, personal growth, second chances, recovery motivation, never give up Meet Our Guest — John Carter John Carter is a personal trainer, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, author, and owner of Titanium Health and Fitness in Boston. After surviving a near-fatal gunshot, addiction, incarceration, disability, and profound loss, John rebuilt his life and now uses his experience to help others through fitness, speaking, recovery advocacy, mentorship, and service. His first book, Triggered to Change, documents a life he describes as having contained “a hundred lives”—and the second chances that made his current one possible. Website: https://www.johncarterauthor.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Triggered-Change-Life-Full-Turbulence/dp/B0DWLVRWW5 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fitnessbycarter YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@turbulencebook Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/turbulencebook_/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-carter-b29a0a337/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@titaniumfitnessbr?_t=ZP-8wcklttkhhe&_r=1 Key Takeaways Long-term recovery requires remembering where addiction can take you—not romanticizing where you came from. Forgiveness can mean recognizing your own choices without carrying hatred for someone else. Purpose often grows when we turn painful experiences into something that can help another person. Accepting help can be every bit as important as having the strength to keep fighting. Gratitude does not erase difficulty; it changes what you choose to focus on inside it. Being present for the people you love can become one of the strongest reasons to protect your recovery. Actionable Items Write down the reality of a difficult period you never want to return to. Keep it somewhere you can revisit when your memory starts softening the hard edges. Identify one way your lived experience could help someone else—even if it is simply having an honest conversation. When adversity hits, replace “I can’t do this” with one smaller question: “What is the next thing I can do without giving up?” References Mentioned John Carter’s website:  https://www.johncarterauthor.com/ John Carter’s memoir, Triggered to Change:  https://www.amazon.com/Triggered-Change-Life-Full-Turbulence/dp/B0DWLVRWW5 John Carter’s TEDx talk is available through his website:  https://www.johncarterauthor.com/ Mobility Danes of New England:  https://www.mobilitydanesofnewengland.com/ Books for Prison: https://prisonbookprogram.org/ Important Chapters 00:00:53 — What Happened After John Was Shot 00:01:30 — The Dream John Remembers From His Coma 00:04:18 — Waking Up Unable to Move or Speak 00:05:19 — Physical Recovery and Aqua Therapy 00:06:43 — What Happened to the Man Who Shot John 00:07:23 — Choosing Accountability Over Resentment 00:09:03 — John’s Documentary and What Comes Next 00:10:20 — Getting His Book Into Prisons 00:11:25 — How John Maintains His Sobriety 00:12:27 — Being Present for His Family 00:14:37 — Accepting Changes in His Mobility 00:18:00 — Fatherhood After Prison 00:19:23 — What John Would Tell His Younger Self 00:22:19 — John’s Advice: Never Give Up 00:23:00 — Anxiety, Turbulence, and the Word John Hates Most Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #TraumaRecovery #SobrietyJourney #AddictionRecovery #NeverGiveUp #Forgiveness #GratitudePractice #PurposeAfterTrauma #SecondChances #Resilience #RecoveryIsPossible #DisabilityAwareness #PersonalGrowth #RecoveryMotivation #TriggeredToChange #JohnCarter *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    John Carter: Part 2- Never Give Up — Sobriety, Forgiveness, and Finding Purpose After Trauma

  3. Sep 15

    John Carter: Part 1- Shot in the Head, Lost in Addiction, and Fighting His Way Back

    At 22, John Carter survived a point-blank gunshot to the back of the head—but surviving the bullet was only the beginning. G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with John for Part 1 of an unbelievable conversation about organized crime, depression, addiction, prison, sobriety, physical recovery, and the people who helped him fight his way back. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “Tomorrow might not be here for you, so take advantage of it.” — John Carter Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder This episode includes conversations about gun violence, addiction, incarceration, depression, overdose, and loss. Please take care of yourself while listening. If you or someone you know is in crisis or needs immediate emotional support in the United States, call or text 988 or visit: https://988lifeline.org/ For crisis resources outside the U.S.: https://findahelpline.com/ Episode Description John Carter has lived through the kind of story that sounds impossible until you hear him tell it. Raised around organized crime and determined to follow in his father’s footsteps, John entered a dangerous world that nearly killed him. At just 22, he was shot point-blank in the back of the head. He survived—but the aftermath brought disability, depression, alcohol, drugs, and eventually dealing drugs to support his addiction. In Part 1, John joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to talk about the moments that changed the direction of his life. After his arrest, he found himself sitting in a police department parking lot at more than 300 pounds, using a wheelchair, broke, addicted, and out of options. A trip to detox—and a woman named Deb who showed him what recovery could look like—became the beginning of something different. John also shares how a 10-year prison sentence ultimately became part of his second chance. Inside, three men who had known his father refused to let him stay in his wheelchair. They brought him to the prison gym, trained with him, and helped him rebuild his body until he eventually walked out of prison. The conversation also explores grief, the loss of John’s brothers to addiction, the importance of asking for help, and the unexpected purpose he found through personal training and service dogs. John’s story isn’t about pretending trauma was a gift. It’s about what can happen when you keep getting back up. Keywords: John Carter, addiction recovery, mental health recovery, sobriety, trauma recovery, depression, prison rehabilitation, resilience, second chances, organized crime survivor, personal transformation, service dogs, recovery community, fitness and mental health, overcoming adversity Meet Our Guest — John Carter John Carter is a personal trainer, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, author, and owner of Titanium Health and Fitness, a private gym in Boston. After surviving a near-fatal gunshot, addiction, incarceration, and profound personal loss, John rebuilt his life around sobriety, service, fitness, and helping others believe that change is still possible. His memoir, Triggered to Change, shares his journey from organized crime and addiction to recovery, purpose, and second chances. Website: https://www.johncarterauthor.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Triggered-Change-Life-Full-Turbulence/dp/B0DWLVRWW5 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fitnessbycarter YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@turbulencebook Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/turbulencebook_/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-carter-b29a0a337/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@titaniumfitnessbr?_t=ZP-8wcklttkhhe&_r=1 Key Takeaways Recovery can begin at the moment you finally admit you need help. Getting sober does not make every problem disappear, but it gives you a fighting chance to face them. A painful consequence can sometimes become the interruption that saves a life. Asking for help is not weakness—it can completely change the direction of your story. Physical movement and fitness became powerful tools in John’s rebuilding process. The people who believe in you can matter enormously, but you still have to choose the next right step. Actionable Items Make a recovery plan before you need it. Identify the people, places, and resources you can turn to when life becomes overwhelming. Look honestly at the environments that pull you backward. Sometimes protecting your progress means changing where you go and who you spend time with. Find one healthy practice that helps you reconnect with your body—walking, strength training, stretching, swimming, or another form of movement that meets you where you are. Important Chapters 00:01:02 — John Introduces His Story 00:02:25 — Growing Up Around Organized Crime 00:03:03 — Surviving the Gunshot 00:04:00 — Addiction, Arrest, and Hitting Bottom 00:05:09 — Meeting Deb and Seeing Recovery Differently 00:06:00 — A 10-Year Prison Sentence 00:07:29 — Making a Plan Instead of Giving Up 00:09:13 — Rebuilding His Body in Prison 00:12:14 — The Lesson John’s Father Taught Him About Quitting 00:16:55 — Entering Prison at 24 00:18:31 — Facing Temptation After Prison 00:19:40 — Losing His Brothers to Addiction 00:21:16 — Turbulence and the Power of Service Dogs 00:26:21 — Turning His Story Into a TEDx Talk 00:29:46 — Finding Purpose Through Speaking and Service Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #AddictionRecovery #SobrietyJourney #TraumaRecovery #SecondChances #RecoveryIsPossible #OvercomingAdversity #Resilience #PrisonRehabilitation #DepressionRecovery #ServiceDogs #FitnessAndMentalHealth #RecoveryCommunity #NeverGiveUp #TriggeredToChange #JohnCarter *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    John Carter: Part 1- Shot in the Head, Lost in Addiction, and Fighting His Way Back

  4. Sep 10

    Noah: From Depression and Suicidal Thoughts to Finding His Voice Through Podcasting

    What happens when years of depression, anxiety, bullying, and feeling like an outsider finally meet a microphone? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with Noah May to talk about surviving some of his darkest moments, finding connection when he needed it most, and discovering that using his voice through podcasting could become part of his healing. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “Stay strong and don’t let it all bring you down. You got to keep fighting.” — Noah May Episode Description Noah May has been navigating depression since he was 13 and anxiety since he was 18, but his story is about more than diagnoses. It’s about what happens when loneliness, bullying, complicated family history, and feeling like you don’t belong start shaping the way you see yourself — and what can happen when you finally find a way to speak back. In this deeply personal conversation, Noah joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to talk about growing up without his biological father, learning the painful circumstances surrounding his conception, being bullied by classmates, and wondering whether he was ever good enough. He also opens up about starting therapy, struggling to be completely honest during those early sessions, and later realizing that healing sometimes requires finding the right outlet — not just following someone else’s version of what recovery should look like. For Noah, one of those outlets became podcasting. After graduating from Auburn University with a journalism degree, Noah faced another familiar fear: What if all that work had been for nothing? Instead of giving up, he leaned harder into creating. Today, he hosts three podcasts — Lethal Venom, Music Talks, and Southern Reads — and uses his platform to tell the truth, connect with people, and create the kind of space he once needed himself. Noah’s story reminds us that life rarely follows the damn plan. Sometimes healing looks like therapy. Sometimes it looks like friendship. Sometimes it looks like music, books, or sitting behind a microphone and finally saying the things you’ve carried for years. Keywords: Noah May, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, mental health recovery, podcasting and mental health, bullying recovery, loneliness, finding your voice, emotional healing, therapy, young adult mental health, mental health advocacy, overcoming adversity, healing through storytelling Meet Our Guest — Noah May Noah May is an Auburn University graduate with a bachelor’s degree in journalism and the host of three podcasts: Lethal Venom, Music Talks, and Southern Reads. After navigating depression, anxiety, bullying, loneliness, and periods of suicidal thinking, Noah turned his experiences into a reason to speak openly and create conversations where others can feel seen, heard, and less alone. Website: https://www.noahspodcasts.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/713902225134300 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoahshowww LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/noah-c-may TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenoahshowww X: https://www.x.com/noahspodcasts YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/noahspodcasts Lethal Venom: https://noahspodcasts.com/lethal-venom Music Talks: https://noahspodcasts.com/music-talks Southern Reads: https://noahspodcasts.com/southern-reads Key Takeaways Your past can shape you without getting the final say in who you become. Depression and anxiety can make you feel isolated, but hearing someone else’s story can remind you that you aren’t the only one carrying heavy shit. Finding the right mental health support may take time, honesty, and sometimes more than one therapist or healing approach. Creative expression can become a powerful emotional outlet when you've buried feelings for years. Supportive friendships can completely change the way we experience difficult seasons. Life rarely unfolds exactly according to plan, and that doesn’t mean you failed. Actionable Items Find one safe outlet where you can say what you’ve been holding back — whether that’s therapy, journaling, podcasting, voice notes, art, or a trusted person. Take inventory of the people around you. Pay attention to who makes you feel supported, heard, and able to be yourself. When your original plan falls apart, ask yourself, “What can I build with what I have right now?” instead of automatically assuming you failed. Important Chapters 00:00 — Meet Noah May 01:45 — Noah’s Childhood and Family Story 06:38 — Bullying and Growing Up Without a Father 08:11 — Depression and Anxiety Begin 09:12 — Starting College During COVID 12:52 — Why Noah Chose Journalism 15:00 — Turning a Dream Into Podcasting 16:38 — Podcasting as a Therapeutic Outlet 19:59 — Building Three Podcasts 21:05 — Music and Mental Health 23:14 — Rediscovering Reading 26:15 — Therapy and Learning to Open Up 28:28 — Giving Anxiety a Theme Song 29:53 — Advice to Noah’s 12-Year-Old Self 30:52 — The Hardest Lesson Noah Has Learned 32:15 — Noah’s Favorite Word 33:32 — Where to Find Noah Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Remember to subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #DepressionAwareness #AnxietyAwareness #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthRecovery #HealingJourney #PodcastingForHealing #FindingYourVoice #YoungAdultMentalHealth #BullyingRecovery #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthAdvocate #HealingThroughStorytelling #YouAreNotAlone #OvercomingAdversity #NoahMay *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Noah: From Depression and Suicidal Thoughts to Finding His Voice Through Podcasting

  5. Sep 8

    Stephanie on Grief, Guilt, and Turning Regret Into Resilience

    Grief has a way of dragging us back into every decision, every conversation, and every painful “what if.” In this deeply personal episode, Stephanie Renner joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to talk about losing her son Jordan to suicide, the guilt and regret that followed, and how she learned to keep moving forward without letting the past define the rest of her life. Awards & Downloads Line Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listeners in more than 160 countries. Feedback Link Line We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “Love is not measured by the outcome.” — Stephanie Renner Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder This episode includes candid conversations about suicide, suicidal ideation, self-harm, grief, and the loss of a child. Please take care of yourself while listening and step away if you need to. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis in the United States, call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. https://988lifeline.org/ For crisis support outside the United States: https://findahelpline.com/ Episode Description After losing her father, her mother, and her oldest son within a six-year span, Stephanie Renner knows what it feels like to replay the past and wonder what could have been different. In this raw and deeply human conversation, Stephanie opens up to G-Rex and Dirty Skittles about her son Jordan, who died by suicide shortly before his nineteenth birthday. She shares what it was like raising a deeply empathetic young man who struggled for years with suicidal ideation, mental health challenges, and the feeling that he did not quite fit into the world around him. Stephanie also speaks honestly about the guilt that can follow devastating loss. The questions come fast and hard: What if I had found the right therapist? What if I had been home? What if I had made one different decision? She calls them the “if-onlys,” and she knows firsthand how easily they can become a prison. Over time, Stephanie began to understand that loving someone deeply does not mean you can control their outcome. That realization became one of the most important lessons of her life: Love is not measured by the outcome. She also shares the unexpected signs that have helped her feel connected to Jordan, the community that surrounded her when she could barely function, and the ways grief changed her perspective on fear, work, and what actually matters. After nearly 25 years as an attorney, Stephanie stepped away from the life she built and moved toward something more meaningful. Today, through her Regret to Resilience Method, she helps people work through regret, guilt, and shame after trauma or loss. She also founded Gilly’s Friends in Jordan’s memory, turning his kindness into a lasting reminder: You matter. You’re loved. Keywords: Stephanie Renner, Regret to Resilience, grief, grief recovery, suicide loss, suicide prevention, parental grief, guilt after loss, regret, emotional healing, self-forgiveness, resilience, trauma recovery, mental health awareness, finding purpose after loss Meet Our Guest — Stephanie Renner Stephanie Renner is a keynote speaker, writer, attorney, nonprofit founder, and creator of The Regret to Resilience Method. Her work helps people release regret, guilt, and shame after trauma or loss so they can move forward with greater purpose, confidence, and self-compassion. Her work is deeply personal. After losing her father, mother, and oldest son, Jordan, within six years, Stephanie turned her own experience with grief into a mission to help others stop allowing the past to control what comes next. She is also the founder of Gilly’s Friends, a nonprofit created in Jordan “Gilly” Guilford’s memory that spreads intentional acts of kindness and reminds people that they matter and are loved. Website: https://www.stephanierennerspeaks.com Gilly’s Friends: https://gillysfriends.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/srrnd/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.renner2 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanierenner/ Key Takeaways Love is not measured by the outcome. You can love someone completely and still not control what happens. Regret often lives in the “if-onlys,” where we convince ourselves that one different choice would have changed everything. Grief does not mean forgetting someone or moving on from them. It can mean learning to carry love and loss at the same time. Support matters. Sometimes the people who simply show up, sit with you, feed you, and stay close make survival possible. Belonging matters, especially for young people who feel like they do not fit anywhere. Purpose can grow alongside grief. Stephanie transformed Jordan’s legacy of kindness into work that continues to help other people feel seen and valued. Actionable Items Challenge one “if-only.” Write down a regret you keep replaying and ask yourself whether you truly know that changing that one moment would have changed the outcome. Know who your people are. Identify two or three people you can call when life gets heavy, and consider whether someone in your life may need you to be that person for them. Do one intentional act of kindness. Send the text. Make the call. Buy the coffee. Check in. Small moments can carry more weight than we realize. Important Chapters 00:00 – Meet Stephanie Renner 02:30 – Signs From Jordan and Staying Connected After Loss 08:15 – Jordan’s Mental Health Journey 12:00 – Surviving the Loss of a Child 13:35 – The “If-Onlys” of Grief and Regret 18:50 – One of Stephanie and Jordan’s Final Conversations 21:45 – Mental Health, Shame, and Creating a Kinder World 23:30 – The Community That Carried Stephanie 26:15 – Losing Fear After Losing So Much 26:55 – Grieving a Son While Losing a Mother to Alzheimer’s 29:30 – From Attorney to Regret to Resilience 31:00 – Letting Go of Mother’s Day Guilt 33:30 – Care Bears, Raccoons, and Signs From Beyond 41:25 – What Stephanie Would Tell a Younger Jordan 44:25 – Love Is Not Measured by the Outcome 45:40 – Favorite Word, Least Favorite Word 46:10 – Regret to Resilience 47:05 – Gilly’s Friends and Jordan’s Legacy of Kindness Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website:  https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #GriefSupport #SuicideLoss #SuicidePrevention #GriefJourney #RegretToResilience #HealingAfterLoss #ParentalGrief #BereavedParents #EmotionalHealing #SelfForgiveness #TraumaRecovery #Resilience #FindingPurpose #GriefAndLoss #YouMatter *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Stephanie on Grief, Guilt, and Turning Regret Into Resilience

  6. Sep 3

    Regent on Courageous Conversations: Stop Avoiding What’s Costing You Peace — Part 2

    Some conversations can be course-corrected with feedback. Others cross a bright line and demand something more. In Part 2, G-Rex, Dirty Skittles, and Regent Cornell get even more practical about confrontation, emotional regulation, accountability, leadership, and what to do when the other person simply refuses to meet you halfway. Awards & Downloads Line Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback Link Line We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “People rarely need fewer confrontations. They need thousands more courageous everyday feedback conversations.” — Regent Cornell Episode Description How do you have a healthy conversation when the other person refuses to listen, take accountability, or change? In Part 2, Regent Cornell returns with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to push the conversation beyond basic communication skills and into the harder territory: bright lines, toxic leadership, broken trust, emotional triggers, and knowing when you have done everything you can. Regent explains the difference between feedback and confrontation, including situations where a boundary has been crossed so clearly that feedback is no longer enough. He also explores why confrontation should never become an excuse to retaliate, humiliate, or emotionally punish another person. The temporary satisfaction of “winning” a fight can quickly turn into regret. G-Rex asks what happens when leaders avoid conflict or when the person receiving feedback refuses to engage. Regent’s answer is clear: you cannot force someone to change. You can communicate, influence, set expectations, and choose what you are willing to tolerate, but accountability ultimately belongs to each individual. The trio also talks about self-worth, curiosity, emotional regulation, and why avoidance can quietly destroy relationships. Regent leaves listeners with a challenge: choose one conversation. Not ten. One. Decide what needs daylight, get curious about the other person’s reality, and stop waiting for the “suddenly” that comes after months or years of avoidance. Keywords: difficult conversations, courageous conversations, conflict resolution, mental health, emotional wellness, boundaries, leadership communication, workplace conflict, toxic leadership, self-worth, accountability, emotional regulation, healthy confrontation, relationship communication, Fierce Conversations Meet Our Guest — Regent Cornell Regent Cornell is a transformational leadership, talent-development, and organizational-growth expert with more than 33 years of experience helping leaders, teams, and individuals build the clarity, confidence, and capability to thrive. He serves as Vice President of Market Evolution & Strategic Growth at Fierce Conversations and owns Cornell Consulting, bringing expertise in executive coaching, strategic communication, organizational development, team building, diversity and inclusion, negotiation, and change management. Regent is an HBDI Level III Master Facilitator through Herrmann International and holds a Professional Coaching Certification at the ICF-PCC level from the University of Miami. He is also certified in Fierce Conversations, Myers-Briggs, DiSC, Prosci Change Management, and Advanced Consulting. Fierce Inc.: https://www.fierceinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/regent-cornell Key Takeaways Feedback is preventative care; confrontation is the intervention when a pattern becomes too important to ignore. Some situations cross a “bright line” and require immediate accountability rather than gradual feedback. You cannot force another person to change, no matter how well you communicate. Entering a confrontation to prove you are right usually shuts down curiosity and learning. The best time to give feedback is close enough to the moment to be useful and calm enough to be constructive. Avoidance weakens relationships; curiosity strengthens them. Actionable Items Pick one conversation you have been postponing and put a date on when you will address it. Before speaking, ask yourself: “Am I entering this conversation to prove something or to learn something?” Use Regent’s standard for fierce feedback: candor with care, clarity with curiosity, and courage with respect. References Mentioned Fierce Inc.: https://www.fierceinc.com/ Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott Important Chapters 00:00:49 – Asking, “How Can I Show Up Better for You?” 00:01:31 – Feedback as Preventative Care 00:02:08 – When Someone Crosses a Bright Line 00:04:22 – Confrontation Is Not Revenge 00:06:58 – What Happens When Leaders Avoid Conflict? 00:10:52 – What If the Other Person Won’t Reciprocate? 00:12:39 – The Cost of Waiting Too Long 00:16:08 – Self-Worth, Choice, and What You Will Tolerate 00:17:55 – Avoidance vs. Curiosity 00:19:57 – Stop Entering Conversations to Prove You’re Right 00:20:57 – Candor With Care 00:21:41 – Start With One Conversation 00:23:09 – Stop Waiting for the “Suddenly” 00:24:33 – A Message for Leaders 00:25:24 – How to Connect With Regent Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #CourageousConversations #DifficultConversations #ConflictResolution #HealthyCommunication #LeadershipDevelopment #EmotionalWellness #BoundariesMatter #Accountability #ProtectYourPeace #WorkplaceMentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation #SelfWorth #FierceConversations #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Regent on Courageous Conversations: Stop Avoiding What’s Costing You Peace — Part 2

  7. Sep 1

    Regent on Courageous Conversations: Stop Avoiding What’s Costing You Peace — Part 1

    What happens when the conversations you keep avoiding start costing you your peace, your relationships, or even your mental health? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles welcome back Regent Cornell for a powerful conversation about honest feedback, emotional courage, boundaries, and why saying the hard thing early can keep resentment from taking over. Awards & Downloads Line Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback Link Line We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “Silence does not remove the issue. It simply delays the conversation while allowing the impact to continue.” — Regent Cornell Episode Description Avoiding a hard conversation might feel easier in the moment, but what happens when silence starts becoming resentment, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles welcome back leadership and communication expert Regent Cornell to talk about why courageous conversations matter long before things reach a breaking point. Regent shares how the principles of Fierce Conversations have changed his personal and professional life, and why feedback should feel less like criticism and more like a GPS helping us course-correct. The conversation gets deeply personal as Regent opens up about quarterly relationship check-ins with his partner, navigating difficult family dynamics, and setting a painful boundary with a friend struggling with addiction. Dirty Skittles reflects on how avoiding hard conversations can turn into resentment, while G-Rex shares how she uses the principles of Fierce Conversations even when the person she needs to confront is herself. Together, they unpack why confrontation does not have to mean conflict, cruelty, or emotional warfare. Healthy confrontation means facing the problem with honesty, curiosity, and respect before frustration becomes something bigger. This episode reminds you that protecting your peace doesn't always mean walking away. Sometimes it means finally saying what needs to be said. Keywords: courageous conversations, difficult conversations, mental health, emotional wellness, healthy communication, boundaries, feedback, confrontation, resentment, self-awareness, relationship communication, conflict resolution, Fierce Conversations, leadership communication, protecting your peace Meet Our Guest — Regent Cornell Regent Cornell is a transformational leadership, talent-development, and organizational-growth expert with more than 33 years of experience helping leaders, teams, and individuals build the clarity, confidence, and capability to thrive. As Vice President of Market Evolution & Strategic Growth at Fierce Conversations and owner of Cornell Consulting, Regent works at the intersection of leadership, strategy, human connection, and change, grounded in the belief that meaningful conversations create the conditions for learning, action, and transformation. Fierce Inc.: https://www.fierceinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/regent-cornell Key Takeaways Avoidance does not solve conflict; it often gives resentment room to grow. Feedback works best when it happens before frustration becomes confrontation. Difficult conversations can strengthen both professional and personal relationships. You can have a Fierce Conversation with yourself, but an outside perspective can help challenge the stories you tell yourself. Setting a boundary does not mean you stopped caring about someone. Honest communication should come from respect, not revenge or the need to prove you are right. Actionable Items Think of one conversation you have been avoiding and write down what you actually need the other person to understand. Use Regent’s “experience, explore, explain” approach: share your experience, ask about theirs, explore the situation together, and clarify what happens next. Before confronting someone, check your emotional temperature. If you are going in to punish, prove, or unload, give yourself time to regulate first. References Mentioned Fierce Conversations: Fierce Inc.: https://www.fierceinc.com/ Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott Herrmann International / HBDI Important Chapters 00:00:40 – Regent Returns to the Podcast 00:04:44 – You Don’t Have a “Work Self” and a “Personal Self” 00:09:49 – Why Common Sense Is Not Always Common Practice 00:10:33 – Feedback Before Confrontation 00:15:46 – How Avoidance Turns Into Resentment 00:18:34 – Having Fierce Conversations With Yourself 00:21:55 – When Loving Someone Requires a Boundary 00:27:20 – Why We Need Other Perspectives 00:29:36 – Confrontation Is Not a Brawl 00:31:24 – Experience, Explore, Explain Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #CourageousConversations #DifficultConversations #HealthyCommunication #EmotionalWellness #BoundariesMatter #ProtectYourPeace #ConflictResolution #RelationshipCommunication #SelfAwareness #LeadershipDevelopment #FierceConversations #EmotionalHealth #Resentment #PersonalGrowth #CommunicationSkills *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Regent on Courageous Conversations: Stop Avoiding What’s Costing You Peace — Part 1

  8. Aug 27

    Barbara: How Healthy Boundaries Protect Your Peace and Self-Worth

    What happens when betrayal forces you to stop fixing everyone else and finally start protecting yourself? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with Barbara Parker for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about healthy boundaries, emotional safety, perfectionism, rebuilding self-worth, and learning that protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder This episode includes conversations about infidelity, toxic relationships, emotional trauma, alcohol misuse, suicidal thoughts, and intense emotional distress. Please listen with care. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, call or text 988 in the United States and Canada for immediate support. You don’t have to carry the heavy shit alone. Mental Health Quote “Anything that comes between you and your peace needs to be removed.” — Barbara Parker Episode Description Barbara Parker knows what it feels like to lose yourself while trying to hold a relationship together. After discovering repeated infidelity in her marriage, she found herself facing heartbreak, anger, financial instability, and one brutal realization: she had spent so much energy worrying about someone else’s happiness that she had stopped paying attention to her own. In this powerful conversation with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, Barbara shares how those painful experiences became the foundation for rebuilding her identity, strengthening her boundaries, and eventually helping others do the same. She explains why boundaries start with knowing what you want, why two perfectly good people can still be completely wrong for each other, and why protecting your peace sometimes means accepting that somebody simply isn’t headed where you’re headed. Barbara also gets real about perfectionism, anxiety, emotional triggers, and the wounds that can sit beneath our awareness until something slams directly into the panic button. She shares her “good enough” approach when perfection falls apart, her tea-kettle analogy for bottled-up emotions, and how her POWER method helps people communicate more clearly, rediscover their confidence, and create lives aligned with what actually matters. This isn’t about pretending heartbreak was some magical gift wrapped in a bow. It’s about realizing the shit that hurt you doesn’t get to own you forever. You can learn from it, rebuild from it, and become fiercely protective of the peace you worked so damn hard to find. Keywords: healthy boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, toxic relationships, relationship healing, betrayal trauma, divorce recovery, self-love, perfectionism, anxiety, emotional wellness, confidence building, personal growth, women’s empowerment, mental health podcast Meet Our Guest — Barbara Parker Barbara L. Parker, MA, LPCC-S, is the Founder and CEO of BF Empowerment Center, where she helps people build confidence, improve communication, set healthier boundaries, and move through emotional healing and major life transitions. Drawing from both professional expertise and her own experiences with heartbreak, divorce, financial hardship, and rebuilding her identity, Barbara brings a practical, empowering approach to helping people create healthier relationships with themselves and others. Connect with Barbara: Official Website: https://www.bfempowerment.com/ Instagram — BF Empowerment: https://www.instagram.com/bfempowerment/ Facebook — B F Empowerment Center: https://www.facebook.com/bfempowerment/ LinkedIn — Barbara L. Parker: https://www.linkedin.com/in/queenblparker Key Takeaways Healthy boundaries begin with knowing what you want before somebody else starts deciding it for you. Two people can both be good humans and still be completely wrong for each other. Protecting your peace sometimes requires walking away from situations that keep pulling you away from yourself. Perfectionism can steal the joy from moments you worked incredibly hard to create. Anger can be the surface reaction covering a much deeper emotional wound. Rebuilding after betrayal means investing energy back into yourself instead of endlessly investigating somebody else. Emotional safety, self-worth, and identity matter just as much as what a relationship looks like from the outside. Actionable Items Ask whether it’s on mission or off mission. Before saying yes to a relationship, commitment, opportunity, or another obligation, ask whether it supports the life you’re trying to build or pulls you away from it. Practice the “good enough” reset. When perfectionism starts convincing you everything is ruined because something went wrong, remind yourself that successful doesn't have to mean flawless. Empty the emotional tea kettle. Make regular space to talk, journal, rest, seek therapy, or process what you’re carrying before one small trigger sends everything boiling over. Important Chapters 00:01:06 – Meet Barbara: Spunky, Sassy, and a Recovering Perfectionist 00:04:21 – What Healthy Boundaries Actually Look Like 00:06:29 – The Heartbreak That Taught Barbara Boundaries 00:08:53 – Facing Infidelity and Talking to Nine Mistresses 00:13:30 – Poor Boundaries, Lost Identity, and Inviting Chaos 00:15:15 – When Betrayal Made Barbara Disconnect From Herself 00:16:28 – Turning Pain Into Purpose 00:19:01 – Stop Investigating Them and Start Investing in You 00:21:53 – The POWER Method and Finding Yourself Again 00:23:51 – Anger, Old Wounds, and the Panic Button 00:25:26 – The Tea Kettle: What Happens When We Never Empty Out 00:30:22 – “This Is Going to Hurt, but It’s Going to Be Worth It” 00:32:04 – Loyalty, Fidelity, and Emotional Safety 00:34:06 – Anxiety, Perfectionism, and Never Feeling Productive Enough 00:35:12 – Favorite Word, Least Favorite Word, and Why “Can’t” Gets No Love Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Subscribe for more inspiring stories. Rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform, or visit our Website: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #HealthyBoundaries #ProtectYourPeace #SelfWorth #EmotionalSafety #ToxicRelationships #RelationshipHealing #DivorceRecovery #BetrayalTrauma #SelfLoveJourney #WomenEmpowerment #EmotionalWellness #PerfectionismRecovery #ConfidenceBuilding #PersonalGrowth #HealingAfterHeartbreak *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https://grexanddirtyskittles.substack.com/)Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shopAudio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a podcast that emerged from G-Rex’s personal mental health journey, starting with a breakdown in 2022. Supported by her wife, 988, and a higher power, G-Rex found healing and vowed to destigmatize mental health struggles. With best friend Dirty Skittles, the podcast tackles life’s challenges with humor and honesty, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue. Listeners join their engaging discussions on relationships, parenting, pop culture, and mental health, gaining practical tips and a sense of community. Through laughter and camaraderie, the podcast offers empowerment and solidarity, reminding everyone that it’s okay not to be okay and encouraging reaching out for support. Ultimately, ”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a beacon of hope, humor, and companionship, advocating for mental health awareness and inclusivity.

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    G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, Bleav
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    234
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    Explicit
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