Love, Happiness, and Success For Therapists

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Hey, fellow therapists! 🌟 Welcome to 'Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists,' the podcast that's here to help you level up your career and life. As therapists, we're the ones who create a space for others to grow and connect, but I believe it's high time we started doing the same for ourselves. The world needs us! But without care and support, opportunities to grow, and a commitment to your own well-being, we become depleted... even burned out. Therapists need to be recognized, and deserve love and care too! I'm your host, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, fellow therapist, and founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and I'm thrilled to be your guide on this journey. We've chosen a profession that's both demanding and incredibly rewarding. We're the healers, the empathetic hearts, the change-makers who make the world a better place. But let's be real—the world often forgets to give us the support and care we need. Well, that's about to change! Every week, join me as we dive into topics that matter to you and your clients. You'll get real-world strategies that will not only supercharge your therapy practice but also help you create the love and happiness you've been craving while achieving the success you've always envisioned. 'Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists,' is here to be your trusted ally, and partner in your personal and professional growth. I'm bringing you a treasure trove of enlightening podcasts, and invaluable resources that will nourish your mind, heart, and soul. You've dedicated yourself to helping others; now it's time to receive the support and strategies you deserve. Get ready to soar, my friends! 🌱💕

  1. 6d ago

    Talking About Sex in Therapy: The Conversation Grad School Skipped | Dr. Nicole McNichols | E101

    After 25 years as a psychologist, I still catch myself doing it. A client edges toward something sexual, I reflect, I validate, and I quietly move us somewhere safer. If you have done the same thing in a session, you are not a bad clinician. You were just never taught how to stay in that moment, and almost none of us were. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, the University of Washington professor who teaches the largest human sexuality course in the country, more than four thousand students a year. Nicole is not a sex therapist. She is the person who teaches the next generation of clinicians, and I wanted her read on the gap most of us walked out of grad school with: what to actually do when sex shows up in the room. Her new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, just landed, and it turns out to be a genuinely useful tool for our clients too. In This Episode: Why generalist training programs skip sex almost entirely, and what that absence quietly costs your clients The assumption that fixing a couple's communication will fix their sex life, and why the research often runs the other way How to open a conversation about sex without feeling like you are prying for salacious details What more than two thousand couples revealed over four years about which kind of satisfaction comes first How a caregiving role can quietly erode desire, and the parenting complaint that is often really about sex The moment a presenting sexual concern is not a sex problem at all, and what scope of competence asks of you then How to handle attraction, transference, and your own discomfort when sexual material enters the room Where your scope as a relationally trained generalist ends and an AASECT-certified sex therapist's begins This episode is for any clinician who has sat across from a client, felt the conversation drift toward sex, and chosen, almost without deciding to, to steer somewhere else. Maybe you told yourself it was outside your scope, or that the client was not ready, or that it simply was not the focus of the work. I have told myself all three. This conversation is about what becomes possible when we stop avoiding the one topic we were never trained to hold, and start treating it as part of the work we are already good at. Episode Breakdown 00:00:00 The Conversation We Quietly Steer Around 00:03:51 Why Sexual Health Is Clinical, Not Peripheral 00:04:43 Fix the Relationship, Fix the Sex? Not Quite 00:08:33 How to Open the Door Without Feeling Intrusive 00:12:30 Sex as the Skill Set That Builds the Whole Relationship 00:15:27 What the Research Actually Shows 00:17:23 Using a Book as a Clinical Tool 00:25:22 When It's Not a Sex Problem 00:34:04 The Transference Nobody Prepped You For 00:40:14 Where Your Scope Ends and a Sex Therapist's Begins Resources Full episode and show notes The Therapist Growth Collective If this episode put words to something you have been quietly carrying, share it with one colleague who would feel the same way. That is the whole game with a show like this. And if you want an ongoing place to keep growing into the parts of the work grad school skipped, come find us. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  Growing Self

    56 min

  2. Jun 3

    “What If I’m Doing It Wrong?” Untangling Therapist Performance Anxiety | LHSFT Classic

    Ever walk out of a session thinking, “Was that okay? Did I do it right? Did I help enough?” If so, you are so not alone.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success For Therapists, I’m diving deep into ⁠therapist performance anxiety⁠ — the kind of internal pressure that doesn’t just keep us up at night, but can actually interfere with the quality of our clinical work.  From subtle fears about being "good enough" to the quiet panic that creeps in when clients stall out, I’m unpacking how this anxiety shows up, what it does to our clinical judgment, and why it's a hidden threat to both our clients and our own well-being. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction: Therapist Performance Anxiety 01:04 – When Caring Becomes a Liability 06:13 – The Story of Sarah 14:52 – Financial Anxiety in Private Practice 31:19 – Strategies to Manage Performance Anxiety 39:35 – CEU Trainings for Therapists If performance anxiety is making you second-guess whether you’re “doing it right,” you’re not alone. This is particularly true for therapists who are in or headed into the realm of coaching. The waters between therapy and coaching can get murky which creates ethical dilemmas that most of us aren’t trained to identify.  My free CEU training ⁠ Think You’re Coaching? 8 Red Flags You’re Actually Doing Therapy⁠ is designed to clear that uncertainty. When you're not sure where the line is between coaching and therapy — or you're worried you’ve already crossed it — anxiety starts calling the shots. This training will help you get crystal clear on what’s what, so you can show up grounded, ethical, and effective in your work. Even better? When you complete the training and pass the quick quiz, you’ll earn 1 CEU and a certificate — totally free. ⁠ Check out the training here.⁠  And hey, let’s stay connected. If this topic resonated with you, I would love to continue the conversation and support your growth. Join our amazing community of growth-minded clinicians by ⁠connecting with me on LinkedIn⁠. I share insights, free CEU trainings, and sometimes a little healthy debate. Come say hi — I’m always cheering you on. 💛 Xoxo ⁠Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby⁠ ⁠ www.growingself.com

    44 min

  3. May 27

    Coaching Psychology: The Rigorous Coaching Most US Therapists Don’t Know Exists | Christina Theo | E100

    Have you ever heard the term coaching psychologist? Probably not. In the United States, it barely exists as a concept. In the United Kingdom, it is a recognized specialty of the British Psychological Society, with peer-reviewed journals, formal credentials, and university-level standards. So the next time someone tells you coaching can’t be a serious discipline, the honest answer is that it already is. We just have to import it. In this episode, I sit down with Christina Theo, a UK-based Coaching Psychologist with twenty-five years across the NHS, the voluntary sector, and international private practice. Christina holds credentials from both the British Psychological Society and the International Coaching Federation, and she practices the kind of integrated, evidence-based work I have spent the better part of two decades arguing for from the US side. She joined me to explain what coaching psychology actually is, what is breaking in the global coaching industry right now, and what every licensed clinician should know about the field before they engage with it, whether or not they ever plan to become a coach themselves. In this episode: The plain-English definition of coaching psychology, and why the UK has a credential for it while the US still does not The moment-to-moment difference between doing coaching and doing psychology, inside a single session How Christina integrates EMDR, IFS, and Pain Reprocessing Therapy inside a coaching framework without crossing the therapy line The four myths therapists believe about coaching, and what is actually true about ethics, supervision, evidence, and triage The biggest mistake therapists make when they add coaching to their practice (and why the financial reasoning behind it usually fails) Why “I healed myself, now I will heal you” coaching is doing measurable harm to trauma survivors who needed treatment instead What rigorous coaching credentials require, and the specific red flags to run from when a program advertises itself Where coaching psychology is headed in the next five years, and the role US clinicians could play in building a domestic version Why This Matters This episode is for any clinician who has watched the coaching industry from the sidelines with one eyebrow raised, and quietly wondered whether there is a serious version of this discipline anywhere. There is. It has a name, a credential, a body of research, and a small group of practitioners who have been doing it well for decades. You do not have to want to become a coach to find this conversation useful. You only have to want to understand the field your clients are increasingly being pulled toward, and to know the difference between the work Christina is describing and the work most of TikTok is calling by the same name. Episode Breakdown 00:00 Why "Coaching Psychologist" Isn't a Term Most US Therapists Know 04:35 How Christina Became a Coaching Psychologist 09:30 What Is Coaching Psychology? The Definition US Therapists Are Missing 13:00 Coaching Psychology vs. Therapy in a Single Session 24:30 The Myths Therapists Believe About Coaching 30:30 What Therapists Should Look For in a Coaching Credential 40:30 What's Actually Wrong With the Coaching Industry in 2026 56:30 What This Means for US Clinicians, and Where Coaching Psychology Goes Next Resources Full blog post for this episode Growing Self Coaching Certification for Therapists Therapist Growth Collective If this conversation cracked something open for you about coaching, I want to keep it going. There is a real, rigorous version of this work, and the people I trust most to do it well are the ones who started as licensed clinicians and added the credentials on top. That is exactly what our Coaching Certification for Therapists is built to support. The link is in the show notes. Come find me, and come find us. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

    1h 9m

  4. May 20

    Solution-Focused Couples Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide | Elliott Connie | E99

    Elliott Connie thinks most of what we were trained to do in couples therapy is, in his words, ridiculous. The way he explains it: if you get shot with an arrow, does it help you to know who shot you, or do you just want the arrow out? That’s the question that anchors solution-focused couples therapy. And it’s the question that’s been quietly changing how a generation of clinicians thinks about the work. In this episode, I sit down with Elliott Connie, founder of The Solution Focused Universe, co-author of The Solution Focused Brief Therapy Diamond with Adam Froerer, and one of the clinicians I most respect in our field. Elliott and I did a consumer-facing conversation last year. This one is the clinician’s cut, and the question I most wanted him to answer: what has to change in the therapist before the technique can land? You’ll hear: Why the entire premise of “understanding the client’s problem” might be what’s keeping them stuck, and Elliott’s arrow analogy that reframes the work in one minute flat The two clinical realizations that almost made Elliott quit graduate school, and the professor who changed everything What “practicing from a solution-focused stance” actually means in the room, and why grafting SFBT techniques onto a problem-focused practice usually doesn’t work Why being a good therapist has more in common with being a good spouse than a good employee, and Elliott’s “relationship, not occupation” reframe The truth about CBT’s research dominance, including the story of the statistics professor who admitted why CBT keeps winning the citation game Why Elliott calls it unethical to graduate from a counseling program and never pick up another research article, and the simple fix if you’ve been guilty of this Where to start if you want to learn SFBT well, including Elliott’s books, his training organization, and the unexpected place his career has taken him This episode is for any clinician who has finished a couples session feeling more depleted than the couple in the room. It’s also for anyone who has wondered, quietly, whether the way you were trained to do this work is the way you actually believe in. Elliott’s argument is that the answer to clinician exhaustion isn’t a new technique. It’s a stance shift. And if you’ve been carrying questions about your own clinical orientation, this conversation will ask you to look at them honestly. Episode Breakdown 0:00 Why understanding the problem might be what’s keeping your clients stuck 05:00 How therapists got indoctrinated into problem-focused work 11:00 From the graduate school Elliott almost quit to the work that found him 27:00 Therapy as a relationship, not an occupation 35:00 What solution-focused brief therapy actually is 37:00 A session that didn’t address the problem (and what happened instead) 47:00 Inside the Solution Focused Universe and Elliott’s mission to train better therapists 52:00 The research, the bias, and the obligation to keep learning 01:03:00 The skeptic’s question and the surprising next chapter of Elliott’s career Resources Read the full article The Therapist Growth Collective for ongoing professional development and peer community If this conversation gave you something to chew on, or made you want to argue with your screen, I’d love for you to share it with a colleague. That’s how this show finds the clinicians it’s meant to find. And if you want to keep having these kinds of conversations week after week, come find us in the Therapist Growth Collective. The link is below. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

    1h 1m

  5. May 13

    Attachment-Based Therapy: Why Insight Alone Doesn't Change Clients | Dr. Amir Levine | E98

    You've been recommending Attached for years. Your client has read it twice. They can name their attachment style, walk you through the childhood wound, and articulate exactly why they do what they do. And they are still, every few months, processing another version of the same painful cycle in their relationship. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, the Columbia psychiatrist and molecular neuroscientist whose first book Attached has now sold over three million copies in 42 languages and become a permanent fixture on every therapist's clinical shelf. His follow-up, Secure, just came out from Penguin Random House, and it answers the question therapists keep asking after handing Attached to a client: how do clients actually change their attachment style? In This Episode: Why naming a client's attachment style is not enough to change it, and what the neuroscience actually says about pattern change The Cyberball paradigm and what it tells us about why our clients' brains react so powerfully to small moments of disconnection Why a 50-minute therapy hour can't compete with the thousand social interactions a client encounters before next week's session CARP, the five pillars of secure mode, and how Levine teaches clients to recognize them in others The CARP intervention script you can teach an anxious client to invite secure recruits into their life Wall Tennis With Love, the technique for right-sizing the relationships that keep pulling anxious clients off-center Why most avoidant clients are accidentally creating the very neediness they resent in others, and the Strange Situation parallel that finally helps them see it What to do when your own attachment style is showing up in the therapy room, including the framework that works for therapists with ADHD or non-traditional rhythms Why This Matters This episode is for any clinician who has ever sat across from a self-aware, hard-working client and quietly thought: I am not sure what I am supposed to do with this. The ones who have read every book, named every pattern, and still cannot move. What Amir is offering is a clinical reframe that does not ask you to throw out what you already know, but adds something most of us were never explicitly trained to do. If you have been sitting with a stuck client lately wondering whether your method is the problem or your client is the problem, this conversation is going to land somewhere specific. Resources Therapist Growth Collective, our free professional community for clinicians Practice support and consulting for therapists If this conversation opened something up for you clinically, please share it with the colleague you were thinking about as you were listening. The work we do matters, and so does the way we do it together. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

    1h 1m

  6. May 6

    Have Them at ‘Hello’ - Secrets to New Client Engagement | LHSFT Classic

    You had a first meeting with a prospective therapy client that YOU thought went great… but the client never came back. Here’s why: Therapists don’t know how to communicate their value. Why do amazing therapists struggle with ⁠therapy client engagement⁠? Spoiler alert: It’s not about your clinical skills, it's about how you connect. Engaging therapy clients isn’t just about being good at what you do; it’s about helping prospective clients see the unique value you bring. In this episode of Love Happiness and Success for Therapists, I’ll walk you through actionable steps to engage therapy clients, communicate your unique value, and grow a thriving private practice. You’ll learn how to structure consultations that naturally build trust and connection, how to address common concerns around cost, time, and readiness, and how to effectively communicate your process and unique approach to therapy. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Why Client Engagement Matters 00:45 The Common Struggles of Private Practice Therapists 01:47 Overcoming the Fear of Self-Promotion 03:33 Connect with Clients Before They Meet You 11:57 Helping Clients Define Their Goals 15:14 Explaining Your Therapy Process with Clarity 23:59 Tackling Client Objections Gracefully 28:18 Highlighting Your Unique Value Proposition 31:13 Mastering Post-Consultation Follow-Ups 34:12 Reflect, Refine, and Grow Your Practice 38:17 More Resources to Support You Your clients need more than what conventional therapy alone can offer. The reality? “Coaches” without formal training are scooping up the opportunities you’re missing, because they have a structured framework of change that they can communicate - and clients love it. You can learn how to do this too! In my free ⁠ “What Every Therapist Must Know About Coaching” Masterclass⁠, you’ll discover how to integrate evidence-based coaching techniques to stand out in a crowded field and enhance your therapy practice. Coaching tools can help you empower clients to achieve goals faster, deepen their engagement, and create lasting change—all while staying true to your professional integrity. 👉 ⁠ Join the Masterclass Now⁠ and take your practice to the next level! Let’s make 2025 your breakthrough year.  If you found this helpful, check out some of my other episodes for more tips and strategies to elevate your private practice! And hey, share this with your professional community—let’s help each other grow. 🌱 Xoxo ⁠Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby⁠ ⁠ www.growingself.com⁠ P.S. Let’s Connect! I’d love to hear your thoughts and be part of your professional journey. ⁠Connect with me on LinkedIn⁠ to join an amazing community of therapists growing and thriving together.

    44 min

  7. Apr 29

    How to Stop Thinking About Your Therapy Clients | LHSFT Classic

    If you’ve been trying to figure out how to stop thinking about your therapy clients once the workday is over, you’re not alone. One of the hardest parts of being a therapist is that the session may end, but your mind keeps going. You replay what your client said, wonder what you could have done differently, and carry the emotional weight of the work into the rest of your life. In this episode, I’m revisiting a conversation about one of the most common therapist struggles and one of the biggest contributors to burnout: not being able to close the mental loop after a session. I’m talking about why therapists get stuck in post-session rumination, what that lingering activation is often telling us, and how to create more clarity so you can care deeply about your clients without carrying them with you at all hours. We’ll talk about the role of therapeutic orientation, case conceptualization, writing things down in a more intentional way, and learning how to gently redirect your attention back to the present. This conversation is a reminder that therapist self-care is not only about better boundaries. It is also about having a process that helps you trust your work, settle your mind, and return to yourself after doing deep emotional labor. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How to stop thinking about your therapy clients after sessions 05:25 How your therapeutic orientation helps you find clarity 10:04 Why writing things down helps close the mental loop 12:39 Mental redirection and getting back to your own life 15:56 What post-session rumination may be telling you If you’ve been feeling isolated in your work, or quietly wondering how to keep caring deeply without carrying everything alone, I want you to know you’re not alone. One of the primary ways I support therapists beyond this podcast is through The Growth Collective for Therapists, a professional home I created for clinicians who want real consultation, meaningful connection, and support building a practice that feels sustainable and life-giving, not depleting. The Growth Collective brings together licensed therapists who are ready to receive the same level of care they give every day through monthly consultation, clinical supervision, CEU trainings, and practical guidance for building a stable, fulfilling private practice. If you’ve been missing community, feeling isolated in your work, or edging toward burnout, this space was built with you in mind. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

    25 min

  8. Apr 23

    The Psychedelic Therapy Revolution | Dr. Scott Shannon | LHSFT Classic

    The research on psychedelic therapy is becoming too compelling to ignore. While it’s easy to dismiss this work as fringe—or assume it’s not relevant if you don’t plan to practice it—the reality is that, in the hands of skilled providers, these approaches can be profoundly effective. As therapists, it’s our responsibility to stay informed so we can have thoughtful, ethical conversations and help clients access the most powerful healing options available—even if we’re not the ones delivering them. Join me for a free CEU training with Dr. Scott Shannon on May 1st at 11am MT, where we’ll dive deeper into the world of psychedelic therapy. How can psychedelic-assisted therapy create deep, lasting transformation where conventional treatments only manage symptoms?⁠ Psychiatrist and integrative medicine pioneer Dr. Scott Shannon joins me to talk about how this emerging field is reshaping what’s possible for healing, not just for our clients, but for the future of mental health care itself. Dr. Shannon shares his decades of work exploring MDMA, psilocybin, and other psychedelic medicines as catalysts for safety, openness, and profound personal growth. We talk about how these experiences can unlock trauma healing, relational breakthroughs, and spiritual integration in ways that expand beyond traditional talk therapy. We also get into the ethics, boundaries, the training this work requires, and what it means for therapists who feel called to be part of this next frontier in care. Dr. Shannon is a psychiatrist, author, and founder of Wholeness Center, the largest integrative mental health clinic in the U.S., and a leader in psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy research and education. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 From SSRIs to MDMA Therapy: A Different Model of Care 07:36 MDMA for Couples: Safety, Openness, Breakthroughs 12:25 PTSD Protocol: Prep, Medicine Sessions, Integration, Childhood Trauma 13:33 Psychedelic Treatment Framework: Container, Catalyst, Carrier 20:07 Paths and Policy: Legalization, Medicalization, FDA Outlook 24:55 Ethics and Safety in Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy 39:53 Mystical Experience and Long-Term Outcomes 46:24 Training and Career Paths: How to Become a Psychedelic-Assisted Therapist Conversations like this remind me how much our field is growing and how important it is that we grow right along with it, in integrity and community. If you’ve been craving that kind of connection and support in your own work, come join me in ⁠The Growth Collective for Therapists⁠! It’s a space where therapists can show up as real people to talk honestly about the work, get meaningful consultation, and be part of a community that understands what it takes to do this job well and stay well. And if you want to keep this conversation going, ⁠find me on LinkedIn⁠. I’d love to hear what stood out to you from this episode and what’s inspiring your own path forward right now. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby⁠Growing Self

    57 min
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Hey, fellow therapists! 🌟 Welcome to 'Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists,' the podcast that's here to help you level up your career and life. As therapists, we're the ones who create a space for others to grow and connect, but I believe it's high time we started doing the same for ourselves. The world needs us! But without care and support, opportunities to grow, and a commitment to your own well-being, we become depleted... even burned out. Therapists need to be recognized, and deserve love and care too! I'm your host, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, fellow therapist, and founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, and I'm thrilled to be your guide on this journey. We've chosen a profession that's both demanding and incredibly rewarding. We're the healers, the empathetic hearts, the change-makers who make the world a better place. But let's be real—the world often forgets to give us the support and care we need. Well, that's about to change! Every week, join me as we dive into topics that matter to you and your clients. You'll get real-world strategies that will not only supercharge your therapy practice but also help you create the love and happiness you've been craving while achieving the success you've always envisioned. 'Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists,' is here to be your trusted ally, and partner in your personal and professional growth. I'm bringing you a treasure trove of enlightening podcasts, and invaluable resources that will nourish your mind, heart, and soul. You've dedicated yourself to helping others; now it's time to receive the support and strategies you deserve. Get ready to soar, my friends! 🌱💕

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