Too Much, Apparently

Alice Tew and Carly Radford

A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 3d ago

    49. Too Worried About Being Liked - Rejection Sensitivity, Rumination and Social Perfectionism

    Ever felt like you're too worried about being liked to just relax around people?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about the fear of not being liked, and how it's rarely as surface level as it sounds.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough.This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello replaying a two minute conversation 40 times, redrafting a text that just says "sounds good", and taking a "no" really personally👀 What it looks like in real life: overexplaining, watching yourself from outside during conversations, pointing out your own flaws first, and the post-social shame spiral🧠 Why our brains do it: we're wired to fear exclusion, and repeated rejection stacks up like beads on a thread until one small "no" carries the weight of all of them🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: masking, mimicry, chasing status, trying to spend your way to feeling enough, never quite fitting in🧰 Coping mechanisms: keeping ownership of whether you're likeable, "I'll be fine if they don't", checking in with a safe person, following de-influencers instead of the perfect ones🌱 How to make peace with it: being authentic works like a magnet, it repels the wrong people and draws in the ones who actually fit you Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned Myers-Briggs personality types@OrdinaryEmm_ 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    49. Too Worried About Being Liked - Rejection Sensitivity, Rumination and Social Perfectionism

  2. Aug 3

    48. Too Overwhelmed to Go on Holiday - Travel, Pressure & the Hidden Stress of Holidays

    Ever felt like you're too overwhelmed to go on holiday? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who love travelling but often find everything around it exhausting) get real about why holidays aren't always the relaxing escape people imagine. For many sensitive, autistic, ADHD and chronically ill people, travelling can involve weeks of planning, uncertainty, sensory overload, disrupted routines and recovering afterwards. We explore the hidden emotional and practical workload behind going away, how travel can place huge demands on your nervous system, and why meeting your needs doesn't make you "high maintenance"—it helps you actually enjoy the holiday you've spent so much time and money planning. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello endless holiday research, spreadsheets comparing hotels, overthinking every detail, worrying about airports, needing to unpack immediately, and secretly needing a holiday to recover from your holiday. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Packing for every possible scenario, planning around sensory needs, struggling with unfamiliar beds, food, smells and routines, feeling overwhelmed by airports, needing recovery days afterwards, and finding yourself dreading the logistics more than looking forward to the trip. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Autistic differences, ADHD, chronic illness, uncertainty, transitions, sensory processing, executive functioning, and nervous systems that naturally need more predictability and preparation than many people realise. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Needing detailed plans, researching everything in advance, feeling guilty about using accommodations like Sunflower Lanyards, worrying about things going wrong, struggling to switch into holiday mode, or feeling overwhelmed when you return home again. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Planning holidays around your actual needs rather than other people's expectations, requesting accommodations, allowing recovery time, reducing pressure to "make the most of every minute", and recognising the difference between genuine needs and unnecessary self-pressure. 🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the goal isn't learning to holiday like everyone else. Maybe it's creating a version of travel that genuinely works for your brain, your body and your nervous system. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. ---------------------------------------------------------------- travel anxiety podcast, autism podcast, ADHD podcast, holiday anxiety podcast, sensory overload podcast, chronic illness podcast, neurodivergent podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, travel podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    48. Too Overwhelmed to Go on Holiday - Travel, Pressure & the Hidden Stress of Holidays

  3. Jul 27

    47. Too Out of Control Around Food - Binge Eating, ADHD and Why Willpower Was Never The Problem

    Ever felt like you're too out of control around food to trust yourself, promising tomorrow will be different and then feeling like a failure when it isn't? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) sit down with our first ever guest, Sarah Dosanjh, a psychotherapist who specialises in binge eating and knows it from the inside. We get real about why food becomes the thing holding everything together, and why willpower was never the problem. We unpack our own patterns, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want a calmer relationship with food while a part of your brain keeps shouting that something's wrong with you. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello late-night eating, buying 10 times more than we need, and eating to cope at a buffet 👀 What it looks like in real life: eating to feel safe, eating to rest, eating to procrastinate, and going round the same "tomorrow will be different" cycle 🧠 Why our brains do it: food calms the nervous system, ADHD brains chase dopamine, and shame quietly runs the show 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: comfort eating, emotional eating, overeating, binge eating, and the overlap with ADHD 🧰 Coping mechanisms: the reactionary gap, building a rhythm instead of a rigid plan, anchor meals, and planning for the days you fall off 🌱 How to make peace with it: your patterns are not personal, and curiosity gets you further than willpower ever will. Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned Sarah Dosanjh: thebingeeatingtherapist.comSarah on YouTube and Instagram: @the_binge_eating_therapistSarah's book: I Can't Stop EatingPodcasts: Life After Diets, Feelings and Other InconveniencesSarah's live 6-week ADHD and binge eating courseGeneen RothJudson BrewerIntuitive Eating 💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    47. Too Out of Control Around Food - Binge Eating, ADHD and Why Willpower Was Never The Problem

  4. Jul 20

    46. Too Particular About Everything - Everyday Perfectionism, Just-Rightness & The Pressure to Get Everything Right

    Ever felt like you're too particular to just let things go? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who notice everything) get real about what we call everyday perfectionism. Not just perfectionism at work or in big achievements, but the tiny, relentless moments where things have to feel just right before you can properly relax. We explore how this can show up through sensory needs, autistic pattern recognition, OCD-style "just-rightness", shame, control, and the constant pressure to do everyday life the "right" way — from cleaning and decorating to food, holidays, shopping and even how we talk to other people. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello, inspecting every purchase for tiny flaws, endlessly tweaking things that are "almost right", and replaying everyday decisions because something still doesn't feel quite right. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Returning items over tiny imperfections, struggling to clean "just one room", skin picking, getting overwhelmed by contradictory advice, feeling disappointed when holidays or special occasions don't match the picture in your head, and believing everything has to be done properly. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Sensory differences, autistic pattern recognition, perfectionism, shame, control, intolerance of uncertainty, and sometimes OCD-style "just-right" experiences that make tiny details feel impossible to ignore. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Food, cleaning, decorating, appearance, conversations, routines, social media pressure, exercise, health advice, parenting, work, and the endless feeling that there's one "correct" way to do life. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Learning the difference between sensory needs and perfectionism, choosing your battles, practising "good enough", increasing your tolerance for things being slightly imperfect, and asking what actually matters most to you. 🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe life doesn't have to be perfect to be good — and maybe your energy is too precious to spend chasing "just right" all the time Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------- perfectionism podcast, autism podcast, neurodivergent podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, sensory processing podcast, overthinking podcast, OCD podcast, emotional podcast, sensitivity podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    46. Too Particular About Everything - Everyday Perfectionism, Just-Rightness & The Pressure to Get Everything Right

  5. Jul 13

    45. Too Afraid to Let Myself Matter - People-Pleasing, Self-Abandonment and Finding Your Way Back

    Ever felt like you're too afraid to let yourself matter to say what you actually want?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about self-abandonment: the chronic habit of dismissing, silencing and overriding your own needs until you're not even sure what they are anymore.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough.This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello ignoring your gut, saying "I don't mind" when you do, and not sending the cold meal back👀 What it looks like in real life: staying silent when you disagree, outsourcing your taste to social media, checking everything with Google or AI, pushing past your own body's needs🧠 Why our brains do it: controlling or fragile parents, "good girl" praise, masking, being a woman told not to be selfish, relationships that made you doubt yourself🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: people-pleasing, not advocating for yourself, living by "shoulds", bodily self-abandonment🧰 Coping mechanisms: getting curious instead of judgy, "me as well" not "me first", practising choices with a safe person, micro acts of self-care🌱 How to make peace with it: you don't have to earn the right to matter, and small daily choices are how you find your way back to yourself. Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentionedEllie Middleton 💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Substack: ⁠Too Much, Apparently⁠ → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    45. Too Afraid to Let Myself Matter - People-Pleasing, Self-Abandonment and Finding Your Way Back

  6. Jun 29

    45. Too Tired to Record - Walking our talk and taking a break

    Ever felt like you're too tired to rest?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, it's just Alice (one of two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) sharing that we're taking a short break. This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): needing a rest, feeling guilty for taking one, doing it anyway 👀 What it looks like in real life: stopping feels like falling behind or letting everyone down but it's still necessary 🧠 Why our brains do it: worth tied to output, rest that has to be earned first, neurodivergent changeable capacity 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: taking on too much, not having downtime, feeling too guilty to stop, enjoying the work and not wanting to stop the flow 🧰 Coping mechanisms: join us for reflective journal prompts on Substack or get the Summit VIP Pass for our talk and talks on sustainable practice 🌱 How to make peace with it: take the break, stay connected on Substack, come back rested Thanks for listening 💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned Substack: Too Much, Apparently Prosper in Private Practice Summit (lifetime access closes Wed 1st July) 💬 New episodes every Monday (paused during the break).🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

  7. Jun 22

    44. Too Old to Make Friends - Why Adult Friendships Feel So Hard (And What Actually Helps)

    Ever felt like you’re too awkward to make friends as an adult? Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists navigating connection in a world that doesn’t make it easy) get real about why making friends in adulthood can feel so confusing, exposing, and genuinely difficult. We explore the gap between wanting connection and actually knowing how to create it — from social anxiety and overthinking to modern life, time pressures, and the loss of built-in community. This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello hovering over messages, wanting friends but not knowing how to start, and feeling like everyone else already has their people. 👀 What it looks like in real life: Struggling with small talk, not knowing how to turn one interaction into a friendship, feeling out of place in social settings, and connections that fizzle out before they deepen. 🧠 Why our brains do it: Fear of rejection, lack of modelling, social anxiety, past experiences, and the reality that adult life doesn’t naturally create repeated, meaningful contact. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Avoiding reaching out, overthinking every interaction, freezing in conversations, relying on online connection, or convincing yourself it’s “too late.” 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Staying in your comfort zone, withdrawing, telling yourself you’re “just not good at it,” or waiting for friendships to happen naturally (even when they don’t). 🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe it’s not that you’re bad at friendship — maybe it’s that adult friendship requires intention, courage, and small, imperfect steps. Thanks for listening            💛💜🩷🩵🧡 💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice 📩 Email us: hello@toomuchapparently.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you. -------------------------------------------------------------------- adult friendship podcast, loneliness podcast, making friends podcast, social anxiety podcast, therapy podcast, mental health podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, neurodivergent podcast, connection podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast

    44. Too Old to Make Friends - Why Adult Friendships Feel So Hard (And What Actually Helps)

  8. Jun 15

    43. Too Many Tabs Open in My Brain - Task Overwhelm, Curiosity Spirals and Letting Go of Wasted Potential

    Ever felt like you're too full of ideas and tasks to ever switch off and rest?Yeah. Us too. In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about having a brain with far too many tabs open. The kind that has five Chrome windows, 92 tabs on your phone, three notebooks on the go, and hands you a brilliant new idea right when you're already drowning in the last ten.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to make something honest while also being scared it might be boring / cringe / too much / not enough. This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello five Chrome windows, the 11pm "further versus farther" deep dive, and the book idea you've pitched your partner six different times👀 What it looks like in real life: counting your actual open tabs, deep diving the mechanics of drowning at half ten at night, building elaborate systems you never use🧠 Why our brains do it: curiosity that won't quit, ideas as fantasy and avoidance, externalising everything because you can't hold it in your head anymore🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Alice's spreadsheet brain full of tasks, Carly's blank canvas covered in paint splatters, the fear that you're wasting your potential🧰 Coping mechanisms: colour-coded calendars, the two-bowl task picker, the Eisenhower Matrix, gamified to-do apps, a Bright Shiny Things notebook, and getting okay with quitting🌱 How to make peace with it: you'll never clear the list, and that's allowed, some ideas are just sparks you get to enjoy rather than tasks you failed to finish Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡 Resources mentioned The Prosper in Private Practice Summit - Join Here! (Affiliate link - It's completely free to join and we get commission if you upgrade to the VIP package)Meditations for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanThe Eisenhower Matrix (urgent / important method)Finch (gamified self-care and to-do app)💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation. 🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com → Substack: Too Much, Apparently 👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist 👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice Join us at the Prosper in Private Practice Summit! (Affiliate link - It's completely free to join and we get commission if you upgrade to the VIP package) 📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com 🗓️ New episodes every Monday This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it. Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

    43. Too Many Tabs Open in My Brain - Task Overwhelm, Curiosity Spirals and Letting Go of Wasted Potential
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A podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking, emotionally squishy humans who’ve been told they’re too much (and somehow not enough). Hosted by Carly and Alice, two therapists who live this stuff too and speak the language of overthinkers, feel-everythingers, and those who carry a little too much all the time. We talk about overwhelm, identity, shame, burnout, boundaries, and the wild, wonderful messiness of being human. Not quite therapy - but honest, compassionate, thoughtful conversations grounded in psychology and realness. No fixing. Just space to be you. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    51
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Alice Tew and Carly Radford
  • Show Website
    Too Much, Apparently

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