A Man Isn't A Plan

Hannah Haller & Janne Robinson

A man can be a part of your plan, just don’t make him all of it. Velveteen rabbit style real and raw conversations about being a woman on dharma and on purpose. Hannah Haller lives on her four-acre off-grid homestead in Hawai'i she bought in cash and built from raw land. Between teaching live-streaming yoga classes, leading retreats, writing a bestselling Substack, and actively building a regenerative farm, she shares with her pup, Pete. Over the past 15 years, Hannah has turned an unconventional life into a multi six-figure business and cult-like following – without ever chasing one. Janne Robinson wrote her viral poem This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k in 2014 a piece that reached millions and became an anthem for women putting themselves on the menu. She is the author of two poetry books This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k and There’s Cobwebs on Her Vagina and, as a coach, has helped thousands of people create a life of authentic belonging. Janne has led over 200 purpose sessions and has helped more than 120 women start companies from their gifts. Her work is rooted in one core belief — belonging from anything other than who you are isn’t worth it. Authors:Hannah HallerJanne Robinson

Episodes

  1. 4d ago

    10. Gay Hendricks on Radical Feminism, Fear & Conscious Relationships | No Free Men Until Women Are Free.

    What does it take to become a man who truly understands, respects, and listens to women? In this powerful conversation, Janne Robinson and Hannah Haller welcome Gay Hendricks, renowned author, relationship expert, and self-described radical feminist, to explore how fear shapes the way we love, communicate, and relate to one another. Drawing from his life, decades of therapeutic work, and 47 years with his wife, Katie, Gay shares why gender equality isn't just a women's issue. It's part of becoming a more conscious, emotionally honest human being. From the experiences that first awakened his sense of injustice to the hidden fears behind control and discrimination, this conversation challenges us to look inward, listen more deeply, and question the patterns we've been taught to accept. Together, they explore: * Why Gay Hendricks identifies as a radical feminist * The childhood experiences that shaped his belief in equality * How fear can fuel control, discrimination, and disrespect * Why listening to women is an essential life skill for men * How to honor fear instead of suppressing or judging it * Gay's simple 10-second practice for working with fear * The four common responses to fear: fight, flight, freeze, and faint * How old conditioning can influence our romantic relationships * The relationship "choice point" that determines whether we repeat old patterns or try something new * What it means for men to embrace their emotions, compassion, and vulnerability * Why conscious relationships begin with the willingness to look inward * How we can hold compassion for others while still honoring our boundaries This isn't just a conversation about feminism. It's about the freedom that becomes possible when we stop letting fear dictate how we treat one another, and start taking responsibility for the kind of people we choose to become. Because, as Gay reminds us, there can be no free men until there are free women. Connect with Gay Hendricks Gay Hendricks is the bestselling author of more than 40 books, including The Big Leap and Conscious Loving, co-written with his wife, Katie Hendricks. Together they founded The Hendricks Institute and the Foundation for Conscious Living. 🌐 Website: https://www.hendricks.com 📚 Gay's books: https://www.amazon.com/Gay-Hendricks/e/B000APFFK0 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialgayhendricks/ 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hendricksinstitute 💛 Foundation for Conscious Living: https://www.foundationforconsciousliving.org More from the Hendricks community: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendrickscommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gay-hendricks-195a90/ Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  2. 5d ago

    9. Rape Culture, Bystander Apathy & Our Own Stories | Cornell Part 2

    🚨 Emergency Yap, Part 2 Why are women still being taught how to avoid being raped? Why is the responsibility to stop sexual violence so often placed on victims of sexual assault instead of the people who commit it? In this continuation of their conversation on the Cornell case, Hannah and Janne speak candidly about their own experiences with sexual assault, the shame survivors are made to carry, and the cultural attitudes that allow perpetrators to escape accountability. In 1964, Kitty Genovese was raped and murdered outside her apartment building in Queens, New York, as neighbors heard her screams and failed to help. Her death became the story that defined bystander apathy, and more than sixty years later, the same silence still protects perpetrators, from fraternity group chats to the institutions meant to keep women safe. They explore what it means to grow up in a world where girls are taught to be careful, protect themselves, and question their own choices, while conversations about consent, responsibility, and intervention are too often missing. From the harm of victim-blaming to the importance of listening to our intuition, this episode is an honest call for a different way forward. Together, they discuss: * Why survivors so often blame themselves for what happened to them * How Hannah's experience as a teenager shaped her understanding of shame and sexual assault * The personal experiences Janne and Hannah have carried for years * Why being intoxicated or incapacitated is not consent * How society has normalized placing responsibility on women to prevent sexual violence * The importance of teaching boys and girls about consent, boundaries, and accountability from an early age * The story of Kitty Genovese and what bystander apathy is * Why people sometimes fail to intervene when someone is in danger * How parents can create safe spaces for children to speak up without fear of being blamed * Why we need accountability at both individual and institutional levels * How women sharing their stories can help others feel less alone * Why listening to your intuition and honoring your boundaries matters in relationships * How women can support one another by sharing information and speaking honestly about unsafe behavior * What it will take to challenge rape culture and create meaningful change This conversation isn't about asking women to live in fear. It's about creating a culture where consent is understood, survivors are believed and supported, people intervene when they witness harm, and perpetrators are held accountable. Change begins with honest conversations, but it cannot end there. Trigger warning: This episode includes personal accounts and discussions of sexual assault, sexual violence, murder, childhood experiences, and trauma. Please take care of yourself and skip this episode if these topics aren't right for you right now. If this episode brings something up for you, you're not alone. In the U.S., you can reach RAINN 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 or rainn.org. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  3. Oct 10

    8. From Fear to Love: Rethinking Activism, Motherhood & Our Connection to the Ocean

    We dive into a deeper conversation about living with intention, reconnecting with what matters, and creating meaningful change from a place of love rather than fear. Through honest stories and personal experiences, we explore how our relationships, choices, values, and sense of purpose can evolve as we grow. This conversation invites us to look beyond urgency and external expectations and consider what it really means to live consciously, stay connected to ourselves, and contribute to a more beautiful world. In this episode, we explore: Living intentionally and making choices that feel aligned Moving from fear and urgency toward love and presence Finding purpose through personal experiences and challenges The impact of motherhood on identity, values, and perspective Environmental activism and creating meaningful change Rethinking how we approach sustainability and environmental action Building community around shared values Reconnecting with nature and the ocean Creating positive solutions rather than focusing only on problems Choosing action that comes from love, connection, and hope What it means to create a life that reflects what you truly care about Finding deeper meaning in the way we live, love, and contribute Meet Kathryn Nelson 🐚 Kathryn Nelson is an environmental activist, author, content creator, and the founder of Plastic Free Mermaid. She has lived plastic-free for more than 12 years, working across campaigns, policy, education, and media while building a community of more than 100,000 people around plastic-free living and ocean conservation. She is also a mother to a gorgeous four-year-old, which has become a catalyst for greater presence and sincerity in her activism. Kathryn shares how her approach has shifted from one driven by fear and urgency to one rooted in love. Through mermaid retreats, ocean adventures, and her new podcast Beautiful World, Kathryn inspires people to reconnect with the sea, discover positive solutions, and take meaningful action toward a healthier planet. Connect with Kathryn here 🐚 📸 Instagram: Plastic Free Mermaid 🎙️ Podcast – Beautiful World: Beautiful World on Spotify ▶️ YouTube: Confessions of a Mermaid Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  4. Oct 1

    7. The Cornell 7: What Happened, What We Know & Why Accountability Matters

    In this episode of A Man Isn’t a Plan, Hannah S. Haller and Janne Robinson have a difficult but necessary conversation about the allegations surrounding the so-called “Cornell 7” — and the much bigger questions the case raises about consent, sexual violence, accountability, victim-blaming, institutional responsibility, and the culture that allows people to look away. The conversation begins by separating what has been publicly reported from what remains alleged, including the civil lawsuit, the earlier report to Cornell University Police, the university’s disciplinary response, and the renewed criminal investigation. From there, Hannah and Janne explore: * Why consent cannot be assumed when someone is intoxicated or incapacitated * Why victims may delay reporting sexual violence * The devastating impact of victim-blaming and shame * The responsibility of bystanders who witness or become aware of abuse * How institutions should respond when allegations of sexual violence are brought forward * Why accountability matters for changing cultural behavior * The importance of men becoming allies and intervening when someone is being harmed * How women are often taught to minimize, dismiss, or question their own experiences * What it means to create a culture where people are valued, protected, and treated with dignity This is a raw and emotional conversation about something neither of us believes should ever be normalized. Content warning: This episode discusses sexual assault, drugging, trauma, rape, victim-blaming, and other potentially triggering topics. Please remember that allegations discussed in this episode are allegations, and the legal process is ongoing. A Man Isn’t a Plan is a podcast about relationships, culture, gender, boundaries, personal responsibility, and the complicated conversations we don't always know how to have. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  5. Aug 28

    5. Sex, Intimacy & The Slow Burn: Why Sex Isn’t Love

    We unpack the difference between sex and emotional intimacy, and how moving quickly into physical connection can sometimes create the illusion of love, security, or emotional closeness. We share our own experiences with dating, intimacy, and learning to slow down, set boundaries, and become more intentional about who we allow into our lives and bodies. We explore what it means to build connection through friendship, discernment, and a “slow burn” instead of rushing toward physical intimacy. * Why we once believed sex could lead to love, emotional connection, or relationship security * Dating apps and the “fast food culture” of modern dating and instant gratification * The value of slow-burn dating and taking time to genuinely know someone * Setting boundaries early and how they can reveal whether someone is truly aligned with you * The idea of energetic exchange and the lasting imprint physical intimacy can leave * Becoming more selective about who we share our bodies and energy with * What past relationships can teach us, even when they ended painfully * Sharing stories between women as a way to offer support, awareness, and protection—and knowing when it becomes unproductive gossip * Taking responsibility for our lives without using accountability to dismiss or minimize trauma * Breaking cycles of pain and abuse instead of allowing them to continue through generations * Asking what we truly want from intimacy, relationships, and the people we choose to let close Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  6. Jul 24

    2. Shame Can’t Live in the Light – Abortion & Miscarriage

    We share our experiences inside of abortion, pregnancy loss, and how sharing the “bottom of the ocean” moments can reduce shame and help other women feel less alone. We also talk about boundaries, performative vulnerability, and what feminism and patriarchy is and isn’t. *Trigger Warning: mentions about abortion and pregnancy loss In this episode, we discuss about: Janne getting pregnant during a major life restart and her choice to have an abortion.Writing and sharing the article on her emotional process that led to her choice to have an abortion and the backlash (being called a murderer by her first boyfriend and man she slept with who was Christian) as well as the 400+ comments and messages from women confiding in her for the first time about their abortions. Hannah’s pregnancy loss and the shock of a life path changing overnight.Our capacity to feel joy as a deeper emotional spectrum after experiencing deep loss.Why it can feel safer to be vulnerable with strangers than close friends.Telling your truth without exposing someone else’s truth.Discussing what patriarchy means and doesn’t mean. Being against a system built by men, not anti-men and the importance of feminism past and present tense for women to have equality and choice.Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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A man can be a part of your plan, just don’t make him all of it. Velveteen rabbit style real and raw conversations about being a woman on dharma and on purpose. Hannah Haller lives on her four-acre off-grid homestead in Hawai'i she bought in cash and built from raw land. Between teaching live-streaming yoga classes, leading retreats, writing a bestselling Substack, and actively building a regenerative farm, she shares with her pup, Pete. Over the past 15 years, Hannah has turned an unconventional life into a multi six-figure business and cult-like following – without ever chasing one. Janne Robinson wrote her viral poem This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k in 2014 a piece that reached millions and became an anthem for women putting themselves on the menu. She is the author of two poetry books This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k and There’s Cobwebs on Her Vagina and, as a coach, has helped thousands of people create a life of authentic belonging. Janne has led over 200 purpose sessions and has helped more than 120 women start companies from their gifts. Her work is rooted in one core belief — belonging from anything other than who you are isn’t worth it. Authors:Hannah HallerJanne Robinson

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