Outwitting the Manipulator

Dr. Dennis Becker & Robin Golinski
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Welcome to Outwitting the Manipulator, the podcast that gives you powerful techniques to protect yourself as manipulation is taking place. Your hosts are authors and communication experts Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker. You can find the book, Outwitting the Manipulator, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Manipulator-Protecting-Yourself-Real-Time/dp/1953806244 Our main website: https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/outwitting-the-manipulator/id1644706232 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4peb6yxqyrYQllAo8c6KTE?si=NbBsepYzSc-FWrwOjHAuCA To get your copy of Robin and Dennis's on-Demand Training Course made up of eight video modules, practice worksheets and more, go to www.manipulator.help and use the password FREEDOM to get 25% off. In their friendly and expert style, Robin and Dennis will help strengthen your ability to defend yourself from manipulation as it is happening.

  1. 4H AGO

    Sandy Rosenthal and the Truth About Katrina

    Robin and Dennis discuss manipulation with a special focus on Sandy Rosenthal's work following Hurricane Katrina. Sandy Rosenthal, founder of levies.org, shares her journey of uncovering the real cause behind the catastrophic flooding in New Orleans. She details the harassment and pushback she faced from the Army Corps of Engineers and the extensive damage caused due to improperly built levees. Sandy explains her strategies to counter manipulation and emphasizes the importance of never letting anyone make you feel defensive. The conversation also highlights Rosenthal's ongoing mission to incorporate lessons from engineering failures into college curricula to prevent future disasters.   Topics 00:36 Today's Topic: Manipulation and Sandy Rosenthal 01:32 Sandy Rosenthal's Background and Mission 02:19 Challenges and Pushback 04:46 Discovering the Truth 07:15 Online Harassment and Orchestrated Attacks 09:38 Exposing the Army Corps of Engineers 15:20 Manipulative Tactics and Defense Strategies 19:42 The Challenge of Addressing Complex Issues 20:09 Handling Manipulative Questions with Grace 20:41 The Importance of Tone in Responses 21:46 Learning from Past Mistakes 23:02 The Cost of Harassment and Legal Battles 25:39 Remaining Neutral Under Pressure 31:32 The Mission of Levies.org 32:58 The Legacy of Sandy Rosenthal 35:13 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

    39 min

  2. 12/10/2025

    From Manipulator to Man of Discipline: Gethro’s 400-Day Reset

    Six months after first opening up about his past manipulative patterns, Gethro LaCroix returns with a striking update. He’s now over 400 days sober, committed to the gym, off social media, and deepening his connection to faith and community. He shares how he avoids slipping into old habits—womanizing, drinking, smoking—by remembering the chaos they caused and grounding himself in daily discipline. A highlight: a friend took Gethro’s advice to “pick a lane” and abandon the mix-and-match lifestyle of half-good-guy, half-player. That moment showed Gethro how teaching others reinforces his own growth. Gethro’s relationship is thriving through transparency and mutual transformation. Both partners quit substances, practice prayer and fasting for decision-making, and are intentionally moving toward marriage. He’s learning to lead with love rather than dominance. Meanwhile, friends and family are surprised—some skeptical—but they respect the boundaries he now holds firmly. He’s no longer the guy to call for drinking or smoking; he’s the one you call for advice, a workout, or a grounding conversation. Anchored by a new sleep schedule, structured days, and an intentional lifestyle, Gethro’s transformation is steady, disciplined, and—most importantly—real.   Topics 01:09 Reconnecting with Gethro LaCroix 01:47 Gethro's Personal Growth Journey 03:51 Maintaining Sobriety and Facing Temptations 05:12 Inspiring Others and Sharing Wisdom 08:38 The Importance of Transparency in Relationships 11:41 Changing Dynamics with Friends 20:44 Family Reactions to Personal Transformation 21:01 Cold Turkey Transformation 21:58 Family Reactions and Belief 23:31 The Role of Faith and Discipline 28:26 Relationship Dynamics and Growth 33:51 The Power of Routine and Scheduling 38:36 Final Reflections and Future Plans

    41 min

  3. 11/21/2025

    You Can’t Litigate Love: Finding the Ghosts Behind Family Fights

    Attorney Patricia Annino joins Robin to reveal the truth behind most “legal” family disputes: they aren’t legal at all — they’re emotional. Patricia explains that every family has a “ghost” (a buried issue like abuse, addiction, favoritism, or betrayal) that quietly drives manipulation, conflict, and expensive litigation. Until that ghost is named, nothing gets resolved. She shares a striking case where years of multimillion-dollar litigation ended instantly once the real issue — childhood abuse — was finally acknowledged. Patricia emphasizes that you can’t litigate love, and most people avoid the emotional root because it’s easier to hire lawyers than face their own patterns. Robin and Patricia discuss the courage it takes to break generational cycles, take responsibility for your part of the dance, and say the thing no one else will say — because that’s the only way families truly move forward.   Topics 01:01 Understanding Manipulation in Family Dynamics 02:43 The Role of Inner Scripts and Ghosts 04:18 Case Study: Uncovering Hidden Family Issues 05:52 Challenges in Legal Practice and Emotional Intelligence 07:15 Prenuptial Agreements and Family Dynamics 07:42 The Importance of Emotional Insight in Legal Matters 10:33 Generational Ghosts and Personal Responsibility 19:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    21 min

  4. 11/12/2025

    Battle for Your Brain: Curiosity, Courage, and Control

    Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker make a bold case: our culture often rewards manipulation because people fear backlash and comply. This episode flips that script. Robin and Dennis show how learning in-the-moment self-protection skills—clear boundaries, firm inflection, steady eye contact, succinct language—creates a personal and societal ripple effect: we stop feeding the very behavior we want to end. They unpack the hidden “tells” manipulators scan for (up-talk, hesitations, slumped posture, over-explaining) and explain why backlash is actually a sign of success—evidence your boundary landed. With the “3 C’s” (be Curious, have the Courage to speak up, and the Courage to ask questions), they teach how to confront tactics without being baited into long explanations. The hosts stress persistence: applied calmly and repeatedly, noncompliance makes manipulators move on, trading “being liked” for being respected. Beyond relationships, they spotlight manipulation in advertising, institutions, and social feeds—and remind listeners that learning these skills is like mastering a new language: hard at first, empowering for life. They close with the mantra “Less is more”—the less ammo you give, the less control they have—and point listeners to their on-demand course at manipulator.help for step-by-step practice. Topics 01:42 The Cost of Compliance 03:59 Facing the Fear of Backlash 07:07 Recognizing Manipulative Tactics 08:45 Non-Verbal Cues and Communication 11:09 The Importance of Communication Coaching 13:00 Understanding the Manipulator's Strategy 14:05 Steps to Ensure Your Safety 15:19 The Motivation Behind Non-Compliance 16:03 Spotting Red Flags Early 16:40 The Cost of Ignoring Red Flags 18:08 Manipulation Tactics in Everyday Life 19:22 The Importance of Curiosity and Courage 21:28 The Joy of Learning and Overcoming Challenges 24:51 Persistence Against Manipulators 27:51 Final Thoughts and Wrap-Up

    31 min

  5. 10/08/2025

    Escape the Timeshare Trap: How to Spot the Manipulation—and Get Out

    When “free nights” and glossy model homes turn into endless fees and fine print, you may have stepped into the timeshare trap. In this episode, Robin and Dr. Dennis welcome Tim Downey—former 22-year timeshare owner turned advocate and founder of Truthful Timeshare Termination—who breaks down the industry’s most common manipulation tactics and the legal concepts that actually put you back in control. You’ll learn: What you’re really buying (hint: rights, not property) and how point systems blur the truth The crucial differences between rescission, “rights of use,” and true ownership Why “good standing” and “fee simple” matter—and how they can unlock an exit How exit/cancellation companies exploit shame, urgency, and confusion The “missing phrases” and 20 key terms Tim watches for when reading contracts Tim shares how he helps owners reclaim their power—sometimes in days—by understanding what’s not said in the paperwork. Robin and Dennis connect the dots to everyday defense: stay curious, have the courage to ask hard questions, and refuse to be shamed into silence. If you or someone you love is tangled in a timeshare, this conversation is your playbook for getting free—without losing your peace (or your wallet). Topics 02:37 Understanding Timeshares 05:10 The Reality of Timeshare Ownership 07:10 Manipulation and Coercion in Timeshares 12:26 Legal Aspects and Getting Out of Timeshares 18:45 Understanding the Manipulative Tactics 19:29 The Financial Trap of Timeshares 20:12 Personal Experiences with Sales Tactics 21:22 Empowering Financial Awareness 23:00 Tim Downey's Expertise and Services 28:49 The Moral Dilemma of Manipulation 33:07 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

    35 min

  6. 09/26/2025

    Fact vs. Feeling: Outsmarting Manipulators Word by Word

    When you’re caught in the heat of manipulation, it’s easy to get swept away by emotions—and that’s exactly the point. In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker reveal how manipulators deliberately choose words to ignite reactions, control momentum, and keep you off balance. They break down how to spot these verbal traps, why even “neutral” words can carry manipulative weight, and how to stay grounded by separating fact from feeling. Whether you’re dealing with a difficult partner, workplace manipulator, or simply navigating today’s emotionally charged media, this conversation gives you the tools to pause, question, and reclaim control.   Topics 00:56 Identifying Manipulative Words 01:57 Emotional Control in Manipulative Interactions 04:55 Manipulation in Media and News 06:52 The Complexity of Neutrality and Bias 12:22 Philosophical Debate on Right and Wrong 15:18 Manipulators' Self-Interest 16:09 Understanding Manipulative Relationships 16:32 The Illusion of Love in Manipulative Dynamics 18:35 Recognizing Patterns of Manipulation 19:45 Levels of Communication: From Gossip to Argument 21:28 The Power of Word Choice in Manipulation 23:43 Strategies to Identify and Counter Manipulation 28:25 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

    31 min

  7. 09/15/2025

    "Liked or Respected? The Manipulator’s Favorite Dilemma"

    In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski tackle a tough choice many people face—especially under manipulation—deciding whether you want to be liked or respected. They explain why this binary decision can be a trap, particularly for “pathos” personalities who lead with emotion, and how manipulators exploit that vulnerability. Using insights from ethos–pathos–logos communication styles, they break down the risks of prioritizing likability in professional settings, how emotional dominance can cloud judgment, and strategies to protect yourself in real-time. The conversation emphasizes practical ways to maintain credibility, assert boundaries, and avoid falling into the manipulator’s game.   Topics 01:27 The Binary Choice: Respect vs. Being Liked 02:13 Understanding Ethos, Pathos, and Logos 03:38 Manipulation in Professional Settings 07:45 The Manipulator's Tactics 14:19 Changing Your Mindset 17:29 Understanding the Manipulator's Intentions 17:54 Identifying Traits of Respectable People 18:39 Self-Reflection and Personal Boundaries 20:17 Observing Manipulation in Others 21:04 The Cult Analogy: Pathos and Ethos 22:43 The Subtle Erosion of Self 23:40 Reacting to Manipulation in the Workplace 25:32 Invitation for Real-Life Scenarios 28:16 Building Personal Power and Respect 29:56 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

    32 min

  8. 09/02/2025

    Defending Against Manipulative Questions

    Dennis and Robin discuss how manipulators use questions as a tactic to control and confuse their targets. The hosts offer valuable insights on how to recognize and respond to such questions effectively. Techniques include maintaining neutrality, avoiding defensive answers, and using non-verbal cues. They also explore various types of manipulators (ethos, pathos, logos) and provide strategies tailored to each type. The episode emphasizes the importance of staying composed and setting boundaries to protect oneself from manipulation.   Topics 01:28 The Power of Manipulative Questions 03:59 False Choices: A Manipulator's Tactic 04:47 Techniques to Counter Manipulative Questions 12:22 The Importance of Neutrality 20:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    23 min
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Welcome to Outwitting the Manipulator, the podcast that gives you powerful techniques to protect yourself as manipulation is taking place. Your hosts are authors and communication experts Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker. You can find the book, Outwitting the Manipulator, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Manipulator-Protecting-Yourself-Real-Time/dp/1953806244 Our main website: https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/outwitting-the-manipulator/id1644706232 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4peb6yxqyrYQllAo8c6KTE?si=NbBsepYzSc-FWrwOjHAuCA To get your copy of Robin and Dennis's on-Demand Training Course made up of eight video modules, practice worksheets and more, go to www.manipulator.help and use the password FREEDOM to get 25% off. In their friendly and expert style, Robin and Dennis will help strengthen your ability to defend yourself from manipulation as it is happening.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Dennis Becker & Robin Golinski
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2022 pod617 - The Boston Podcast Network, All rights reserved.
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