Permission to Love with Jerry Henderson Jerry Henderson

Have you ever stood in the shadow of your own unmet potential, feeling the weight of the person you might have been if ltrauma hadn't left its mark? 

This is a reality many face, and in our latest podcast episode, we journey into the process of grieving what trauma stole from us as a way to journey  into deeper healing. 

Together, we confront the raw emotions of anger and rage that emerge from the unnamed sorrow we carry. 

We look at practical writing exercises that can be powerful tools for recovery. We will examine how to craft letters that articulate the deep-seated grief of what we might have become without the trauma we experienced. 

We also  celebrate who we are today and learn how to see the beautiful qualities about who you are now. 

Yes trauma stole so much from so many of us and we need to grieve that. And as we grieve we can  also learn to see, fully love, and accept who we are now. And it is from that place that we can start walking into the all the beauty right now in this present moment. 

0:00 - Introduction: The Impact of Unresolved Grief
0:59 - The Concept of Grieving Potential Selves
3:55 - Healthy Grieving vs. Staying Stuck in the Past
4:39 - Understanding and Initiating the Grieving Process
5:36 - The Dual Nature of Grief: What Wasn't Given and What Was Taken
6:26 - Exploring the Five Stages of Grief Related to Lost Potential
7:57 - Practical Steps to Grieve Who You Might Have Become
8:51 - Exercise: Writing a Letter to Your Future Self
10:12 - Exercise: Writing a Letter to Your Present Self
12:02 - Moving Towards Acceptance and Letting Go
13:28 - Celebrating the Person You Are Today
14:20 - Final Exercise: Recognizing Your Current Strengths and Qualities

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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In this episode we discuss how to discover the transformative power of the present moment to heal your relationship with yourself and how being present can help heal your nervous system. 
Whether you struggle with being present, feel overwhelmed by life's demands, or seek escape through distractions, this episode is tailored to guide you towards profound self-healing and acceptance.
What You'll Learn:
The Importance of Presence: Understand why embracing the present is crucial for healing and how avoiding it can hinder your progress.Why we avoid being present: Why it is important for us to understand how not being present is serving us. The Benefits of Being Present: Three Ways Being Present Helps Heal Our Nervous SystemAcceptance Techniques: Explore methods to foster self-love and accept your true self, by being present. Mindfulness Practices: Simple, actionable strategies to enhance mindfulness and maintain presence in everyday life.I know how transformational the practice of being present has been for me. I hope you find the same benefit in practicing being present as a part of your healing journey.

0:00 - Introduction to the Healing Power of Presence
1:31 - The Impact of Being Present on Self-Healing
5:17 - Why We Avoid Being Present and Its Consequences
6:01 - The Three Primary Reasons We Avoid Ourselves
6:40 - The Negative Effects of Avoiding Presence
7:29 - What Does Being Present Mean?
8:28 - The Present Moment as the Only True Moment
9:29 - The Immediate Benefits of Practicing Presence
10:16 - Techniques for Becoming Present in Daily Life
11:32 - How Being Present Transforms Our Emotional Health
12:09 - The Role of Observation in Healing
12:35 - Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk
13:39 - Calming the Nervous System Through Presence
14:05 - Overcoming the Initial Challenges of Being Present
15:07 - The Question That Can Bring You to the Present
15:54 - Recognizing Safety in the Present Moment
16:38 - The Healing Break Provided by Presence
17:41 - Disconnecting from Past and Future to Embrace Now
18:44 - Teaching the Nervous System to Recognize Current Safety
19:40 - Gaining Perspective and Making Rational Choices Through Presence
21:04 - How Presence Clarifies Feelings and Decisions
22:15 - Investigating the Root C

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Transformational Coaching:
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There is a place where you can fully accept yourself and have your self-development/self-improvement come from the place of self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance is a much more healthy and powerful energy to come from as we work to improve ourselves. 

Have you ever struggled with being on a never ending treadmill of self-development. Would you like to learn how to accept yourself while you are also practicing self-development? If so then this episode can be a great resource for you. 

In this episode, we explore the dynamic between self-acceptance and self-development. We discuss how embracing our current selves does not preclude growth and improvement. 

This episode contains helpful insights, personal reflections, and practical advice aimed at helping you cultivate a healthy balance between accepting who you are and striving for personal growth. 

What you will learn:


The definition and importance of self-acceptance and how it differs from complacency.The positive aspects of self-development and how to pursue growth without self-judgment.Practical strategies for cultivating a life-giving approach to personal development.How to recognize when self-improvement efforts might be causing more harm than good.
0:00 - Introduction to Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Development
0:06 - Are You Chasing a "Better" Version of Yourself?
3:11 - The Never-Ending Treadmill of Self-Improvement
4:36 - Understanding the Value of Self-Development
5:59 - Balancing Self-Acceptance with the Desire to Improve
6:51 - Exploring Radical Self-Acceptance
9:06 - Why Accepting Current Realities is Crucial
10:30 - The Role of Self-Acceptance in Personal Growth
13:05 - The Continuous Journey of Self-Acceptance
14:48 - Signs that Self-Development Might Be Going Awry
17:38 - The Trap of External Validation in Self-Improvement
20:02 - The Importance of Being Present and Self-Acceptant
22:12 - Why There is No Final Destination in Growth
24:28 - How Future Self-Perception Influences Current Self-Acceptance
25:35 - Practical Tips for Healthy Self-Improvement
29:45 - Setting Realistic Goals in Self-Development
31:17 - Free Resources

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Transformational Coaching:
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Do you always feel like you need to fix yourself? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you, and if you just keep working on yourself, then you will finally feel "normal" and be able to accept yourself?

The feeling that we need to fix ourselves is often a response to trauma and something we developed as a way to stay safe. In response to the painful things we were experiencing, we began to believe that if we could find something about ourselves to "fix," we could then prevent the abuse or pain. The challenge is that this feeling that we need to fix ourselves got wired into our systems, and now we struggle to let go of it. 

In this episode, I share how you can finally get FREE from the feeling that you need to fix yourself.

As you listen to this episode, you will discover:

1. Why you always feel like you need to fix yourself.
2. Trauma and its impact on feeling like there is something wrong with us that needs to be fixed.
3. Why trying to fix yourself for others never works.
4. Why trying to fix yourself is an illusion.
5. How to let go of trying to fix yourself.
6. How to see the beautiful person you are right now.
7. A simple mindfulness exercise to let go of the belief you need to be fixed.

I hope this episode helps you in your healing journey and opens your eyes to see how you have never been a problem that needs to be fixed.

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Transformational Coaching:
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Have you ever felt like you are chasing after trying to be normal? Do you carry a nagging feeling that there is something wrong with you? Are you always looking for something in your life that needs to be fixed?

I carried that feeling for over 40 years, and in this episode, I share how I got rid of those thoughts and feelings.

This episode is the first of three episodes on the topic of "chasing normal." 

In this first episode, I start the series by helping you understand that nothing is wrong with you. I know you often feel like there is, but the truth is that there has never been anything wrong with you.

In this episode, we will look at the following:

1. How trauma is the origin of that feeling
2. How that feeling has tried to keep us safe.
3. How you can let go of that feeling 
4. An exercise to practice for ongoing healing

I hope by the end of this episode; you will see that there has never been anything wrong with you and can begin to see the beautiful person that you are right now!



You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Transformational Coaching:
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Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you have. Why? Because your relationship with yourself is determines everything else in your life.
When was the last time you asked yourself how your relationship with yourself was going? How long has it been since you took an honest look at how you are treating yourself?
This episode and the companion self-reflection tool is designed to help you do exactly that. I invite you to take time over the next 30 days to reflect on the five key indicators of a healthy self-relationship.
How you think about yourselfHow you feel about yourselfHow you talk about/to yourselfHow you act toward yourselfHow you allow others to treat youThis episode and the self-reflection tool is designed to help you become aware of how you are treating yourself in each of the five areas and then begin healing that part of your relationship with yourself.
At the end of each week, you will have the opportunity to reflect on lessons learned, areas that need improvement, and adjustments you might need to make to your “one thing” goals.
By the end of the 30 days, you will have gained new insights into your relationship with yourself and clarity on what you need to do to have a healthier relationship with yourself.
You can have the life you want, and it starts with healing your relationship with yourself. I am excited for you and cheering you on as you go on this journey.
I am grateful you are here,

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

Transformational Coaching:
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