Put Yourself First

Kat Horrocks
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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

  1. 1d ago

    You Taught Them Not to Worry About You (& it's lonely AF)

    Are you the organised one. The one who initiates, who holds it all together, who remembers every birthday and manages every group chat. You're the friend everyone calls when something's going wrong, and you hold space for them beautifully. Except when it's your turn. Then you go quiet. You don't ask for help. You don't let your feelings take up room, not in the group chat, not at the dinner table, not with your partner. In this episode I'm talking about how lonely that identity can feel, even when you're surrounded by people who love you. I share why this role gets built so early (hello, being praised for being "so reliable" as a kid), what it's actually costing you now, and what I had to let go of to stop carrying everything alone. What we cover: Why being "the strong one" isn't a personality trait, it's a role you were praised into from childhoodThe invisible mental load of constantly tracking, remembering and anticipating for everyone elseWhy you default to going quiet in your own crisis, even with friends you know would show up for youThe difference between being independent and being interdependent, and why independence is actually the lonely oneWhat it actually looks like to let people in, including the small, uncomfortable moment of just saying yes when someone offers to helpWhy saying yes to support is a gift to the other person, not a burden on themMentioned in this episode: Put Yourself First Live this September. Grab Early Bird Tickets Here - https://www.khorrocks.com/PYFliveFollow me on Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/⁠Cherished early bird spots are open now, save £100 on the last round price plus bonus 1:1 sessions over summer. DM me CHERISHED on Instagram for details.DM me COACHING on Instagram to enquire about working together

  2. Jul 6

    Prenups, Money, And The Real Conversations We Had Before Getting Married

    Before anything else - this break was the longest one I've ever taken from this podcast. It wasn't planned. Adam's mum went into end-of-life care right before the wedding. She was there anyway, watching from her bed on FaceTime, glass of wine in hand, cheersing us from a screen. That's the year it's been. The highest high and the lowest low, sat right next to each other, no space between them. I go into it properly in the episode. Here I just want you to know why I went quiet. This episode isn't that though. This is the one you've been messaging me for. Do we have a prenup? What actually got said about money before the ring went on? And what did we do at our wedding that made a few people's eyebrows hit the ceiling? I'm answering all of it. The financial conversation most couples avoid until it's already too late to have it properly. The decision around a prenup that surprised even some of my own clients. And the choices we made on our wedding day that weren't for anyone's comfort but our own. Ready to build this level of honesty into your own relationship? Cherished opens again in September. Join over the summer on early bird and lock in bonus one-to-one sessions with me, no extra cost. DM the word Cherished on Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  3. Jun 8

    The Highs of Marriage and the Lows of Grief: A Raw Life Update

    The penultimate episode before the wedding - and there is a lot to update you on. So I wanted to sit down, get real with you and share what's actually been going on behind the scenes = the good, the exciting and the hard. In this episode I'm sharing: The big business update - closing Put Yourself First Ltd, going back to sole trader and rebranding under my married name (yes, I'm taking Adam's name and yes, the new name is pretty bloody cool)The platform migration - moving the entire Sisterhood to a brand new platform the month before the wedding because apparently I don't do things the easy wayWedding updates - the week off I've booked to decompress, write cards for our guests and just breathe before we get married on 20th JuneThe mini moon - we're flying into Naples and heading to Praiano on the Amalfi Coast and I cannot waitA difficult family health update - we've been navigating anticipatory grief as a family for a few months now and I'm sharing the full context for the first timeWhat this season has taught me about my relationship with Adam, the importance of communication and why I'm more certain than ever that I'm marrying the right personWhy work has been my outlet and my anchor through all of it - and why that's okayOne more episode to come on Monday 15th before I sign off for the wedding - and then I'll be back in July, a married woman. Thank you for being here. It means more than you know. 💗 Offers mentioned: The Sisterhood: 50% off your first 3 months with code LOVERGIRL at checkout (ends Friday 12th June): https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodCherished Autumn 2026: 2 early bird spots left, secure your place for £125: DM me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/Put Yourself First Live in Manchester on 26th September: https://www.khorrocks.com/PYFlive

  4. Jun 1

    Fall Back In Love With Your Life This Summer

    In this episode I'm talking about: Why summer is such a powerful container for this kind of resetWhat "falling back in love with your life" actually means (and what it doesn't)The vulnerability in softness - and why letting yourself receive feels so hard for high achieving womenThe visualisation I take you through to meet the version of you at the end of AugustFour tiny, practical shifts that will genuinely change how you feel by SeptemberHow to join us inside the Sisterhood for our 8 week summer challenge and Lover Girl EraThis one is a feel-good, inspiring listen. Share it with a friend who needs a reminder that she doesn't have to wait for the perfect moment to start enjoying her life. Resources mentioned: Join The Sisterhood - 50% off your first 3 months with code LOVERGIRL: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/Subscribe so you never miss an episode - new episodes every Monday 💗

  5. May 25

    For The Girl Who's Lost Her Spark

    This one's for the girl who's lost her spark a little bit. Maybe you've been going through a rough time lately. Maybe you're so busy and stressed that you've stopped really feeling like yourself. Maybe life has just been happening and you're ready to come back to yourself - back to your joy, your playfulness, your energy, your good vibes. In this episode I'm getting really honest about what's going on in my own life right now and why this work is so personal for me at the moment. I'm also sharing why I think so many women are walking around feeling flat, disconnected and like they've lost that spark - and what it actually takes to get her back. In this episode we talk about: What "losing your spark" actually means and why it happens to so many high-functioning womenThe awareness trap - knowing you need to change but feeling stuck in the gap between knowing and actually doingThe 47 tabs metaphor and the mental load that is quietly draining youWhy you're not going to wait your way into feeling better (and what to do instead)Why no one is coming to save you - and why that is actually the most empowering thing I can tell youThe before and after from the Lover Girl Era embodiment call and what one hour can actually doHow to join us inside The Sisterhood for Lover Girl Era this summerResources mentioned: Join The Sisterhood: 50% off your first 3 months + bonus 1:1 session when you DM me after listening: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhoodConnect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

  6. May 18

    The Mental Load Is REAL - & It's Killing Your Spark

    Do you ever feel like your brain never fully switches off? You sit down to relax and suddenly you’re mentally replaying a work meeting, remembering you need to order your friend’s birthday gift, renew your passport, sort the holiday admin, clean the kitchen, reply to messages, organise plans, and somehow still be present, sexy, connected, calm and emotionally available for everyone around you 🤣 In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the REAL reason so many women feel disconnected from themselves lately. Not because you’re lazy.Not because you’re “bad at self-care”.Not because there’s something wrong with your relationship. But because the mental load women carry is HUGE. And over time, constantly holding everything together can quietly disconnect you from:• your joy• your softness• your libido• your confidence• your nervous system• your spark Inside this episode, we dive into:💗 what the mental load actually is (and why it’s deeper than a to-do list)💗 how women are socialised into over-functioning and hyper-independence💗 why “just ask for help” often doesn’t feel that simple💗 how survival mode impacts your relationship, libido, confidence and energy💗 the hidden cost of constantly being “the capable one”💗 why spaciousness is the medicine modern women need more of And if this episode really hits home for you, I’d absolutely love to invite you inside Lover Girl Era 💗 A free feminine embodiment experience designed to help you:• regulate your nervous system• release stress and tension• reconnect to yourself• feel more playful, confident and connected again• lighten the mental load and stop carrying everything alone ✨ JOIN LOVER GIRL ERA: https://www.khorrocks.com/reset ✨ FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ ✨ APPLY FOR 1:1 COACHING: https://forms.gle/5BoZfPaU5x1wSKYT6 ✨ JOIN THE SISTERHOOD: https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood If you loved this episode, please make sure you’re following the podcast and leave a rating/review because it genuinely helps more women discover the show 💗

  7. May 11

    Are Ambitious Women Too Masculine? The truth about feminine energy, overfunctioning, and why labelling yourself isn't the answer

    Spend 10 Days with me! Lover Girl Era starts Monday the 18th: a free 10 day mini series inside The Sisterhood all about getting your spark back, putting yourself first, and feeling like you again. I have a handful of free guest passes left for non-members. Grab yours here - https://www.khorrocks.com/reset If you've ever been told you're "stuck in your masculine energy" - or quietly wondered it yourself — this episode is for you. There's a loud conversation happening right now about masculine and feminine energy. And a lot of it is reducing ambitious, driven, hardworking women to a label that doesn't serve them. In this episode I'm sharing why I've stopped telling women they're stuck in their masculine energy - and what I think is actually going on underneath the overfunctioning, the burnout, and the constant cycle of doing it all. Because here's the thing. The controlling, the over-organising, the struggle to switch off - those behaviours have a root. They're symptoms. And until we look at what's underneath, we're just mowing the lawn. We're covering: Why "you're in your masculine energy" is being used as a diagnostic tool when it's actually a symptomWhat's really underneath the patterns that get labelled too masculineWhy ambitious, driven women are not the problemWhat feminine energy actually looks like in its full expression - wildness, rage, softness, power, all of itWhy only YOU get to define what feminine energy means for youThis isn't about being softer, more submissive, or less of who you are. It's about understanding yourself at a deeper level - and honouring every part of what it means to be a woman.

  8. May 4

    Staying quiet isn't keeping the peace: avoiding hard conversations in your relationship

    If you've been holding something back from your partner - hoping it'll resolve itself, telling yourself you're overthinking it, or convincing yourself it's not that big a deal - this episode is for you. In this episode I'm talking about avoidance. Not just why it feels easier in the moment, but what it's actually costing you and your relationship over time. In this episode we cover: Why avoidance isn't neutral - it's slowly poisoning your relationshipThe moment avoidance becomes a red flag (and why you might be the one waving it)The feminine energy myth that keeps women stuck and silentWhy "I've already told him" is often not the full storyWhat's really underneath the avoidance - and what to do about itIf you're ready to stop carrying it all silently and start feeling actually supported in your relationship, this one is for you. LINKS Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/ 1:1 Coaching (video invite with details) - https://www.khorrocks.com/private-invite Sisterhood - https://www.khorrocks.com/sisterhood Join the Email Newsletter (+ get a Put Yourself First meditation) - https://www.khorrocks.com/meditation

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Helping female leaders create wild success in their career and next-level intimacy and connection in their relationship, through embodying magnetic feminine leadership. Hosted by feminine leadership and embodiment coach, healer and guide Kat Horrocks. New episodes every Monday! x

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  • Creator
    Kat Horrocks
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    526
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kat Horrocks
  • Show Website
    Put Yourself First

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