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The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people that host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals®. 
She offers invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered in relationships with folks like those. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.
Many Hijackals have behaviors that are considered the same as those who are diagnosed as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, sociopaths, and histrionic personality disorder. These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now. 
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Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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    • 4.7 • 263 Ratings

The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people that host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals®. 
She offers invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered in relationships with folks like those. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.
Many Hijackals have behaviors that are considered the same as those who are diagnosed as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, sociopaths, and histrionic personality disorder. These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now. 
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    DRAMA-DUMPING: The #1 Thing NOT TO DO When Meeting a Person for the First Time

    DRAMA-DUMPING: The #1 Thing NOT TO DO When Meeting a Person for the First Time

    Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it.
    Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutual sharing, and emotional maturity. Oversharing personal traumas can burden the budding relationship and skew its potential for growth.
    Whether you're single, dating, or looking to improve your emotional connections, this episode of #saveyoursanitypodcast share strategies and practices you need, to proceed with care and confidence.

    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    New Relationships and Emotional BaggageUnderstanding Drama Dumping and Trauma DumpingEmotional Health and Relationship DynamicsBuilding Emotional MaturityDating After a Toxic Relationship
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #dramadumping #traumadumping #narcissistsbehaveliketoddlers #traumadumpingredflag #dramadumpingattractcshijackals
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canttrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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    • 33 min
    Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!

    Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!

    SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right?
    Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now.
    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    #Hijackals are emotionally immature.Check your expectations when you approach a narcissist. Expecting equality? Oops!Often feel you're talking to a tiresome toddler or demanding teenager when you try to reason with a Hijackal?Why you need to do your own work to make good decisions about what to do about the Hijackal
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #narcicisstsareemotionallyimmature #emotionallyimmature #hijjackalsareemotionallyimmature #narcissistsbehaveliketoddlers
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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    • 27 min
    Narcissists Make OUTRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to say NO,

    Narcissists Make OUTRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to say NO,

    Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous;
    This episode will sharpen your listening skills and increase your sensitivity to questions that are intrusive, violating, and need a solid NO answer.
    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    Listen for outrageous questions. You may have become used to them,Narcissists want power over you.Meaning of 'coercive control"Learn to diffuse the outrageous question,
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #learntosayno #saynotosadsm #saynotomysogyny #saynotoqhmakesmeuncomfotable
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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    • 43 min
    Standing Up to Narcissistic Intimidation -Here's How!

    Standing Up to Narcissistic Intimidation -Here's How!

    Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent.
    They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode.
    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    Narcissistic people are likely to engage in several kinds of abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, financial, emotional or spiritual Hijackals use intimidation as a quick way to win, or silence someoneChange your perspective and stop allowing yourself to be les than equal.Use the Personal Weather Report to your advantage
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #narcissstiintimitation #respondingtointimidation #stayingcalmwhennarcissistsareangry
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse

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    • 46 min
    How Being the Golden Child In the Family Hurts You

    How Being the Golden Child In the Family Hurts You

    Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time?
    Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you se them differently?
    VERY IMPORTANT EPISODE to straighten your thinking about yourself and others who were treated as Golden Children growing up.
    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    Why being the Golden Child is not a great rolehelp to understand the downsides of being raised by a narcissistic parentRecognize the lasting effects of being the Golden Child or Scapegoat child in a narcissistic familyGiving up the "overachiever" role given to you by your family dynamic
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #goldenchilldinfamily #goldenchildonlychild #goldenchildrepresentsfamily #goldenchildscapgoatlostchild
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse

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    • 34 min
    It's Smart to Stop Trying to Please a Narcissist

    It's Smart to Stop Trying to Please a Narcissist

    Narcissists love it when you run after their approval.
    You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away.
    In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal - save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem.
    Listen in.
    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
    Hijackals want you to please themThey make it very difficult to doWhy narcissists always need to be rightRefusing to remember the truth makes things impossible
    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
    Rhoberta
    FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
    If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
    join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
    Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
    WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
    #narcissistisalwaysright #hijackalalwaysright #narcissistslie #hijackalslie #narcissistsmustwin
    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social
    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
263 Ratings

263 Ratings

Tee Nic ,

Renewed Hope and Freedom . Thank you!

This podcast has been a complete blessing . After 10 years I’ve finally taken back my power and removed the blockage from my life and this podcast has given me so much education , insight and validation on who and what I have been dealing with all these years . It’s helped me to understand the manipulation and games and most important how to face it and stay firm on my decision to leave and live my life freely and peacefully . Thank you

Paula 144 ,

5 Star Podcast

Excellent, thank you! I wish I had found you earlier but having gone through an intense and insane situation I see now what was happening to me, what a pawn I was being made into, and why I could never do enough no matter how much I did. Thank you for laying out the hijackal landscape so clearly and thoroughly and without explaining away the hijackals actions. So many podcasts want to talk about the hijackals trauma causing their behavior. I’ve heard it time and again. It’s sickening. But I’m with you—who cares! I didn’t break them, I don’t have to fix them.

solomonsebastian ,

Paint the sky pink

Thank you

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