The UnMothered Podcast

Phylis Mantelli
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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

  1. 1D AGO

    Most Downloaded Episodes | But It’s Your Family: When Should You Stop That Excuse? | Episode 75

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Part of breaking generational dysfunction is to stop allowing the excuse of, “But it’s your family.”  When do we stick by family because it’s family, and when do we have to decide on something better? Over the years I’ve come to a realization that loving families show up and it’s a safe place, not a place that makes you more miserable when you are around them. Knowing that unless THEY (your mom or family member) want to repent and change AND show that difference over time, you are not required to “hang in there”. That serves no purpose and you will never change the dynamic of your future life or family. Stand strong in this journey of breaking generational dysfunction.  Remember you have a community here. If you haven’t joined “The Unmothered Community” our private group on Facebook is growing each day, and I have a lot of new plans for these amazing, strong women in the future. Just answer 3 questions and you are welcome to join us!  Family is not just the people who gave birth to you, but people who show up and love well!  Check out the book I mention: "But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath" by Dr. Sherrie Campbell: https://bit.ly/3X387yj (this is a affiliate link) The movie mentioned is “Hillbilly Elegy” which is the true story of VP Candidate JD Vance. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    23 min

  2. DEC 15

    Most Downloaded Episodes | Is Your Mom Too Enmeshed in Your Adult Life? | Episode 95

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Does your mom think she’s your best friend? Some mother-daughter relationships blur the line between love and control, with moms inserting themselves into every aspect of their daughter’s life—where they live, what job they take, and even how they dress. Often, this stems from a deep fear of being left behind or an unfulfilled need to relive experiences through their child. While their intentions may not always be harmful, the emotional toll can be overwhelming. This episode unpacks the signs of an overly enmeshed mother, the impact on daughters, and the challenges of setting boundaries. Breaking free isn’t easy, but recognizing these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your independence—without the guilt. ✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why some mothers struggle to separate their own identity from their daughter’s life ✔️ The subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways control and guilt come into play ✔️ Signs you have an overly enmeshed mother ✔️ The emotional toll—and how to break free ✔️ How to set boundaries while maintaining (or redefining) the relationship 📖 Quote from the Episode: "In a healthy relationship, the bond between a mother and her daughter is meant to be a flexible, malleable connection that can withstand distance, conflict, and differences." — Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can’t Love 💡 Final Takeaway: Breaking free from an over-involved mother can be tough, but true freedom comes from standing firm in who you are—even if it means weathering her disapproval. Your life is yours to live. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    26 min

  3. DEC 8

    Most Downloaded Episodes | The Qualities Of A Healthy Mom vs. A Toxic Mom | Episode 107

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more What are the qualities or differences in a healthy Mom versus a toxic Mom?  Big differences in my opinion. Is there such a thing as a perfect mom? I haven’t met one yet, but I know we can always do better than what we have grown up in if we have, in fact, grown up in toxicity.  Let’s talk about what each of these kinds of moms looks like, and see if there is any improvement that needs to be made on our part to be the kind of mother we dream of.  Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    26 min

  4. DEC 1

    Most Downloaded Episodes | Your Mother's Issues Are Your Mother's Issues | Episode 1

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more As I was channel surfing, I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this. Gabby Windey was on a date, and they were talking about family. His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! When she graduated, her mother wrote her off …she started to cry. It broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction. If we look at the history of where your parents came from, chances are there has been a lot of dysfunction for many generations. It may have started with them, but it ends with you! You have the potential to end the cycle of dysfunction and unhappiness. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    23 min

  5. NOV 24

    Gratitude is Everywhere This Time of Year | Episode 124

    How do you show gratitude when everything is falling apart?  Can you find the blessing in the midst of the storm? Digging through this tough time is where your faith grows, but it is tougher than most think.  Let’s find the joy that God knows your pain and still will have good for you moving forward. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    19 min

  6. NOV 17

    Your Body Does Keep the Score When A Sudden Death Happens | Episode 123

    What happens to your own body when a loved one takes their own life?  It’s a touchy subject and not one everyone can talk about to their friends. It’s still a taboo subject and one riddled with guilt and shame.  Everyone wants you to move on, but your body is keeping score.  It’s time to find out how to help yourself process that trauma within.  My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    19 min

  7. NOV 10

    Motherhood and Different Cultures | Episode 122

    Are we too protective and private in our motherhood journey?  I know for some of us, we have put up walls to protect, but what if there was a community that could come alongside you and walk with you through it all! Other countries do it; we need to take a note from their playbook. Today I am taking the advice of my oldest daughter, Ariel, and reading an eye-opening book called “Please Yell at My Kids” by Marina Lopes. If you have ever wondered if you are doing the right thing in your motherhood journey, this is a must-read! I am so happy to share these insights with you today as we explore what other cultures think about motherhood, giving birth, grandparents' roles, community, and so much more! Affiliate link to the book: https://bit.ly/4qQdcbr My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    21 min

  8. NOV 3

    Mothering Without A Map | Episode 121

    Can you become a good mom without a map? Has your dysfunctional childhood warped your parenting skills?  I was asked this question as a guest on a podcast recently, and I wanted to dig through this a bit deeper because I thought it was such a great question!  Lord knows I didn’t do motherhood perfectly, and I was fearful of everything, but we have to let our children fall sometimes so they can learn the lesson of how to pick themselves back up. We can become awesome (not perfect) moms in spite of how we grew up. You just need to be willing to unpack the things that were not healthy or safe and replace them with good, loving habits! 🎙️I just had the opportunity to be on The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina Griffin where we discussed Forgiveness. May it help you and your family!  VIEW ON VARIOUS PLATFORMS Download the Counter Culture Mom App: https://bit.ly/landingpageCCM Click THE CCM SHOW Then select PLATFORMS Apple Podcast link: bit.ly/CCMApplePodcast  Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    21 min
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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

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  • Creator
    Phylis Mantelli
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    141
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Phylis Mantelli
  • Show Website
    The UnMothered Podcast

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