Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Raffaela
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

  1. 14H AGO

    114: Why You Procrastinate The Things You Know Are Good For You

    It's because of your inner critic. But it's not enough to know this one small fact. In fact, maybe reading this leaves you feeling more lost than before. This is because our mind needs to understand the WHY behind new information to make sense of it and organise it in our brain in a way that is helpful. It's like you're on a long hike and someone adds a new, sparkly tool to your backpack. You get the sense it's important, but you don't know what it's for or how to use it, so it just becomes a burden. This is what it's like when we hoard information without learning how to apply it. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why you procrastinate the things you know are good for you and end up picking/pulling/biting at your body instead - The profound part your inner critic plays in this frustrating pattern - Practical tools and questions to apply this knowledge to help you reduce procrastination, feel more regulated, and create more meaningful moments in your life 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    26 min

  2. MAY 19

    113: The Origin Of Intrusive Thoughts & How To Stop Them

    You're not a freak. I used to feel like there was something deeply wrong with me because of the thoughts that would barge their way into my head at the most random, inappropriate moments. But judging yourself and trying to force the intrusive thoughts away has much the same effect as when we do the same with skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting - it just makes things worse. Sometimes destructively worse. I hear you. I see you. Let's work on this together. What you'll learn: 🌟Where your intrusive thoughts are coming from 🌟The unexpected connection to chronic picking, pulling, or biting 🌟3 questions to generate a powerful perspective shift and deep healing Here are the 3 questions from this episode. Save them in your phone for future reference: How does it make me feel?  What does that feeling make me want to do? What is this behaviour protecting me from?  💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    23 min

  3. MAY 12

    112: Why Do I Pick More During PMS?

    Yes, hormonal changes are the obvious answer. But let's not forget the medical gaslighting most women have experienced on this topic, AND the unconscious gaslighting we do to ourselves. What is it about all this that makes you want to pick, pull, and bite at your body with a whole new vigour every single month? I think you can feel it. There's something there that isn't being taken seriously that really deserves to be. It's time to understand what that is for you so that you can better care for yourself at every phase of your cycle. Honour your mind. Honour your body. This is how you can reduce picking, pulling, and biting. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    23 min

  4. MAY 5

    111: Embracing Authenticity to Freedom from Chronic Skin Picking | Yasmin's Story

    Stories of success and healing are few and far between in the BFPA* community (*BFPA = BFRB + addiction science) And even when you hear about someone healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting, there's a little voice that says... "It's not for me." "I'm not like them." That's because you're not getting the full story! You're not hearing the how behind the transformation. In this interview with one of my former clients, Yasmin, that's exactly what you'll get. You’ll not only hear her incredible story of healing and transformation, but also the actions she took and the things we worked on together in our sessions that made all the difference. Who knows, maybe simply through listening, you’ll gain important insight into what you can do to support your own healing as well. Listen in to feel inspired, uplifted, and grounded in your own power through just how real and tangible this healing journey truly is.  🟢Connect with Yamin on Instagram 🟢Email Yasmin at: hello@yasminloeffler.de 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    53 min

  5. APR 28

    110: 4 Most Powerful Growth Areas For Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

    Are you serious about addressing the root cause of chronic picking, pulling, and/or biting? Are you willing to set aside instant gratification for depth and long-term gain? Then let's talk about the 4 most powerful growth areas! In my 15 years of healing and the 3 years I have spent coaching others, like you, to heal as well, I've observed that the greatest change happens when we stop obsessing over how to control and stop this ONE behaviour and start looking at ourselves as a whole, unique human being. We'll explore community, your relationship with self, how you are with self-care, what your purpose is and how you can find it (it's not as overwhelming as you might think. You've probably already been accessing it!) There is so much more to you than picking, pulling, and biting. There is so much more you have to gain than just not engaging in this behaviour anymore. Let's explore all of you. The depths of you. And see what treasure this episode uncovers. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    29 min

  6. APR 21

    109: How to Rest Without Becoming Lazy

    Do you feel like you can only rest AFTER all the work is done? While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever allow ourselves to metaphically "kick off our boots?" When you're stuck on "go", these moments of relief can feel like they're few and far between. And the idea of just giving yourself a break before everything is done feels like a slippery slope into procrastination, avoidance, and laziness. Deep down, you probably know you can't keep living like this, but how in the world can one STOP?? It's simple, profound, and possibly a little uncomfortable. But if you really want to truly and deeply enjoy your life, and you're willing to take full responsibility for that becoming a reality, then let me share with you how it's done and how close that reality actually is for you. We'll talk about: The science behind restHow you might be doing it "wrong" & how to do it "right"And a profound perspective shift that will make you realise you can access this TODAY💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    25 min

  7. APR 14

    108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How

    Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system. So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it. This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest. Easy peasy, right? Right?? Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off. Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt. Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done.  In this episode, we dive deeper into: The science behind why you can't slow downWhere the real problem liesExperience a 5-minute guided somatic practice to help you learn how to switch off, slow down, and rest.This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go". Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy. Listen-in to heal xx 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    26 min

  8. APR 7

    107: 5 Steps to Create Safety, Intimacy & Depth in Your Relationships | Adam Hudson

    We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations. Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better. So what's the point then? The point is this: “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” - Esther Perel The quality of how you communicate determines the quality of your relationships. If your relationship is not where you want it to be, there is a high chance some issues are being swept under the rug in favour of "peace." It's time to learn how to have hard conversations so that you can not only cultivate a deeper sense of safety and stability within your relationship, but also within yourself. Not coincidentally, this is a big component of healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting too! Here's what we cover in this episode: 🌟The 3 styles of couples when it comes to conflict  🌟5 steps to resolve conflict and bring you and your partner closer together  🌟Learn how to move beyond the biggest barriers in having hard conversations - your loved one's reactions 🌟Compatibility Dealbreakers - Read the signs of a relationship that simply won't work  💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

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