Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Raffaela
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

  1. 23H AGO

    111: Embracing Authenticity to Freedom from Chronic Skin Picking | Yasmin's Story

    Stories of success and healing are few and far between in the BFPA* community (*BFPA = BFRB + addiction science) And even when you hear about someone healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting, there's a little voice that says... "It's not for me." "I'm not like them." That's because you're not getting the full story! You're not hearing the how behind the transformation. In this interview with one of my former clients, Yasmin, that's exactly what you'll get. You’ll not only hear her incredible story of healing and transformation, but also the actions she took and the things we worked on together in our sessions that made all the difference. Who knows, maybe simply through listening, you’ll gain important insight into what you can do to support your own healing as well. Listen in to feel inspired, uplifted, and grounded in your own power through just how real and tangible this healing journey truly is.  🟢Connect with Yamin on Instagram 🟢Email Yasmin at: hello@yasminloeffler.de 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    53 min

  2. APR 28

    110: 4 Most Powerful Growth Areas For Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

    Are you serious about addressing the root cause of chronic picking, pulling, and/or biting? Are you willing to set aside instant gratification for depth and long-term gain? Then let's talk about the 4 most powerful growth areas! In my 15 years of healing and the 3 years I have spent coaching others, like you, to heal as well, I've observed that the greatest change happens when we stop obsessing over how to control and stop this ONE behaviour and start looking at ourselves as a whole, unique human being. We'll explore community, your relationship with self, how you are with self-care, what your purpose is and how you can find it (it's not as overwhelming as you might think. You've probably already been accessing it!) There is so much more to you than picking, pulling, and biting. There is so much more you have to gain than just not engaging in this behaviour anymore. Let's explore all of you. The depths of you. And see what treasure this episode uncovers. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    29 min

  3. APR 21

    109: How to Rest Without Becoming Lazy

    Do you feel like you can only rest AFTER all the work is done? While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever allow ourselves to metaphically "kick off our boots?" When you're stuck on "go", these moments of relief can feel like they're few and far between. And the idea of just giving yourself a break before everything is done feels like a slippery slope into procrastination, avoidance, and laziness. Deep down, you probably know you can't keep living like this, but how in the world can one STOP?? It's simple, profound, and possibly a little uncomfortable. But if you really want to truly and deeply enjoy your life, and you're willing to take full responsibility for that becoming a reality, then let me share with you how it's done and how close that reality actually is for you. We'll talk about: The science behind restHow you might be doing it "wrong" & how to do it "right"And a profound perspective shift that will make you realise you can access this TODAY💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    25 min

  4. APR 14

    108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How

    Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system. So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it. This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest. Easy peasy, right? Right?? Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off. Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt. Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done.  In this episode, we dive deeper into: The science behind why you can't slow downWhere the real problem liesExperience a 5-minute guided somatic practice to help you learn how to switch off, slow down, and rest.This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go". Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy. Listen-in to heal xx 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    26 min

  5. APR 7

    107: 5 Steps to Create Safety, Intimacy & Depth in Your Relationships | Adam Hudson

    We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations. Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better. So what's the point then? The point is this: “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” - Esther Perel The quality of how you communicate determines the quality of your relationships. If your relationship is not where you want it to be, there is a high chance some issues are being swept under the rug in favour of "peace." It's time to learn how to have hard conversations so that you can not only cultivate a deeper sense of safety and stability within your relationship, but also within yourself. Not coincidentally, this is a big component of healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting too! Here's what we cover in this episode: 🌟The 3 styles of couples when it comes to conflict  🌟5 steps to resolve conflict and bring you and your partner closer together  🌟Learn how to move beyond the biggest barriers in having hard conversations - your loved one's reactions 🌟Compatibility Dealbreakers - Read the signs of a relationship that simply won't work  💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    1h 11m

  6. MAR 31

    106: Most Effective Practice to Heal Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

    You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for. The problem is that they don't address the root cause. Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives. This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living. Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it. In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface. It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself. This is healing. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    21 min

  7. MAR 24

    105: Why you pick even on a good day and how to stop

    It's infuriating and confusing. Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting? The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated. AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully. The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully. Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body. In this episode: You'll cultivate a deep understanding of why you pick on a good dayThe broader consequences of squashing your emotionsand I walk you through how to feel fully through cultivating a connection between your mind and bodyEnjoy 💛 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    18 min

  8. MAR 17

    104: Willpower will NEVER work but THIS does

    You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body. But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago. So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better... Or you're simply going about this the wrong way. The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth. The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it. And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through. That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck! It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    17 min
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

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