Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Raffaela
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

  1. 2D AGO

    107: 5 Steps to Create Safety, Intimacy & Depth in Your Relationships | Adam Hudson

    We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations. Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better. So what's the point then? The point is this: “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” - Esther Perel The quality of how you communicate determines the quality of your relationships. If your relationship is not where you want it to be, there is a high chance some issues are being swept under the rug in favour of "peace." It's time to learn how to have hard conversations so that you can not only cultivate a deeper sense of safety and stability within your relationship, but also within yourself. Not coincidentally, this is a big component of healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting too! Here's what we cover in this episode: 🌟The 3 styles of couples when it comes to conflict  🌟5 steps to resolve conflict and bring you and your partner closer together  🌟Learn how to move beyond the biggest barriers in having hard conversations - your loved one's reactions 🌟Compatibility Dealbreakers - Read the signs of a relationship that simply won't work  💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    1h 11m

  2. MAR 31

    106: Most Effective Practice to Heal Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

    You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for. The problem is that they don't address the root cause. Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives. This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living. Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it. In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface. It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself. This is healing. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    21 min

  3. MAR 24

    105: Why you pick even on a good day and how to stop

    It's infuriating and confusing. Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting? The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated. AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully. The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully. Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body. In this episode: You'll cultivate a deep understanding of why you pick on a good dayThe broader consequences of squashing your emotionsand I walk you through how to feel fully through cultivating a connection between your mind and bodyEnjoy 💛 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    18 min

  4. MAR 17

    104: Willpower will NEVER work but THIS does

    You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body. But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago. So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better... Or you're simply going about this the wrong way. The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth. The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it. And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through. That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck! It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    17 min

  5. MAR 10

    103: Why you still feel stuck after all this time

    You've spent months, years, if not decades, trying to figure out why you pick, pull, or bite at your body... And yet you STILL do it. Why? What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle? It's actually pretty straightforward, though I wouldn't say it's easy, but neither is feeling stuck after all this time. Let me tell you exactly what this missing piece is, and how to implement it into your life in the most effective, life-changing way. Hint - it's about emotions, and the connection between your mind and body. 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    14 min

  6. MAR 3

    102: Hoping it will get better but it never does

    If there's one experience we can all agree on... It's the feeling of hoping things will get better. Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free. Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past. But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine? And when you understand what's really going on, you can begin to set yourself free and feel the empowerment that's waiting beneath this perpetual turmoil. You'll find out in the first 60 seconds of this episode what the name of this cycle is, and over the remaining 15 minutes, you'll find out what you can do about it. Good listening and Godspeed! 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    17 min

  7. FEB 24

    101: The most damaging myth about chronic skin picking & hair pulling

    The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session. Why do I work with clients on this? It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions! When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey. But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress. If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey. --- Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no 💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    21 min

  8. FEB 17

    100: 6 Life Changing Lessons About Chronic Skin Picking

    I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same. These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community. They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour. Listen in to find out which you feel most drawn to because I guarantee it's probably what you need right now to take the next step in your healing. Don't forget to click on the link below to submit your FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling assessment!  💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

    22 min
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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love. Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.  Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it. Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*. If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

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