Be A Better You

Allison K. Dagney

The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.

  1. 1D AGO

    Ep 208: Your Spicy Brain Is Not Broken: How to Work With Your Mind, Rewire Your Beliefs, and Become Unstoppable

    In this powerful episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, we dive deep into neurodivergence, neuroplasticity, and what it truly means to work with your brain instead of against it — especially when you're recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, or toxic relationships that made you believe something was fundamentally wrong with you. What we cover: What neurodivergence really means — and why it may describe far more of us than traditional diagnoses suggestThe little-known facts about ADHD, executive dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation that nobody talks aboutWhy survivors of narcissistic abuse and emotional abuse often experience patterns that look and feel neurodivergent — and what that means for your healingThe neuroscience of neural plasticity: how your brain can literally rewire itself at any age, and why recovery is not just possible — it's biologicalA real listener story (T's story) about freezing, overwhelm, and the panic of trying to build new habits after years of survivingThe one question that can unlock your ability to take action and finally follow throughA practical, evidence-based method for shifting the limiting beliefs installed by narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, and chronic self-doubtTools for ADHD brains, anxious brains, and trauma-conditioned brains to regulate, start, and complete Whether you have a formal diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or another neurodivergent condition — or you simply feel like your brain works differently and nobody has ever explained why — this episode will normalize your experience, validate your struggle, and give you a real, science-backed path forward. If you've been told you're "too much," "too scattered," "too sensitive," or "not capable of following through," this episode is your answer. Narcissistic abusers and emotional abusers often weaponize the way our minds work. Today, we take that back. Topics: emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, neurodivergence, ADHD and emotional abuse, neural plasticity, brain rewiring, limiting beliefs, habit building with ADHD, executive dysfunction, trauma and the brain, healing from toxic relationships, self-worth after narcissistic abuse, nervous system regulation, belief reprogramming, be a better you emotional abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse, neurodivergence, ADHD, neural plasticity, brain rewiring, limiting beliefs, trauma recovery, executive dysfunction, habit building, nervous system regulation, toxic relationships, healing, self-worth, belief reprogramming Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    35 min
  2. MAR 3

    Episode 206: Why You Thought You Were Crazy in Your Relationship (But You Weren’t)

    Have you ever walked away from a relationship wondering how you became so confused, reactive, or unsure of yourself? In this episode, we unpack why so many emotionally intelligent, self-aware people end up questioning their own reality in unhealthy relationships—and why that doesn’t mean anything was wrong with you. You’ll learn how emotional inconsistency, mixed signals, and subtle invalidation can slowly erode self-trust, leading you to internalize beliefs like “I’m too sensitive” or “I can’t trust my perception.” We’ll explore gentle belief shifts—asking what else might be possible—and how confusion is often a nervous-system response, not a personal failure. If you’ve ever replayed conversations, doubted your memory, or felt like you lost yourself trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior, this episode will help you reconnect with clarity and self-trust. You’ll also hear how identifying the beliefs formed in these dynamics can be a powerful first step toward healing, and where to go if you’re ready to interrupt the loop at the root. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    42 min
  3. FEB 24

    Episode 205: Reinforcement Strategies to Break the Trauma Bond

    In this episode of the "Be A Better You Podcast," we're diving deeper into the journey of breaking trauma bonds, offering advanced strategies and practical tools for healing. Building on  discussions about identifying and challenging harmful beliefs, this episode focuses on actionable steps to reprogram the mind, foster self-compassion, and establish healthy boundaries. We'll begin by exploring specific techniques for reprogramming the mind, such as using affirmations and positive self-talk to replace negative beliefs, engaging in visualization exercises to imagine a future free from trauma bonds, and utilizing journaling prompts to uncover and challenge deep-seated beliefs. These practices help reshape your thought patterns, making it easier to let go of the past and embrace a healthier mindset. Next, we'll discuss the importance of self-compassion in the healing process. By incorporating mindfulness and meditation practices, you can connect with your inner self and cultivate a compassionate self-dialogue. Establishing regular self-care rituals will further nurture your mind, body, and spirit, helping you build resilience and strength. Setting healthy boundaries is another crucial aspect of breaking trauma bonds. Protecting yourself from further harm and fostering healthy relationships is essential for long-term healing. Join us for this episode as we dive into these advanced strategies and provide you with the tools and resources needed to accelerate your journey to freedom and reclaim your life. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    22 min
  4. FEB 17

    Episode 204: How to Read People (and yourself) Accurately After Emotional Abuse

    After emotional abuse, it’s common to either distrust everyone or to rely too heavily on words, promises, and explanations. In this episode, we talk about how to rebuild discernment by learning how to read people accurately—through patterns of behavior rather than intention or language. We explore why accepting what someone says over what they consistently do often leads to confusion and self-doubt, and how emotional abuse conditions people to override their instincts in favor of hope, reassurance, or potential. You’ll learn how to recognize integrity as a pattern, not a personality trait, and why behavior over time is the clearest indicator of safety in any relationship. This episode also gently turns the lens inward. We talk about how your own patterns—follow-through, boundaries, repair, and self-honoring—become a mirror that helps you read others more clearly. Not from shame or self-criticism, but from alignment and awareness. Because when your relationship with yourself is grounded in integrity, clarity with others comes more naturally. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    45 min
  5. FEB 10

    Ep 203: Subtle Signs You Were Emotionally Controlled (That Don’t Look Like Abuse)

    Many people don’t relate to the word abuse—not because nothing happened, but because emotional control often doesn’t look dramatic, obvious, or cruel. In emotionally abusive or controlling relationships, the most damaging patterns are often subtle, gradual, and reinforced in ways that are easy to miss while you’re in them. In this episode, we explore the subtle signs of emotional control that don’t look like abuse, including how conditioning, self-doubt, and relief-based compliance can quietly train you to minimize your needs, question your perception, and adapt in ways you didn’t consciously choose. You’ll learn why so many people struggle to name emotional abuse, how shame and conditioning keep experiences minimized, and why recognizing these patterns is not about blame—but about clarity and empowerment. This episode is for anyone who has ever thought “It wasn’t that bad” while still feeling smaller, more careful, or less like themselves. If you’re trying to make sense of lingering confusion after a relationship and want language for what actually happened, this conversation will help you see it clearly—and understand why naming it can be the beginning of real healing. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    29 min
  6. FEB 3

    Episode 202: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Stronger After You Leave

    Leaving an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship doesn’t always bring the relief you expect. For many people, the trauma bond actually feels stronger after it’s over—bringing increased rumination, anxiety, longing, and confusion that can make you question yourself and your decision. In this episode, I explain why trauma bonds often intensify after you leave, what’s happening in your nervous system during this phase, and why this reaction has nothing to do with weakness, love, or making the wrong choice. You’ll learn how withdrawal from the trauma bond works, why time and insight alone don’t stop the loop, and how these patterns keep people stuck in self-blame. I also share two practical tools you can use immediately to interrupt the cycle—tools designed to help your body settle so the bond can actually unwind, rather than reinforcing it through willpower or distraction. If you’ve been wondering why it feels harder now—or why you can’t seem to stop thinking about them—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and why your experience makes sense. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    33 min
  7. JAN 27

    Episode 201: Emotional Sobriety: Detoxing From the Highs and Lows You Got Addicted To

    If you’ve ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you. Because what you’re feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw. After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse, or abusive relationships, the nervous system gets conditioned to extreme highs and lows. A few good days followed by sudden blowups. Relief after tension. Chaos mistaken for chemistry. And when it ends, your body doesn’t miss the person — it misses the dopamine-driven cycle it learned to survive in. In this episode, we’re talking about emotional sobriety — what it actually means to detox from intensity, why calm can feel boring or wrong at first, and how your system recalibrates after chaos. We’ll break down why stable relationships don’t feel exciting in the beginning, why your brain edits the past when you’re vulnerable, and how to tell the difference between love and nervous-system addiction. I’ll also share real, relatable examples from my work with clients and my Radiate & Rise community that show how people stop craving the highs and lows — not by trying harder, but by healing the root cause. ✨ If you’re in that in-between space — missing what hurt you and questioning your decision — you don’t have to white-knuckle this alone. Book a free Root Cause Call and let’s uncover what your nervous system is still attached to, so you can move forward without getting pulled back. Support the show To learn more about my Programs visit the website www.radiatenrise.com Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com Free 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women GET YOUR FREE AUDIO To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebook https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ *Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

    39 min
4.8
out of 5
57 Ratings

About

The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.

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