The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

Ross Rosenberg, M. Ed.

Begin your recovery from narcissists and narcissistic abuse, codependency, gaslighting, trauma, and more with Ross Rosenberg's Self-Love Recovery Podcast! Expect to be informed, inspired & unburdened by master psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, an international expert on narcissistic abuse, codependency & trauma recovery & best-selling author of The Human Magnet Syndrome.Millions of people have already been given hope, direction, and enlightenment through his YouTube contributions and book sales. Ross warmly and authentically draws from his own healing journey as well as 35 years in the mental health field. Ross Rosenberg is all about breaking through barriers, opening up minds, and inspiring and guiding people about what they have been misinformed about or most need to understand. Whether it is freedom over codependency, which he renamed to Self-Love Deficit Disorder, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or the childhood trauma that underlies them, you will find this podcast liberating, inspiring, and extraordinarily educating. So join him on his quest to warmly, authentically, and expertly explain, advise, and inspire. Prepare to change your life!

  1. 4D AGO

    The Broken Picker: Why Trauma Keeps Choosing Your Partners

    Have you promised yourself "never again" — only to find yourself falling for the same kind of partner with a different face? In this episode, Ross Rosenberg explains why willpower, checklists, and even years of research on narcissism aren't enough to stop the cycle. The culprit is what Ross calls the "broken picker" — an unconscious force shaped by childhood attachment trauma that overrides your conscious mind and steers you straight toward narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable partners. Drawing from his Human Magnet Syndrome theory, Ross reveals why codependents (those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder) and pathological narcissists are magnetically drawn to one another, why dating apps and compatibility quizzes can't protect you, and why "chemistry" so often lies. Most importantly, he walks you through the path out: healing core shame, integrating the wounded inner child, and rebuilding the relationship template from the inside so your picker finally points toward safe, mutual, self-love-abundant partners. If you're ready to stop dancing with the same partner and start choosing love consciously, this episode is your roadmap. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    28 min
  2. 4D AGO

    When Divorce Hurts Kids: What to Do and How to Navigate It, with Dr. Tina Paone

    In this conversation, Ross Rosenberg speaks with Dr. Tina Paone, a licensed counselor and play therapist, about the psychological impact of divorce on children. They explore how kids process separation without the language to express it, why behavior often reflects hidden distress, and how play therapy helps children navigate confusion, fear, and loss. The discussion also touches on attachment disruptions, trauma responses, and key developmental challenges during family breakdown. They also examine complex dynamics like parentification, parental alienation, and narcissistic abuse. Dr. Paone explains how children can be pushed into adult roles or pressured to side with one parent, and offers guidance for targeted parents. She also shares insights from her book Unbroken: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Reclaiming Me, making this a valuable discussion for parents and clinicians alike. Tina Paone: bio: Dr. Tina Paone is a licensed professional counselor, counselor educator, and registered play therapist supervisor specializing in child and family therapy. With over 20 years of experience, she serves on the faculty at Monmouth University and works extensively with children navigating divorce, trauma, and complex family dynamics, including parental alienation and narcissistic abuse. She is also the author of Unbroken: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Reclaiming Me, where she integrates her clinical expertise with personal insight to support healing and recovery. Dr. Paone leads a team of clinicians at her practice, focusing on trauma-informed care for children and families affected by high-conflict relationships. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    36 min
  3. 6D AGO

    Understanding Narcissistic Abuse with Chelsey Brooke Cole

    What does it take to truly heal from a narcissistic relationship? In this episode, Ross Rosenberg sits down with psychotherapist and author Chelsey Brooke Cole to discuss the complexities of narcissistic abuse and the journey toward recovery. Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist, and best-selling author of If Only I'd Known! She specializes in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, and is the host of Restoring Resilience podcast and creator of Rewired for Resilience. Her work has been featured in USA Today, HuffPost, and Psychology Today, and she supports thousands of survivors daily through her speaking, writing, and healing programs. Together, Ross and Chelsey share their professional insights into why these relationships are so difficult to leave and what steps are necessary to find lasting peace and self-love. Whether you are just beginning to look for answers or are deep in your healing process, this conversation offers a supportive look at the road to recovery. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    45 min
  4. APR 21

    Why You Can't Get the Love You Want — And How to Change That

    In this podcast, therapist and author Ross Rosenberg — with 37 years of experience — explains why working harder, being kinder, or trying to "figure out" your partner will never get you the love you crave. The real problem? Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD). Ross breaks down how core shame, pathological loneliness, and childhood attachment trauma keep you trapped in cycles with narcissists — and why no amount of effort can fix a relationship built on an unstable foundation. He introduces his concept of relationship math, explains the difference between self-love deficit and self-love abundance, and shares his 11 promises of what life looks like on the other side. If you're ready to stop running on the hamster wheel and start building real, lasting love — it starts with the person in the mirror. 📘 Recommended reading: The Codependency Revolution Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    21 min
  5. APR 14

    Narcissistic Rage Explained: The Shame, the Injury, and Why They Explode

    What really happens inside a narcissist's mind the moment they explode in rage? Dr. Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D., is a New York City-based psychotherapist and psychoanalyst with nearly two decades of expertise helping individuals navigate complex emotional landscapes. He runs a private practice on Manhattan's Upper East Side, working with clients across the United States on personality disorders, depression, and social anxiety, while also training professionals and lecturing nationally. His podcast,  The Narcissism Decoder, explores the many facets of narcissism through a psychoanalytic lens — from its origins to its everyday manifestations — equipping listeners with tools to recognize, understand, and effectively engage with narcissistic individuals.  In this fascinating conversation with the host of the Narcissist Decoder podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed.,  — author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and founder of the Self-Love Recovery Institute — breaks down the psychology of narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage from the inside out. Ross explains how childhood attachment trauma creates a deep well of core shame that gets locked away in the limbic system — and how the slightest perceived slight can trigger a rage response that isn't really about the present moment at all. You'll learn why what looks like rage is actually a defense mechanism, how projection keeps the narcissist from confronting their own shame, and how grandiosity functions as a psychological survival strategy. The conversation also explores the Human Magnet Syndrome — why narcissists and codependents (Self-Love Deficients/SLD's) are magnetically drawn to each other — and what keeps both partners locked in a trauma bond even when the relationship is deeply painful. Topics covered: - What narcissistic injury actually is (and why you only see the rage, not the wound) - The role of core shame, projection, and grandiosity - Why narcissists can't tolerate perceived criticism or disappointment - The trauma bond between narcissists and codependents - Why pathological loneliness keeps both partners stuck - Treatment considerations for codependency and Self-Love Deficit Disorder Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    39 min
  6. APR 10

    Inside the Mind of a Codependent: The Hidden World of Self-Love Deficit Disorder

    In this powerful video, Ross Rosenberg explores what it feels like to live inside the mind of a codependent, or someone with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD). He describes the constant inner noise—an unrelenting inner critic, chronic self-doubt, and exhausting overthinking—that keeps many stuck in anxiety and emotional depletion. Ross explains how core shame, pathological loneliness, and childhood attachment trauma shape these patterns, leading to trauma bonding, settling for “breadcrumbs” of love, and becoming addicted to relationships that temporarily relieve deep emotional pain. Drawing from personal and clinical experience, he connects these struggles to the absence of unconditional love in childhood and how this creates a lifelong template for unhealthy relationships. Most importantly, Ross offers hope through his Self-Love Recovery approach—showing how healing attachment wounds, quieting the inner critic, and building self-love can lead to healthier relationships and inner peace. If you feel stuck in painful relationship cycles or overwhelmed by loneliness and self-doubt, this video will help you feel seen—and show you that change is possible. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    33 min
  7. MAR 30

    The Silent Trap: How Narcissists Use Gaslighting to Control Your Mind

    What if the very thoughts keeping you trapped in a toxic relationship aren't your own? In this powerful video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., founder of the Self-Love Recovery Institute and originator of the Human Magnet Syndrome theory — exposes one of the most dangerous and invisible tactics used by covert and sociopathic narcissists: the silent trap of gaslighting. Ross explains how pathological narcissists systematically distort your reality, isolate you from support, and manipulate you into believing you are broken — all while positioning themselves as your only source of love and safety. The result? You become the jailer of your own prison without ever realizing it. In this video you'll learn: Why gaslighting is the narcissist's most powerful weapon — and why you can't see it happening.  How your childhood attachment trauma makes you vulnerable to this silent trap Why trying harder, reading more, or "just leaving" won't break the cycle What Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) is and how it keeps you unconsciously bonded to your captor.  The real path to freedom: healing at the root, not managing the symptoms. The lock is on the inside — and you've always had the key. Recovery is possible. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    17 min
  8. MAR 12

    Codependency Is NOT a Control Problem — Critiquing Co-Dependents Anonymous with Chelsey Cole

    In this eye-opening conversation, Ross Rosenberg is joined by psychotherapist and author Chelsey Cole to explore why traditional codependency frameworks — including Codependency Anonymous — may actually be doing more harm than good.  Together they unpack the crucial difference between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, how childhood experiences with narcissistic parents create the Relationship Template that drives adults straight into toxic partnerships, and why CoDA's Step One amounts to institutional gaslighting by framing the codependent as the one with a control problem.  Ross also explains the origins of the term "codependency" and why Self-Love Deficit Disorder is a far more accurate and empowering lens for healing. Chelsey shares her own journey — from narcissistic relationships to founding her Rewired for Resilience program — and the three phases of recovery she outlines in her book If I'd Only Known.  If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong people, no matter how hard you try, this conversation will give you the missing piece. Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist, and best-selling author of If Only I'd Known! She specializes in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, and is the host of Restoring Resilience podcast and creator of Rewired for Resilience. Her work has been featured in USA Today, HuffPost, and Psychology Today, and she supports thousands of survivors daily through her speaking, writing, and healing programs. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG  Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.  In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.  Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)  Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)  Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)  and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

    32 min
4.8
out of 5
68 Ratings

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Begin your recovery from narcissists and narcissistic abuse, codependency, gaslighting, trauma, and more with Ross Rosenberg's Self-Love Recovery Podcast! Expect to be informed, inspired & unburdened by master psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, an international expert on narcissistic abuse, codependency & trauma recovery & best-selling author of The Human Magnet Syndrome.Millions of people have already been given hope, direction, and enlightenment through his YouTube contributions and book sales. Ross warmly and authentically draws from his own healing journey as well as 35 years in the mental health field. Ross Rosenberg is all about breaking through barriers, opening up minds, and inspiring and guiding people about what they have been misinformed about or most need to understand. Whether it is freedom over codependency, which he renamed to Self-Love Deficit Disorder, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or the childhood trauma that underlies them, you will find this podcast liberating, inspiring, and extraordinarily educating. So join him on his quest to warmly, authentically, and expertly explain, advise, and inspire. Prepare to change your life!

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