The No More Wasted Days Podcast

Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet

This is the No More Wasted Days Podcast. I'm your host - Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet. Grab your favorite NA drink, and listen as we share vulnerable stories so you never feel alone on your alcohol free journey, and gain insights from us as we breakdown our most used tips and strategies that have kept us alcohol free. It’s time to break free from wasting any more of your days to the drinking/blackout/hangover cycle.

  1. 1D AGO

    Ep. 160: The Emotional Work Most Men Avoid in Sobriety w/ Matt Salis

    In today’s episode, I sat down with Matt Salis, behavioral health researcher, writer, and co-host of the Untoxicated Podcast. Matt brings a perspective we don’t talk about enough: what happens in a relationship when alcohol leaves the picture, especially around emotional safety, masculinity, intimacy, and long-term connection. Unlike my story where Ryan and I quit drinking together, Matt’s journey unfolded differently. His wife, Sherri, was not the partner struggling with alcohol. When he quit, he quickly realized that sobriety was only the beginning. Rebuilding trust, repairing emotional damage, and creating safety in his marriage required years of intentional work. And we go there in this conversation. In This Episode, We Discuss: 🔹Matt’s drinking story and the mental gymnastics of “Am I an alcoholic?” 🔹The lightbulb moment when he realized alcohol was fueling his anxiety and depression 🔹His wife’s detachment and how it became a wake-up call 🔹What emotional abuse actually looks like, including the subtle behaviors we normalize 🔹How alcohol amplifies emotional instability in a household 🔹The concept of emotional safety as the foundation for intimacy 🔹Why recovery changes your identity and how that can disrupt a marriage 🔹The “sex sequence”: emotional safety → emotional intimacy → physical intimacy 🔹Why foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom 🔹Emotional masculinity and what that means in modern sober relationships 🔹How to distinguish between growth discomfort and ongoing emotional unsafety 🔹When couples work… and when they don’t Key Takeaways 1️⃣ Sobriety Does Not Automatically Repair a Relationship Quitting drinking removes the toxin, but it does not automatically restore emotional safety. That work is deeper. It requires self-reflection, accountability, and consistency. 2️⃣ Emotional Safety Is Not Optional Matt makes it clear: emotional safety has to be close to 100 percent. Tone matters. Teasing matters. Raised voices matter. Small behaviors add up over time. 3️⃣ Emotional Intimacy Precedes Physical Intimacy For many women especially, emotional safety and emotional connection are prerequisites to meaningful physical intimacy. You cannot skip steps and expect closeness to feel secure. 4️⃣ Recovery Changes Who You Are Sobriety is not just removing alcohol. It reshapes identity. And sometimes, couples must reevaluate compatibility after both people begin evolving. 5️⃣ Emotional Masculinity Is Adaptation Matt shares his framework for “emotional masculinity,” redirecting traditional masculine values like protection and leadership toward emotional safety, service, resilience, and accountability. Resources Mentioned 👉 Listen to the Untoxicated Podcast - https://un-toxicated.com/ 👉 Take the emotional abuse survey at untoxicatedsurvey.org 👉 Learn more about Matt’s work at https://soberandunashamed.com/ 👉 Follow on Instagram @untoxicatedpodcast If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. These conversations matter. Emotional health in sobriety matters. Join the Day Makers Community And if you’re craving deeper support, structure, and community in your alcohol-free life, come join us inside the Day Makers Community - https://nomorewasteddays.co/day-makers-community/. Try your first two weeks for just $1 ***************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    55 min
  2. FEB 9

    Ep. 159: What Happens in the First 100 Days of Quitting Drinking

    Enrollment for PUSH to 100, my 100-day alcohol-free challenge, is officially open, and today is the last day to join before we start together on February 10. This challenge will give you enough time to actually experience what an alcohol-free life feels like. 👉 Learn more and join here: nomorewasteddays.co *********************************** January has a way of convincing us that if we didn’t hit the ground running, we’ve already failed. That mindset keeps so many people stuck, especially when it comes to quitting drinking. In this episode, I’m breaking down why there is no magical start date for an alcohol-free journey, and why starting later might actually work in your favor. I also share my own real-time goals for 2026, including what I’ve been consistent with, what I haven’t started yet, and why none of that means I’ve failed. If you skipped Dry January, didn’t finish it, or never planned to do it at all, this episode is for you. What You’ll Hear in This Episode 🔹 Why January is not the make-or-break month we’ve been taught to believe it is 🔹 How all-or-nothing thinking keeps people stuck in drinking cycles 🔹 Why February can be a quieter, more supportive time to start real change 🔹 My personal story of quitting drinking in May, not January 🔹 Why shorter alcohol breaks often feel harder than longer ones 🔹 What actually happens in your body and brain during the first 100 days alcohol-free 🔹 Physical changes you may notice in the first 6 weeks 🔹 Emotional shifts that tend to show up between weeks 3–8 🔹 Mental clarity and identity changes that often happen after week 6 🔹 How to start now without overwhelming yourself 🔹 Why support and community matter more than willpower Why I Recommend 100 Days Alcohol-Free Short breaks can be helpful, but they often don’t give your nervous system enough time to stabilize or your brain enough time to recalibrate. With 100 days, you move through: ➡️ withdrawal and adjustment ➡️ emotional regulation ➡️ habit change ➡️ identity shift You don’t just “stop drinking”, you actually get to try on an alcohol-free life and see how it feels when things settle. It’s the phase of my journey where everything changed, and it’s why the PUSH to 100 exists. About the PUSH to 100 The PUSH to 100 is a structured, supportive, 100-day alcohol-free challenge designed to help you stop starting over. Inside the program, you’ll get: ✨ Guided video support ✨ 8 live group coaching calls with me ✨ A private text-based community for daily support ✨ Tools to navigate cravings, emotions, routines, and social pressure ✨ A longer runway to actually feel the benefits of being alcohol-free You do not need to be on Day 1 to join. Many members continue into PUSH to 100 after Dry January or other breaks. Final Reminder If January didn’t look the way you hoped, that doesn’t mean the year is lost. You are not late. You didn’t miss your chance. You can start now. And if you want to do it with support, I’d love to walk with you through the next 100 days. 👉 Join the PUSH to 100 at nomorewasteddays.co If you found this episode helpful, you can support the podcast by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts, commenting on Spotify, or watching the video version on YouTube or Spotify.   ***************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    17 min
  3. FEB 3

    Episode 158: Reinventing Yourself After Alcohol with Amy Mashburn

    What happens when you quit drinking and realize the hardest part isn’t the alcohol, it’s letting go of who you used to be? In this episode of The No More Wasted Days Podcast, I’m joined by Amy Mashburn, nearly 18 years alcohol-free and co-founder of Upper Left Strength. Amy got sober at just 23 years old, long before sobriety was trendy, and her story offers a powerful perspective on identity, mindset, and what it actually takes to build a life you don’t want to escape from. This conversation goes far beyond health and fitness. We talk about the identity shift that comes with quitting drinking, why mindset has to change before your habits do, and how discomfort is often the doorway to real transformation. If you’re tired of negotiating with alcohol, half-trying, or feeling stuck between who you were and who you want to become, this episode will land. In this episode, we talk about: ⚡️ What it was like to get sober at 23 and rebuild life from the ground up ⚡️ Why drinking is often a symptom, not the root problem ⚡️ The identity grief that comes with quitting alcohol (and why it’s normal) ⚡️ Ego death, perfectionism, and self-sabotage in early sobriety ⚡️ Why women are so hard on themselves and how that fuels relapse and burnout ⚡️ The role of discomfort in lasting change ⚡️ How sobriety reshapes standards in relationships, work, and self-respect ⚡️ Why health and fitness can support sobriety without becoming another extreme ⚡️ What “no more wasted days” really means when time is your most valuable resource A powerful reminder from this episode: You don’t quit drinking just to stop drinking. You quit so you can reclaim your time, your energy, and your future. Alcohol takes far more than it gives, and once you see that clearly, it’s hard to unsee. About Amy Mashburn: Amy Mashburn is nearly 18 years alcohol-free and the co-founder of Upper Left Strength, a health and fitness company focused on sustainable nutrition, strength training, and mindset work. She works alongside her husband to help people step out of all-or-nothing thinking and build lives rooted in alignment, strength, and self-trust. You can find Amy on Instagram @upperleftamy  and learn more about her work at Upper Left Strength at www.upperleftstrength.com Work with Amy: Upper Left Strength offers customized nutrition, strength training, and mindset support through their app-based coaching and Blueprint membership. This is not a quick fix or diet culture solution, it’s real work for people ready to stop starting over. Find out more at www.upperleftstrength.com Ready to go deeper in your alcohol-free journey? Enrollment is open for the PUSH to 100 Alcohol-Free Challenge, starting February 10 and running through May 22. These 100 days are designed to help you walk into summer confident, grounded, and clear. You can sign up at nomorewasteddays.co. If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review or comment on Spotify or YouTube, and be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. Your time matters. Let’s stop wasting it.   ***************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    58 min
  4. JAN 27

    Ep. 157: Is It Time to Quit Drinking?

    If you’ve ever found yourself quietly wondering, “Is my drinking a problem?” this episode is for you. Before we dive in, I want you to know this: 👉 Early enrollment for the PUSH to 100 Alcohol-Free Challenge opens tomorrow. This 100-day guided experience begins February 10 and is designed to help you step away from alcohol with clarity, structure, and real support. You’ll receive daily guidance, workbooks, group coaching, and access to a private, off–social-media community where you won’t have to do this alone. You can join the waiting list now at www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist, or click the link below. Everyone on the waitlist will be notified as soon as early enrollment opens. About This Episode “How do you know when it’s time to quit drinking?” This is one of the hardest questions to answer, and it’s the exact question I asked myself for years before I finally stopped. I wasn’t waiting for a DUI, a job loss, or a dramatic rock-bottom moment. I was waiting for permission. For certainty. For a sign big enough to make the decision feel undeniable. In this episode, I explain why that sign rarely comes, and why waiting for it often keeps people stuck longer than necessary. Instead, I walk you through six clear areas to reflect on, not with judgment or shame, but with honesty and compassion. These are the same signs I ignored for years, and the ones I wish someone had laid out for me sooner. In This Episode, We Talk About: 🫶 Why asking the question at all is often the first sign that something needs to change 🫶 How to recognize when drinking takes more than it gives, emotionally, mentally, and physically 🫶 The exhausting cycle of negotiating with yourself and making rules you keep breaking 🫶  Using alcohol to numb, cope, escape, or quiet the noise, and why that’s not a personal failure 🫶 The overlooked clue that matters most, how you feel on the days you don’t drink We also talk about something that doesn’t get said enough: You do not need a dramatic reason, a label, or a diagnosis to quit drinking. You’re allowed to stop simply because life feels harder with alcohol in it, and easier without it. If You’re Nodding Along While Listening If this episode feels uncomfortably familiar, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means your mind and body are trying to tell you something. Alcohol is a highly addictive substance that has been normalized, encouraged, and marketed as self-care. Feeling stuck in a cycle with it is not a moral failing. It’s a predictable outcome. And the good news is, you can choose something different. Ready to Take the Next Step? If you’re thinking, “I’m ready for a change, but I don’t know how to do this on my own,” I’d love to support you inside the PUSH to 100 Alcohol-Free Challenge. This is not about perfection or forever decisions. It’s about creating momentum, rebuilding trust with yourself, and experiencing what life feels like without alcohol in the way. 📌 Join the waitlist here: www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist Early enrollment opens tomorrow, and the challenge begins February 10. You don’t have to decide anything forever. You only have to listen to what your body and your intuition have already been telling you. Thank you for being here, and thank you for listening. I’ll be in your ear again next week. 💛 *************************************** Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    20 min
  5. JAN 20

    Ep. 156: A Healthier Alternative to Alcohol? Kava 101 w/ Morgan Smith

    The next round of the PUSH to 100 (100-day alcohol free challenge), begins on February 10. This is for you if you’re ready to quit drinking with confidence. 👉 Join the waiting list for early access, priority enrollment, and an exclusive bonus at: www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist   ***************************************   In today’s episode of No More Wasted Days, I’m joined by Morgan Smith, founder of Kalm with Kava, for a grounded, honest conversation about kava, what it is, how it works, and why it’s becoming a popular alcohol-free ritual for people who still want to unwind without poisoning themselves.   If you’ve ever thought: ➡️ “I just want something to take the edge off” ➡️ “I miss the ritual of a drink, not the alcohol” ➡️ “I don’t want to be numb or impaired, just calmer” This episode is for you.   Morgan is a self-described kava nerd, and his depth of knowledge shines through without making this conversation feel overly scientific or overwhelming. We talk about kava as a tool, not a cure-all, and where it fits realistically into an alcohol-free lifestyle. In this episode, we cover: ✨ What kava actually is and how it’s been used for thousands of years ✨ How kava interacts with the nervous system and why it feels calming without intoxication ✨ The difference between kava and alcohol (and why comparing the two can be misleading) ✨ The truth about liver toxicity, outdated studies, and modern research ✨ Why quality, sourcing, and preparation matter when it comes to kava ✨ How kava can support evening rituals without impairing memory, judgment, or presence ✨ Why no substance, including kava, should be expected to “fix” your life ✨How to think about kava as part of a sober toolbox, not a replacement addiction Resources & Links: 🌈 Kalm with Kava Website: www.kalmwithkava.com 🌈 Follow Morgan on Instagram @kalm_with_kava, TikTok @kalmwithkava, and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@Drinkkalm for education and behind-the-scenes looks at how kava is grown and prepared 🌈 Morgan’s Hawaiian farm project: Puʻuhōnua Eva Hawaiian Farms (linked on his socials) One Last Reminder If you’re tired of trying to “moderate,” tired of starting over every Monday, and tired of needing something external to get through your evenings, the PUSH to 100 was built for you. This round runs February 10 through mid-May, setting you up to enter summer and long weekends feeling confident, clear, and grounded in your alcohol-free identity. 👉 Get on the waiting list here: www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist If this episode resonated, please subscribe to No More Wasted Days on your podcast app and leave a review. Reviews help this message reach people who need it, and they’re one of the most powerful ways to support the show.   ***************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    42 min
  6. JAN 13

    Ep. 155: The Shift That Makes Ditching Alcohol Feel Easy (How to Quit Drinking Without Willpower)

    Dry January is usually hardest after the initial motivation fades. The first week can be rough with headaches, fatigue, and withdrawal symptoms. The second week often feels better physically, but this is when the “drinking brain” starts whispering, “See? You don’t have a problem. You can go back now.” ➡️➡️ This episode is your reminder not to listen to that voice. In today’s episode of the No More Wasted Days Podcast, Sara shares six practical, mindset-shifting strategies to help you move beyond white-knuckling Dry January and into something far more powerful: joy, clarity, and abundance. These tools are not just for January. They are the same strategies that support long-term alcohol-free living. (Looking for the sign up link to get on the waiting list  👀👀 for the upcoming PUSH to 100? Look no further - www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist) Inside This Episode, You’ll Learn: 1️⃣. How to manage cravings with a plan, not shame Cravings are not a personal failure. They are a sign your brain is healing. Sara explains urge surfing, changing your environment, using non-alcoholic drinks strategically, and a simple mindset shift that helps cravings pass without spiraling. 2️⃣. How to clarify a strong “why” that makes alcohol-free living non-negotiable Your why will evolve as you do. This episode helps you move from surface-level motivations (like avoiding hangovers) to identity-based reasons that actually last. 3️⃣ How to socialize with confidence without drinking From ordering drinks without overexplaining, to planning exits, to navigating awkward moments without alcohol, you’ll learn how to feel grounded and self-assured in social settings. 4️⃣. How to live sanely in a culture that glorifies alcohol Alcohol marketing is not neutral. Sara breaks down why Dry January is triggering for big alcohol, how to curate your social media and ads, and why choosing sobriety is quietly rebellious. 5️⃣ How to shift from deprivation to abundance Dry January should not feel like punishment. Learn how to track alcohol-free wins, practice gratitude, and recognize the real benefits that make you want to keep going. 6️⃣ How to create micro-joy moments that rebuild real dopamine Alcohol hijacks the brain’s reward system. Sara shares simple, accessible ways to create sustainable dopamine through movement, novelty, creativity, and small daily pleasures. This Episode Is For You If: 🌈 You’re two weeks into Dry January and feeling tempted to quit 🌈 You’re tired of white-knuckling alcohol breaks 🌈 You want sobriety to feel expansive, not restrictive 🌈 You’re curious what life feels like when joy is no longer borrowed from alcohol Ready for More Support? ✨ Enrollment is opening soon for PUSH TO 100, Sara’s guided 100-day alcohol-free challenge starting February 10. ✨ This experience is designed to help you quit drinking with structure, community, and real-life tools so you can feel confident, grounded, and supported through your first 100 alcohol-free days. 👉👉 Join the waiting list to get early access and a special enrollment bonus:  www.nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist ******************************************** Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    35 min
  7. JAN 6

    Ep. 154: What Happens to Your Body in the First 10 Days Without Alcohol

    Sara breaks down what really happens in the first 10 days of an alcohol-free journey (beyond the highlight reels and feel-good memes). Most people don’t talk about the not-so-glamorous physical and emotional shifts that come up when you stop drinking. But Sara’s here to get real—and to empower you with science-backed insights and simple strategies so you can make it through the early days with confidence. She covers: 🍷 What’s happening physiologically when alcohol leaves your system 🧠 How the dopamine crash messes with your motivation and mood 💤 Why sleep can get worse before it gets better 🍭 The truth about sugar cravings (and why they’re not just “bad habits”) 🧰 Six practical tools to survive and thrive in the first 10 days Whether you're just getting started or preparing for a new AF season, this episode will help you normalize the messy middle—and stick with it. 🔑 Key Takeaways: ✅ Alcohol affects way more than just your bloodstream—it impacts your dopamine, sleep cycles, and blood sugar ✅ You’re not “doing it wrong” if the first 10 days feel flat, foggy, or hard ✅ Healing happens in layers—physical, emotional, and spiritual ✅ Nourishing your body with protein + complex carbs = fewer cravings and crashes ✅ Morning routines and natural dopamine boosts can jumpstart your day ✅ Planning your witching hour (and finding community) is essential to staying the course   👯‍♀️ Want deeper support for your journey? Join the PUSH to 100 waitlist to be the first to apply for the next round (spots open January 28th!). You’ll get structure, coaching, community, and tools that go far beyond “just don’t drink.” ✨ nomorewasteddays.co/100waitinglist   🎧 If this episode helped you feel seen, leave a quick review! Your words help this message reach more people on the path to freedom.   Resources Mentioned: * Daymakers Community: Weekly coaching calls, private messaging threads, and a supportive community. CLICK HERE to learn more here.   ************************************************   Looking for support on your alcohol free journey? Consider joining us in the Day Makers Community.  CLICK HERE for all the details    ************************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    18 min
  8. 12/30/2025

    Ep. 153: Hit Your 2026 Goals by Ditching Alcohol

    If something in your life feels off, if you know you’re capable of more but keep feeling held back, Dry January might be the reset you’ve been looking for. The Dry January Experience is a guided, supportive 30-day alcohol-free challenge designed to help you: Build confidence without relying on willpower Understand what’s actually happening in your body and brain Create momentum, clarity, and self-trust Experience what life feels like without alcohol in the way You’ll get daily support videos, a printable journal, a workbook, and live coaching calls with me, plus a community that’s doing this alongside you. Doors close January 1st at midnight (Pacific). Join now at nomorewasteddays.co/dryjanuary.   Episode Summary As we close out the year, this episode invites you to imagine a different version of yourself. Not a version created by doing more, pushing harder, or fixing yourself, but a version revealed when you remove the one thing that’s been quietly draining your energy, confidence, and clarity. In this deeply personal episode, Sara shares: Why 2025 was one of her hardest years emotionally and mentally How anxiety resurfaced in a way that reminded her of her drinking days, and what she did instead of numbing out The story of her last New Year’s Eve as a drinker, and how it set the stage for real change Why trying to “drink better” kept her stuck, and why removing alcohol closed the gap between who she was and who she wanted to be This episode introduces the idea of YOU 2.0, the version of yourself that emerges when the noise is gone. Alcohol doesn’t create confidence, energy, or freedom. It blocks access to them. Key Takeaways from This Episode Reinvention does not require more habits. Sometimes the biggest upgrade comes from subtraction. Alcohol quietly erodes sleep, emotional regulation, self-trust, and momentum. The distance between your potential and your reality shrinks dramatically when alcohol is removed. You don’t have to decide forever. Thirty days is enough to see what’s possible. Dry January works because it gives you social permission, structure, and space to reflect. Sara also shares how her alcohol-free journey led to: Greater creativity and clarity Financial and career confidence The creation of No More Wasted Days A deeper connection to who she actually is, not who alcohol told her she was A Question to Sit With Who might you become if alcohol no longer dictated your evenings, your energy, or your emotions? What would feel possible in your life if you trusted yourself again? Join the Dry January Experience If you’re curious about who YOU 2.0 might be, Dry January is a powerful and safe place to start. Doors close January 1st at midnight (Pacific). Join here: nomorewasteddays.co/dryjanuary Let’s make this the year you stop leaving yourself behind.    ********************************************   Follow the podcast on Social Media: IG: @nomorewasteddays.pod   Follow Sara on Social Media: IG: @no_more_wasted_days TikTok: @no_more_wasted_days Facebook: www.facebook.com/NoMoreWastedDaysOfficial

    26 min
4.9
out of 5
131 Ratings

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This is the No More Wasted Days Podcast. I'm your host - Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet. Grab your favorite NA drink, and listen as we share vulnerable stories so you never feel alone on your alcohol free journey, and gain insights from us as we breakdown our most used tips and strategies that have kept us alcohol free. It’s time to break free from wasting any more of your days to the drinking/blackout/hangover cycle.

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