Calm & Confident with Trina Gray

Trina Gray
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On the brand new "Calm & Confident" podcast, Trina teaches simple, actionable ways to move through life and work with greater ease and more joy. It is a must-listen for women seeking a better way to succeed in all areas of life — career, income, relationships and health. With Trina's stories, lessons and guest speakers, you'll arm yourself with tools to live happier and healthier at home and in your career as you create your next, best chapter. It's a casual vibe with lessons that you can implement into your life to think and act better. You'll feel like you're in a coffee shop with a trusted mentor having a personal conversation.

  1. Sep 23

    57. Balancing the Boxes and the Elements.

    In this episode, Trina Gray introduces the concept of "balancing the boxes and the elements" — a framework for managing the daily responsibilities and to-do lists (the "boxes") while intentionally infusing your days with small, meaningful moments that make life feel fulfilling (the "elements"). She shares personal examples from her own ideal day, reads responses from members of the Calm and Confident Collective, and encourages listeners to identify and weave their own ideal-day elements into everyday life, even on the hardest days. 5 Key Takeaways • (5:18) — Life is made up of "boxes" — the daily responsibilities, appointments, and tasks that keep your life organized and moving forward. • (10:13) — Daily tasks fall into two categories: "red tape" items (administrative and logistical) and "green machine" items (career and revenue-producing activities). • (11:48) — "The elements" are about building a life beyond the to-do list — intentionally adding small moments that make your everyday life better. • (14:14) — Elements of an ideal day are simple, everyday things like movement, reading, coffee outside, or connecting with a friend — not grand vacations or bucket-list trips. • (20:57) — A day is not a complete win or loss; you can choose to include elements of an ideal day even on the days that test you. Quote "A day is not a complete win or loss. A day is a human experience. It's a lot of good and bad. It's a lot of hard and easy." — Trina Gray     Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    57. Balancing the Boxes and the Elements.

  2. Sep 16

    56. Hey, How's Life? (Four Answers)

    I'm back and excited to connect. Today's episode is all about taking an inventory of where you are in this current season of life. If you're listening in real time, we're heading into fall — the weather and seasons are changing. Summer is behind us and it's a wide open road until the end of the year. What a beautiful time to change, reflect and take new action. But first, you have to know where you are. I'll share four possible answers to the question: "Hey, How's life?" You'll listen to the one that fits you best right now and you'll know how to move forward from it. This episode is short, powerful and will help you feel confident about where you want to go, and how to get there. Enjoy.  What You'll Learn in This Episode 0:04:30 – Fall is a powerful "fourth quarter" reset, offering open road to finish the year strong without the pressure of New Year expectations. 0:11:05 – If you're in a rut, the first step is honest acknowledgement, then focusing on small, meaningful changes that are within your control. 0:19:40 – Being in a state of transition or at a crossroads means you have movement and choices—use your "ideal day" vision to guide your decisions. 0:28:00 – If you feel content but striving for more, recognize the habits that got you here and intentionally build on them to reach your "next level." 0:33:10 – Those who are thriving and committed to growth move through struggle faster, release shame and others' opinions, and keep showing up as their best. Featured Quote "Acknowledging that you're not living your best life right now—and that you have the power to change that—is the first step forward." – Trina Gray   — Trina Gray   Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    56. Hey, How's Life? (Four Answers)

  3. Jul 14

    55. When Life Changes Your Circle

    When I launched this podcast over a year ago, I was speaking directly to women who were balancing many roles in life and wanted to live better at work and at home. If that is you, I'm still talking to you! I also want to welcome male listeners to the table. I've heard from many who have said: "I know this podcast might not be intended for me, but I find value in the lessons, too." That is great. Welcome. Our human experience has a lot of common ground. We are all trying to move through struggle, and find joy. Today's episode is about accepting that relationships change – whether it's children growing up, friendships ending, family estrangement, divorce, or simply life taking people in different directions. We'll talk about how to cope, how to leave the porch light on for some people and how to put more energy and attention into the people who are in your life. I'll share four main points for you to apply to your own life. What You'll Learn in This Episode • 17:33 — Life changes your guest list: people leave for countless reasons, and that's a natural part of growth, not a sign of failure. • 22:02 — Gratitude changes your focus: when you're fully present with people who show up, there's no room to grieve who's missing. • 22:58 — Pour into the people who show up: intentionally invest your time, energy, and encouragement into the relationships you have right now. • 24:47 — Stop waiting for everyone to come back: some people won't return, and that's okay — every relationship leaves something valuable behind. • 0:05 — Leave the porch light on, but don't stand out there waiting: stay open to reconciliation without putting your life on hold for it. "Don't stand out on that porch and wait — because you'll miss the beauty of the people who are currently in your life." — Trina Gray   Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    55. When Life Changes Your Circle

  4. Jun 18

    54. The Formula For a Better Life

    As we enter into year two of the Calm & Confident Collective, I'm grateful to continue this conversation with you. Today's episode is about evaluating seven areas of your life and reflecting on your satisfaction and happiness in each area. The coaching is relevant, quick-paced and thought provoking. I shared my observations when I delivered this lesson live to an audience of 400 health care professionals and support staff at a recent keynote. Learn tips and strategies to increase your overall quality of life. Discover how improving your life in a few areas has a ripple effect to the others. If you've been around Calm & Confident, you've heard this concept before. Take a fresh look at it and consider your current state of life. Let's dig deeper.  What You'll Learn in This Episode (0:04:51) – Trina introduces a seven-category life review (inner health, physical health, family, career, finances, circle, adventure) as a practical formula for a better life. (0:09:19) – Inner health—mindset, self-love, and inner peace—is the foundation; when it's low, every other area of life becomes harder. (0:13:35) – Physical health is about overall vitality (movement, sleep, nutrition), and when it's poor, health becomes a burden instead of a gift. (0:18:07) – Strong, loving family relationships are built on deep connection, respect, and intentional quality time, even at a distance. (0:26:13) – Many people rate family and circle high but keep their own inner health, physical health, and finances low—signaling a need to invest more in themselves, not just others. "If you're never going to be your own best cheerleader, no one else is going to be." – Trina Gray Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    54. The Formula For a Better Life

  5. May 8

    53. Be Where Your Feet Are

    This week's episode marks the start of year two of the Calm & Confident Collective. After 365 days, 52 podcasts and thousands of downloads and messages, I'm grateful that you with me. Thanks for being part of the journey where we talk about how to live a better life at work and at home. I love hearing from listeners. You can find me on my socials (links below). Today's topic is about being present. I offered two ways to be more present in your daily life – being physically present with your actions, and being mentally present with your thoughts. There are a lot of things that try to throw us off course – distractions from devices, repeating thoughts and worries. I offer some strategy and reasoning for being mindful of where you are choosing to be.  What You'll Learn in This Episode (0:00) – Trina reflects on one year of the Calm and Confident Podcast and how listener feedback reaffirmed that these conversations truly matter. (0:07:30) – "Be where your feet are" means being fully present in your actions, especially by reducing distractions like phones when you're with people you love. (0:14:30) – Presence in thoughts is harder than presence in actions and requires consciously tabling worries about the past or future that don't belong in the current moment. (0:20:00) – Repeating thoughts ("thoughts on repeat") drain your energy; you either need to make a plan about them or make peace with them. (0:25:30) – When you intentionally choose to be where your feet are, others feel truly seen and heard, and you finish your days more grateful, grounded, and energized. "If you've chosen in any which way to be in this moment, then give yourself and the people around you the gift of being in this moment in your head."- Trina Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    53. Be Where Your Feet Are

  6. Apr 2

    52. When the World Feels Heavy, Go Small

    In this week's short episode, I offered ways to navigate the heaviness of the world – whether you are feeling whiplashed by constant news headlines, or you are feeling the weight of a challenging circumstance in your own corner of the world – at home, or work, or with family or your health. I shared some simple ways to narrow your circle, spend quality time with people who you feel safe and seen by,  and lean into the power of simple routines.  What You'll Learn in This Episode Use small actions to regain calm when life feels overwhelming. Lean on simple, honest conversations with trusted people. Build grounding routines like walks, journaling, and reading. Protect your energy by setting boundaries and choosing safe relationships. Take small, meaningful steps toward causes and values you care about. "Sometimes when things feel just kind of outside of our grasp, too heavy for our own two arms to carry, it feels good to go small."- Trina Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    52. When the World Feels Heavy, Go Small

  7. Mar 19

    51. 5 Simple Ways to Feel Better Next Week

    In this week's episode, I offered a five-step practical plan for feeling better next week — not next year, or when love slows down. It won't. Life can feel heavy, fast-paced, or even mundane. Here are five ways to have more energy and set down some mental load. This is about feeling lighter and more in control of your life. This is about taking meaningful, intentional action. From fitness to decision making, let's dive in.    What You'll Learn in This Episode Move more  More water  Minimize social media  Make a decision  Make peace  "I think sometimes life can feel heavy. Life can feel overwhelming. Life can feel very fast, depending on your state of life, life can feel at times redundant, like you're waking up doing the same thing every day. And I want to just infuse some joy, some energy, some freshness to your life, and we can do that together." -Trina Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    51. 5 Simple Ways to Feel Better Next Week

  8. Mar 5

    50. Best of the Calm & Confident Podcast

    In this week's episode, I celebrated our 50th show by creating an "essentials album."  Just like your favorite artist creates a  "best of" album from time to time, I shared a quick recap of our top downloaded podcasts. I took your favorite lessons and delivered them again, in real time, not past recordings. From remembering to set things down, to saving your battery, to knowing people's place in your life, you'll be reminded of some great gems for life. If you missed one, this might inspire you to go back and listen to the full episode.    What You'll Learn in This Episode How to set things down that no longer fit the person you're becoming A simple six-roles framework to avoid burnout and show up better Why doing your fair share for your health matters to you and those you love How to accept that "things can look different and still be right" A practical way to decide who has a place, a voice, and a vote in your life   "Things can look different and still be right." - Trina   Connect with Trina: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website

    50. Best of the Calm & Confident Podcast
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On the brand new "Calm & Confident" podcast, Trina teaches simple, actionable ways to move through life and work with greater ease and more joy. It is a must-listen for women seeking a better way to succeed in all areas of life — career, income, relationships and health. With Trina's stories, lessons and guest speakers, you'll arm yourself with tools to live happier and healthier at home and in your career as you create your next, best chapter. It's a casual vibe with lessons that you can implement into your life to think and act better. You'll feel like you're in a coffee shop with a trusted mentor having a personal conversation.

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