Awakening Women Podcast

Leanne Oaten

Discussing all topics related to holistic health, alternative health, spirituality, psychology, marriage, and personal development.

  1. 9h ago

    Don't Repeat Another Groundhog Year In Your Relationship - Breaking The Patterns That Keep Repeating

    Are you afraid of ending another year having the same relationship conversations, facing the same frustrations, and wondering why nothing has really changed? You tell yourself things will be different. You have the conversations. You try to understand him, understand yourself, communicate better, and figure out what you should do. But somehow, you find yourself right back where you started. The same doubts. The same emotional patterns. The same questions about whether to stay, leave, try harder, or finally let go. And the most frustrating part? You're smart enough to understand what's happening. So why does it feel so difficult to change it? In this episode of Awakening Women, we're looking at what it really means to stop repeating the same year in your relationship—and why the answer isn't always to leave him. Because sometimes, the most important question isn't "How do I get him to change?" It's "What am I going to do differently?" In this episode, we explore: Why you can spend years trying to figure out your relationship without actually changing the pattern. The difference between understanding a relationship dynamic and taking action to change your part in it. How hope, potential, and the promise that things will eventually improve can keep you stuck. Why endlessly analysing your partner can distract you from the parts of your own life that need your attention. The difference between taking responsibility for yourself and taking responsibility for someone else's behaviour. Why leaving isn't automatically the answer—and why staying shouldn't mean abandoning yourself. How to begin building greater emotional, mental, and practical autonomy, even when your relationship is still uncertain. The questions to ask yourself before you enter another year repeating the same cycle. Before another year passes, ask yourself: What am I hoping will change—and what evidence do I have that it will? What conversations have I had repeatedly without a meaningful shift? Where am I waiting for someone else to change before I allow myself to move forward? What am I continuing to tolerate, avoid, or postpone? And perhaps the most important question of all: If nothing changed in this relationship over the next twelve months, what would I need to change about the way I am living? You don't have to make a dramatic decision today. You don't have to know whether your relationship will ultimately work out. But you can stop putting your entire life on hold while you wait to find out. You can begin reclaiming your attention, rebuilding your independence, strengthening your boundaries, and making choices that reflect the woman you want to become. Your relationship may or may not change. But you don't have to keep repeating the same patterns. Ready to stop repeating the cycle? If you're ready to do more than understand your relationship patterns—to actually work on changing them—explore the Autonomous Woman All Access Vault. This is my complete collection of self-study programs, practical tools, processes, checklists, and self-work exercises to help you reclaim your self-trust, strengthen your autonomy, and build a life that belongs to you. You don't need someone else to decide whether you should stay or leave. You need the clarity and self-trust to make that decision for yourself. Explore the Autonomous Woman All Access Vault: https://soulworkholisticcounselling.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/217 Connect with Awakening Women Instagram: @Awakeningwomenofficial If this episode resonated with you, share it with a woman who might be asking herself the same questions—and leave a review to help more women find the show. You can love someone without losing yourself. You can choose a relationship without unchoosing yourself.

  2. 9h ago ·  Bonus

    You Might Enjoy: On Purpose with Jay Shetty

    Introducing EZRA FRECH: "I Was Put on This Earth to Change the Way We See Disability" from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation. Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist" 02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born 06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3 11:15 The Kindergarten Letter 13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares 16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying 23:18 Falling In Love With Sports 27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028 31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol 33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic 36:53 How Do You Define Confidence? 40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream 44:35 Making Team USA At 14 48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work 52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena" 58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning 01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg 01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule 01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure 01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars 01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family 01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade 01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege 01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream 01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5 Episode Resources Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

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  3. Oct 6

    It's Not Your Job to Be The Emotional Regulator in Your Relationship

    What if you don't need to understand him more, but you've understood him so well that you've stopped listening to yourself? In this episode, Leanne unpacks a dynamic many women know too well: a caring, generous partner who falls apart when things don't go his way, and a woman who slides from understanding to explaining to regulating to exhaustion, and finally to cruelty she doesn't recognize as her own. Using a composite story, we explore how to hold your autonomy when a man isn't emotionally anchored. That means noticing the first signal, dropping the role of his regulator, owning your side without absorbing his, and deciding from clarity instead of exhaustion. In this episode, you'll learn Why so many women override the first red flag, and how to notice it without condemning him The difference between compassion ("I see you") and regulating ("I'll fix you") How contempt creeps in when an over-functioning woman runs out of compassion, and why contempt is still her responsibility Why softness is a nervous system state that safety has to come first How to set a timeline so open-ended hope doesn't cost you years A simple test to tell "two imperfect people in a bad cycle" from "a man who isn't ready" Key takeaways Notice, name, watch. You don't have to judge a man by one moment, but you get to notice it and see what happens when you change your part in the dynamic with clean communication and calm responses Compassion isn't a job. Understanding why he reacts is not the same as being able to live peacefully with it. Both can be true. His reactivity is his. Your reaction is yours. Keep your life bigger than the relationship. If your peace depends on his mood, your autonomy is already compromised. Judge the behavior, not the potential. A project is loved for what he could become. A partner is evaluated on what he's doing now. Rest before you decide. Exhausted decisions are either reactive or surrendered. Scripts to try: "That tone doesn't work for me." "I can see you're upset. I'll talk when you're calm." "Is this a pattern he's working on, or one I'm managing?"   If this rings true, I invite you to join The Autonomous Woman Relationship Transformation, including all access to every signature program I have ever created ($10,000 value), now open for a limited time. You come in for relationship guidance, clarity, and a plan, and leave with a new identity, outlook, and your next steps. Choose from the self-guided experience or the VIP Daily Coaching upgrade (8 Spots remain). ENROLL HERE

  4. Sep 17

    Holding On To YOU in Relationships - How to Have Your Own Back

    What do you do when the life you've worked so hard to build is successful, but doesn't actually feel like yours? Welcome to a new season of Awakening Women and a deeper evolution of the work. For years, we've talked about relationships, narcissistic abuse, emotional addiction, boundaries, breaking patterns, leaving, staying and learning to recognize what is really happening beneath the surface of our relationships. But I've come to see that the relationship with a man is often the mirror, not the whole story. Because you can be successful, educated, capable and completely independent in the world and still be outsourcing your authority in your most intimate relationships and in the decisions that shape your life. You can run a business and still question whether you're allowed to want more. You can make your own money and still give someone else a say over what you feel entitled to do with it. You can be the woman everyone relies on and still struggle to ask yourself the most important question: "What do I actually want?" And sometimes the hardest part isn't knowing the answer. It's being willing to live according to it. In this episode, I introduce the Modern Autonomous Woman. Not a woman who doesn't need anyone. Not a woman who has to do everything herself. Not a woman who has become so independent that she no longer allows herself to receive, love or be supported. The autonomous woman is a woman who can remain connected to herself while being connected to others. She doesn't hand over her authority in exchange for love, approval, belonging or security. And she understands that autonomy isn't something you either have or don't have. It's a practice. In this episode, we explore: Why being highly capable doesn't necessarily mean you're autonomous The difference between external success and internal autonomy How women learn to adapt, perform and anticipate everyone else's needs Why the question "What do I actually want?" can be so confronting How your relationship with a man can mirror your relationship with yourself Why the man cannot remain the centre of the story What it means to become self-sourced rather than approval-sourced Why midlife can become a powerful reckoning with the life you've built Why financial autonomy is about much more than having your own bank account Why this work goes far beyond relationships What it means to stop waiting for permission to become the fullest expression of yourself A question to sit with As you move through your day, your relationship, your work and your life, ask yourself: Where am I still waiting for permission? Permission to want more. Permission to change. Permission to disappoint someone. Permission to take up space. Permission to make money. Permission to leave. Permission to stay. Permission to become someone your old life may no longer recognize. And then ask yourself: What would I choose if I trusted myself enough to stop asking for permission? That is where autonomy begins. This season is about coming back to yourself. We're going into the shadow and the light. We're talking about relationships, but also money, business, sexuality, the body, motherhood, divorce, energy, ambition, identity, midlife and the future you're building for yourself. Because I don't want you to simply leave a toxic relationship. I want you to understand the deeper pattern of self-abandonment so you don't recreate it somewhere else. I don't want you to simply become more independent. I want you to become self-sourced. And ultimately, I want you to become a woman who knows: I belong to me.   Work with me If this episode is speaking to something you're currently navigating, explore the ways you can work with me through the links in the show notes. And if this new direction of Awakening Women resonates with you, follow the podcast so you don't miss what comes next. If this episode touched something you've been silencing, take a moment to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your review helps more women find this conversation. The next chapter isn't about becoming a better woman. It's about becoming your own woman.

  5. Sep 16

    START HERE: The Modern Autonomous Woman

    Awakening Women: A New Chapter The woman you're evolving into doesn't need permission to be MORE of you; she needs you to stop abandoning who you truly are. Welcome to the new era of Awakening Women. This is a podcast for the successful, independent woman who is ready to stop living from only one dimension of herself. Because life is never just one thing. There is grief and joy. There are endings and beginnings. There is softness and power. There are seasons of expansion and seasons of rest. There are moments to speak and moments to listen. Times to push forward and times to pause, reflect and regroup. We don't have to choose between the dark and the light, we can learn to hold it all. This next chapter of Awakening Women is about the Modern Autonomous Woman: a woman who knows how to stay connected to herself while being deeply connected to life, love, herself and other people. We're going beyond relationships to explore the woman at the centre of it all: Relationships. Money. Business. Success. Sexuality. The body. Motherhood. Divorce. Energy. Ambition. Identity. Midlife. Grief. Pleasure. Power. And the future. Autonomy isn't about needing no one, or banishing all men; it's about no longer abandoning yourself because you need someone. It's knowing when to say yes and when to say no. When to speak and when silence is more powerful. When to act and when to wait. When to begin again and when to stop trying to change what is asking to be integrated. When to allow yourself to grieve and when to strengthen your mind and choose to keep moving forward. This is not about becoming harder. It's about becoming whole. It's about developing the discernment to know what this moment is asking of you—and the self-trust to listen. THIS IS YOUR INVITATION If you've spent years becoming successful, capable, independent, strong and everything everyone else needed you to be... This is the space to ask: What do I actually want now? What is mine? What have I outgrown? Where am I still waiting for permission? And perhaps the deepest question: What would my life look like if I stopped abandoning myself to be loved, accepted, successful or understood? Welcome to the next chapter. Welcome to Awakening Women. You don't need permission to become the woman you were born to be. You are the woman who owns herself. STAY CONNECTED   ✦ THE AWAKENING WEEKLY LETTER A weekly dispatch for the woman who is learning to own herself. Expect a deeper thought, a perspective shift, a question to sit with, and something you can actually take into your life that week. [JOIN THE AWAKENING WEEKLY LETTER]   ✦ WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY If you're ready to take this work out of the podcast and into your actual life, you can apply for private coaching. This is for the woman who knows she's ready for something to change—and wants support navigating the relationships, decisions, identity shifts and next chapter that come with becoming more fully her own woman. [APPLY FOR PRIVATE COACHING] ✦ FOLLOW AWAKENING WOMEN Come behind the scenes, join the conversation, and stay connected between episodes. Instagram: instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/ YouTube: youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial   THE AWAKENING WOMEN COMMUNITY The podcast is the conversation. The letter is the weekly reminder. The Autonomous Woman private mentorship or Signature Program vault is where we take it much deeper.

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