Awakening Women Podcast

Leanne Oaten
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Discussing all topics related to holistic health, alternative health, spirituality, psychology, marriage, and personal development.

  1. Aug 13

    Emotional Quicksand: Why You Keep Talking When He Can't Hear You

    You know the conversation isn't going anywhere within the first ten minutes — and you keep having it anyway. Or, you may have found yourself not speaking up and going further into denial. This episode looks at what actually happens when you stop talking because he can't hear you: you don't just lose the conversation, you lose yourself in it. We break down why long, winding, unresolved conversations feel so hard to walk away from, the addictive pull underneath them, and what to do instead.    What You'll Learn Why you keep having the same unresolved conversation over and over, even when you know how it ends The addictive component of long, winding conversations — what you're actually chasing when you keep talking What "losing yourself" in a conversation looks like in real time, and how to catch it before it happens What to do instead of the long, winding conversation that goes nowhere How to recognize emotional quicksand before you're in it Key Ideas Covered The moment you lose yourself — talking stops being communication and becomes a bid for a response that isn't coming. That's the moment self-abandonment starts. The addictive pull— why the conversation feels compulsive, not optional. The near-miss of almost being heard keeps you coming back for one more round. Emotional quicksand — the more you explain, defend, and re-explain, the deeper you sink. Struggling harder doesn't get you out; it's what keeps you in. Unhealthy vs. healthy man — what actually changes when the man across from you is capable of hearing you: how he responds to being told something hard, whether the conversation resolves or repeats, and whether you leave the conversation more grounded or less. What to do instead — the alternative to over-explaining and re-litigating: naming the pattern, stating what you need once, and letting his response (or lack of one) be the information. Who This Episode Is For Women who find themselves having the same conversation on repeat, women who leave conversations with their partner feeling more depleted than resolved, and anyone trying to tell the difference between a man who's struggling to communicate and a man who simply isn't going to. Resources & Links Join The Whole Woman Private Coaching Waitlist  Connect Awakening Women | @awakeningwomenofficial

  2. Aug 6

    The Awakened Woman and The Unaccountable Man Dance: Why Knowing the Pattern Isn't Enough to Break It

    You've done the therapy. Read the books. Taken the courses. You can name the dynamic, diagnose the pattern, and explain exactly what's wrong — probably better than most professionals could. So why hasn't any of it changed your relationship? In this episode, we're getting honest about the gap between insight and action — the place where so many high-achieving women get stuck. Not because they lack awareness, but because awareness was never the thing that was going to save them. We're unpacking the "Rising Him" trap — why the same competence that built your career and your healing is the exact thing keeping you stuck in a relationship that isn't changing. We're talking about what's really underneath staying when you know better: not a lack of clarity, but a ceiling on what you believe you're allowed to have. And we're naming the part almost nobody says out loud — that some of you aren't addicted to him. You're addicted to the chaos. This one's for the woman doing everything right, holding it all together, and still watching nothing actually change — in herself or in her relationship. In This Episode: Why intellectual awareness of a relationship pattern doesn't equal freedom from it The "Raising Him" trap — how high-achieving women unconsciously turn their partner into the next project to complete The difference between knowing a pattern in your head vs. knowing it in your body Why the real question isn't "why do I understand this and still stay" but "what do I actually believe I'm allowed to have" The physiological addiction to chaos, adrenaline, and intensity — and why it has nothing to do with weakness or low self-worth How intermittent reinforcement keeps the cycle running, and why leaving can feel like withdrawal instead of relief What it actually takes to break the pattern — and why it's not more insight Quote to Sit With: "The pattern doesn't break at awareness. It breaks when you can tolerate what real peace feels like in your body long enough to stop mistaking calm for absence." Who This Episode Is For: The woman who's done the inner work, can recite her own patterns fluently, and still finds herself in the same relational dynamic — high-achieving, self-aware, exhausted from trying to rise someone else to her level while quietly wondering why none of it is landing as actual change. Follow @awakeningwomenoffical on Social Media Get the video binge list to help you break the emotional grip of unhealthy love: REGISTER HERE

    The Awakened Woman and The Unaccountable Man Dance: Why Knowing the Pattern Isn't Enough to Break It

  3. Jul 28

    Past Baggage, Kids, and Divorce: The Honest Conversation Before You Commit Again

    Episode Summary Love after divorce doesn't work the way it did the first time — and no one tells you that. This episode breaks down why midlife love isn't a fairytale, it's a negotiation. Why your partner isn't going to transform into someone new, he's going to become a more honest version of who he already is. And why real intimacy at this stage isn't about butterflies it's about honest and full disclosure. If you're navigating dating, partnership, or remarriage after divorce, this episode gives you the language for what you're actually building, and the questions you need to be asking before you commit again. What You'll Learn Why "falling in love" is a young-love concept — and what chooses its place in midlife The difference between accepting someone's baggage and accepting abuse (a critical line to draw) What actually needs to be on the table before you commit to someone again — the full disclosure conversation Why expecting a midlife partner to transform is a direct path to resentment The four things couples avoid naming until it's too late: kids, exes, co-parenting, finances How to grieve the young-love fantasy so you can access real, adult partnership Key Quotes "Love after divorce isn't falling. It's choosing." "You're not building a fairytale. You're negotiating a merger." "He's not going to become a different man. He's going to become a more honest version of the one standing in front of you." "Midlife love isn't blind. It's the first time you actually get to see clearly." "You don't get a blank slate at 45. You get a full ledger — and you sign it with your eyes open." "Young love says 'I hope you change.' Mature love says 'show me exactly who you are, baggage and all, and I'll decide.'" "The delusion isn't loving someone with a past. It's expecting the past not to show up." "Real intimacy at midlife isn't chemistry. It's disclosure." In This Episode The blank slate myth — why we keep expecting a fresh start at 45+, and why that expectation sets every midlife relationship up to fail Baggage vs. abuse — how to tell the difference between a partner with a past and a partner who is a risk, and why conflating the two keeps women stuck in the wrong direction on both ends The full disclosure conversation — what should actually be said out loud before you commit: expectations, non-negotiables, financial reality, co-parenting boundaries, what you want and don't want The grief nobody names — letting go of the young-love fantasy is its own loss, and skipping that grief is why so many people repeat the same pattern in a new relationship Choosing over falling — what it looks like to build a relationship on eyes-open acceptance instead of chemistry and hope Who This Episode Is For Women navigating dating or partnership after divorce, women in a serious relationship post-divorce trying to figure out if it's real, and anyone who has caught themselves waiting for a partner to become someone they're not. Resources & Links Get on the 1:1 Whole Woman Coaching waitlist Connect Awakening Women | @awakeningwomenofficial

  4. Jul 23

    The Unaccountable Man Will Never Change

    In this episode, I cover: What the Law of Polarity actually says about energy, contrast, and charge — and why relationships without it go flat Jung's anima and animus: the masculine within the woman, the feminine within the man, and why knowing which one leads matters What the wild teaches us about polarity — from lionesses to wolves — and why nothing in nature survives on two things leading in the same direction at once Why a strong woman doesn't need a smaller man — she needs one secure enough that her strength makes him rise instead of react The truth about misogyny: why a controlling, reactive man isn't "too masculine" — he's dysregulated, and fear is wearing masculinity as a costume Why real polarity isn't about who's on top — it's about who's finally free to be fully themselves Key takeaway: Polarity isn't mystical or performative. It's nervous-system level real. And understanding it correctly changes how you read chemistry, safety, and who you choose. Mentioned in this episode: The Law of Polarity Carl Jung — anima/animus theory Connect with Leanne: Instagram: @awakeningwomenofficial Apply for Private Coaching in Fall 2026

  5. Jul 16

    The 6 Faces of the Fake Good Guy (And THE #1 Litmus Test to Know What You're Dealing With)

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  6. Jul 14

    Releasing The Grip of Indecision, Letting Go, And Beginning Again with Wisdom

    If you're facing a hard decision in relationships, career, business, or moving, empty nest changes, and it all feels like it's happening all at once, this episode is for you. Join the waitlist for the fall End The Cycle 30 day immersion.

  7. Jun 30

    [Best Of Replay] The Covert Abuse Cycle And Why You Feel Crazy in Your Relationship

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  8. Jun 4

    Behaviours Emotionally Immature Men Use to Get a Reaction

    Part of awakening is seeing when a relationship has fixable issues, and when it's not going to change due to deeply ingrained ways of being in one, or both partners.  Break your patterns of self-betrayal, overexplaining, and overthinking in your relationship for good. Join the Collective:https://linkly.link/2jrKc The Rapid Relationship Pattern Assessment ($111) Get it here:  https://linkly.link/2i1u3 Connect with Leanne on Social Media:  Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/  Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial Website: leanneoaten.com    Leanne Oaten is a former Registered Professional Counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology and has over 13 years of experience counselling and coaching women. This podcast is for high-achieving CEO, entrepreneurial women who refuse to settle in a life that looks successful on the outside but feels empty on the inside. If you're juggling business, career, family, and a relationship that doesn't light you up while secretly craving more freedom, more abundance, and more joy - this is the podcast for you. I help women reclaim their power, build unshakable self-trust, and create the kind of life they no longer want to escape from. We're not here to hustle harder or burn it all down, we're reinventing ourselves and our lives from power. We're no longer focused on changing men, or fixing ourselves for men,  we are building for ourselves so that we never settle again. We're here to make power moves with ease, and feminine energy that attracts everything you want without losing yourself in the process. So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.   Narcissistic Abuse | Intimate Relationships | Marriage | Dating | Divorce | Midlife | Parenting | Holistic Healing

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  • Creator
    Leanne Oaten
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    598
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