U****k Your Life by Laura Herde

Laura Herde | Master Mindset Coach

This podcast is for the woman who dares to dream bigger - the woman who wants MORE out of life. I created this space for driven females like YOU who have high ambitions and standards for their life, for women in leadership positions, for (aspiring) fempreneurs… This the THE space to teach you how to cultivate alignment, fulfilment, abundance and freedom on ALL levels — in your career, your relationships, your mind, your body and your soul. I am here to teach you how you can accelerate your journey of becoming your most powerful Self; that version of you who gets to be, do and have it all.

  1. 2d ago

    EP 169: The 4 C’s of a healthy, polarized relationship

    Hot take – the reason why so many top tier women these days are single isn’t just ‘having high standards’…So many of us build their relationships based on attraction, connection, or potential — only to find themselves stuck in situationships, emotional rollercoasters, or relationships that eventually fall apart. In this episode, I’m breaking down the four pillars that create a healthy, polarized, and lasting relationship. We explore: The difference between healthy chemistry and trauma chemistry Why emotional connection matters more than attraction alone The communication skills every successful relationship requires How to navigate conflict without losing intimacy and grow closer The truth about feminine submission, trust, and polarity Why hyper-independence blocks healthy love The role of masculine leadership in creating safety Why compatibility matters more than most people realize The standards ambitious women should have when dating How to choose a man from discernment instead of emotional chaos If you've ever found yourself confusing chemistry for compatibility, attraction for love, or intensity for connection — this episode is for you. Timestamps: 00:00 - 05:11 The 4 Cs of a healthy, lasting, polarized relationship 05:12 - 12:37 Different types of chemistry in romantic relationships 12:38 - 16:40 The importance of connection as the foundation 16:40 - 29:16 Communication: the key to lasting relationships 29:17 - 36:21 Compatibility: Building an aligned future — Similar episode:  EP 141: The 5 things that will make or break your success, health & alignment in 2026​ — Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    37 min
  2. 5d ago

    EP 168: The new standard for ambitious women: What it truly requires to 'have it all'

    Let’s face it, success alone is no longer enough. More and more ambitious women are realizing they don't just want the business, the money, or the status — they want the health, the love, the freedom, the fulfillment, and the quality of life to match their income. We're diving into what it truly takes to create a life where success is only one piece of the puzzle. In this episode, we explore: -  Why success is no longer the end goal - The hidden cost of hyper-independence - What feminine leadership actually looks like -  Why healing becomes even more important as you grow -  What "having it all" really means and what it takes -  How to create success without sacrificing yourself - The qualities of women who hold wealth, love, health, and fulfillment simultaneously If you've ever felt like there has to be more than simply achieving the next goal, this episode is for you. Because you were never meant to choose between ambition and happiness. In this episode, I discuss: 00:00 - 05:32 The hidden cost of hyper-independence 05:33 - 09:47 The shift from hustle culture to feminine leadership 09:48 - 12:49 Why healing becomes non-negotiable at higher levels of success 12:48 - 16:51 What "having it all" really means 16:52 - 23:13 The qualities of women who hold success, love, health, and freedom simultaneously 23:14 - 27:21 How to stop sacrificing yourself for achievement 27:22 - 33:25 Building a life that feels on the inside as good as it looks on the outside — Similar episodes:  Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy EP 154: Discipline, devotion, soft power and embodied sensuality - how to embody a feminine baddie EP 112: Becoming a top 1% feminine leader and creating a balanced lifestyle with Corinne DeFilippis — Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    34 min
  3. Jun 12

    EP 167: The hidden reason you can't receive more love, money & success

    As an ambitious woman who feels stuck, the problem often isn't that you're not doing enough (if anything, chances are, you’re probably overdoing it, lol). In today's episode, we're diving into the hidden reason so many ambitious women struggle to receive more love, money, success, support, and abundance — even after doing all the inner work. We're talking about self-trust, hyper-independence, over-effort in dating & business, and why constantly trying to fix yourself may actually be the thing standing between you and the life you're trying to create. We explore: Why self-trust is more important than confidence The real reason why receiving feels unsafe for so many women How hyper-independence blocks love, support, and abundance The hidden addiction to self-improvement and "fixing" yourself Why healing can become another form of perfectionism The difference between understanding yourself and trusting yourself How over-efforting shows up in business, dating, and relationships Why ambitious women often struggle to enjoy the success they've worked so hard to create The capacity conversation nobody is having Why your next level may require less control, not more How to become the woman who allows life to meet her halfway If you've ever felt exhausted from carrying everything alone, constantly chasing the next breakthrough, or wondering why success still doesn't feel as fulfilling as you expected — this episode is for you. — In this episode, I discuss: 00:00 - 05:19 The struggle to receive 05:20 - 08:27 Self trust vs confidence 11:19 -  13:58 Healing vs. fixing yourself 13:59 - 16:26 The purpose of hyper-independence 16:27 - 19:32 The importance of expressing yourself 19:33 - 22:02 Healing as a journey - not an end goal 22:03 - 24:52 The power that comes from trusting yourself 24:53 - 27:18 Enjoying life beyond achievement 27:19 - 33:02 Capacity to receive & letting go of control 33:03 - 37:23 Becoming the woman who receives life — Similar episodes:  Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy EP 163: The real reason you keep sabotaging what you say you want – how to stay ‘on track’ EP 152: How I am upgrading each aspect of my life this year (+ how you can, too!) — Similar episodes:  ⁠Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy ⁠ ⁠Ep 157: The Art of Self-Mastery: What it really takes to thrive in life, love, leadership & wealth⁠ ⁠EP 164: How to be 'that girl' who always gets what she wants - fusing 'IT girl' x 'magnetic queen' energy⁠ — I was recently interviewed by my friend Lisa, host of the Real Money Podcast! We dive into all things energetics of money and the inner work it takes to create true wealth and become a magnet to money. Tune in ⁠HERE⁠! — Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/⁠ Laura’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/⁠ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: ⁠https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1⁠ Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/⁠ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: ⁠@laura.herde ⁠ Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    38 min
  4. Jun 2

    EP 166: Rich beyond money - how to become hot, wealthy and regulated

    Okay okay, time to sit down and talk about one of the biggest misconceptions everrrr when it comes to money and security. Soo many ambitious women spend years & years of their lives building wealth, businesses, careers, and lives that look incredible from the outside — yet internally still feel anxious, restless, overwhelmed, and unable to truly relax, receive and recharge guilt-free. In today's episode, we're exploring the hidden cost of high achievement, why financial success alone doesn't create emotional security like most people assume, the underlying nervous system patterns that are silently driving overachievement, where the abundance conversation has become performative, and the most common subconscious fears that cause women to self-sabotage right before their next level. If you've ever felt exhausted while crushing it, struggled to slow down without guilt, or have ever found yourself constantly chasing the next milestone without feeling truly fulfilled, this conversation is for you. So babe, grab your matcha, get cozy, and let's dive in. — In this episode, I discuss: 02:45 - Why financial success alone often fails to create emotional security 06:05 - Emotional safety vs. financial success – and why they don’t correlate 08:53 - The connection between money & men (hint: masculine energy) 12:10 - The illusion of security we gain through achievement (& why it’s empty) 18:10 - The role of money when it comes to emotional and mental well-being 21:02 - Why I started redefining success beyond numbers 25:38 - Rewiring relationships & self-concept aka identity 32:02 - The cost of overfunctioning and self-sacrifice 39:06 - Manifestation beyond aesthetics & affirmations  49:19 - Creating inner safety in success and abundance — Key Takeaways: Some women are rich in money and broke in their nervous system capacity (I can fix that ;))Achievement can create temporary emotional relief, but it cannot create lasting inner safetyIf your worth is tied to productivity, success will neverrrrrrr feel like enoughMoney amplifies what is already present within youA dysregulated nervous system will sabotage success faster than a lack of strategyManifestation is not about acting as if — it's about becoming the woman who can safely hold what she desiresExpansion often triggers subconscious fears around visibility, relationships, responsibility, and receivingThe goal is not just to become successful — it's to feel safe enough to fully enjoy the life you've created— Similar episodes:  Ep 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy Ep 157: The Art of Self-Mastery: What it really takes to thrive in life, love, leadership & wealth EP 164: How to be 'that girl' who always gets what she wants - fusing 'IT girl' x 'magnetic queen' energy — I was recently interviewed by my friend Lisa, host of the Real Money Podcast! We dive into all things energetics of money and the inner work it takes to create true wealth and become a magnet to money. Tune in HERE! — Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    50 min
  5. May 29

    EP 165: Stupidly simple hot girl habits for summer that are low-effort, high-output - and actually work

    Life hack: when you genuinely enjoy your own company and deeply respect who you are, settling stops being an option. You naturally begin to reject anything that falls below your standards — whether that’s your income, career, relationships, health, or overall lifestyle. When your self-respect is strong, you simply won’t tolerate experiences, environments, or people that aren’t aligned with the life you truly want. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the importance of energetic hygiene, the beauty and wellness habits that keep me feeling my best inside and out, the systems I currently use for both maintenance and expansion in my personal life and business, how to balance the two, and so much more. So babe, pour yourself a cacao or matcha, grab your journal, and get cozy — because these hot girl habits are essential if you’re serious about seeing real results. — In this episode, I discuss:  01:25 - A personal update - what life has been looking and feeling like lately 04:00 - Why energetic hygiene is super important and how my daily routine looks 09:50 - Not settling for anything below your standard & demanding more requires THIS 18:35 - Beauty habits that keep me happy, healthy and glowing from the inside out  23:40 - The systems I have in place in both my life & biz for maintenance and expansion 42:45 - What embodying my feminine has looked like recently (might be controversial) — Similar Episode: Episode 133: My metabolic age is 14, at 29?! Biohacking, slow-aging + my high-maintenance hacks to save time — My current beauty habits (checklist) Nourish (inner beauty): beef liver, electrolytes, seamoss, collagen clean protein bar in each hand and sports bag Self-care (outer beauty): scalp oiling w rosemary oil for roots castor oil and beeswax stick for face fragrance free products only beef tallow, coco oil face tapes, no botox  lipgloss (clean) Nature: morning and evening sun daily grounding + being present Body: movement - steps, gym, Pilates  Whole foods only, no long ingredient list 9 hours of deep sleep Nervous system regulation — Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you.If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    51 min
  6. May 26

    EP 164: How to be 'that girl' who always gets what she wants - fusing 'IT girl' x 'magnetic queen' energy

    Have you ever noticed your phone is dry AF when you secretly want validation? Like you text your friends/ the guy you like, post on social media, share on stories…only to hear crickets. But the moment you’re unbothered and just out there living your best life…everyone suddenly appears and wants a piece of you. Sounds familiar? That’s because magnetism is not something you chase. It radiates when your life is full. In this fun and empowering episode, we’re diving into what it really means to become the kind of woman who effortlessly attracts everything she desires — without chasing, forcing, obsessing, or burning herself out in the process. We’re diving deep into how to fuse ‘IT girl’ energy with ‘magnetic queen’ energy, how to become her, why detachment is a product of overflow, why we need to let money flow like water, the practice of self-honoring decisions, the real truth about magnetism, and so much more!  So bby, pour yourself a coffee or tea, grab your journal, and settle in for an episode filled with reflections, truth bombs, mindset shifts & practical insights to help you embody your most magnetic, unstoppable self. —- Want to go even deeper and work with me in a private setting?  Limited spaces are available! Click here to learn more about my one-on-one-mentorships! —- Journal Prompts:  Where are you chasing instead of overflowing? Where are you abandoning yourself for validation? What would “that girl” actually no longer tolerate/ entertain? What structures would support the woman you’re becoming? —- In this episode, I discuss:  01:20 - Intro to the episode – how to fuse ‘IT girl’ and ‘magnetic queen energy’ 03:55 - A quick reality check (get honest with yourself here to see changes!)  11:00 - What ‘IT GIRL’ energy actually is and how you can embody it daily 14:55 - The step by step process on how to become HER this summer 31:20 - Detachment is a natural result of *this*  35:25 - Why we need to let money flow like water 41:10 - What making self-honoring decisions truly means  43:35 - Feminine energy without structure becomes chaos  45:10 - Why you will never see an IT GIRL accept breadcrumbs  50:20 - The real truth about magnetism they don't tell you ----- Similar Episode: Episode 132: How to become unbothered by others and obsessed with yourself ----- Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you. If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    55 min
  7. May 19

    EP 163: The real reason you keep sabotaging what you say you want – how to stay ‘on track’

    If you’ve ever told yourself, “This time will be different,” only to fall off track just a few days later – whether it be with your new morning routine, wellness rituals, fitness goals, or a new project you want to work on – this episode is for you! It offers an insight into what actually happens in your body before you sabotage. So often, we think inconsistency means we’re lazy, unmotivated, or lacking discipline. But what if the real issue isn’t discipline at all? What if it’s an identity disconnect and a gap you learn to bridge, for good? In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the hidden patterns behind self-sabotage, why we pull away from the very things we want most, and the internal conflict that keeps us stuck in cycles of starting and stopping.  Oh and – we’ll explore powerful identity shifts, healing reframes, and daily practices to help you stay aligned with the version of yourself you’re meant to become and make staying on track easy-breezy. This conversation is an invitation to stop shaming and blaming yourself, and start understanding yourself on a deeper level as well as learn how to rewire your body for safety in expansion – so you can choose better, consistently. So babe, grab your journal, pour yourself a cacao or matcha, and settle in — because this episode is going to spark some deep reflection, self-understanding, healing, and actual transformation if applied. —- In this episode, I discuss:  01:15 - Intro to the episode – the real reason you keep sabotaging your desires 05:45 - Why you always keep falling off track and why it's protection 08:50 - You don't lack discipline or motivation, you have conflicting parts 19:20 - The underlying reason for choosing familiarity over expansion  22:20 - A healing reframe that you can practice daily to create inner coherence 25:25 - A practical integration & tangible shifts to implement to keep you in alignment -----   Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you. If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

    32 min
  8. May 12

    EP 162: Spicy opinions I have never publicly shared | Health, wealth, love & the high achiever's curse

    This week’s episode is an unfiltered hot take packed with tough love, spicy opinions, and perspective shifts that might change the way you see everything. I’m sharing the habits, energetic shifts, and wellness practices that have been transforming my life lately — zero gatekeeping here. We dive into raising your frequency, health and detox hacks, the trauma behind hyper-independence, what really attracts emotionally unavailable men, and why your self-concept may be the thing holding you back. Plus, a healing framework you can implement today. So bby, grab your matcha or cacao, pull out your journal, and get ready for an episode full of reflection, practical homework, and next-level self energy. —- – FINAL CALL – Intrigued by this work and committed to diving wayyy deeper this year? This is the work we do inside my brand new 4-month mastermind experience, THE MAGNETIC WOMAN. Let me break the curriculum down for you and give you a pre-taste of what awaits you when you go all in: Identity & Mindset Recalibration — aka not “thinking differently”, but being different, and leading yourself differently in everyday life situations. Feminine Embodiment + Nervous System Safety — Think – attraction without anxious attachment. Connection without neediness. Inner wholeness. Somatic Healing Work — That’s when old patterns dissolve, and your standards for yourself and others naturally rise. Aligned Wealth + Career Expansion — Strategy + resource management to make your life and career effortless and successful. It’s time to master money, take quantum leaps in your career and have more freedom. Relationship Calibration — Embody secure, healthy feminine energy in your love life to finally have that yummy, healthy, polarized romance you desire and deserve. And if you felt your body expand just by reading this…this first-ever round may just be meant for you, bby. Ready to become The Magnetic Woman who attracts effortlessly in 2026 & become THAT WOMAN? CLAIM YOUR SPOT IN MY NEW, INTIMATE MASTERMIND BEFORE DOORS CLOSE FOR GOOD!  —- In this episode, I discuss:  01:30 - Intro to the episode – habits, practices and shifts that changed my life 06:50 - My current health/ detox protocol that’s taken my health to the next level 11:00 - How I’ve been raising my frequency + protecting my energy lately 13:50 - Why your hyper-independence might just be a trauma response 23:40 - What makes women over-achieve and thus, reject themselves 28:10 - The #1 reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men 31:30 - Money/ income ceilings have nothing to with your mindset 34:40 - Perfectionism is just control showing up as excellence 39:20 - What the worthiness wound actually is + stems from  42:20 - A healing framework that you can implement right away 47:55 - You say you want a high-caliber man but your energy says otherwise 50:35 - Why our un-actualized potential should keep us up at night 56:15 - In order to create anything, THIS is required 57:25 - Things society has normalized that do not sit right with me 1:00:25 - My current stance on faith, god and religion overall My favorite seamoss:  Seamoss: https://seamossvibes.com.au/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seamossvibes_/  Connect with Laura:  Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/ Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/ Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1 Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/ >> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: hello@lauraherde.com >> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde  Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you. If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world! Make sure to be subscribed to U****K YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday. Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx

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This podcast is for the woman who dares to dream bigger - the woman who wants MORE out of life. I created this space for driven females like YOU who have high ambitions and standards for their life, for women in leadership positions, for (aspiring) fempreneurs… This the THE space to teach you how to cultivate alignment, fulfilment, abundance and freedom on ALL levels — in your career, your relationships, your mind, your body and your soul. I am here to teach you how you can accelerate your journey of becoming your most powerful Self; that version of you who gets to be, do and have it all.

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