Relationships Uncensored: Real Talk with Lisa Sonni

Lisa Sonni
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This is the podcast your abuser doesn’t want you to hear.  Hosted by relationship coach and abuse recovery educator Lisa Sonni, Relationships Uncensored pulls back the curtain on toxic and abusive dynamics, gender based violence, and romantic relationships,  This is the raw truth no one else is saying out loud. No sugarcoating. No “just leave” advice.  Just real stories, real insight, and real talk - so you can finally feel seen, not silenced. 

  1. 18h ago

    He Knows He’s Hurting You. He Thinks You Deserve It | Peter Salerno S5E09

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! If your partner admits what he did but still believes you deserved it, this episode explains why that happens. Lisa Sonni sits down with psychologist and author of Cruelty by Nature Dr. Peter Salerno to unpack the mindset of entitled, narcissistic men who know they’re hurting you and feel justified doing it.  They explore ego-syntonic abuse, pathological entitlement, and how some people live in a self-created hierarchy where the rules simply don’t apply to them. Dr. Salerno distinguishes between reactive pain and instrumental, opportunistic cruelty, and why admitting the behavior is not the same as accountability. The conversation makes clear that when someone is more concerned with their image than the impact of their actions, understanding them has limits. What matters most is the effect on you—and whether real repair is ever on the table. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  2. Oct 27

    The Dangerous Side of the “Provider” Man with Pattie Ehsaei | S5E08

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! This episode is about the connection between money, power, and a woman’s ability to leave a harmful relationship. We talk about how financial dependence can be created slowly through completely normal-looking decisions, and how “provider” dynamics can turn into control.  Pattie also breaks down why a woman can appear wealthy and still have very little financial freedom of her own. We get into the long-term cost of caregiving, time out of the workforce, and the financial hit women often take when relationships end. Most importantly, we talk about why financial independence is not just about wealth. Sometimes it’s about having enough power and options to choose what happens next. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  3. Oct 20

    Women Aren't Crazy. We're Seeing the Pattern. | Dr. Will S5E07

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! If noticing a pattern has ever made you the problem, this episode explains why. Lisa Sonni sits down with Dr. Will, a licensed psychologist and director of the Center for Connection in Santa Barbara, to unpack how patriarchy, coercion, and gaslighting teach women to doubt their own judgment.  They explore how controlling behavior can be framed as care, how pattern recognition gets dismissed as anxiety, and why the burden of proof so often falls on women. The conversation looks at early conditioning around compliance and keeping the peace, covert abuse that hides behind plausible deniability, and why asking whether he “meant it” can distract from the impact of repeated harm. Dr. Will brings a liberation-based lens that emphasizes safety, community, and connection—and the reminder that liberation is a collective effort, not something you have to carry alone. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  4. Oct 13

    Abusive Men Aren’t Monsters: They’re Products of a Culture Men Help Protect | Jackson Katz | S5E06

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! Abusive Men Aren’t Monsters: They’re Products of a Culture Men Help Protect | Jackson Katz If treating abusers as rare “monsters” has ever made the problem feel smaller than it is, this episode names why that story lets so many men off the hook. Lisa Sonni sits down with educator and author Jackson Katz to explain why domestic violence, sexual assault, and harassment belong to a larger system of gender inequality—and why prevention, accountability, and cultural change are men’s work, not just women’s.  They unpack how “boys will be boys” lowers the bar, how boys are often socialized away from empathy, and how victim-blaming and monster narratives both help ordinary men avoid intervening. Katz also makes the case that feminism is good for men too: less restrictive masculinity, better relationships, and more honest conversations about power. The core message is clear: this is not about isolated bad guys. It is about a culture men help protect—and can help change. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  5. Oct 6

    The Myth That Men Are Natural Protectors & Providers | Lisa Carr | S5E05

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! If you’ve ever been told that men are naturally wired to protect and provide—while being controlled, restricted, or blamed in the name of “safety”—this episode takes that story apart. Lisa Sonni sits down with Lisa Carr, known online as YV Edit, to unpack how the protector/provider myth often functions as control, coercion, and victim-blaming rather than genuine care.  They ask the question the narrative avoids: protect women from whom? The conversation looks at how “protection” can become curfews, clothing rules, location tracking, isolation, and obedience demanded in exchange for provision. Lisa and Lisa Carr discuss family, policing, religion, child support, and everyday examples that show how often women are not protected by the men closest to them. The core message is simple: real protection does not require ownership, compliance, or submission. If someone is truly safe, they build safety without making you pay for it. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  6. Sep 29

    Coercive Control: When You’re “Allowed” to Choose, But Pay for It | Lindsay Stoker | S5E04

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! Coercive Control: When You’re “Allowed” to Choose, But Pay for It | Lindsay Stoker If you’ve ever been “allowed” to do something, then paid for it with pressure, silence, tracking, or fear, this episode names that pattern. Lisa Sonni sits down with Lindsay Stoker, a 20-year stenographic court reporter and author of the forthcoming book The Control Code, to explain how coercive control hides behind permission, concern, and behavior that looks deniable from the outside. They unpack how control is built in tiny increments—constant texting, stonewalling, isolation, location tracking, and “boundaries” used to punish—until you start self-policing to stay safe. Lindsay frames early love bombing as territory acquisition and control as an engine that extracts compliance at the lowest cost. The key question is not what you were technically allowed to do, but what happened when you pushed back. Recognizing the pattern early matters, because fear itself is part of the abuse—and coercive control is strongly tied to lethality. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  7. Sep 22

    How Abusers Use Technology to Track, Watch & Control You with Dr. Christine Cocchiola | S5E03

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! How Abusers Use Technology to Track, Watch & Control You | Dr. Christine Cocchiola If “I just worry about you” or “text me when you get there” has ever felt more like monitoring than care, this episode explains why. Lisa Sonni sits down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, whose work in domestic violence, sexual assault crisis, and protective parenting helps survivors name coercive control—especially when it hides inside location sharing, passwords, and digital access that look protective at first.  They break down how tech-enabled abuse can include tracking, account access, hidden cameras, phone and Wi-Fi surveillance, and devices disguised in everyday objects. Dr. Cocchiola emphasizes that patterns matter more than isolated requests: when a request becomes a rule and the rule keeps expanding, your agency shrinks. The conversation also covers post-separation abuse, why coercive control is a serious safety warning, and why strategy—not proving the truth to someone unsafe—is often the path to protection. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

  8. Sep 15

    Weaponized Incompetence: When Does It Cross Into Abuse? | Paige Turner | S5E02

    Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode! If you’ve ever felt like the household manager while your partner acts helpless, this episode brings the nuance most conversations miss. Lisa Sonni sits down with Paige Turner, a mother of four and creator who talks about marriage, motherhood, and domestic labor, to unpack where weaponized incompetence ends and ordinary friction begins.  They look at everyday examples—the dishwasher, the sink, snow gear, and “just give me a list”—and ask the real question: is your partner willing to learn and change, or is the work quietly landing back on you? The conversation challenges the idea that “you’re just better at it” means you should own it forever, explains how lists create a manager-employee dynamic, and names why time—not money—is the real currency of fairness at home.  Paige and Lisa also make space for the gray area: not every conflict is abuse, but repeated shutdowns, defensiveness, and blame-shifting can signal something much more serious. Healthy partnerships can handle curiosity, accountability, and follow-through. If the inequity feels bad, that feeling is information—not a personal failing. Join Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the show This is the podcast they don't want you listening to. 👉 Find me at lisasonni.com  Book A Session with Lisa Join my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy.  Follow on IG Watch on YouTube Get My Books Here New episodes drop every Tuesday. Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember: You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.

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This is the podcast your abuser doesn’t want you to hear.  Hosted by relationship coach and abuse recovery educator Lisa Sonni, Relationships Uncensored pulls back the curtain on toxic and abusive dynamics, gender based violence, and romantic relationships,  This is the raw truth no one else is saying out loud. No sugarcoating. No “just leave” advice.  Just real stories, real insight, and real talk - so you can finally feel seen, not silenced. 

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