Workplace Therapy with Dr. Abby Medcalf

Abby Medcalf
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If Adam Grant and Brené Brown had a smart, funny, slightly bossy sister who showed up with her own table, her own chairs, and a slightly inappropriate snack tray, you’d get Dr. Abby Medcalf.   Welcome to Workplace Therapy, the podcast where workplace relationships finally get the therapy they’ve always needed. Whether you're burned out from boundary-less coworkers, stuck in a people-pleasing loop with your boss, or dreading yet another “quick” check-in from a micromanaging manager, Abby has the insight and attitude you’ve been craving.   With decades of experience as a psychologist, organizational consultant, and no-nonsense New Yorker, Abby delivers research-backed tips and strategies you can use today. No fluff. No vague leadership lingo. Just honest talk about the human side of work and how to finally feel energized and confident in your career again.

  1. 30. Office Gossip and Rumor Mills: How to Stay Out of It Without Becoming Invisible

    5d ago

    30. Office Gossip and Rumor Mills: How to Stay Out of It Without Becoming Invisible

    Someone pulls you aside after a meeting. They lean in. They've got something to tell you about a colleague, a decision that's coming, a rumor making the rounds. And you feel it, that pull. The slight quickening. The part of you that wants to know. Office gossip is one of those workplace dynamics that almost everyone participates in to some degree and almost no one feels good about. Today I'm going to tell you what's actually going on when gossip circulates, why it's so hard to stay out of it, what it costs you when you don't, and how to navigate it in a way that keeps you connected without compromising your integrity or your reputation. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/office-gossip-rumor-mills-at-work Download the Gossip-Free Playbook, your one-page guide to staying connected and informed at work without the reputation cost: https://abbymedcalf.com/gossip-free-playbook Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    20 min
  2. 29. Conflict With a Coworker? Here's How to Actually Fix It

    Jun 3

    29. Conflict With a Coworker? Here's How to Actually Fix It

    Conflict with your boss has a clear power structure. Conflict with someone you manage has a clear direction of authority. But conflict with a peer? That's the one nobody really teaches you how to handle, because it sits in the most ambiguous territory at work, two people at roughly the same level, no one with formal authority over the other, and a problem that isn't going away. Today I'm going to show you why peer conflict is uniquely hard to navigate, what's actually driving it most of the time, and a four-step approach for resolving it without blowing up the relationship, going over someone's head unnecessarily, or letting it fester into something that affects your whole team. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/peer-conflict-at-work Download the Peer Conflict Prep Sheet, your guide to preparing for the conversation before you walk in: https://abbymedcalf.com/peer-conflict-sheet Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    23 min
  3. 28. Passive-Aggressive Coworkers: How to Handle the Person Who Never Says What They Mean

    May 27

    28. Passive-Aggressive Coworkers: How to Handle the Person Who Never Says What They Mean

    They said, "Fine." But it wasn't fine. You can tell by the way they said it, the email they copied three people on for no apparent reason, the "just checking in" that was actually a pointed reminder, the compliment that somehow left you feeling worse than an insult would have. Passive-aggressive behavior at work is one of the most maddening dynamics to deal with because it's designed to be deniable. There's nothing you can point to directly, and yet the message is loud and clear. Today I'm going to tell you what's actually driving this behavior, why it gets under your skin the way it does, and exactly how to respond without getting pulled into their game. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/passive-aggressive-coworkers   Download The Passive-Aggressive Response Guide: https://abbymedcalf.com/passive-aggressive-guide Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    28 min
  4. 27. Can't Say No at Work? Here's How to Start (Without the Fallout)

    May 20

    27. Can't Say No at Work? Here's How to Start (Without the Fallout)

    Last episode, I told you why you can't stop people-pleasing at work. Today, I'm giving you what to actually say because knowing the pattern isn't enough. When your boss drops something on your desk at 4pm Friday, or a colleague asks you to cover for them again, or you're sitting in a meeting watching a bad decision get made and nobody's pushing back, you need words. Ones that don't blow up the relationship, don't make you sound difficult, and don't send you home replaying the conversation for three hours. That's what today is. Six situations where people-pleasing shows up most at work, and the exact language to handle each one without losing yourself or burning a bridge. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/saying-no-at-work-people-pleasers-guide Grab the No Without the Drama Script Card: https://abbymedcalf.com/no-script-card Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min
  5. 26. People-Pleasing at Work: Why You Can't Stop (And What It's Really Costing You)

    May 13

    26. People-Pleasing at Work: Why You Can't Stop (And What It's Really Costing You)

    You say yes when you mean no. You take on work that isn't yours because saying no feels too risky. You soften feedback until it loses its meaning, apologize for things that aren't your fault, and spend more energy managing other people's emotions than doing your actual job. And the strangest part? You know you're doing it. You can see it happening in real time. And you still can't stop. People-pleasing at work isn't a habit you can just decide to break. It's a nervous system strategy that your brain developed for very good reasons, and until you understand those reasons, willpower won't touch it. Today you'll get the psychology and neuroscience behind why people-pleasing is so hard to quit, what it's actually costing you at work, and my three steps to change it. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/people-pleasing-at-work Get the People-Pleasing Pattern Decoder, your guide to identifying exactly where and why your people-pleasing shows up at work: https://abbymedcalf.com/people-pleasing-decoder Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/   👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    19 min
  6. 25. Imposter Syndrome at Work: Why You Still Feel Like a Fraud (Even When You're Not)

    May 6

    25. Imposter Syndrome at Work: Why You Still Feel Like a Fraud (Even When You're Not)

    You got the promotion. You have the experience. You've done this job a hundred times. And yet there's a voice in your head that's convinced today is the day everyone finds out you have no idea what you're doing. That's imposter syndrome, and it's not a sign that you're actually incompetent. It's a sign that your nervous system is doing something very specific, something that high achievers are particularly susceptible to, and I'm going to show you exactly what that is and how to stop letting it run your career. Today, you'll get the neuroscience behind why imposter syndrome feels so real, why the people who suffer most from it are usually the most capable, and four concrete tools to quiet that internal fraud alarm for good. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/imposter-syndrome-at-work Download the Imposter Syndrome Field Guide, your one-page tool for catching the fraud alarm in real time and redirecting it: https://abbymedcalf.com/imposter-syndrome-guide Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    20 min
  7. 24. The Sunday Scaries: Why Work Dread Starts Before the Week Even Begins

    Apr 29

    24. The Sunday Scaries: Why Work Dread Starts Before the Week Even Begins

    It's Sunday afternoon. The sun is still out. You haven't even finished your coffee. And somehow, work is already ruining your day. That knot in your stomach, the scrolling to avoid your own thoughts, the creeping dread that starts sometime around 3pm and just gets louder, then maybe you don’t get good sleep on Sunday nights. Today I'm going to show you why it happens and the specific steps to stop handing your Sundays over to a job that doesn't even start until tomorrow. You'll learn the real biology behind Sunday dread, why the standard advice makes it worse, and my three-part approach to reclaiming your weekend. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/sunday-scaries-work-dread-nervous-system Download the Sunday Reset Toolkit, your one-page guide to the three-part Sunday Scaries system: https://abbymedcalf.com/sunday-reset Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________  Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes. Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    20 min
  8. 23. How to Get Motivated When Work Feels Pointless

    Apr 1

    23. How to Get Motivated When Work Feels Pointless

    If work feels pointless, your motivation isn’t the problem. Your meaning system is. Today you’ll learn why your brain shuts down when your job feels empty, the psychology behind modern workplace meaninglessness, and the tools that help you reconnect to purpose even when the work itself doesn’t change. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stay-motivated-when-work-feels-pointless   Download the Meaning Map: https://abbymedcalf.com/meaning-map   Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.   You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________   Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries   👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook   👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.   Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop   A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop   Say hello on social: Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    20 min
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If Adam Grant and Brené Brown had a smart, funny, slightly bossy sister who showed up with her own table, her own chairs, and a slightly inappropriate snack tray, you’d get Dr. Abby Medcalf.   Welcome to Workplace Therapy, the podcast where workplace relationships finally get the therapy they’ve always needed. Whether you're burned out from boundary-less coworkers, stuck in a people-pleasing loop with your boss, or dreading yet another “quick” check-in from a micromanaging manager, Abby has the insight and attitude you’ve been craving.   With decades of experience as a psychologist, organizational consultant, and no-nonsense New Yorker, Abby delivers research-backed tips and strategies you can use today. No fluff. No vague leadership lingo. Just honest talk about the human side of work and how to finally feel energized and confident in your career again.

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