63 episodes

Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.



Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.



No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.



For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

Untoxicated Podcast Matt & Sheri Salis

    • Relationships
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Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.



Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.



No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.



For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

    Ep63 – The Holiday Season: Tinsel & Candy Cane Covered Trauma

    Ep63 – The Holiday Season: Tinsel & Candy Cane Covered Trauma

    It's a Wonderful Life or White Christmas - who has experienced a holiday season that lives up to those perfect pictures of love, family and humanity? Normal Rockwell sets the bar pretty high, yet we still try to measure-up year after year. Add the trauma alcohol brings when mixed with unavoidable holiday stress, and it's the most terrifying time of the year.



    In this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss the holiday seasons of his active alcoholism, and also the recent years when alcohol has left the marriage. The holidays are no longer traumatizing, but they are still hard (but they're getting better). Recovering a relationship takes on a whole new meaning at the holidays.



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 45 min
    Ep62 – You’ve Done Nothing Wrong. Why are you So Ashamed?

    Ep62 – You’ve Done Nothing Wrong. Why are you So Ashamed?

    The shame of alcoholism is not reserved only for the drinkers. The loved ones of drinkers feel an enormous amount of shame - for letting it get so bad and for being unable to fix the problems in the relationship. And when the gaslighting of the drinker makes the loved one question her own sanity, the shame mounts to debilitating levels.



    But there is hope. On this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss the shame they both felt in their alcoholic marriage, and the keys to moving past it and feeling proud, confident, and on the road to healing and recovery. Also, Sheri makes fun of Matt's inability to remember more than two things.



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 1 hr 4 min
    Ep61 – Traci on Healing Her Broken Heart

    Ep61 – Traci on Healing Her Broken Heart

    The anger and resentment from her husband's drinking was building inside our friend, Traci. If he kept drinking, she faced a selfless and dreadful decision. "I loved him too much to stay and punish him." Then, she learned of the damage his drinking was having on her. The episode title is not a metaphor. The stress and trauma of Traci's alcoholic marriage almost killed her. On this episode, Sheri and Matt welcome their friend to share her story of pain, sickness and rebuilding. Everyone knows alcoholism is deadly to the alcoholic, but do you truly appreciate that loving an alcoholic can be a matter of life and death, too? This is a powerful and heartbreaking conversation.



    If you are interested in the "Coming Out" letter Traci references that helped her identify her husband as a high-functioning alcoholic, you can find it here.



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 1 hr 12 min
    Ep60 – Why are we still so angry?

    Ep60 – Why are we still so angry?

    If you've ever looked for the root cause of your anger, you've probably read or heard that anger is the outward manifestation of fear. There's wisdom there, but it goes deeper. In this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss the concept of considering what their anger means about themselves. We can't change other people. To alleviate our own anger, we can leave the situation or we can make changes to ourselves. They talk about how much easier it is to understand this concept than it is to execute it.



    When the alcohol left the relationship, and years of recovery work was in the books, the anger lingers. Why, and what can be done about it?



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 1 hr
    Ep59 – Deep Healing with Trace Nuttall

    Ep59 – Deep Healing with Trace Nuttall

    Trace Nuttall allowed alcohol and marijuana to destroy his relationship with the love of his life. It happened right in front of his own eyes, and he had no idea what was happening. How could he be so oblivious as he pushed the woman he loved away? It was the booze and the weed, of course.



    In this episode, Matt and Trace discuss the impact of addiction on relationships, but that's just the beginning of this fascinating and deep conversation. They discuss a wide variety of methodologies for not just recovery, but for personal growth. They also discuss the overwhelming prevalence of "big alcohol" and Matt's new goal of the sober majority.



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 1 hr 10 min
    Ep58 – Neither of You are to Blame

    Ep58 – Neither of You are to Blame

    Alcoholism is so insidious because of how it creeps into relationships and destroys us from the inside. When did my husband turn from a sweet, loving man into such a repulsive tyrant? When did my wife become so nasty and nagging, and why isn't she interested in me anymore? Even in early sobriety, both parties in an alcoholic relationship are trying to assess blame. Sure, he is an alcoholic, but I am not exactly easy to live with. I know I've got to own my drinking, but she turned into a complete bitch.



    In this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss how important it is to blame the disease. If you are trying to assess blame in your alcoholic marriage, blame the alcohol.



    If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, and your recovery could benefit from connection with people who understand, please check out our Echoes of Recovery program.



    Echoes of Recovery

    • 47 min

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