Teach Me How To Adult

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Adulting isn't easy, but we got you. Teach Me How To Adult is a smart, unfiltered podcast on everything you never learned growing up, because let’s be honest, no one prepared us for this. Between landing your dream job, crushing your love life, learning to invest, mastering your mindset and figuring out how to be happy along the way, there’s a lot to navigate. Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.

  1. 23 hrs ago

    How To Feel More Empowered & Confident: The Psychology of Personal Power + Locus of Control | The Quickie

    Do you feel like you're in the driver's seat of your life, or does it feel like life is just happening to you? Empowered people have an infectious confidence and energy, and a lot of that personal agency comes down to a powerful concept in psychology: locus of control. Do our choices, habits, and actions shape our future? Or are we at the mercy of luck, circumstances, other people, and forces beyond our control? Your answer has a major impact on your confidence, resilience, motivation, mental health, relationships, success, and optimism. In this episode, we unpack the difference between an internal locus of control and an external locus of control, why some people feel empowered while others feel stuck, and how our childhood experiences, upbringing, and life circumstances can shape the stories we tell ourselves about what's possible. Tune in to hear: What the concept of locus of control is in psychology The difference between an internal vs. external locus of control Why locus of control influences confidence, resilience, happiness, motivation, and success The connection between external locus of control and anxiety/depression/stress How high performers often develop a stronger sense of personal agency How childhood experiences, parenting styles, and socioeconomic circumstances shape our beliefs Why your locus of control may differ across areas of your life Strategies to feel more empowered and build confidence in your abilities Whether you're navigating anxiety, building self-confidence, or trying to feel more empowered in your life, this is a powerful framework for understanding how your mindset shapes your reality. I believe in you!! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    17 min

  2. Jun 17

    The Overlooked Cause Of Burnout (It's Not Stress Or Overwork) And How To Recover | Rerelease

    What if burnout isn't always caused by working too much? I've been falling back into burnout lately, and a lot of people around me have been struggling with it too. So in this throwback episode, we're exploring a lesser-known cause of burnout that rarely gets discussed: a lack of meaning, purpose, connection, engagement, and fulfillment. Most burnout advice focuses on reducing stress, taking breaks, and improving work-life balance... but tons of people are still experiencing chronic fatigue, emotional exhaustion, and low motivation even after taking a break and getting more rest. That's because burnout isn't always about overwork. Sometimes it's about undernourishment. Enter "boreout": the exhaustion that comes from chronic disengagement, lack of purpose, misalignment with your values, and not having enough meaningful experiences, relationships, creativity, or excitement in your life. Tune in to hear about: • The other cause of burnout that most people overlook • Why burnout isn't always caused by stress, overwork, or long hours • How a lack of meaning, purpose, and engagement can create chronic exhaustion • The connection between values misalignment and burnout symptoms • How technology, overstimulation, and constant productivity impact mental health • Why rest alone doesn't always fix burnout • Practical ways to create more energy, joy, creativity, purpose, and fulfillment • How to recover from burnout by building a life that energizes you Sometimes the answer isn't doing less... it's reconnecting with what makes you feel alive.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    18 min

  3. Jun 15

    ICYMI: Are You A Moderator Or Abstainer? Breaking Down Drinking Habits & How Alcohol Impacts Your Social Life, with Amanda Kuda

    Rethinking drinking? You're not the only one. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.  We all know alcohol messes with our health, but do you know how much it gets in the way of real connection? We're throwing it back to a deep chat with Amanda Kuda on how alcohol impacts our confidence, energy, social lives and more. Tune in to find out if you fall into the moderators vs. abstainers archetype, and how to realistically change your relationship with booze. Amanda is an alcohol-free life coach, speaker, and author of Unbottled Potential: Break Up With Alcohol and Break Through to Your Best Life. Amanda teaches a modern, empowering approach to personal development and self-actualization through the lens of elective sobriety—no rock bottom necessary. Whether you’re looking to cut back, reassess your relationship with drinking, or explore what an alcohol-free lifestyle could do for your energy, confidence, dating life, and emotional wellbeing, Amanda offers tons of vulnerability and insight. Listen to our full episode with Amanda here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Amanda: https://www.amandakuda.com/  For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    12 min

  4. Jun 10

    Why Your Friendships Feel Empty, Lonely & Disconnected in Adulthood, with Psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain

    You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely? Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we’re in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected *even though* they have lots of connections in their lives. The real reason no one’s talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of modern friendship with psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain. From attachment styles and friendship patterns to reciprocity, resentment, and friendship breakups, this interview is a roadmap for healthier, more fulfilling friendships. Tune in to hear: • Why adult friendships are harder to build and maintain  • The "Depth Gap" and why loneliness is often a quality issue, not a quantity issue • How fear of vulnerability and rejection impact intimacy • Attachment styles in friendships • Understanding your friendship blueprint and relationship patterns • Fast-burn versus slow-burn friendships… why pacing matters • Managing reciprocity, imbalance and resentment • The importance of healthy criticism • Tuning into your body’s reaction to people  • The art of discernment in picking the right friendships • Why friendships fracture in adulthood Follow Dr. Elisabeth Crain: https://www.drelisabethcrain.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.elisabeth.crain  Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    43 min

  5. Jun 8

    ICYMI: An Expert-Backed Trick To Manage ADHD Mood Spirals, with Shanna Pearson (Founder Of The World’s #1 ADHD Coaching Company)

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed.  Why is catastrophizing and emotional spirals so common in ADHD? We're throwing it back to this helpful advice from ADHD coach Shanna Pearson, on her easy go-to trick to manage mood and strong emotional reactions in the moment. Shanna is the founder of the world’s largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, working with thousands of adults with ADHD every year, and the bestselling author of Invisible ADHD. Follow Shannon and check out her book: https://www.adhdcoaching.com/  https://www.invisibleadhd.com/  Listen to our full episode here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    7 min

  6. Jun 3

    How To Stop Avoiding Your Life: Why Avoidance Makes Anxiety Worse & Shrinks Your Life (And How to Overcome It) | The Quickie

    What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years. If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making, presentations, or anything that makes you anxious, this episode is for you. Avoidance is one of the most common coping mechanisms people use for anxiety… but it's also one of the biggest reasons anxiety continues to grow. And the problem with avoidance is you can’t stop thinking about something that you’re trying to avoid. In today’s episode, we're unpacking the psychology of avoidance and how it ultimately reinforces fear, shrinks your comfort zone, and keeps you stuck. Tune in if you want to learn how to face your fears, build confidence in your ability to deal with stress, and live a more expansive life. We cover: Why avoidance is one of the most common coping strategies The anxiety-avoidance cycle and how it feeds anxiety Why avoiding difficult conversations creates more stress than just having them Internal avoidance: avoiding thoughts, uncertainty, decisions, and emotions How avoidance can shrink your world and limit your opportunities How Metacognitive Therapy approaches anxiety and avoidance Building tolerance for uncertainty and discomfort Using gradual exposure: the "fear ladder" Prompts to change how you think about your anxiety The Fear List exercise that helped me get unstuck If you've been feeling trapped by anxiety, fear, and avoidance, this episode is your reminder that discomfort is not dangerous… and life usually expands on the other side of the things we're afraid of.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    17 min

  7. Jun 1

    ICYMI: Do You Know Your Sexual Personality Type? Navigating Compatibility & Desire, with Sex Educator Dr. Tara

    Do you know your sexual personality type? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.  If you like personality tests and frameworks like Myers Briggs, learning your sexual profile can make a huge difference in your sex life. We're throwing it back to this helpful segment from TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara, on how to know if you and your partner are sexually compatible, what to do if you have different sexual preferences, and the key to connecting in bed if you have different sexual personality types. Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).  Listen to the full episode here! Take the Sexual Profile Quiz: https://www.luvbites.co/quizzes/whats-your-sexual-profile Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Dr. Tara on TikTok and Instagram Get Dr. Tara’s new book, How Do You Like It   Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    11 min

  8. May 27

    Endometriosis & PCOS/PMOS Explained: Symptoms, Period Pain, Diagnosis & Treatments That Actually Help, with Dr. Karen Tang

    If you’re listening to this episode, chances are you or someone you love is struggling with a hormonal, inflammatory, reproductive, or chronic pain condition like endometriosis or PCOS/PMOS… I know firsthand how exhausting and frustrating it can be to get proper care, and how much these conditions can impact your life, from pain and fertility struggles, to metabolism issues, bloating, and the impact on your physical and mental health. The good news? Women’s health conversations are finally starting to change around conditions that have historically been dismissed, minimized, or misunderstood. In this episode, I’m joined by renowned gynecologist and gynecologic surgeon Dr. Karen Tang to unpack the truth about endometriosis and PCOS (now more accurately named PMOS — Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome. This interview is packed with validating, practical, and empowering information that every woman deserves to hear. We dive deep into the symptoms, root causes, inflammation, hormones, fertility struggles, diagnosis delays, treatment options, and evidence-based lifestyle interventions that can actually help women living with these issues. Dr. Tang explains why endometriosis is far more than “bad period pain,” how it can affect the entire body, and why it often takes women an average of 7–11 years to receive a diagnosis. We also cover PCOS/PMOS as a metabolic and hormonal disorder (not just a fertility condition) including insulin resistance, blood sugar dysregulation, and long-term health risks. Dr. Tang is a leader in reproductive health, has taught medical students and residents at institutions like Harvard and University of Pennsylvania, and she reaches millions of viewers on her social media channels where she explains gynaecology, pelvic pain, and reproductive rights. She’s the author of It’s Not Hysteria, Everything You Need To Know About Your Reproductive Health (But Were Never Told). Tune in to learn about: The signs and symptoms of endometriosis and PCOS/PMOS Why women’s pain is so often normalized or dismissed in healthcare The stages and severity of endometriosis Common triggers for endometriosis flare-ups Anti-inflammatory diets, supplements, and lifestyle changes that may help Fertility considerations for women with endometriosis and/or PCOS Why doctors prescribe birth control as a treatment Non-hormonal treatment options that can help address the root cause How to advocate for yourself when doctors dismiss your symptoms Follow Dr. Tang: https://thrivegyn.com/  https://www.instagram.com/karentangmd/?hl=en  Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

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Adulting isn't easy, but we got you. Teach Me How To Adult is a smart, unfiltered podcast on everything you never learned growing up, because let’s be honest, no one prepared us for this. Between landing your dream job, crushing your love life, learning to invest, mastering your mindset and figuring out how to be happy along the way, there’s a lot to navigate. Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.

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