The Positivity Xperience

Lori Wheeler
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

  1. Why You Feel Responsible for Other People's Crises

    2D AGO

    Why You Feel Responsible for Other People's Crises

    Do you feel responsible for other people's emergencies — their emotional spirals, financial messes, relationship chaos, or even their mental health crises? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind over-responsibility, nervous system conditioning, and why "being the strong one" becomes a role you can't turn off. We explore how crisis-responsibility develops through conditioning and attachment patterns, why urgency hits your body like a mandate, and what it actually looks like to care without carrying. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: Why some people feel responsible for everyone else's crises How over-functioning creates codependent crisis loops Why mental health is NOT your responsibility to manage How guilt becomes a control mechanism (even unintentionally) The difference between support, rescue, and emotional hostage situations How to set containment boundaries without becoming cold If you've been living like a crisis manager — this episode will help you reclaim your life without losing your compassion.   Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    40 min
  2. Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong

    MAR 1

    Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong

    If you struggle to relax even when life feels calm, this episode will help you understand why. In this episode, we explore the psychology and nervous system conditioning behind chronic tension, hypervigilance, and the inability to rest. We break down why relaxation can feel unsafe, how early environments shape the stress response, and why thinking your way into calm rarely works. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: Why relaxation is a nervous system state — not a mindset How hypervigilance develops without obvious trauma Why calm can feel uncomfortable or unsafe The role of ego and identity in staying activated What actually helps the nervous system learn safety This is a grounded conversation about responsibility, healing, and learning how to feel safe in stillness again. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    45 min
  3. You Need to Know Who Gets Access to You

    FEB 22

    You Need to Know Who Gets Access to You

    Victim mindset isn't just about how you think — it's about who you allow access to you. In this episode, we explore how victim mentality is reinforced through relationships, environments, and emotional access. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and nervous system science, this conversation breaks down why mindset work often fails when access doesn't change — and how growth requires more than just insight. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: *How victim mindset is reinforced socially *What "access" actually means psychologically *Why attachment and belonging keep people stuck *How ego protects familiar identities *Why environment matters more than intention *What actually shifts when access changes This episode is a direct, grounded conversation about responsibility, healing, and choosing relationships that support who you're becoming — not who you've been. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together www.thepositivityxperience.com

    40 min
  4. You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    FEB 15

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground If people constantly unload their emotions, problems, and frustrations onto you, this episode will help you understand why — and what to do about it. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind becoming the emotional dumping ground, including how early conditioning, emotional over-functioning, and ego identity quietly reinforce this pattern. We break down the difference between healthy vulnerability and emotional dumping, why boundaries alone don't always stop it, and what you may be unconsciously signaling that keeps this dynamic in place. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why people emotionally dump on certain individuals The difference between empathy and emotional absorption How ego identity reinforces being "the safe one" Why boundaries fail without energetic change How to stop over-functioning emotionally without shutting down This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about reclaiming emotional space, responsibility, and self-respect — without losing compassion.   Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    46 min
  5. The 4 Agreements (and Why You Keep Resisting Them)

    FEB 8

    The 4 Agreements (and Why You Keep Resisting Them)

    The Four Agreements are simple — but they're not easy. And the reason most people don't practice them isn't because they don't understand them. It's because practicing them requires giving up ego-driven habits like blame, vagueness, mind-reading, people-pleasing, and self-bullying. In this episode, we break down what The Four Agreements actually are, where they originated, where people get them wrong, and why so many people cherry-pick the parts that feel comforting while avoiding the parts that would actually change their relationships and self-respect. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: *What the four agreements are and what they were meant to teach *The most common ways people misuse "don't take it personally" and "always do your best" *Why ego resists these agreements (and how that shows up in your daily life) *How to apply them without using them as spiritual bypassing This is a direct, psychology-informed conversation about responsibility, communication, and emotional maturity — so you can stop quoting the principles and start living them. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    44 min
  6. Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings

    FEB 1

    Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings

    If you feel compelled to soothe, explain, reassure, or fix whenever someone is upset, this episode is for you. In this episode, we unpack why so many people take responsibility for other people's emotions — and why this pattern is often mistaken for empathy. We explore the psychology behind emotional fixing, how early conditioning teaches us that discomfort is dangerous, and why the ego reinforces the need to manage others' feelings. You'll learn the difference between presence and control, why letting people feel their emotions can feel terrifying, and how fixing others actually prevents growth — for them and for you. This episode is about releasing emotional responsibility without guilt and reclaiming your energy, boundaries, and nervous system regulation. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why fixing feelings is not empathy How emotional responsibility gets conditioned early The role ego plays in fixing and rescuing Why letting others feel feels unsafe How to support without over-functioning This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about boundaries, emotional ownership, and learning to care without carrying what isn't yours. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get The Workbook And Other Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    45 min
  7. Why Intensity Isn't Connection

    JAN 25

    Why Intensity Isn't Connection

    Intensity often feels like depth — but it isn't the same thing as connection. In this episode, we explore why so many people confuse emotional intensity with closeness, chemistry, or intimacy, and how nervous system dysregulation and ego reinforcement keep this pattern alive. If calm feels boring, unsettling, or emotionally empty to you, there's a psychological reason — and it has nothing to do with your capacity for love or connection. We break down how attachment patterns, early emotional conditioning, and ego identity can make urgency, emotional highs, and volatility feel meaningful, while steady, grounded connection feels unfamiliar or wrong. This episode challenges the belief that depth requires chaos and explains what real connection actually feels like when safety replaces stimulation. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why emotional intensity feels like connection How attachment and nervous system conditioning shape attraction The role ego plays in chasing emotional highs Why calm can feel unsafe or "boring" How to recognize real connection versus emotional activation This is a psychology-based conversation about retraining your nervous system, releasing ego-driven patterns, and learning to experience connection without overwhelm. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    44 min
  8. The Truth About Fake Concern: When Kindness Is Used as Leverage

    JAN 18

    The Truth About Fake Concern: When Kindness Is Used as Leverage

    Some people don't control through aggression — they control through concern. In this episode, we break down the psychology of fake concern and how kindness can quietly become a tool for emotional leverage. If someone frames control as care, uses "worry" to influence your decisions, or subtly plays on your insecurities while appearing helpful, this conversation will help you see it clearly. We explore why weaponized kindness is so effective, how guilt and obligation are created without direct confrontation, and why people who use fake concern often appear reasonable, supportive, and well-intentioned on the surface. This episode explains the psychological mechanisms behind emotional control, moral superiority, and subtle manipulation — without labeling or diagnosing. If you've ever felt confused, pressured, or smaller after a "supportive" conversation, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and how to reclaim your autonomy without guilt. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between genuine care and fake concern Why kindness becomes leverage in certain relationships How insecurities are subtly targeted and reinforced The psychology of emotional obligation and moral framing How to recognize control disguised as support This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about discernment, boundaries, and self-trust — not becoming cynical, but becoming clear. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get MORE Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    43 min
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

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  • Creator
    Lori Wheeler
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    275
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © All Rights Reserved Lori Wheeler
  • Show Website
    The Positivity Xperience

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