The Positivity Xperience

Lori Wheeler
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

  1. You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    2D AGO

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground If people constantly unload their emotions, problems, and frustrations onto you, this episode will help you understand why — and what to do about it. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind becoming the emotional dumping ground, including how early conditioning, emotional over-functioning, and ego identity quietly reinforce this pattern. We break down the difference between healthy vulnerability and emotional dumping, why boundaries alone don't always stop it, and what you may be unconsciously signaling that keeps this dynamic in place. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why people emotionally dump on certain individuals The difference between empathy and emotional absorption How ego identity reinforces being "the safe one" Why boundaries fail without energetic change How to stop over-functioning emotionally without shutting down This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about reclaiming emotional space, responsibility, and self-respect — without losing compassion.   Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    46 min
  2. The 4 Agreements (and Why You Keep Resisting Them)

    FEB 8

    The 4 Agreements (and Why You Keep Resisting Them)

    The Four Agreements are simple — but they're not easy. And the reason most people don't practice them isn't because they don't understand them. It's because practicing them requires giving up ego-driven habits like blame, vagueness, mind-reading, people-pleasing, and self-bullying. In this episode, we break down what The Four Agreements actually are, where they originated, where people get them wrong, and why so many people cherry-pick the parts that feel comforting while avoiding the parts that would actually change their relationships and self-respect. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: *What the four agreements are and what they were meant to teach *The most common ways people misuse "don't take it personally" and "always do your best" *Why ego resists these agreements (and how that shows up in your daily life) *How to apply them without using them as spiritual bypassing This is a direct, psychology-informed conversation about responsibility, communication, and emotional maturity — so you can stop quoting the principles and start living them. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    44 min
  3. Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings

    FEB 1

    Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings

    If you feel compelled to soothe, explain, reassure, or fix whenever someone is upset, this episode is for you. In this episode, we unpack why so many people take responsibility for other people's emotions — and why this pattern is often mistaken for empathy. We explore the psychology behind emotional fixing, how early conditioning teaches us that discomfort is dangerous, and why the ego reinforces the need to manage others' feelings. You'll learn the difference between presence and control, why letting people feel their emotions can feel terrifying, and how fixing others actually prevents growth — for them and for you. This episode is about releasing emotional responsibility without guilt and reclaiming your energy, boundaries, and nervous system regulation. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why fixing feelings is not empathy How emotional responsibility gets conditioned early The role ego plays in fixing and rescuing Why letting others feel feels unsafe How to support without over-functioning This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about boundaries, emotional ownership, and learning to care without carrying what isn't yours. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get The Workbook And Other Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    45 min
  4. Why Intensity Isn't Connection

    JAN 25

    Why Intensity Isn't Connection

    Intensity often feels like depth — but it isn't the same thing as connection. In this episode, we explore why so many people confuse emotional intensity with closeness, chemistry, or intimacy, and how nervous system dysregulation and ego reinforcement keep this pattern alive. If calm feels boring, unsettling, or emotionally empty to you, there's a psychological reason — and it has nothing to do with your capacity for love or connection. We break down how attachment patterns, early emotional conditioning, and ego identity can make urgency, emotional highs, and volatility feel meaningful, while steady, grounded connection feels unfamiliar or wrong. This episode challenges the belief that depth requires chaos and explains what real connection actually feels like when safety replaces stimulation. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why emotional intensity feels like connection How attachment and nervous system conditioning shape attraction The role ego plays in chasing emotional highs Why calm can feel unsafe or "boring" How to recognize real connection versus emotional activation This is a psychology-based conversation about retraining your nervous system, releasing ego-driven patterns, and learning to experience connection without overwhelm. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    44 min
  5. The Truth About Fake Concern: When Kindness Is Used as Leverage

    JAN 18

    The Truth About Fake Concern: When Kindness Is Used as Leverage

    Some people don't control through aggression — they control through concern. In this episode, we break down the psychology of fake concern and how kindness can quietly become a tool for emotional leverage. If someone frames control as care, uses "worry" to influence your decisions, or subtly plays on your insecurities while appearing helpful, this conversation will help you see it clearly. We explore why weaponized kindness is so effective, how guilt and obligation are created without direct confrontation, and why people who use fake concern often appear reasonable, supportive, and well-intentioned on the surface. This episode explains the psychological mechanisms behind emotional control, moral superiority, and subtle manipulation — without labeling or diagnosing. If you've ever felt confused, pressured, or smaller after a "supportive" conversation, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and how to reclaim your autonomy without guilt. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between genuine care and fake concern Why kindness becomes leverage in certain relationships How insecurities are subtly targeted and reinforced The psychology of emotional obligation and moral framing How to recognize control disguised as support This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about discernment, boundaries, and self-trust — not becoming cynical, but becoming clear. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get MORE Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    43 min
  6. You Need To Know What Happens When You Heal-- And Others Don't.

    JAN 12

    You Need To Know What Happens When You Heal-- And Others Don't.

    Healing doesn't just change how you feel — it changes how you show up in relationships. And that shift can be deeply uncomfortable for the people who benefited from the old version of you. In this episode, we explore what actually happens when you begin healing, setting boundaries, regulating your nervous system, and stepping out of familiar emotional roles — while others stay stuck in the same patterns. If you've noticed tension, guilt-tripping, distance, or backlash since doing the inner work, this episode will help you understand why. We'll break down the psychology behind it, including: • Why your healing disrupts emotional roles and power dynamics  • How ego reacts when it can no longer control or rely on you  • Why unhealed people experience boundaries as rejection  • How projection, shame, and insecurity drive resistance  • Why calm and regulation feel threatening to dysregulated nervous systems  • Why people try to pull you back into who you used to be  • How to stop explaining, shrinking, or self-betraying to keep the peace  • How to hold compassion without abandoning yourself You'll learn why healing doesn't   make you selfish or cold — it makes you less available for dysfunction.  This episode is for anyone who is growing, changing, and wondering why relationships suddenly feel harder. Because healing doesn't destroy relationships — it reveals which ones depended on your unhealed self. Get The Worksheet On Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get The Journals & Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    43 min
  7. If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This

    JAN 12

    If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This

    If You Feel Everyone Else's Emotions, Listen to This If you constantly absorb other people's emotions, moods, or stress, this episode will challenge everything you've been told about empathy. Feeling everyone else's emotions isn't a gift — it's often a trauma response rooted in hypervigilance, emotional conditioning, and nervous-system dysregulation. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind emotional absorption, why so many people confuse it with empathy, and how early environments teach us to monitor others to feel safe. We explore emotional contagion, identity diffusion, people-pleasing, and why letting go of emotional responsibility can feel terrifying — even when it's necessary. This is a direct, fact-based conversation about boundaries, emotional ownership, and reclaiming your internal authority. If you feel drained after interactions, responsible for others' feelings, or disconnected from your own emotional needs, this episode is for you. 🎧 Topics include: *Hypervigilance and trauma responses *Emotional contagion vs true empathy *Why absorbing emotions leads to burnout *Identity loss and boundary confusion *How to stop carrying emotions that aren't yours Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepostivityxperience.com Dive Deeper www.thepositivityxperience.com

    1h 27m
  8. The Psychology of "I'll Start Tomorrow": Why You're Stuck

    12/28/2025

    The Psychology of "I'll Start Tomorrow": Why You're Stuck

    Most people don't fail because their goals are impossible — they fail because they wait for a date on a calendar to save them. In today's episode, The Science of Starting Now: How Micro-Actions Beat Motivation, we're breaking down why New Year's resolutions, "I'll start Monday," and waiting for motivation actually train your brain to delay your life. When you put change off, you create more stress, more shame, and more pressure… and that pressure becomes the reason you avoid doing anything at all. You'll learn the real psychology and neuroscience behind procrastination: Why your brain sees "future you" as a stranger How planning gives dopamine without progress Why perfectionism secretly keeps you stuck How delaying decisions destroys self-trust Most importantly, you'll learn how small actions right now can completely rewire your identity, reduce anxiety, and build the version of you that actually follows through. No more waiting for Mondays. No more waiting for motivation. Today counts. If you're ready to ditch shame-based resolutions and start living the life you want now, this episode is your wake-up call. 🎧 Listen, take the micro-action challenge, and share this with someone who keeps delaying their own potential. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience For More Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    47 min
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

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  • Creator
    Lori Wheeler
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    272
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © All Rights Reserved Lori Wheeler
  • Show Website
    The Positivity Xperience

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