The Positivity Xperience

Lori Wheeler
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

  1. Your Thoughts Are Not You: Why Your Brain Creates Them and Why You Believe Them

    2H AGO

    Your Thoughts Are Not You: Why Your Brain Creates Them and Why You Believe Them

    If your feelings aren't facts… then what about your thoughts? In this episode, we take the next step and break down the psychology and neuroscience of thoughts — where they come from, why they feel so real, and why trying to "get rid of them" often makes them stronger. Your brain is constantly generating thoughts as part of its prediction and survival system. Most of these thoughts are not objective truths — they are mental events shaped by past experiences, conditioning, bias, and pattern recognition. Yet they feel personal, convincing, and often unquestionable. We explore how the brain produces thoughts through neural networks and predictive processing, why familiar thoughts feel true even when they're not accurate, and how something called cognitive fusion causes you to identify with your thoughts instead of observing them. We also connect this to last week's episode on feelings — because thoughts and emotions are constantly reinforcing each other. Thoughts create emotional reactions, and emotions strengthen the thoughts, creating loops that can feel impossible to break. You'll learn why thought suppression doesn't work (and can actually increase intrusive thinking), how your brain prioritizes efficiency over accuracy, and why stepping back from your thoughts is one of the most powerful shifts you can make for emotional clarity. In this episode, we cover: *What thoughts actually are from a neuroscience perspective *How the brain generates thoughts using memory, prediction, and pattern recognition *Why familiar thoughts feel true even when they're not accurate *The concept of cognitive fusion and how it keeps you stuck in mental loops *Why trying to suppress thoughts makes them stronger *How thoughts and feelings reinforce each other *How to create distance between you and your thoughts Your thoughts are real. But they are not facts. And they are not who you are. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    47 min
  2. Your Feelings Aren't Facts: What Your Brain Is Actually Doing

    MAR 29

    Your Feelings Aren't Facts: What Your Brain Is Actually Doing

    Have you ever felt something so strongly that it seemed like absolute truth? Feeling ignored. Feeling rejected. Feeling disrespected. Feeling anxious about something that hasn't even happened yet. Here's the reality: your feelings are real, but they are not always factual. In this episode, we explore the neuroscience behind emotions and why the brain can make feelings seem like undeniable truth—even when they're based on interpretation rather than objective reality. Your emotional brain reacts faster than your thinking brain. The limbic system—particularly the amygdala—is designed to detect potential threats quickly and trigger emotional responses before your rational mind fully processes what's happening. This is incredibly useful for survival, but it also means your brain can create powerful emotional reactions based on past experiences, learned patterns, and assumptions. That's why emotions can feel convincing even when they're not telling the full story. In this episode, we break down how the brain generates emotions, why emotional reactions often happen before logical thinking, and how confirmation bias can reinforce emotional narratives once they begin. We also talk about the difference between validating a feeling and believing the interpretation attached to it, and why learning to pause between emotion and conclusion is one of the most important parts of emotional maturity. In this episode you'll learn: The neuroscience behind emotions and how the brain processes feelings Why the amygdala reacts before your rational brain can analyze the situation How confirmation bias reinforces emotional stories in your mind Why past experiences shape emotional triggers in the present The difference between acknowledging emotions and treating them as facts How emotional regulation creates space for clearer thinking and healthier relationships Emotions are powerful signals. They tell you something about what's happening inside you. But emotional clarity comes from learning to question the meaning your brain attaches to those feelings instead of automatically treating them as reality. When you learn to separate emotion from interpretation, you gain something incredibly valuable: perspective. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Get More Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    46 min
  3. DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Makes You Defend Yourself

    MAR 22

    DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Makes You Defend Yourself

    Have you ever brought up an issue with someone and somehow ended up defending yourself instead? In this episode we break down the psychological tactic known as DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. This manipulation pattern is often used to escape accountability, distort conflict, and regain narrative control. We explore the science behind DARVO, why it works so effectively on empathetic people, and how it shows up in relationships, workplaces, and family dynamics. We also discuss how to recognize this pattern in others — and how to catch it in yourself before it damages trust. 🎧 In this episode we cover: *What DARVO actually is *The psychology behind denial and blame reversal *Why your nervous system gets hijacked during conflict *Real-life examples of DARVO in relationships and families *How to stay grounded when someone tries to flip the narrative *How to recognize when you might be using DARVO yourself Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together & Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    44 min
  4. The Manipulation Control Trap That Keeps You Defending

    MAR 15

    The Manipulation Control Trap That Keeps You Defending

    Have you ever left a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or unsure of what actually happened? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind narrative control and how manipulators subtly rewrite events to avoid accountability and maintain power. We explore minimization, reversal, selective memory, emotional hijacking, and how confusion becomes a compliance tactic. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: *Why manipulators distort reality *How narrative control creates leverage *The covert tactics you don't see in real time *Why you end up defending instead of addressing *How to stop debating memory and anchor to truth If you've ever felt foggy or destabilized after conflict, this episode will help you understand why. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    42 min
  5. Why You Feel Responsible for Other People's Crises

    MAR 8

    Why You Feel Responsible for Other People's Crises

    Do you feel responsible for other people's emergencies — their emotional spirals, financial messes, relationship chaos, or even their mental health crises? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind over-responsibility, nervous system conditioning, and why "being the strong one" becomes a role you can't turn off. We explore how crisis-responsibility develops through conditioning and attachment patterns, why urgency hits your body like a mandate, and what it actually looks like to care without carrying. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: Why some people feel responsible for everyone else's crises How over-functioning creates codependent crisis loops Why mental health is NOT your responsibility to manage How guilt becomes a control mechanism (even unintentionally) The difference between support, rescue, and emotional hostage situations How to set containment boundaries without becoming cold If you've been living like a crisis manager — this episode will help you reclaim your life without losing your compassion.   Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    40 min
  6. Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong

    MAR 1

    Why You Can't Relax Even When Nothing Is Wrong

    If you struggle to relax even when life feels calm, this episode will help you understand why. In this episode, we explore the psychology and nervous system conditioning behind chronic tension, hypervigilance, and the inability to rest. We break down why relaxation can feel unsafe, how early environments shape the stress response, and why thinking your way into calm rarely works. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: Why relaxation is a nervous system state — not a mindset How hypervigilance develops without obvious trauma Why calm can feel uncomfortable or unsafe The role of ego and identity in staying activated What actually helps the nervous system learn safety This is a grounded conversation about responsibility, healing, and learning how to feel safe in stillness again. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    45 min
  7. You Need to Know Who Gets Access to You

    FEB 22

    You Need to Know Who Gets Access to You

    Victim mindset isn't just about how you think — it's about who you allow access to you. In this episode, we explore how victim mentality is reinforced through relationships, environments, and emotional access. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and nervous system science, this conversation breaks down why mindset work often fails when access doesn't change — and how growth requires more than just insight. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: *How victim mindset is reinforced socially *What "access" actually means psychologically *Why attachment and belonging keep people stuck *How ego protects familiar identities *Why environment matters more than intention *What actually shifts when access changes This episode is a direct, grounded conversation about responsibility, healing, and choosing relationships that support who you're becoming — not who you've been. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together www.thepositivityxperience.com

    40 min
  8. You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    FEB 15

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground

    You Need to Know Why You Become the Emotional Dumping Ground If people constantly unload their emotions, problems, and frustrations onto you, this episode will help you understand why — and what to do about it. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind becoming the emotional dumping ground, including how early conditioning, emotional over-functioning, and ego identity quietly reinforce this pattern. We break down the difference between healthy vulnerability and emotional dumping, why boundaries alone don't always stop it, and what you may be unconsciously signaling that keeps this dynamic in place. 🎧 In this episode, you'll learn: Why people emotionally dump on certain individuals The difference between empathy and emotional absorption How ego identity reinforces being "the safe one" Why boundaries fail without energetic change How to stop over-functioning emotionally without shutting down This is a direct, psychology-based conversation about reclaiming emotional space, responsibility, and self-respect — without losing compassion.   Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com

    46 min
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Weekly podcast to help bring some relief of living with anxiety, depression, Overthiinkng and soooo many other things so many of us deal with daily. I am an alternative therapist and life coach who has struggled and still do with anxiety and overthinking. I will also teach you to love yourself

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  • Creator
    Lori Wheeler
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    279
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © All Rights Reserved Lori Wheeler
  • Show Website
    The Positivity Xperience

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