Teach Me How To Adult

Adulting isn't easy, but we got you. Teach Me How To Adult is a smart, unfiltered podcast on everything you never learned growing up, because let’s be honest, no one prepared us for this. Between landing your dream job, crushing your love life, learning to invest, mastering your mindset and figuring out how to be happy along the way, there’s a lot to navigate. Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.

  1. 16h ago

    How To Stop Avoiding Your Life: Why Avoidance Makes Anxiety Worse & Shrinks Your Life (And How to Overcome It) | The Quickie

    What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years. If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making, presentations, or anything that makes you anxious, this episode is for you. Avoidance is one of the most common coping mechanisms people use for anxiety… but it's also one of the biggest reasons anxiety continues to grow. And the problem with avoidance is you can’t stop thinking about something that you’re trying to avoid. In today’s episode, we're unpacking the psychology of avoidance and how it ultimately reinforces fear, shrinks your comfort zone, and keeps you stuck. Tune in if you want to learn how to face your fears, build confidence in your ability to deal with stress, and live a more expansive life. We cover: Why avoidance is one of the most common coping strategies The anxiety-avoidance cycle and how it feeds anxiety Why avoiding difficult conversations creates more stress than just having them Internal avoidance: avoiding thoughts, uncertainty, decisions, and emotions How avoidance can shrink your world and limit your opportunities How Metacognitive Therapy approaches anxiety and avoidance Building tolerance for uncertainty and discomfort Using gradual exposure: the "fear ladder" Prompts to change how you think about your anxiety The Fear List exercise that helped me get unstuck If you've been feeling trapped by anxiety, fear, and avoidance, this episode is your reminder that discomfort is not dangerous… and life usually expands on the other side of the things we're afraid of.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    17 min
  2. 2d ago

    ICYMI: Do You Know Your Sexual Personality Type? Navigating Compatibility & Desire, with Sex Educator Dr. Tara

    Do you know your sexual personality type? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.  If you like personality tests and frameworks like Myers Briggs, learning your sexual profile can make a huge difference in your sex life. We're throwing it back to this helpful segment from TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara, on how to know if you and your partner are sexually compatible, what to do if you have different sexual preferences, and the key to connecting in bed if you have different sexual personality types. Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).  Listen to the full episode here! Take the Sexual Profile Quiz: https://www.luvbites.co/quizzes/whats-your-sexual-profile Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Dr. Tara on TikTok and Instagram Get Dr. Tara’s new book, How Do You Like It   Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    11 min
  3. May 27

    Endometriosis & PCOS/PMOS Explained: Symptoms, Period Pain, Diagnosis & Treatments That Actually Help, with Dr. Karen Tang

    If you’re listening to this episode, chances are you or someone you love is struggling with a hormonal, inflammatory, reproductive, or chronic pain condition like endometriosis or PCOS/PMOS… I know firsthand how exhausting and frustrating it can be to get proper care, and how much these conditions can impact your life, from pain and fertility struggles, to metabolism issues, bloating, and the impact on your physical and mental health. The good news? Women’s health conversations are finally starting to change around conditions that have historically been dismissed, minimized, or misunderstood. In this episode, I’m joined by renowned gynecologist and gynecologic surgeon Dr. Karen Tang to unpack the truth about endometriosis and PCOS (now more accurately named PMOS — Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome. This interview is packed with validating, practical, and empowering information that every woman deserves to hear. We dive deep into the symptoms, root causes, inflammation, hormones, fertility struggles, diagnosis delays, treatment options, and evidence-based lifestyle interventions that can actually help women living with these issues. Dr. Tang explains why endometriosis is far more than “bad period pain,” how it can affect the entire body, and why it often takes women an average of 7–11 years to receive a diagnosis. We also cover PCOS/PMOS as a metabolic and hormonal disorder (not just a fertility condition) including insulin resistance, blood sugar dysregulation, and long-term health risks. Dr. Tang is a leader in reproductive health, has taught medical students and residents at institutions like Harvard and University of Pennsylvania, and she reaches millions of viewers on her social media channels where she explains gynaecology, pelvic pain, and reproductive rights. She’s the author of It’s Not Hysteria, Everything You Need To Know About Your Reproductive Health (But Were Never Told). Tune in to learn about: The signs and symptoms of endometriosis and PCOS/PMOS Why women’s pain is so often normalized or dismissed in healthcare The stages and severity of endometriosis Common triggers for endometriosis flare-ups Anti-inflammatory diets, supplements, and lifestyle changes that may help Fertility considerations for women with endometriosis and/or PCOS Why doctors prescribe birth control as a treatment Non-hormonal treatment options that can help address the root cause How to advocate for yourself when doctors dismiss your symptoms Follow Dr. Tang: https://thrivegyn.com/  https://www.instagram.com/karentangmd/?hl=en  Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    1h 11m
  4. May 25

    ICYMI: Why Your Hormones, Mood & Hunger Feel Out Of Whack (And How Food Impacts It All), with Amber Romaniuk

    Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.  What you eat has a huge impact on your mood, energy and hormones. Here to advise on how our nutrition and eating habits affect hormonal imbalances and metabolism, we have Amber Romaniuk. Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a million downloads. Amber overcame her own emotional eating journey after gaining and losing more than 1000 lbs combined and spending 5 years balancing her hormones and digestion. Now she helps others achieve Body Freedom so they can experience true confidence and health. Listen to our full episode with Amber here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Amber: https://amberapproved.ca https://instagram.com/amberromaniuk https://amberapproved.ca/podcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniuk For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    8 min
  5. May 20

    Boost Your Mood With Expert-Backed Supplements, Foods, & Gut-Brain Health Hacks To Improve Anxiety, Depression & Mental Health

    May is mental health awareness month, so I've gone back and pulled the top tips and advice from neuroscientists, psychologists and biohacking experts on how to improve your happiness, anxiety, and depression through specific supplement protocols, brain health hacks, and healing your gut. Because we can't ignore the physical side to mental health, and taking care of our bodies is a key piece in taking care of our minds.  Tune in to hear about: Our mood has EVERYTHING to do with our brain health. So what do top neuroscientists recommend for psychiatric issues? Dr. Kristen Willeumier offers her EXACT protocol for improving anxiety without a medical prescription. This is game-changing advice on the power of supplements for managing anxiety and psychiatric disorders, from an award-winning neuroscientist with a PHD and Masters in neurobiology, Masters in Physiological science, and postdoctoral scientist in the Department of Neurology at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in LA. Your gut can play a huge role in your mental health (95% of the serotonin in our body is housed in the gut!). Clinical psychologist, author, and founder of Heartship Psychological Services, Dr. Lauren Cook, breaks down what tests and bloodwork to get, the supplements that changed her brain, and how gut health is intrinsically linked to mental health.  If you're struggling with persistent low mood and energy, this surprising supplement recommendation from chemical engineer and biohacking pro Chloe Deutscher could be the answer. Learn why certain supplements and vitamins can help with depression, calm anxiety, and boost your serotonin.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    15 min
  6. May 13

    3 Top Mental Health Experts On The Root Cause of Anxiety & How To Actually Manage It

    May is mental health awareness month, so we’re rounding up some of the most game-changing advice and insights we've heard on the podcast about managing anxiety and improving your emotional wellbeing, from three leading experts. We cover the root cause of anxiety and the beliefs that fuel it, managing our distress with the “anxiety hierarchy”, and the ways trauma is stored in the body — along with how to move it.  These perspective-changing concepts have really helped me better understand my mind and improve my mindset. Tune in to hear advice from: Clinical Psychologist Sunniva Itland, founder of one of Norway's largest private psychology clinics and co-founder of metacognitivetherapy.com: On the root of our anxiety, and the transformative anti-therapy therapy that's changing lives. Dr. Lauren Cook, therapist, consultant, speaker, author and founder of Heartship Psychological Services:  On the framework that helps you measure your level of anxiety when faced with challenges, so you can live your life without letting anxiety, avoidance, and control stay in the driver's seat. Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders, somatic psychotherapist and founder of The Cognitive Corner: On signs that you’re chronically dysregulated, nervous system regulation tools that help or hinder, and how trauma manifests physically. If you’re struggling with your mental health, you’re not alone. Please tell someone… and know that you are loved.   For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    22 min
  7. May 6

    Narcissism & Borderline Personality Disorder Explained: Why DBT Works When Psychodynamic Therapy Doesn’t, with Dr. Suzanne Wallach

    It’s Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we’ve covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we’ve never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them. Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don’t see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn’t always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn’t a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It’s a lack of tools to manage what’s happening in real time. So, whether you’re struggling with a mental health condition, or this is impacting someone you care about, we’re deepening our understanding of personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and the tools that can help people who are really struggling. With the help of Dr. Suzanne Wallach, we explore how approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can shift the focus from why you feel this way to what you do when you feel this way so you have concrete skills, like emotional regulation and distress tolerance — even when you’re triggered. Dr. Wallach is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and Doctorate in Psychology. She’s a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy expert who works with personality disorders like Borderline, substance abuse and addiction, eating disorders, and complex trauma. She’s been on podcasts like Call Her Daddy, and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating complex conditions with compassion and skills-based techniques. Tune in to learn: The truth about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the trauma that leads to it Signs you might be dating a narcissist Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder How to be in relationship with people who have personality disorders The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Bipolar Disorder When medication is needed, and the different modalities that can help How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers real-world tools for people with mental disorders Why sequencing and developing distress tolerance in therapy matters more than most people realize When to do psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy VS behavioural techniques The difference between between DBT, CBT, and MCT If you’ve ever felt like talk therapy made you more self-aware but didn’t actually change your destructive patterns or improve a mental disorder, this episode might help with a new approach. Wherever you are in your mental health journey, know that you are not alone, and there’s life-changing help available. Connect with Dr. Suzanne Wallach:https://suzannewallach.com/  https://www.instagram.com/drsuzannewallach/  For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack: teachmehowtoadult.substack.com Follow us on the ‘gram: @teachmehowtoadultmedia @gillian.berner Follow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe on YouTube

    1h 11m
4.8
out of 5
42 Ratings

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Adulting isn't easy, but we got you. Teach Me How To Adult is a smart, unfiltered podcast on everything you never learned growing up, because let’s be honest, no one prepared us for this. Between landing your dream job, crushing your love life, learning to invest, mastering your mindset and figuring out how to be happy along the way, there’s a lot to navigate. Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.

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