Be A Better You

Allison K. Dagney
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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.

  1. 3d ago

    Ep 234: How to Stop Caring What They Think About You

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond How to Stop Caring About What They Think of You Why do you still care what they think about you—even when you know their opinion shouldn’t matter? Maybe you’ve left an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship and you don’t even want your ex back, but you still want them to understand what they did. You want the family to know the truth. You feel triggered when someone believes their version of the story. Or you find yourself explaining, defending, and trying to prove that you’re not the person someone has made you out to be. If you’ve ever wondered how to stop caring what other people think of you, this episode of Be A Better You Podcast goes deeper than simply telling you to “stop caring.” We’re exploring why being misunderstood can feel so uncomfortable, especially after emotional abuse or narcissistic abuse, and the subconscious beliefs that may be keeping you dependent on someone else’s opinion. Beliefs like: I need them to understand me. I need people to believe me. I need him to know the truth. If they think I’m the problem, maybe I am. I need to defend myself. What they think about me says something about who I am. You’ll learn why constantly seeking validation, explaining yourself, worrying about other people’s opinions, or trying to control how someone sees you may actually point to a deeper struggle with self-trust and emotional freedom. Because healing isn’t getting everyone to finally understand your side of the story. It’s reaching the point where someone can misunderstand you—and you still trust what you know about yourself. If you’re recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, a toxic relationship, divorce, gaslighting, people pleasing, or chronic self-doubt, this episode will help you begin separating who you are from what someone else thinks about you. And if you’re ready to go deeper into the beliefs that may still be keeping you stuck after emotional abuse, join me for my FREE live training, Stop Coping. Start Healing., on October 15 at 7 PM Eastern. I’ll show you why you can understand what happened, know the relationship was unhealthy, and still struggle to move forward—and how working with the subconscious beliefs underneath your thoughts and emotions can help create real change. Click the link to register for free. https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  2. Sep 8

    Ep 233: Why Am I Still Angry About What They Did?

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Why am I still so angry after emotional abuse—even when the relationship is over? If you’ve left a toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally abusive relationship but still feel consumed by anger, resentment, or thoughts about what happened, this episode is for you. Maybe you’re angry about how he treated you. Angry about the years you lost. Angry that you stayed as long as you did. Angry at the people who enabled him or never knew the truth. Or maybe you can’t get past the fact that he seems to have moved on without ever taking accountability for what he did. But what if your anger isn’t the problem? In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, we’re talking about anger after emotional abuse and what may actually be underneath it. You’ll learn how beliefs like “He should be sorry,” “He shouldn’t have gotten away with it,” “I should have seen it sooner,” or “I wasted years of my life” can keep your mind emotionally connected to something you desperately want to move beyond. This isn’t about forcing forgiveness, pretending what happened was okay, or telling yourself to just let it go. It’s about getting curious about what your anger is asking for—and whether your healing has unknowingly become dependent on something outside of your control. If you’re struggling with anger, resentment, rumination, intrusive thoughts, or letting go after narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, divorce, or a toxic relationship, this episode may help you see your anger very differently. And if you’re ready to go deeper, join me for my FREE live training, Stop Coping. Start Healing., on October 15 at 7 PM Eastern. We’ll explore why you can understand exactly what happened to you and still feel stuck—and how addressing the subconscious beliefs underneath your thoughts and emotions can help you move forward. Click the link to register for free. https://www.radiatenrise.com/stop-coping-start-healing-free-training Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  3. Sep 1

    Ep 232: Quick Tips for Abuse Survivor Empowerment

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond As a survivor myself, I understand the complexities of navigating self-doubt after emotion and narcissistic abuse, and I'm here to share practical insights that can make a big impact with minimal effort. This episode is not just a guide; it's an invitation to be empowered. Let's embark on a journey together, exploring quick tips that promise significant impact, paving the way for a transformative shift from insecurity to invincible. Tune in and be ready to unlock your inner strength with these quick and effective tips, bringing about positive change in your life. You deserve to feel empowered, and it starts here, one quick tip at a time. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  4. Aug 27

    Bonus EP: From Hot Mess to Badass w/ Sarah Curnoles on Healing After a Breakup

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond In this episode of Be a Better You, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with breakup coach Sarah Curnoles to explore what it really takes to heal after a breakup or divorce. Sarah shares her own story — ending a four-and-a-half-year relationship, investing her wedding savings into herself, and rebuilding her identity from the ground up — and reveals the framework she now uses to help clients do the same: her signature "hot mess to badass" process. Together they dig into the four phases of breakup recovery, why closure is something you create rather than receive, how to reframe the belief that "my person wouldn't leave me," and why giving yourself a daily "feeling appointment" can accelerate healing. Sarah also opens up about the fear of being seen as "too much" during a breakup, and why she believes we could all stand to be a little bitchier when we're healing. Whether you're a week out from a breakup or years into recovery from a toxic relationship, this conversation offers real, actionable tools for reclaiming your life and finding your way back to yourself. ***************Sarah's Contact Info ⬇️ Free breakthrough call scheduling link: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=13002720&appointmentType=2184073 Website: https://sarahcurnoles.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahcurnoles/ Sarah Curnoles is a certified life coach helping recently single women turn their breakup into the best thing that ever happened to them. Sarah’s signature method From Hot Mess to Badass guides clients through healing and back to being their best self. Prior to coaching, Sarah worked backstage and in the offices of professional theaters in Baltimore, Maryland. She currently lives as a digital nomad, exploring the world.  Learn more about Sarah on her website www.sarahcurnoles.com or check out her podcast Breakup Pep Talks. *****************Sarah's Contact Info ⬆️ Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  5. Aug 25

    Ep 231: Reaching Your True Self by Questioning Everything

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond In this episode of the Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast I am diving into the empowering journey of self-discovery by challenging societal norms and questioning everything. This episode was prompted by a social media post claiming that being single equates to inadequacy. I am challenging this as the focus shifts towards the broader theme of breaking free from one-size-fits-all narratives. I start by unpacking the statement and exploring its potential harm on individual self-esteem. Throughout the episode, there's a recurring emphasis on the power of self-reflection and the importance of embracing one's unique desires and needs and deprogramming what others project on us. Listeners are encouraged to navigate their own journeys with intentionality, disregarding societal pressures that may lead to feelings of inadequacy. Expert advice is acknowledged as valuable, but the episode emphasizes the necessity of critical thinking and applying guidance contextually. The episode concludes by celebrating the empowerment of single individuals and promoting self-love as a path to personal growth. The overarching message is clear: by questioning everything, individuals can break free from societal constraints, discover their true selves, and cultivate a sense of fulfillment independent of one-size-fits-all expectations. Tune in to this thought-provoking episode and embark on a journey towards authenticity and self-discovery. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  6. Aug 18

    Ep 230: Breaking Down 4 Narcissistic Myths to Help You Recover

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond In this transformative episode of "The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast," host Allison Dagney dives deep into the intricate world of narcissistic myths, aiming to guide listeners on their path to healing from emotional abuse. The exploration begins with the debunking of the pervasive myth that all narcissists cheat. Allison introduces a nuanced perspective, emphasizing that cheating in narcissistic relationships can manifest in diverse, non-traditional forms, challenging conventional definitions. The journey continues with an examination of the myth surrounding the potential for change in narcissistic individuals. Allison artfully distinguishes between superficial behavioral adjustments and authentic personality transformation, cautioning against misinterpretations that may lead to vulnerable positions in relationships. Delving into the misconception that narcissists are oblivious to their actions, the podcast sheds light on the calculated nature of their behaviors and manipulative tactics. Allison encourages listeners to recognize the intentionality behind narcissistic actions, fostering a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play. The episode concludes by addressing the myth that narcissists can love. Allison explores the intricate layers of distorted love in these relationships, prompting listeners to reassess their understanding of love and its impact on their healing journey. The critical thinking section challenges preconceived notions, offering introspective questions that guide reflection, empowering listeners to navigate their recovery journey with resilience and newfound insights. The episode serves as a compass for those seeking solace, encouraging them to question everything they thought they knew about narcissism and themselves, ultimately fostering a community of support and healing. Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  7. Aug 11

    Ep 229: Healing Blind Spots No One Talks About

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Have you ever felt like you're doing everything "right" to heal, but somehow you still feel stuck? Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, or spent countless hours trying to understand what happened in your relationship. Yet you keep finding yourself replaying conversations, questioning your decisions, or wondering why moving forward feels so difficult. What if the problem isn't what you think it is? In this episode of the Be a Better You Podcast, we're exploring the hidden blind spots that often keep survivors of emotional abuse stuck long after the relationship has ended. These aren't mistakes or flaws—they're the subconscious beliefs and survival strategies that once protected you but may now be preventing you from experiencing the freedom you're looking for. We'll explore why you may be solving the wrong problem, why wanting "closure" isn't always what it seems, how the need to be chosen can become confused with self-worth, and why healing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about seeing yourself more clearly. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns, struggle to trust yourself, or feel like you've made progress but still aren't where you want to be, this conversation will help you look beneath the surface and discover what might really be keeping you stuck. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the biggest obstacle to healing is often something you can't yet see.The difference between symptoms and the real problem.Common subconscious beliefs that develop after emotional abuse.Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change.That curiosity leads to deeper healing.If this episode resonates with you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need this message today. REFLECTION QUESTIONS FROM THIS EPISODE: "What problem have I been trying to solve for years?" "What if that isn't the real problem?" "What belief would have to exist for this struggle to make perfect sense?" "What have I accepted as true... that I've never actually questioned?" "If someone watched my life... what belief would they think I have?" Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

  8. Aug 6

    Bonus EP: Finding Safe Friendships After a Toxic Relationship (with Dr. K)

    Leave a text or voice message so we can respond Leaving a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship often means leaving behind more than just one person. It can leave you questioning your judgment, feeling isolated, and wondering if you'll ever be able to trust people again. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. K, founder of Girlfriendism, to explore one of the most overlooked parts of healing: rebuilding healthy female friendships. Together, we discuss why making and maintaining friendships can feel so difficult after emotional abuse, how trauma changes the way we connect with others, and what emotionally safe friendships actually look like. We also talk about: Why survivors often feel disconnected or alone after leaving a toxic relationship.The green flags of healthy, supportive female friendships.How to recognize when a friendship feels safe versus familiar.Why healing doesn't have to happen in isolation.Practical ways to begin building a community of women who genuinely support your growth.If you've ever felt like you don't know who to trust anymore, or you've struggled to let people in since your relationship ended, this conversation will remind you that healthy connection is possible—and that the right friendships can become an important part of your healing journey. Connect with Dr. K: Learn more about Dr. K and the Girlfriendism community at Girlfriendism, a global movement dedicated to helping women build meaningful friendships and supportive communities.  Links to Connect ⬇️ www.girlfriendism.com Girlfriendism Global on Mighty Networks App YouTube, FaceBook, Instagram,  LinkedIn: @Girlfriendism Set up your Free Call Today!  Support the show Ready to stop coping, start real healing and start feeling like yourself again? Visit www.radiatenrise.com and explore coaching programs, self-paced courses, resources, and tools designed to help you break free from emotional abuse, rumination, and self-doubt. ✍🏻 Wanna Talk? Set up a for a FREE Call and discover what's really keeping you stuck, along with the next steps to help you move forward. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/dfb503aa/appointment/63611986/calendar/6492588?appointmentTypeIds[]=63611986 📧 Questions? Email: Allison@radiatenrise.com 💬 Come say hi on Instagram or Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/ Formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast

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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.  I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.

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  • Creator
    Allison K. Dagney
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    241
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Be A Better You
  • Show Website
    Be A Better You

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